All Things Far: June 2023

Friday, June 30, 2023

Documentaries

Toxic Playground 2010

Original title: Blybarnen

Arica 2020

Like Most Revelations by Richard Howard

Like Most Revelations by Richard Howard, he writes that “it is the movement that creates the form”.

Eyeshare Contact Lens Pattaya Green review

Back when I was in my student era, I was eager to try out colored contact lenses. But that time was not kind to me as the available colored lenses in the physical eye shops that fitted my budget was only at a certain grade point (I think that it was at 300 max). Since that was always the case, I would buy contact lenses at EO optical which are transparent/clear and is good for a month at less than 300 pesos. This time of soul-searching and self-discovery, I decided that I need to stop focusing on others and focus on myself instead.

So I was intrigued with the colored graded lenses which are available online. I'm looking for a 14 mm diameter however the available colored lens which are prefer were way beyond that. After a while of looking around the application, I ordered Eyeshare Pattaya Green lens with a grade of -6.50. I was excited to try a green lens on me because it looked sultry. By the way, I am aware of the risks involved and decided to take the plunge.

It took me 5 days or more before I got the Eyeshare Pattaya Green Lens because it came from overseas. I got it for 148 pesos with a shipping fee of 40 pesos.

Nobody told me this but I learned that you should first clean and soak the new lenses for at least 6 hours. When I use contact lenses, I usually go on and try it out at once. Do not use the multipurpose solution directly into your eyes. These are for cleaning and soaking. There are lubricating eye drops available instead. Or you can faux blinking so that you can use real tears for lubrication.

Anyway, I got my solution from EO and soak the new lenses overnight. This morning, I got to try it and was shocked. It was a bit overwhelming at first to see yourself when you're not used to wearing colored lenses. But.... I came to love it when I got to see my eyes under sunlight. This pattaya green colored lenses compliment when paired up with eye make up. Use a fine line eyeliner and lashes!

Here is a portion of my eye in sunlight.

When I was wearing it at first, there were a cloud on the side. Probably because of the larger diameter?

Bad for Me

Thursday, June 29, 2023

Rising from the Ashes

Wednesday, June 28, 2023

Asahi 16 inches Desk Fan Model BB6004

The rooms in the apartment can become too hot and I'm tired of enduring the heat which results to having a poor quality of sleep. In the orange app, it was originally 1799 pesos excluding the shipping fee of 160 pesos from a well-known hardware store. I was able to purchase this for 1368 in total which was quite a steal knowing that this brand is Asahi which I have been eyeing for a while. It has five blades and made of plastic which will make it easier to clean.

As expected, this fan didn't disappoint. The level one of this fan was like equal to the level 3 of our old electric fan. I'm also happy because it will provide an instant relief to the scorching heat (though we are already approaching the rainy season) and at the same time will be used for properly circulating and ventilating the room.

Tofu dipping sauce 2.0

Tofu dipping sauce 2.0

It was fortunate when I was able to jot down my own dipping sauce because I tend to forget and always came up with another thing when I try to make the same dish/sauce. But this time, I'm intentionally improving my tofu dipping sauce. What I did was to have a 2:1 ratio of soysauce to white vinegar, a dash of freshly ground black pepper, chopped red onion, chopped cooled cucumber and a minced of 1 whole red bell pepper.

But this would be perfect if the sauce was super cold and lots of onion. Did you know that red onion was basically used for salads and white onions are for sautéing? Yeah. I was shocked when I'd read about this in a cooking book. So if you're planning to fry tofu, make this dipping sauce in advance! Enjoy!

Quora reads

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What are the 5 daily habits of highly successful people?
They don’t follow every self-help advice they read. They focus on improving one area of their life first. One habit at a time.
Taking responsibility for their life. If something bad happens, it’s their responsibility to solve it.
Dealing with negative people. They don’t try to fight or change them. They learn to ignore them.
Following intuition. They do what feels right to them not what society obligates them to do.
There is so much negativity in this world. They protect their mental state by consuming uplifting content.

