You cannot change the past but the future is yours to write.
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Lived 24 year till now6mo
What are the biggest things you've learned in life so far?
The food cooked by your mother is not findable even after searching in the world’s best restaurant.
Don’t kill your inner child.
When you’re a good soul, you don’t lose people. They lose you.
Being kind to yourself is the best medicine.
If you want it, work for it. It’s that simple.
People take advantage of kindness.
Do not be afraid of competition, you will win or you will learn.
Only a few girls fall for good souls.
Your talent is not sent from God, it comes with practice and efforts.
Time is a great healer and a great killer.
- The worst battle is between what you know and what you feel.
- People start hating you when they cannot control you.
- Never assume that loud is strong and quiet is weak.
- Feelings are temporary; decisions are permanent.
- Most people don’t actually want the best version of you, they want the version of you that best serves them.
- It’s not how big the house is, it’s how happy the home is.
- Don’t trust too much, don’t love too much, that ‘too much’ can hurt you so much.
- Sometimes you have to stay busy so you don’t have time to feel.
What are some brutal truths you must accept in order to unlock your true potential?
Your body is literally made of what you put in your mouth everyday . If you eat like shit , don’t be surprised when you look & feel like shit ,
Opinions are like buttholes .We’ve all got one ,
Behind most successful men are women but not in the way you think . Almost every guy has been cheated on by her when they were simp , & that forced them to completely change their reality ,
If you follow the rules , you’ll be f*cked over. Because the rules were made to keep you mediocre & average . There’re no rules ,
Every problem has a solution . If it doesn’t have a solution in foreseeable future , then it’s not a problem , it’s a situation & Situation requires acceptance ,
Politicians don’t care about you . It’s an act they perform to get enormous power ,
Your perception of time changes based on how conscious or unconscious you’re ,
Writing online is how you get more opportunities & meet cool people ,
Real wealth is a blank calendar , not a high salary with back-to-back meetings ,
Feeling tired is a cope for not wanting it bad enough. If you really want it , you’ll be running on fumes 24X7 . Your mind will never sleep ,
Just Chill.!!
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Senior Staff Accountant at Rule One Proteins (2016–present)May 29
What are 10 signs that you're way more intelligent than you think you are?
1. You never feel the need to prove to other people how smart they are. Intelligent people know that their actions speak louder than their words. You don't brag about your achievements or flaunt your knowledge. You let your work and results show your competence and skill. You also don't feel threatened by other people's opinions or judgments. You are confident in your own abilities and don't need external validation.
2. You read a lot and are constantly still learning. Intelligent people have a thirst for knowledge and a curiosity about the world. You enjoy reading books, articles, blogs, or anything that can expand your horizons and challenge your perspectives. You are always open to new ideas and experiences. You don't settle for what you already know but seek to improve yourself and grow.
3. Intelligent people aren’t afraid or ashamed to tell you when you don’t know something. Intelligent people understand that you don't have all the answers and that there is always something to learn from others. you are not too proud or stubborn to admit when you are wrong or when you need help. you are willing to ask questions, listen to feedback, and learn from your mistakes. you also respect other people's expertise and opinions, even if you disagree with them.
4. You are independent. You make decisions unaffected by societal pressure or expectations. Intelligent people have a strong sense of self and a clear vision of what you want in life. You don't let others dictate your choices or influence their values. You are not easily swayed by trends, fads, or peer pressure. You think for yourself and follow your own path.
5. They communicate clearly. You don’t see them using big million-dollar words. You understand exactly what they’re trying to say. Intelligent people know how to express themselves effectively and efficiently. They don't use jargon, slang, or obscure words to impress or confuse others. They use simple and precise language that anyone can understand. They also know how to listen actively and empathetically, without interrupting or judging.
6. They are simple. They seem to choose material things based on the intrinsic qualities and functionality as opposed to the image or status they are going to project. Intelligent people are not materialistic or superficial. They don't care about having the latest gadgets, the fanciest clothes, or the most expensive cars. They value quality over quantity and substance over style. They appreciate the things that matter most in life, such as health, happiness, and relationships.
7. They have a good sense of humor. Intelligent people can laugh at themselves and at life's absurdities. They don't take themselves too seriously or get offended easily by jokes or sarcasm. They can see the humor in any situation and use it to cope with stress and adversity. They also enjoy making others laugh and smile with their witty and clever remarks.
8. They are adaptable. Intelligent people can adjust to changing circumstances and environments without losing their composure or confidence. They can handle uncertainty and ambiguity with ease and grace. They can also switch between different tasks, roles, or perspectives without difficulty or hesitation. They are flexible and versatile in their thinking and behavior.
9. They are creative. Intelligent people can come up with original and innovative solutions to problems or challenges. They can think outside the box and beyond the conventional wisdom. They can also use their imagination and intuition to create something new or unique out of nothing.
10.They are humble. Intelligent people don't let their intelligence get to their heads. They don't think they are better than anyone else or look down on others who are less knowledgeable or skilled than them. They acknowledge their limitations and weaknesses and strive to overcome them. They also recognize their strengths and talents and use them for good purposes.
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Have owned many homes.Feb 17
What is the single most effective piece of financial advice you've ever received?
A friend’s father, who was a banker, once told me this: The tires on your car will eventually wear out. Your house will need a new roof at some point. Accidents and illness will happen. Most of the financial problems I see at the bank happen because people seem to have no idea that these things will come up. So, when the car breaks or the roof leaks, they’re plunged into a financial crisis. Plan for problems to occur. Put money aside every paycheck so you’ll have money to pay for the new tires or the medicine not covered by insurance or whatever.
I took his advice and it has stood me in good stead for over fifty years. Plan for problems you can foresee and add a little in there to cover problems you can’t predict. You’ll be glad you did.
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IAS | IIT KharagpurUpdated 2y
What life lesson did you learn the hard way?
Looks do matter. For boys, for girls, for all. I will be little blunt here. Those who says see the heart is stupid because to see someone’s heart it takes years and people in the first go usually go for looks. Groom yourself well. work on your physique, dress up well. It matters a lot.
Life is like riding a bicycle uphill. Either you go up or if you rest you go down. So work on going upward always, else misery will wait for you. Work on your health, else that much time you will suffer from health issues now or later. Evolve yourself.
In any relationship or friendship reciprocate only to what they deserve. Do not go over the top each time. From your side keep surprising others, but evaluate each time whether the other person responds it well or not.
Do not be too available for anyone except for your parents or siblings or 2–3 genuine friends. Usually when you are too available, people start devaluing you. Human psychology is weird someway.
If someone does not like your company let them go. The world is big. You may meet some amazing persons next. It’s better to be alone than to be in pain by getting negative energies from someone.
The world is bit manipulative. So be genuine from heart. But verify others before trusting each time.
Have some people around you before whom you can be your real self. Even 2–3 genuine friends are enough.
Constantly evolve yourself. Get a hobby. Work on it. Learn some life skills like driving, cooking . You learn different perspectives of life.
In life make a fine balance of Economy and Arts. Economy means the number of hours you are giving to your job and profession. Arts means your artistic pursuit like painting, music and all. Try on your own.
and Finally Meditate. If you want go deeper in life and have a blissful life Meditation can simply transform you.
~ The Hitchhiker
I was having coffee with a friend. She was telling me she was stuck. There was no way she could get a job. Not in her current condition.
To which I eloquently said "Huh?"
"Dushka" she said. "I'm three months pregnant."
"But, how on Earth would that stop you from getting a job? Go prepare, give the best interview you possibly can and see how far you can get."
A month later she had a job. She then got paid through maternity leave, after which she returned to work.
I catch myself thinking like her all the time, convinced that there is so much out there I can't do. Because, it wouldn't work. Because others have tried it. Because it seems crazy.
That's when I remind myself I'm limitless.
Am I saying limits don't exist? Am I telling you that forces such as gravity are only an illusion?
Of course not. What I'm saying is there are so many things out there that limit you that it's doubly important for you to pay no heed to the ones that exist only in your mind.
In your mind, be limitless.
Don't allow your own assumptions to stop you. The whole world is ready to do that for you.
Which reminds me of the comic strip Garfield. Jon, his owner, finds both Odie and Garfield high up on a tree. "But Odie" Jon says. "Dogs can't climb trees".
To which Garfield says "it's amazing what one can accomplish when one doesn't know what one can't do."
Improve yourself so that you don’t suffer stupidly more than you’ve to . Be soft but in an unbreakable way ,
Don’t call , don’t text , don’t stalk the social media of your significant other. You need to feel the hollowness & the void . You need to learn how to get over this . These are the things all men/ women must learn , don’t avoid them,
It’s good for your mental health not to have an opinion about everything ,
You can’t improve if you don’t know what you’re doing is wrong . Make time for stillness . Behavioural conditioning is a long process , & breaking a habit takes time. Be patient & kind with yourself ,
Your past isn’t a prescription for your future . The fear of something is almost always worse than the thing itself ,
Fakeness reeks . Be congruent with your personality , & you’ll naturally be confident . If you’re an introvert , don’t play an extrovert . If you’re expressive , use appropriate gestures to be captivating ,
Give yourself permission to try new things , even if you don’t know for sure they’ll work . Even if you don’t know for certain that they’re the right things to do, give yourself chance to do the thing just coz you want to - knowing that along the way , you’ll learn ,
You never feel bad after doing a workout . You always feel bad after missing one . The hardest thing is just getting yourself through the door,
Sometimes freaking out is a necessary part of getting where you need to go ,
Knowing when to stop is an underrated skill that more people need to have. How can you improve yourself if you never know how much is too much ? ,
Just Chill.!!
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Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAMar 28
What are the shortest and deep meaningful quotes?
1. Life continues, youth doesn’t.
2. The fastest way to kill something special is to compare it to something else.
3. If you died today, your job will be posted tomorrow.
4. People are not bad. Maybe your choices of people are bad.
5. Don’t beg.
Don’t chase.
Don’t be needy.
6. Change the game, don’t let the game change you.
7. Convenience and comfort never gives solution unless it’s a furniture shop.
8. The best weight you’ll ever lose is the weight of other people’s opinion of you.
9. All endings are also beginnings. We just don’t know it at the time.
10. Stop counting calories, start counting chemicals.
See more at my blog: 35 Life Lessons That You Won’t Find in Any Classroom
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Freelance Writer (2018–present)7mo
What is it that nobody tells you about adult life?
1. Being a kid is better.
2. Some nights are not for sleep.
3. For some people, friends are God’s way of apologizing for their families.
4. The toughest thing to do as an adult is to keep your screaming on the inside.
5. A child cries 99% times due to physical pain, an adult cries 99% times due to emotional pain.
6. Online dating is so much easier than dressing up for a date. Tap here to date online.
7. Not every dog is friendly. Neither are people.
8. Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity.
9. You can’t solve problems with the same thinking that created them.
10. Silence isn’t empty. It’s full of answers.
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Shubhankar Sharma
Updated 1y
What is the saddest truth about life?
Sexual pleasure gives a lower level of pleasure which satisfies you for a short time that’s why you always crave it.
When Life Gives You Lemons, It Becomes Very Difficult to Make Lemonade. ~ Irrfan
No one comes here with a lifetime guarantee, all your loved ones are gonna die one day.
A girl and a boy can’t be best friends for a long time if both looktractive . (Sorry for shooting this straight observation)
Your beauty and health will not be the same after ’40s as it is in '20s.
There is no permanent solution for cancer, kidney damage, liver damage and many other deadly serious diseases.
On one side, Money is getting wasted on decorations and luxuries and another side, someone isn’t able to arrange a meal for himself.
In the 21st century, You are nothing but machinery, which is running on different pills. (Medicines)
Time is remotely changing so your visions, goals, and plans.
Relationships have nothing to do with duration, only engagement, dedication, and connection matters.
You always doubt your competence but trust me "You are limitless".
Your world is illusionary.
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Helping people fall in love with the inevitableUpdated May 8
I turned 30 years old today. What advice can you give me for the next decade of my life?
Happy birthday!
Here are three short pieces of counterintuitive non-advice I wish someone would have told me at 30:
Stop asking others for advice. You’ve spent your first 30 years being told who you are, how you should think and behave, and what you should do with your life.
All that others can tell you is their own personal experiences and what worked or didn’t work for them in their particular situation.
Taking advice from others is like taking driving directions from someone - the only place they can guide you is where they have already been.
But their life is not your life. Their path is not your path.
It’s time for you to blaze your own trail, but you’ll never find it if you keep asking others for advice.
The more you ask advice from others, the more you lose touch with your own intuition.
In other words, you’ll end up even more lost and confused.
Edit: Because some commenters were confused about this, I am suggesting that you NOT take advice as to who you should be, what you should become, or how you should feel. Your life, your heart, your feelings.
I am not suggesting that you ignore your accountant on how to do your taxes, your electrician on how to wire your house, or your math teacher on how to do geometry. That would be silly.
Open up your heart.
Most people think of life like it’s a game of chess.
They believe it’s about thinking several moves ahead, trying to get to the ultimate result: victory.
But that isn’t how life works.
Every life - whether short or long, happy or sad - ends the same way: in death.
As such, life is a lot more like Tetris than it is chess.
You already know the outcome of this game. You’re not playing to win.
This life exists for the sake of the journey, to go through the ups and downs of life.
Life will keep throwing obstacles in your path; your job is to do your best even if you don't get the shape you were desperately hoping for.
So stay present for the move at hand, not the one three moves away.
To think three moves ahead is to try to live life through your head rather than your heart.
It’s like trying to eat the menu instead of the meal.
Open up your heart.
You’re meant to be afraid and confused.
Being afraid and confused is not a mistake or a failing- It’s the game of life itself.
The reason most of us ask for advice from others is because we’re afraid.
We’re afraid of not knowing what to do or where to apply ourselves.
We’re afraid of making mistakes and getting hurt.
We’re afraid of looking stooped and not living up to our potential.
To stick with our Tetris analogy, this is like watching how others play Tetris before you even get started, just so you could immediately get as high a score as possible.
But that’s not why we play Tetris.
Realize that it is the point of life for it to be confusing, scary, and tempting.
No one knows why we exist here on this planet, hurtling through endless space.
We’re all confused and scared, but we’ve created a culture where it’s not okay to admit it.
Look for yourself and you’ll see it’s true.
So don’t try to avoid the uncertainty and confusion in life, but embrace them.
Live to your heart’s content; make mistakes, be silly, be bold, try new things or the same thing over and over again.
None of it matters, because in the end you’ll be dead anyway, so you might as well enjoy it your way.
Life is calling. Will you answer?
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What is something that most people don't know?
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind, replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle... In the beginning: you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling in love.”
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown….
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it! Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner).
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!
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Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor at Life and LivingUpdated Feb 19
Life: What's the most profound truth about life you've realized or discovered so far?
Nothing is permanent. Even truth must pass through several stages of evolution to remain relevant.
Do not undermine a person who was once rich and is now broke. His prosperity hasn't gone anywhere. It's only hidden from prying and greedy eyes. It just needs a key to unlock it.
Wisdom is better than money for money can't buy wisdom but wisdom can create money.
No place on earth is as rich as the graveyard, for therein lies stories that were never told, books that were never written, and potential that was never released. The graveyard is the greatest robber of all.