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As a young adult in my mid 20s, what can I do to dramatically improve my life in 5 years?
Travel, pursue hobbies, experience things. More demands will come later, so enjoy and maximize your experiences.
Put as much money as you can in your savings account. Cut down frivolous spending.
Accept the fact that things happen for a reason. A breakup might hurt you now but eventually, you will achieve better.
Sometimes holding on is more painful than letting it go. Learn to step back when required.
Make room in your life for worthy people by not prioritizing people who are not prioritizing you.
Kick negative people out of your life and the sooner the better. Don't waste your time on them.
Careers, relationships, etc. all take time and require patience. Don't lose heart, keep working.
Stop social media addiction. Don’t just merely record your life, be present to experience it.

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What are the most powerful habits?
Originally Answered: What are the most powerful habits? ?
Being brave. The willingness to do uncomfortable things for future good is priceless.
Uplifting self-talk. Your thoughts should build you up instead of tearing you down.
Questioning things. You aren’t a sheep. Don’t do something just because everybody is doing it.
Encouraging others. There is enough negativity in the world, why create more?
Integrity. Never pretend to be someone for social approval.
Build strengths. Develop a skill you are naturally good at.
Being curious. You should be on the look-out for learning new things because you can never know enough.
Being proactive. Problems are inevitable, focus on the solutions.
Saying No. If it’s heavy let it go. Find a way to do what you want.

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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 8mo

What are some examples of life skills? How do they help us in our day-to-day lives?

Don’t expect unconditional love from your partner . There’s nothing like unconditional love when it comes to humans . She loves a man for the image he created in her mind of himself ,

Keep it in mind : Reality is sexist & it doesn’t care if it offends you . A good sense of humour is almost essential for living a happy life ,

Speak with conviction . Your words have immense power . When you do that , people instantly show more respect towards you ,

You’re happy when things go well , sad when they go wrong . Our mind is entirely dependent on the circumstances & outcomes of our actions . That’s not the way to live . Your mood should be stable & independent ,

You need to have a routine which suits your life & creates desired results finally . You can always make changes to the routine according to the goal . Make sure it’s actionable & doable ,

Master your tolerance to uncertainty. Most suffering emanates from our natural longing to know what the future holds ,

Rise to the occasion. To live as a man means to face one challenge after another . Every step you take is a battle against not only your enemies but also against your weaknesses ,

How to charm someone? Always appear slightly more enthusiastic than the person you’re talking to ,

When you’re a positive thinker , negative people will always be offended by your attitude . Keep growing ,

Speak facts not feelings . Success in your life depends on your communication skills ,

Just Chill.!!

Nobody knows what the future holds. Live in the present and try to make the most out of it.

Me:*lost for words*. Not knowing what to say.

There is a saying in Tamil that goes “Varavu Ettana Selavu Pathana” which translates to “If income is eight, expenditure is ten”. You will always end up spending more.

If a sight of chicken briyani excites you more than a regular coursed meal. Then go for the chicken briyani. We live a short life. Why end up spending on things that we dont like just because it is “less costly”.

Yes! Saving up is an integral part of your career. But at what cost. At the cost of sacrificing your present happiness, hoping that the future you would be doing good?

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Hafiz Suboor

Researcher and Consultant of Psychology Feb 4

How do I build mental strength?

Mental strength refers to the ability to effectively manage one's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in the face of challenges, stress, and adversity.

Building mental strength requires developing a set of psychological skills that enable you to effectively manage your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Here are some key strategies to help you build mental strength:

Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment and aware of your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Regular mindfulness meditation can help you develop greater awareness of your thoughts and feelings, and increase your ability to regulate your emotions.

Challenge negative thoughts: Negative thoughts and self-doubt can undermine your mental strength. When you notice negative thoughts, ask yourself if they are based in fact or if they are simply self-defeating beliefs. Practice reframing these thoughts in a more positive light.

Cultivate resilience: Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks, challenges, and failures. To build resilience, focus on developing a growth mindset, learning from failures, and seeking support from others when needed.

Develop coping skills: Coping skills are the strategies you use to manage stress, anxiety, and other negative emotions. This may include exercise, meditation, deep breathing, or spending time with loved ones.

Set and pursue meaningful goals: Setting and pursuing goals can give you a sense of purpose and direction, as well as help you build mental strength. When setting goals, make sure they are meaningful to you and align with your values.