When someone hires you, he/she is essentially buying your brain and your time. Nothing can be more immoral than hiring a person to build your wealth only to dismiss them without a share of your company.
Those who are open-minded about change will always enjoy the future for the future doesn't come without a measure of pain. Those who resist change will always become part of history.
Before you respond or comment about anything think first, and before you answer a person take your time. It’s more costly to say the wrong thing and regret it, than saying the right thing and get criticized.
Don't worry about something that has not happened. Instead, preserve your energy so that you have enough of it to worry about it when it happens.
Don't look for a job indefinitely. Look for people with problems you can solve, for plenty of people have more problems than there are jobs.
If you can solve the world's problems, then the world will give you the right to live freely like a king.
Truth without love is like food without salt.
1. Love is the art of dissolving your ego.
2. Respect your uniqueness, and drop comparison.
3. Loneliness cannot create love, it creates need.
4. Some goodbyes are better than ruining mental peace.
5. Stop trying to fit into the black and white when you are colorful.
6. Don’t control your fears, control what makes you afraid.
7. The real flex is keeping your heart soft and your boundaries strong.
8. Patience and hope together gives rise to miracles.
9. The right one will show how it feels to be treated right.
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Teacher (2009–present)11mo
How does it feel to be older and see 20 year olds and think of times when you were that age - beautiful/handsome and popular?
I am only in my 40s, and I was never handsome or popular in my 20s. I happen to live with a very beautiful and popular woman in her 20s, though… my oldest daughter. She and I talk a lot and, as we talk, one thought seems to pop into my mind a lot:
“I am glad that part of my life is over.”
“That part,” which she is going through now, is the part with all of the big life questions and uncertainty and instability. Well, she has stability, at least. We converted our basement into an apartment for her, and she can stay there as long as she needs. That’s more than I had at her age.
When you’re a young adult, you have a lot of possible paths in front of you. A lot of questions which you have to answer as you go. A lot of doors to open.
But, as you get older, the choices start to dwindle. The questions get answered.
I like that most of my major life questions have been answered. I like that the paths before me are more like one huge highway that I would be a fool to stray from.
Whom should I marry? I answered that question already.
How many kids should I have? The answer was three.
What should I do for a career. The answer is teaching.
Where should I live? Should I buy a house? Should I get a dog? All answered.
The only two really big life questions left for me to find out the answers to are when will I retire, and when will I die.
My oldest daughter has a stable boyfriend. When I listen to her talk about her friends’ dating experiences though, I take a moment to say a little prayer, thanking God that I met my wife before internet dating was a big thing. I rarely hear stories from my daughter’s female friends, all in their early 20s, that make me wish I was young and single again.
And listening to them complain about their job hunting and financial struggles… oy. Again, I am so, so glad that that phase of my life is over.
I remember very well the uncertainties that came with being in your 20s. I had it worse than many young people, because I’d moved so far away from home that my parents couldn’t help me, even if it was just offering me a place to stay. I was on my own, and it was stressful. It’s not until you achieve real adult career and financial and relationship stability that you recognize just how stressful not having that stability had been. I don’t think I could do it again. I love cruising down this very boring highway of what’s left of my life.
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Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 1y
What are the things to keep in mind if you're interested in leading a fruitful life?
It’s a turn on when a man makes a lot of money. But it’s not about the money, it’s about the man ! ,
Reminder: If she likes you she’ll go out with you . If not , she’ll remain busy ,
You can blame school for not teaching you finances , or you can educate yourself. You can blame McDonalds or PizzaHut because you’re fat , or you can cook your own meals. You can blame the company you’re working in for low per hour wage , or you can start a biz & give yourself a raise . We sink or swim in our choices ,
Set a high ass standard for your life & never look back ,
Don’t seek “a fruitful life” strictly to prove skeptics wrong . There’ll always be skeptics & critics no matter the level of achievement ,
Always remain unfazed , unbothered , & unmoved ,
Just because someone has your best interest at heart doesn’t mean their advice is any good or useful ,
Be as mindful of your oral posture as your body posture ,
No matter how successful , good-looking , rich , or smart you’re , nobody likes arrogance ,
Humility is everything ,
Never share expecting to be consoled. Only open up about things you’ve accepted & are working on to fix ,
Learn to look for the positive in every negative ,
Do everything you do with passion even if you don’t feel like doing it. This way you’ll fulfill even the most daunting tasks. This is about a mindset shift . Don’t expect to think of everything in life as fun , coz it isn’t. But some things are just necessary ,
Some people will only love you as much as they can use you . Their loyalty ends where the benefits stop ,
Just Chill.!!
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Success demands these 6 things..
(The Secret Formula)
1. Hard Work
Don't believe in luck, believe in hard work.
Stop trying to rush the process or searching for a shortcut.
There is none.
2. Patience
If you are losing the patience, you are losing the battle.
First nothing happens, then it happens slowly and suddenly all at once.
Most people give up at stage one.
3. Sacrifice
If you don't sacrifice for what you want, then what you want becomes the sacrifice.
Everything has its price. The question is: Are you ready to pay it for the life you desire?
4. Consistency
Consistency is what transforms average into excellence.
Without consistency, you will never achieve greater success.
5. Discipline
Motivation gets you going, but discipline keeps you growing.
There will be days when you don't “feel” like doing it.
You have to push through those days regardless of how you feel.
6. Self Confidence
Confidence is, I'll be fine if they don't like me.
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Best selling author, agency owner, executive coach.Updated 3y
What is the least important in life?
Here are 9 things that are overrated in life (and yet most people are trapped by). The list tends to grow as I grow.
Here it is.
#1 – OTHER PEOPLE’S JUDGEMENT
Living to please others is a trap that hides your gift away from those that would benefit from it, only to try and not displease anyone else. In fact, it's impossible to please everyone: we're too different. The best thing you can hope for, is to not displease anyone by making yourself as vanilla as possible. This also means, letting down those that could benefit from your gift and your true nature: your tribe.
Ultimately, here's why other people's judgement is irrelevant: most people are too worried wondering what you think of them to care about you. Make yourself the only judge you care about.
#2 – YOUR MORNING COFFEE
When you are dependent on any ritual (especially if it's able to change your neurochemistry), it's often a sign of a deeper problem. Coffee is a great example.
If you depend on your morning coffee for a jolt of energy, maybe you should fix the actual problem: get a great night sleep, or find a situation in life that makes you feel empowered and full of energy.
If you depend on your morning coffee for a moment of pleasure, great. Make sure it's not masking the need to console yourself and escape a dull day: fix the problem instead.
#3 – GOOD INTENTIONS
Wanting to do something isn't worth anything. In fact, what you want to do is really unimportant in life. It's what you actually do that matters.
Wanting to talk to a girl is irrelevant, talking to a girl matters.
Wanting to launch a business is irrelevant, making your first sale matters.
Wanting to lose weight is irrelevant, creating a system to stop snacking matters.
#4 – EXCUSES
The unfavourable situations in life holding you back from the results that you want don't matter. In fact, we all have them: sometimes they're big, other times they're small. But life never stops.
Stop focusing on why you can't do something, and shift your attention onto what you can do differently instead.
Excuses don't matter in life: they don't take you forward, and they don't contribute to anyone else's day. Swap them for new actions.
#5 – A SENSE OF STABILITY
Sometimes, I feel like I haven't hit some of life's milestones yet. Then, I remember they're made up, usually by people I would never trade places with.
Most of us want to cling to a sense of stability: do things a certain way to maintain an idea of certainty. The issue with that, is that everything is in constant flux and adaptation: just like your body changing, so is the world around you.
Stability doesn't really exist: change is constant, and it's only when you learn to adapt and move with it, that you can find any sense of stability. It sounds like an oxymoron, but moving at the speed of life is the only way to be part of change, and not its victim.
#6 – SMARTPHONES
This morning, I turned my smartphone off. Then I went to a coffee shop and talked to a cute girl. Then I wrote two Quora answers, went to the park, took my shoes off, went for a walk, and then wrote another blogpost sat on a bench.
I may not have any photos of the whole event, but not having a smartphone with me allowed me to stay present and actually create. No matter what my addicted brain thinks, smartphones are irrelevant.
#7 – JUST ANOTHER TV SHOW
Getting stuck in another TV show you'll soon forget is not important in life. In fact, when I cancelled my subscription to Netflix, my life became a much more interesting TV show: I started travelling, I started creating more content and writing a book, I met more interesting people.
Watching yet another TV show is easy, but it's also forgettable. It's when you create moments and experiences, and share them with others, that life becomes the most interesting TV show ever.
#8 – RESENTMENT
Holding a grudge against someone or something that happened to you is totally irrelevant. In fact, if you read point #1, you know that other people's judgement is not important, especially compared to your own.
Resentment doesn't move you forward. It keeps you stuck in the past (and in your head). And guess what? No one cares, and neither should you. Instead, look for new ways to move forward. Look for things you can do better next time, because you are the only variable you can control.
#9 – MOST DEADLINES
I'm a big fan of deadlines: they push me to accomplish more in less time, they help me grow and get stretched and…they're just fun. But sometimes, we get so caught up in deadlines, that we forget one simple fact: they're all made up. Most of the time, by ourselves, and sometimes by others.
Whatever deadline you are following in life or at work, remember this: deadlines are made up. They're there to serve you, not the other way around.
Discard these, and you'll be able to drastically reduce stress and create a fuller life. It's worked for me.
– Matt
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What are some thought-provoking truths that you learned about life only after your 30s?
If you think there’s no one better than her, that’s only coz you don’t know enough of them,
Life is a game. Enjoy it , but maintain your competitive streak,
Dreams die when your caution turns into fear,
What’s love? The person you miss the most when everyone is around,
Why’s it so hard to get rid of clothes that you don’t even wear!!
Paying your bills & still being able to enjoy life with no stress is such an underrated blessing,
Never make a God out of a man . The best of us are still Men at best,
Stupidest thing you could do is try to prove people wrong,
When you aren’t observant you tend to make a lot of silly mistakes,
When you start getting it right & things are beginning to look good, stupid temptations make themselves available. Resist the rubbish,
Just Chill.!!
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CEO of Mitra AI.Updated 8y
What are "middle-class values"?
The Middle Class manifesto aka 8 point plan to mediocrity:
Avoid risks of all types.
Starting a business is not for you. The upper classes will always win. Strive to be the top executive in someone else's business.
"Fight" for the good causes, but don't get on the streets.
Own a home and take an annual vacation. Let Real estate be your primary investment.
Study hard. Education and the degrees are the ticket to riches.
Stick with your peer group. Don't do something wacky.
Stay off politics and any other kind of trouble. If you must enter politics, stay off the core.
Neither commit crime nor be the one to clean it up. Act as though you are no way related to crimes around you.
</End-Cynicism>.
Middle classes are very important to a society. They are stable and keep the society wobble less. They help businesses scale by being workers and managers. They tend to commit very low crimes and are great for governments.
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1. Start the day by working on yourself
Do this;
- Wake up between 5:00 AM - 5:30 AM
- Have a 30 minutes work out
- Spend 30 minutes reading
- Allocate 30 minutes to writing
- Review your day
This simple routine will give you 100% productive days.
2. Build a strong circle of dark night friends.
The quality of your life improves depending on who can support you;
• Find 3 or 4 friends strong in your areas of weakness.
• Face life together
But before making friends, fix yourself first.
3. Create income streams
When people are working for money, make money work for you.
Invest time, money, and energy in;
• Man hours (have people work for you)
• Real Estate
• Systems and tools
The much you can make now is determined by how much you've invested.
4. Never regret anything.
There are no mistakes if you learn.
You can't turn back time and did what felt right.
Learn and act according to what's right for you.
5. Lower your expectations.
You only have control over input and response to what happens.
People do what's right for them.
Anything can happen, and it's not for you.
Expect less, do more.
6. Eat right to fix 99% of your health problems
Unless it's an accident or disability, you can fix your health with;
- Enough proteins
- Carbohydrates
- Right fats
- Vitamins
Take;
• Meat
• Fruits
• Cereals
• Vegetables
Invest in your health.
7. Learn social skills.
Start by working on your appearance to boost self-confidence.
Then;
• Learn basic interactions
• Talk to a group
• Approach strangers and have a friendly chat
The better you can talk, the easier it is to get anything you want.
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What's the best habit you've ever developed?
"It gets easier, every day it gets easier, but you have to do it every day, that's the real challenge, but believe me it does get easier"
Although strange as it may seem, I will not tell you that the habit that literally changed my life (and it is not an exaggeration) is meditating, nor drinking a lot of water, nor is it even writing in a diary or eating healthy, the habit that changed my life for "Running" is better, if you run, specifically in the mornings, and you think, how about running if I suffer and run out of air, I run 3 km and my knees are already hurting?
I'm not going to bore you with the benefits of running for physical health, we all know them.
I will tell you about the impact it has on your mind, on your mental health, or at least what it has done for me.
I get up every day at 7 AM, I have a cup of coffee, I drink water, I stretch, I warm up a bit and I go for a run, like this without thinking about it too much and on an empty stomach, if you think about it a lot the brain will look for excuses, it it will attack logically so that you give up, your mind seeks satisfaction, but satisfaction is not going to take you where you want to be, right? .
I run at my pace, slowly but surely, I take my phone and headphones and I listen to a podcast, audiobook, music or whatever, and that's when the "magic" begins, your brain starts working, releases endorphins , when you get up early you feel like you have the whole day ahead of you and after you jogged (in my case) 15 km you feel. unstoppable, prepared to face whatever life throws at you, and it gives you confidence, knowing that when you arrive at work, most of your colleagues are still with the sheets attached, and you are already awake, with energy and willing to face any challenge, because by completing the first of the day, the others become much easier and it gives me a lot of confidence.
Thanks to this habit, I have been promoted in my work and I have been able to advance a lot in my life.
But of course, it has a trick and that is that as it says in one of the chapters of Bojack Horseman
"It gets easier, every day it gets easier, but you have to do it every day, that's the real challenge, but believe me it does get easier"
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Scientific Writer and Freelance Content Writer1y
What was the book that changed your life?
Recently I read a book that had been on my bucket list for quite a long time. It was “The Forty Rules of Love” by Elif Shafak.
The book revolves around the protagonist Ella Rubenstein, a mother of three children, and a wife, in her late thirties, going through a midlife crisis. She contemplates herself and her life decisions when she comes across a book called “Sweet Blasphemy”. The book speaks to her directly on deeper and emotional levels and gives a new perspective on her life.
The best part about this book is that while you notice the protagonist shifting her life, you also see yourself changing a bit. The book which the protagonist reads tells us the story of the legend Rumi and his master, Shams Tabriz. It takes us through the transformation of the great scholar Rumi to the legendary poet Rumi. It gives a peek into the mystic’s and his master's life touching upon Sufism. The master, Shams Tabriz, gives forty prudent rules to evoke our conscience. By the end of the book, I found myself much more empathetic and loving towards others (even to those whom I don’t like).
Here are a few key learnings which I took from the book:
Love, above all, is the greatest religion.
How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is too much fear and blame inside us. If we see God as full of love and compassion, so are we.
No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey within. If you travel within, you’ll travel the whole wide world and beyond.
Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead, let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?
Real filth is the one inside. There is only one type of dirt that cannot be cleansed with pure water, and that is the stain of hatred and bigotry contaminating the soul. You can purify your body through fasting, but only love will purify your heart.