Build strong relationships: Strong relationships with friends, family, and loved ones provide a support system and help you to feel connected and valued. Prioritize building and maintaining positive relationships in your life.

Take care of your physical health: Your physical health and well-being are closely linked to your mental health. Make sure to eat a healthy diet, get enough sleep, and engage in regular exercise.

Building mental strength is a lifelong process, but with consistent effort and dedication, you can develop the psychological skills needed to effectively manage your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

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Rafael Eliassen

How do you develop mental toughness?

Don’t make a decision based on what other people’s disapproval — do what you want anyway.

Be open to making a lot of mistakes— accept that failure is the path to success.

Cultivate your mental health — books, therapy, courses, meditation.

Take bold action in the direction of your intuition — ask her out, buy the ticket, quit that job.

Accept the tough situations — life is full of pain, you can’t escape it.

You can always grow from the pain; see tough experiences as a learning experience — change your stories.

Be willing to walk away — be okay with rejection and willing to walk away from that person, job, etc.

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Rafael Eliassen

I work with people all over the world on developing themselves to be their best.3y

What are some exercises which build character?

Living by your principles makes decision making easier and your character more steadfast.

In order to build your character, you must be open to new ways. Be humble.

We are all products of our thoughts and habits. Fill your mind with good thoughts.

Be responsible for yourself. Be accountable. Let others push you to the high character.

Being of high character takes the ability to do what is right over what is easy. Practice self-discipline.

Engage in tough conversations with empathy and action, don’t put them off.

Stop getting provoked by people. Be nice to everyone even when people tempt otherwise.

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Robert

Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Mar 27

Why are some very smart people so quiet?

1. Introverted Tendencies: Very smart people are often quite quiet because they are introverted. They tend to think before they speak and focus more on inner thoughts rather than engaging with external stimuli. They may feel overwhelmed in social settings and prefer the company of their own thoughts and ideas to the hustle and bustle of an outside environment.

2. Self-Doubt: Many very intelligent individuals struggle with self-doubt, feeling as though their thoughts or opinions are not valid. This can cause them to be quieter, as they may be hesitant to share what they’re thinking out of fear of judgement or not being accepted.

3. Uncertainty: It can be hard to speak up when you’re uncertain of the outcome. Very smart people often like to do their research before they form an opinion on a subject. This can mean they are less likely to be spontaneous with their ideas in a group setting as they might prefer to have all the facts in hand first.

4. Focusing on Deep Ideas: A person’s intelligence is not always the only factor influencing their quietness. Sometimes a very intelligent person may have ideas they find too deep and thought-provoking to put into words, or they might be busy searching for the answers to questions that require contemplation.

5. Passion for Observing: Some very intelligent people enjoy watching and observing, rather than engaging in conversations. They take in information, quietly evaluating it and drawing conclusions based on what they learn. This can explain why some smart people prefer to stay quiet and pay attention instead of jumping in and contributing.

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Milos Dakic

Internal communication researcher. Co-founder of @blogin_coUpdated Jun 10

What is the best way to share knowledge within an organization?

There are several effective ways to share knowledge within an organization, including:

Internal Company Blog: An internal company blog can be an excellent tool for knowledge sharing within an organization. It allows employees to share their ideas, expertise, and experiences with others in the company. This can help to foster collaboration and innovation, as well as create a sense of community within the organization. Blogin is the most popular internal blogging platform for organizations of all sizes.

Knowledge Management Systems: Knowledge management systems can be used to capture and store knowledge within an organization. These systems can include wikis, databases, and other tools that allow employees to easily access and share information.

Internal Training Programs: Internal training programs can help employees to develop new skills and knowledge, which they can then share with others in the organization. This can include both formal training programs and informal mentoring and coaching.

Collaboration Tools: Collaboration tools such as Slack, Microsoft Teams, and other similar platforms can help employees to work together more effectively and share knowledge more easily. These tools can facilitate real-time communication and collaboration, making it easier for employees to share information and work together on projects.

Regular Meetings and Workshops: Regular meetings and workshops can be an effective way to share knowledge within an organization. These can be used to share updates, discuss new ideas and projects, and provide training and development opportunities.