The whole universe is contained within you. Everything that you see around, including the things you might not be fond of and even the people you despise, is present within you in varying degrees. The devil is not an extraordinary force that attacks from without. It is an ordinary voice within.
If you want to change the way others treat you, you should first change the way you treat yourself. Unless you learn to love yourself, fully and sincerely, there is no way you can be loved.
Fret not where the road will take you. Instead, concentrate on the first step. That’s the hardest part and that’s what you are responsible for. Once you take that step let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow. Do not go with the flow. Be the flow.
The world is like a snowy mountain that echoes your voice. Whatever you speak, good or evil, will somehow come back to you.
The past is an interpretation and the future is an illusion. The present moment is all there is and all that there will be. Remain in the present.
To be honest, the takeaways from the book cannot be contained in the above points, and I can go on writing more. I would, however, suggest you give it a try and experience it yourself. The book is not an easy read as it is meant to re-wire you. It is full of Sufi practices that will make you think and give you a glass to see life differently. What matters is your readiness to accept and change. If you do, trust me, your life would be a better place.
All the best and happy reading to you!
I would love to discuss your take on this book or any other book that you might have read.
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What are some life advice that look difficult but are easy?
At one point or another you’ll have to understand that some people are only meant to stay in your mind not your life,
A person in front of whom you dare to be yourself is mostly your true friend,
Not all smiles are true, some are just masks to cover up real emotions,
Never rely too much on someone else , you’re your own guarantee,
Don’t take advice from people who haven’t accomplished what you want to accomplish,
Don’t apologize if you’re still going to do the same things you were sorry for,
If your goals set you apart from others, remain alone,
Ego is not the same as self-confidence . There’s no success in ego. Stay humble,
Always keep your love life, bank account & next move private,
A hungry stomach, an empty wallet & a broken heart, can teach you the best lessons in life,
Failure is not the opposite of success, it’s a part of success,
Start low-key . Not everyone needs to know everything about you,
Risk is the price you pay for opportunity. Take risks, watch your life transform,
Being selfish doesn’t work with people in general,
Just Chill.!!
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Author: Pearls of Wisdom from Everyday Life |Ex-IRS| IITian5y
What is the difference among intelligent people, smart people, clever people, and wise people?
These four class of people can be described as following:
1: Intelligent people
They are great at problem solving of routine nature. Hence, they are good at academics where you are assess performance on the basis of text-book problems. They are great managers because they can provide effective solutions to the well-defined problems. The best examples of intelligent people are the graduates of IITs, IIMs, MITs, Harvard etc.
2: Smart People
Smart people are those who are good at identifying opportunities and people. They don’t bother themselves about solving problems, but they know who the best person to solve a problem is. They are the people who often hire intelligent people. These people are entrepreneurs like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs etc.
3: Clever People
They are the people who knows the hidden or dark side of people. They exploit the dark nature of people. They are so clever that they can fool even the smartest people because they know the weakness of each person instead of their strengths. They are best suited for politics, frauds and unethical businesses.
4: Wise People
Wise are those people who can watch and laugh at the follies of the world including those of the above three classes of people. They don’t join the rat race of the world and charter their own path. They are the people who prevent the problem itself and hence they live very peaceful and serene life. The best example of wise people are Socrates and Buddha.
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"Why" is the easy part. Getting the person to change, now there's psychology.Updated 4y
What can a conversation tell you about someone's intelligence?
I quit giving IQ tests years ago for a couple of reasons:
Within 15 minutes, I was able to have a pretty good idea who the person was. IQ isn't knowledge—it’s the way they conceptually think and how they use their thoughts.
Their intelligence could have interrupters like ADD, dyslexia, or lack of education, which skew some tests. They also could be experiential, kinesthetic learners instead of aural or verbal-linguistic ones.
I've had many, very smart, intellectual patients I wouldn't entrust my dog to, much less anything of value. They mistake information as being smart, so they learn to rattle off facts and miss out on the integration of life—especially interactive relationships.
We also have those who use all that brainpower to scam, manipulate, and use people. They’re sick, but they use their intelligence to play games and avoid getting caught. Ted Kaczynski was one.
All the items the OP mentioned are used to assess at what level that person is operating. Sometimes we don't care about IQ because decency and kindness are more valued.
Most people are an average 100 IQ. When someone is 90, we might notice a few blips that they’re not connecting the dots in their logic, even if we do agree with it.
When someone is 80 IQ, most everyone will notice something is off: they’ll have dropouts, or quirks, and often will have learned coping mechanisms that others will pick up on. Sometimes health systems pair these people up, each with a different problem, so they can live a somewhat independent lifestyle.
When IQs get down to 75, these people definitely need help. They require an overseer because they can't track the consequences of their choices and will make mistakes which can cause serious trouble or damage. By 70 and below, they can't even live alone: that's just 30 points off normal.
Understanding the scale’s low end can help put in perspective going up the scale for high IQ. These elite groups generally start scoring at an IQ 130, or the top 2% of the population (the 98th percentile).
The term "IQ score" is a bit poorly defined: different tests use different scales. One test which scores 132 can be, in essence, the same as another test’s 148 score. Some tests aren't even using IQ any more. Many now use percentile instead—how many in the general population. A 98th percentile means 2% of the population, or those above 98 percent of all humans who test, or 1 person out of 50.
The following is from Wikipedia:
Mensa International – as of January 2014, ~110,000 members from ~100 countries; annual dues for American Mensa are $70 (dues differ by country).
IQ 135 : Top 1 percent (99th percentile; 1 out of 100; approximately )
Intertel – as of January 2014, 1,300-1,400 members; annual dues are $39.
IQ 146): Top 0.1 percent (99.9th percentile; 1 out of 1,000; approximately
Triple Nine Society – as of January 2015, ~1,450 members from ~40 countries; annual dues are $10.
International Society for Philosophical Enquiry – as of December 2014, 410 members; annual dues are $50.
Top 0.003 percent (99.997th percentile; 1 out of 30,000; approximately IQ 160):
Prometheus Society – as of January 2014, ~120 members; annual dues are $50.
Top 0.0001 percent (not reliable with current tests):
Mega Society – as of January 2014, 26 members
So in normal conversation, we tend to use a number of intuitive and personal scales to assess someone. I don't secretly evaluate people I meet in public unless something unusual in their personality grabs my attention and trips me up—it's a conscious kind of work. I then sort out what would be a best approach to get done what I want using their IQ and personality as my guides.
Personally, one’s personality is way more impactful and indicative than one’s IQ, since one’s personality is what determines whether we want to engage them or not. This is especially true when it might become an ongoing relationship.
IQ is best looked at as horsepower—it's just work from an engine: what you hook it to and what you do with it in life is way more important than the size of the engine.
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What are some signs someone really isn't happy?
My partner works in academia as an archaeologist and runs a lab where they 3D scan artifacts.
They do stuff that looks like this:
She hired a vendor to scan a few objects. In her good nature, she gave the guy his payment upfront. Months of drama later, she still couldn’t get ahold of him. He didn’t answer his phone. He didn’t reply to emails. He occasionally reached out to cancel meetings. Each excuse was more ridiculous than the next.
Sparing you the full details, we know he drinks a ton and has extensive personal issues. Every closet in his house is stuffed full of skeletons.
But the situation and his noncompliance have created much bigger problems in his life. He took a company’s money and refused to deliver services. He’s ruined key business relationships and his reputation. He’s effectively tanking his career.
When someone’s communication breaks down, when they stop answering calls and doing their normal duties, it’s not usually a good sign for their well-being. Depressed people often avoid and put off communication.
Great friendships and careers implode because a person started ghosting everyone, including their boss and their partner.
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What is something you learned that changed your life/ the things you do?
Words are powerful, and you're the prophet of your own life. Whatever you wish for yourself, speak it daily, and it will come to pass.
People don't listen to you. They are thinking about what you're telling them in their own terms.
Everyone is afraid of something, whether it's death, or a secret they've been hiding since childhood.
There's no such thing as certainty. Everything is subject to mortality, human error, and weakness.
You don't have to fear what's going to happen after you die. You have no control over it.
150 years from now, everyone alive today will be dead, and will not be remembered anymore.
Strive to be happy with what you have today, for that's your portion.
You can never tell what a person really is, until it's a matter of survival.
It doesn't matter what the situation is. What matters is your attitude towards it.
If you can control your emotions, you can control an army.
Sometimes you don't have to respond to a verbal attack. Your silence is the most dangerous weapon against an enemy.
The greatest power on earth is the power to say “NO”.
The best way to confuse an enemy is to show them a smile.
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Lessons from think and grow rich
You need to have faith.
Don't be afraid to fail.
Winners never quit.
Imagination is powerful.
Have a burning desire.
A thought can do wonders.
Be a specialist.
Be a decision-maker.
Implementation is key.
Have a mastermind group.
Edit: Try to appreciate other's work. So upvote..
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What are some smart psychological effects to pull in relationships?
Sometimes you just have to be silent coz no words are enough,
When the relationship is real , staying faithful is easy,
People don’t say what they truly feel coz they don’t want to or they just don’t know how to express it ,
Don’t allow someone to make you feel like you’re not enough,
Sometimes we don’t even notice we’re sitting in silence, coz there’s so much noise in our head ,
Sometimes we never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory that we wish we could experience again ,
Smiling has always been easier than explaining why we’re sad ,
Sometimes we sit quietly not knowing what to do with the life anymore,
You never realize how really lonely you’re until it’s the end of the day & you’ve a lot of things you wanna talk about & share with but you have no one to tell any of it to ,
People treat you on how you present yourself,
No matter what happens, some memories can never be replaced,
It hurts to have someone in your heart but not by your side,
Learn what to hold on to , & know what to let go of ,
Just Chill.!!
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What are some things that people with high IQs can't stand?
People with high IQs often have very high standards and can be quite critical of different situations. They are particularly sensitive to inefficiency, ignorance, and people who aren’t open to learning new things.
For example, those with high IQs don’t enjoy having conversations with someone who isn’t interested in expanding their knowledge or trying to understand a concept from another angle. They also find it difficult to be around people who simply regurgitate what they hear without questioning if the information is based on facts or sound evidence.
Similarly, people with higher intelligence tend to get frustrated when they see an inefficient system that could otherwise be improved upon—from illogical laws to time-consuming processes. These folks view such setbacks as wasted potential—something that should have been thought through more thoroughly before being implemented into practice.
Highly intelligent individuals also dislike anything that seems arbitrary or “just because." For instance, coming up against regulations and rules solely because of tradition instead of understanding why they exist in the first place irks these types of thinkers; they want proof that something works before they believe it should even be considered an option at all!
In general, highly intelligent individuals take pride in their intellectual abilities; thus any situation where their expertise isn’t being valued or taken seriously is likely going to rub them the wrong way—especially when faced with seemingly insurmountable obstacles on a daily basis due to unfairness within a society built on outdated thinking instead of productive solutions and progressivism!
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What is the best learning throughout your life that you have learned?
Whenever you are happy, keep your mouth zipped
Whenever you are sad, keep your mouth shut
Don't reveal your plans, surprise people instead
Do not fill your eyes with tears, they will hide other opportunities for you
If a problem can be solved then why to worry and if it can't then no need to worry
Keep smiling
Keep shining
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What are some brutal realities of life that no one wants to hear according to your individual experiences of life itself?
Why does a man forgive a woman? A man forgives a woman coz he lacks options. And she knows it ,
Most men have zero standards when it comes to women, they spend their lives complaining, how’d I end up being with the XYZ,
Most of our online arguments with strangers come from our inner disharmony,
Knowledge isn’t power unless it generates wealth. Wealth is what makes everything more potent,
No one can be 100% authentic. Coz you’re perpetually evolving, there’ll always be new parts of you that you haven’t gotten to know yet .However, what you can be is 100% sincere,
World’s biggest lie men say : No need to ask my wife. My decision is final. And women: I’ll ask my husband & tell you,
If more people could simply mind their own businesses, the world would be a much better place,
The longest 10 minutes you’ll ever spend is sitting in silence looking at your own thoughts ,
The worst insult a man can receive is to be called a coward. Every man has the power to not allow himself to become one,
Being liked & being respected look the same to people who’ve never experienced either,
Just Chill.!!
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Things A Man Must Know By Age 25:
1. A man must figure out how to judge people's authenticity.
This helps him avoid getting cheated or
fooled in life.
This also helps him identify his true friends and enemies.
2. A man must figure out how to earn money.
Making your own money and getting self sufficient is a non negotiable for all men.
You have to obey who pays for your food and shelter.
To truly become independent a man must not depend on anyone for his survival.
3. A man must gain full control of his lust.
A man who can control his desires is a man free one of the most dangerous weapons used against men.
Women.
A man driven by lust is used by women as a slave.
4. A man must gain mental toughness, emotional stability and physical strength in his 20s.
These are every man's prime years, he can be anything he wants to be in these golden years.
This is when he understands his dependence on testosterone and optimizes it for life.
5. A man must gain command over his rage, anger, ruthlessness, kindness, love, patience and his tongue.
The right use of these at the right times can make him the best man alive.
Any man who fails in life is because he lost control of one or more of these.
6. A man should be knowledgeable about the 3 dark triads.
Identifying these in himself or in others
will help him excel in life.
He can use people's nature to his advantage in almost all situations
7. Most importantly, a man must figure out how to identify good women.
Choosing a wife is the most important
decision of a man's life.
He can't get this wrong or everything else is spoiled by this.
He must know by the age 25, how to live with women and how to lead them.
How to not compromise with your respect, honor or goals while leading her.
Be it from heartbreak or teachings from a good mentor.
A man must know this all.
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06 things a leader should never do
Don't be indecisive. Ain't nobody gonna follow someone who can't make up their damn mind.
Don't be a two-faced snake. People can smell that crap from a mile away.
Don't be a damn pushover. You gotta have a backbone if you want to make it in this world.
Don't be lazy. If you're the one in charge, you gotta put in the work.
Don't be a know-it-all. You ain't that smart, trust me.
Don't be too proud to ask for help. We all need it sometimes.
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Why is my life not getting better?
A man who makes himself readily available is a man who’s easily manipulated & taken advantage of. Remain a challenge if you want to remain cherished,
Believing that contentment lies in the arms of another is a one-way road to a life of disappointment & heartache,
Get addicted to the process & learning, not the outcome,
Accountability & integrity plus long term goals are what you need to be equipped with before you even begin to chase a better life,
Don’t overplay your hand to prove yourself, sooner or later you’ll be out of moves ,
Real people who’re serious about their lives are patient & their moves are always forward looking ,
Don’t look back in anger, or forward in fear , but around in awareness,
Sometimes, chapter in our lives are too difficult to close , despite the pain they cause . They’re not good for us , yet we keep investing in them ,
Excuses take you nowhere . Feeling lost & losing track in your journey is a natural process of your evolution,
Sometimes the only thing holding you back is your fear of rejection . Once you stop looking, things will find you,
Just Chill.!!
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Growth Marketer | Digital marketing | SEOFeb 16
Can you teach me a weird psychology trick?
1. Observe a person's parents to understand them.
A person's ability to love comes from parents, and discipline also comes from parents.