Overall, the key to successful knowledge sharing within an organization is to create a culture that values collaboration, sharing, and learning. By providing employees with the tools and resources they need to share knowledge and work together effectively, organizations can foster a culture of innovation and continuous improvement.

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Nick Daniels

Jun 5

8 Habits that will solve 99% of your problems:

Goal Setting: Set clear and achievable goals to provide direction and purpose in solving problems effectively.

Critical Thinking: Develop the habit of analyzing situations objectively, considering different perspectives, and making informed decisions.

Effective Communication: Enhance your communication skills, both verbal and written, to express yourself clearly and resolve conflicts with others.

Time Management: Prioritize tasks, manage your time efficiently, and avoid procrastination to stay organized and tackle problems promptly.

Continuous Learning: Cultivate a growth mindset and commit to lifelong learning. Acquire new knowledge and skills that can help you approach and solve various problems.

Resilience and Adaptability: Develop the ability to adapt to change, bounce back from setbacks, and find alternative solutions when faced with obstacles.

Problem-Solving Strategies: Learn and apply problem-solving techniques such as brainstorming, root cause analysis, and decision-making frameworks to approach and solve problems systematically.

Self-Reflection and Self-Care: Take time to reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Practice self-care to maintain mental and emotional well-being, which will enable you to approach problems with a clear and focused mind.

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Kevin Pinili

Self-improvement reader5y

What did you learn too late in life?

If you don’t try, you will never know.

If you don’t ask, you will never get an answer.

Nobody truly cares about you, so you can do whatever you want(as long as it’s not illegal).

Time moves fast, don’t waste your time too much or you will regret it in the future.

A hard worker usually beats a talented person(unless the talented person also works hard).

Working hard is not enough, also work smart and work consistently.

The hardest things to get in life are usually the most worth it.

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Anubhav Jain

Written 3 books on Life, living and motivation.Updated Feb 2

How do I become more mature and have life experience and wisdom?

Observe people's behavior, and don't react much, even if someone is pushing their opinion on you, realise their personality for future conversations and self-improvement.

Interact with more people as a learning process, and listen more than you speak. If you are an introverted person, respect all the compulsory interactions as a learning process.

Motivation from people above you in the hierarchy is important but what's more important is failure stories, thoughts, and feelings of people below you in any hierarchy, their learnings, and don’ts of life. Many times I have learned big lessons from elderly beggars on the street.

Every failure is a goldmine, it looks like a pile of dirt and dust but if you look deep inside and introspect, you will get precious learning for life. For this, firstly, you need to respect and accept failures wholeheartedly.

Playing safe in life doesn't give you maturity, experimenting, trying, failing, and changing are the source of experience. Explore new dimensions, aim at learning, improving, and trying.

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Antti Vanhanen

Helping people fall in love with the inevitable7mo

How do I overcome my one bad habit?

All habits are there for a reason.

That is to say, they serve a purpose.

Whether it’s smoking weed, playing video games, or incessantly picking your left nostril, your habit has a purpose.

Now, if you simply judge a habit as “bad”, you prevent yourself from exploring and understanding it.

“Bad” is a conclusion which ends your mind’s investigation.

As soon as the “bad” conclusion is reached, your mind wants to move onto the solution.

How do we fix this? How do we get rid of it? Who do we ask? Where do we start?

Before you know it, you’re buying even more books about habits on Amazon and signing up for the 17th course to boost your discipline and will power.

I don’t need to tell you how this story ends, because you’ve been through it enough times - we ALL have.

Every one of us reading this answer knows first hand how difficult it is to break a habit.

So instead of rewatching that movie for the nth time, let us investigate the habit instead and see if we can’t discover something new and useful about it.

The first thing to realize is that habits don’t just randomly fall out from the sky.

All habits are there for a reason.

Each of them serves a purpose for you.

Until you can see what that purpose is - what your habit is protecting you from - you are not going to get very far.

The second thing to realize is that our habits are just automatic patterns that fire off subconsciously, so it’s hard for us to even be aware of what kicks the habit off each time.

A useful place to begin this investigation is to ask:

“What would I feel or experience if I stopped doing this particular habit?”

One feeling that almost always comes up is frustration. “I’d feel frustrated if I didn’t get to do X”.

Good. But what else?