2. Don't make a decision when you're crying, the less you speak when your feelings are negative, the better.
3. When someone agrees to your first request, there is a good chance that they will agree to the second request.
4. Curiosity can overcome fear.
5. You won't be depressed when you run.
6. Letting go will only make things worse.
7. First of all to meet each other's needs, you can cultivate good interpersonal, cooperative relationships.
8. Most people are unbelievers, have a fragile self-esteem
9. If a person is not good at expressing himself, he will be neglected.
When two people dine together, if you want to know if the other person has potential affection (friendship and love applies) to you, pick up a cup and take a sip of water. If the other person also subconsciously picks up their glass and drinks water, they are more likely to have a potential interest in you.
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Freelance Work (2020–present)2y
What are some unwritten social rules everyone should know?
When you call someone two times in a row and they’re not picking up, stop blowing their phone. Respect yourself.
Don't talk much after meeting new people, don't get comfortable on the first meeting. It’s uncool when you meet someone and they act like you've been buddies for a long time.
When someone walks into the room and you have your earphones on, stick one out in case they want to have a conversation.
Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze.
Give your roommate a heads up if you are bringing someone home with you.
Give the waiter the same respect you would give a CEO.
Make sure not to invade someone else's personal space. Keep a few feet away while talking.
Stop being late every time, it’s annoying.
Call or give someone a heads up if you aren't going to make it.
When invited to a party or event by a friend, it’s rude to bring a plus one without informing them.
Wash your hands and flush the toilet after finishing your business.
If you puke on someone's car or house, make sure you get it cleaned. Saying sorry won't clean it.
Mind your own business unless anything involves you directly — just stay out of it.
14.Don't give kids you are not related to sweets or other small gifts — people will start confusing your motives.
15.Go to the back of the queue and don't try to get sneaky to be served first.
16.When eating out with friends, talk after you've finished swallowing your food.
17.Be courteous; say sorry when you sneeze.
18.When visiting someone's house, carry something to eat or make food even if it’s sugar or milk for tea.
19.Stop telling everyone about your mom or SO. It’s okay, we know you love them but can we talk about something else?
20.Don't be the loudest in a crowd. Weigh the pitch in everyone’s tone and keep it around there.
21.When you open a gift, just say thank you. Don't say, "It's too expensive!"
22.Don't open gifts in front of guests at adult birthday parties. Open it privately and reply later. Opening the package in front of different companies can be embarrassing because of the difference in fees, people who don't bring gifts, and so on.
23.If you are attending a funeral, try to wear a dark dress unless the deceased's relatives or friends have special requests.
24.If you borrow tools, ladders, lawn mowers, etc. from a friend or neighbor, return the work as soon as it's done. Don't wait until the day/week. To make matters worse, don't put them in a position where they have to ask for a return.
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7 Habits that turn boys into men:
Here are seven habits that can help turn boys into men:
Taking responsibility: Men take responsibility for their actions and decisions, and they do not make excuses or blame others for their mistakes.
Developing self-discipline: Men develop self-discipline by setting goals and working towards them, even when it is difficult or uncomfortable.
Being accountable: Men are accountable to themselves and to others, and they follow through on their commitments.
Communicating effectively: Men communicate their thoughts and feelings clearly and respectfully, and they listen actively to others.
Maintaining physical and mental health: Men take care of their physical and mental health by exercising regularly, eating well, getting enough sleep, and managing stress.
Practicing integrity: Men act with integrity by being honest, ethical, and consistent in their words and actions.
Pursuing lifelong learning: Men are curious and eager to learn, and they are committed to improving themselves and their skills throughout their lives.
These habits can help boys develop important qualities and characteristics that will serve them well as they grow into responsible, capable, and mature men.
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According to psychology what are some most important facts about a person's personality?
1. People will respect you based on how you respect yourself, talk to people and how you treat people around you with respect and good and positive energy.
2. No amount of bribery can make people love you if you're a bad person.
3. Good behavior attracts people to you, while bad behavior repels people.
4. Tell people your own story first. They will share theirs eventually. (The Art of Making Someone Confess).
5.Blind people are much sensitive.
6. If you want someone new to like you, then refer to people you’ve just met by their name. People love being referred to by their name and it will establish a sense of trust and friendship right away.
Be thankful for all the struggles you went through. They make you stronger, wiser and humble. Don't let it break you and let it make you.
8. Slow eaters generally like to be in control and know how to appreciate life. Fast eaters tend to be ambitious, goal-oriented, open to new experiences, and often impatient.
9. Before talking to a new person, a smile from you gains their positive approach towards you.
10.70% of people pretend to be okay simply because they don't want to annoy others with their problems.
11. You don’t have to be good at all things to be rich, but you have to be good at some things in which no one can beat you.
12. People think that to be strong is to never feel pain . But in reality, the strongest people are the ones who feel it but get through it.
13.Apparently, it will only take up to 4 minutes to decide whether you like someone or not. As such, if you want to make a good impression on someone, you have only got around 4 minutes to do so.
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What are the 6 techniques you must know to boost your confidence?
Come to like yourself: Act, talk, dress the way you like. Take actions that your confident self will take.
Notice People: Shift your attention from yourself onto people. Observe the way they act, what they say — make deductions about them.
Reconnect with play: Play is a state of being truly ourselves when we dissolve our ego and the fear of looking stupid. Sports, games, hiking — find what brings on that state for you.
Calculated risk: Do things that change your thinking patterns, what you thought was possible. Get out of your comfort zone — approach that person etc.
Develop a skill: When you something you are good at, you become confident. Play to your strengths and build a skill on them.
Eliminate negativity: The news, toxic friends, influencers anything that makes you feel horrible about yourself; get rid of it.
Self-care: Do something good for your body. Every day try some exercise, skincare, healthy foods or anything.
Get out of your head: Do activities that get you out of your head and make you aware. Exercise, yoga, meditation, etc.
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What is the deepest truth you have discovered in life?
One true friend is worth more than a thousand fakes.
Be like an iceberg. Don’t reveal all of yourself. Save your hidden beauty and splendor only to a few who are willing to dive deeper with you.
Everyone wants to eat but not everyone is willing to hunt.
Everything is good but not everything is worth it.
It doesn’t matter whether you are a black person or a white person. We are all people of color.
Do not seek to be successful. Seek to be valuable.
Don’t judge ME by my Past. I don’t live there anymore.
People may not always tell you openly how they feel about you, but they will always show you in deeds.
Life is all about which lens we use to see things.
Every single day you make a choice about life. Think before you act.
At first they’ll ask you WHY you’re doing it. But later they’ll ask you HOW you did it.
Life is a reflection of the six different tastes of food. Sweet, Sour, Salty, Bitter, Pungent, Astringent. The seventh one has not yet been discovered.
It is okay for a child to play with the mother’s breasts, but quite dangerous to play with the father’s testicles.
Some people want things to happen. Some people make things happen. And some people wonder, “Why the hell do things happen?”
Before healing others, heal yourself.
Always try to do things in chronological order; it's easier for your feeble brain to comprehend and less confusing.
He who dies with the most toys is, nonetheless, still dead.
A guilty conscience needs no accuser.
If you have something to tell me, tell me. I didn’t ask for explanations.
Ignorance has a cure called Education. Craziness has its medication. But there is no cure for stupidity.
Addiction doesn't kill the addict. It kills the conscience.
The first thing in the human personality that dissolves in alcohol is dignity.
Many people have gone further than they thought possible because someone else thought they could.
The future is always beginning now.
Those who live in the past limit their future.
We fall in love not because we’ve found the perfect person, but because we have learned to see an imperfect person perfectly.
You have to fight for whom you truly love, and love whom you’re fighting for.
You have no control over whom your heart chooses to love, so just relax and enjoy the ride.
A coward dies a thousand deaths before the brave dies once.
Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.
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What are useful social skills that can be picked up quickly?
1. Make a good impressions and end on a high note, cause people remember the first and last things you do.
2. To get a girlfriend or boyfriend, pretend you have a girlfriend or boyfriend. People like what other people like, and we have a tendency to judge the value of something by how in demand it is.
3. Check your mood at the door. Cause a bad mood is contagious, and people do pick up on what you’re sending out.
4. Using ”Because” instantly helps your message become more persuasive.
5. Say that your parents told you first if you want to convince someone of something.
6. If you're having difficulty finding someone in your league to fall in love with, try this application.
7. Instead of saying, 'Somebody help’, try this “You, in blue t-shirt, help me”. People tend to ignore pleas when they are among a group of people.
8. One of the best ways to convince someone to like you, especially romantically, is by demonstrating to them that there are other people who like you as well, same as No.2.
9. Flip a coin if you cant decide something, and then follow whether or not you feel happy or disappointed with the result that it gives you.
10. Paraphrase and repeat people’s words to impressive people that you’re paying a great deal of intention to what they have said.
11. Compliment other people. If you describe someone else as genuine and kind, people will also associate you with those qualities.
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10 Fundamental facts and lessons about life
First impressions are lasting impressions.
Money doesn't change people, it reveals them
Don't let unsuccessful people discourage you.
Join people on the same path as you.
Your reputation precedes you.
Give your children a financial education.
Money won't impress the people that matter.
If you hang around 5 losers, you'll be 6th.
Real friends will hold you accountable.
Avoiding money conversations is detrimental.
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I spent 23 years as a shy person, now I can teach you how to be confident in just 2 minutes:
1. Everyone is human
Remember that the people you think are 'cool' are really no different than you.
Everyone has their own problems, insecurities and doubts.
Stop thinking that they are better than you.
2. Give yourself credit.
Stop being so hard on yourself.
Remember all the good things you've done.
Remember how far you've come.
You're doing great, just remind yourself of it more often.
3. Put yourself in an uncomfortable position.
This is the best way to overcome shyness.
Join a club, go to events and put yourself out there.
These uncomfortable situations will soon become comfortable, and then you will become a confident person.
4. Get in shape and dress well.
The easiest way to be confident is to look good.
If you don't like the way you look, you'll be shy in social settings.
If you love your appearance, you will feel proud and confident in a public setting.
5. Allow yourself to make mistakes.
As sweet as it sounds, 'Rome was not built in a day'.
You are allowed to make mistakes.
This is how we learn and grow as human beings.
6. Less planning, more action.
Too much planning can lead to overthinking and anxiety.
Take action instead!
Also, the more times you do something, the more confident you will get.
7. Believe in yourself.
Even if you don’t believe in yourself, you can trick your brain into believing.
Before bed every night say “I am a confident person” 10 times.
It will be programmed into your subconscious and trick you into becoming confident!
8. Take risks.
I know it’s scary, but you need to take risks.
If your dream looks too risky and scary - break it down into smaller parts.
Then it won’t be as intimidating to pursue.
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What are some thought-provoking truths that you learned about life only after your 30s?
If you think there’s no one better than her, that’s only coz you don’t know enough of them,
Life is a game. Enjoy it , but maintain your competitive streak,
Dreams die when your caution turns into fear,
What’s love? The person you miss the most when everyone is around,
Why’s it so hard to get rid of clothes that you don’t even wear!!
Paying your bills & still being able to enjoy life with no stress is such an underrated blessing,
Never make a God out of a man . The best of us are still Men at best,
Stupidest thing you could do is try to prove people wrong,
When you aren’t observant you tend to make a lot of silly mistakes,
When you start getting it right & things are beginning to look good, stupid temptations make themselves available. Resist the rubbish,
Just Chill.!!
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What are some of the dark lessons that life showed you?
Fairness is unnatural. Nothing is 100% fair.
Every one has a mask and they play differently to different people. Lovers, families, coworkers...you'll be surprised how different people can be in different social contexts.
Never tell people 100%, tell them 70% about yourself, and 30% should be hidden.
Respect yourself, because people can see if you don't.
When in love, everyone becomes an idiot.
Anyone you love can die. Any time. Cherish them.
People only want to hear the good, not the bad. So if you have issues, it'll be hard to find people to confide in.
You can't change others.
Live life the way you want to live it. Because even people who care for you can't be with you every step of the way.
You can't always get what (who) you want.
Some people are evil for the sake of it. It is not your fault if you end up in a relationship with that person. Get out of it.
We will all eventually become old and unattractive in the eyes of society.
It doesn't matter how good your grades are, because grades aren't everything and people pay more attention to your social skills. Grades only take you halfway.
No one will ever be able to make you feel loved unless you love yourself.
Love, dating, and relationship can't be "figured out" logically. They require empathy, vulnerability, and honesty.
Once you hurt someone, they're not likely to forget. They will always remember how much you've hurt them. One negligible action can have devastating consequences.
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What is the most profound life lessons you've learned, or that got passed on to you?
A woman doesn’t choose a man coz of who he is ; she chooses him coz of how it makes her feel,
Don’t trade your authenticity for approval,
The easiest & the simplest way to ensure that your day ahead will be filled with magic is to fill your morning with gratitude,
Self confidence is some sort of a superpower. Once you start believing in yourself, magic starts happening,
Never let a person get comfortable disrespecting you,
People value consistency coz it gives them reassurance. If they see you drifting away from your own path, they’ll also start drifting away from you. Stay true to your message & purpose,
If you’ve a vision, you’ve an obligation to yourself to be relentless until you see the results you desire,
If you’re buying something to look rich you’re an idiot,
Fall in order to grow. Lose in order to gain coz most of life’s lessons are learned in pain,
Your level of commitment reflects your true desire . The problem is most people are not investing time each day to develop themselves & therefore never reach true success,
If you don’t have a clear idea of where you want to go, you’re not going anywhere,
When someone is disappointed with you, wish them well & don’t carry their disappointment, coz it’s their expectations, not yours ,
Too often, our stress is tied to how intently we focus on the things we can’t control,
Money can increase your net worth but it takes more than money to increase your self worth,
Just Chill.!!
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What are the 5 outrageous life hacks that make you more confident?
Your goals don’t care how you feel . Nobody on this earth is entitled to feel good everyday- nor can you expect to ,
Brainwash yourself into believing every girl from inside is dying to talk to you ,
Your greatest superpower is breathing slowly when things don’t go your way . Every situation in which you remained calm is gonna pay-off eventually . Rationality will always beat emotions ,
Inaction will kill your manhood faster than any soy milk , seed oil , or porn addiction ever could ,
You play a minor role in other people’s lives except your family , so stop overthinking & overanalysing things . It’s just a painful reminder that you care way too much , even when you shouldn’t,
Just Chill.!!
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What should be the guiding principles of life?
Having balls will take you much further in life than having brains ,
When doing something, don’t expect two results : Sucess or Failure . Expect winning only coz your subconscious mind follows your thinking,
Winning also looks like : Walking away . Quitting . Letting go . And losing people & things that are not aligned to you ,
The most unattractive trait in a man : Desperation ,
Don’t use resentment as fuel. Resentment towards people leads to poor game skills . Learn to appreciate men/ women around you for what they’re, even with their flaws & dark side,
Being real at everything is more important than being perfect at everything . Be unique , be original. You’ll always win ,
You become a man when you learn to respond & not react . Overreacting is a sign of a man not in control of his emotions ,
A man who can’t choose his responsibilities over his desires is a failure ,
To be alive , present, & in good health is a blessing. Don’t take any of it for granted ,
No man is ever complete. It’s a journey with no end , you’ve to keep getting better everyday ,
Just Chill.!
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