As you begin to investigate this, you begin to discover the machinations of your habit.

Here are some examples of what you may find:

Your phone serves as a way to protect you from feelings of boredom and emptiness.

Porn is a way of covering up a lack of connection.

Drugs are a way of hiding from disturbing and restless thoughts and feelings.

Working late into each night serves to protect you from having to face your lack of self worth.

In almost every case, a habit is there to protect you from feeling uncomfortable emotions. They are distraction mechanisms intended to take your mind off of something painful so that you will suffer less.

As you begin to see this, you start to become aware of what is really going on.

The tradeoffs involved in each habit start to become apparent and can finally be objectively examined.

As you do so, you are likely to find that you are often paying way too high a price for what you are getting in return for your habit.

In other words, the things you’re putting yourself through with all its consequences isn’t worth the benefit of avoiding uncomfortable feelings.

Worst of all, once you begin avoiding a feeling, you’re going to have to keep avoiding it forever. It’s a job that never ends.

When you really see this deeply for yourself, doing the habit stops looking like a good idea.

Instead, you begin to open up to the emotional discomfort it was trying to protect you from.

Sure, you’ll now have to face feeling bored, insecure, worthless, or lacking meaning - but those feelings are temporary.

Their sole reason for existing is so that you can feel them.

So rather than escaping life itself through some reflexive pattern, you begin to open up to life once again.

And once you do, you’ll realize that THAT is actually the good stuff, the stuff that makes life worth living.

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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 3y

What can completely change our life to another level?

You don’t need other people to validate you, you’re already valuable,

Be low key, be private, be humble,

The longer you can delay short term gratification, the bigger the reward in the long term,

The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude,

Limit your negativity, maximise your gratitude. Make today count.

Believe deep down in your heart that you’re destined to do great things,

Life is a lot like sports. If you don’t play, you’re going to spend a lot of time watching others score,

If you let go of all your baggage & wake up in the morning with a clean slate, every amazing possibility would be free to enter your life,

If you’ve no long term vision or purpose or goals you’ll chase random things that come by. It’s important to sit & think deeply about where you want to be in the next 1, 5,10yrs & let your vision guide your choices,

Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it,

No one in this world is rich enough to buy his own past. Enjoy each moment before it gets beyond reach,

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer grows you,

Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude, & all that extra stress is gone,

Even a correct decision is wrong when it’s too late………Life is a game of timing. Respect time & time will respect you,

Being strong means recognising the things you can’t change, realising the things you can, & having the wisdom to tell the difference between the two,

Don’t let bad days make you think that you’ve a bad life,

Spend some time loving your life . Be strong & smile at life even though it hurts sometimes,

Sometimes we’ve to stop being scared & just go for it,

You’ll never please all people all the time. So, never try,

Throw away what you’ve been cluttering,

Don’t sit on the couch & wait for things to happen, make things happen,

You need people in your life that are further along than you, people that have bigger vision, people that are more experienced, people that are out of your league. You need to be exposed to new levels so that you can go to new levels!

Just Chill.!!

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Rafael Eliassen

Updated 3y

How do I become the best in the world at what I do?

Do it every day. — put at least 2–3 hours in practicing your craft.

Be willing to make mistakes — fail and fail again, it’s part of the process.

Learn from people who are at the top — books, courses, coaches, etc.

Surround yourself with people who are a bit above your level — the challenge will make you better.

Celebrate small wins. Made a bit of progress? See it as proof you are getting better — no time for negative self-talk.

Be patient — remember to master anything it takes at least 10,000 hours of practice.

Remember most people can master a skill up to 95% — but the percents after that are what makes the great, great.

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Sweta Tanwar

Jun 2

05 Things you should stop doing in life for your self-respect

Stop begging for love or attention - I live by the principle “If they wanted to they would”. Don't form excuses for their behaviors, they show you who they are accept it and leave.

Stop going to places where you aren't invited or valued - doesn't matter how much you enjoy with them don't hang out if your presence isn't appreciated.

Stop trying to change others - that's the worst thing you can do to yourself. I will change him or her. No. You are not their mommy, invest in yourself for your goal. They are wrong, but they might be right for someone else. Find who is right for you.

Stop giving explanations - to ones who don't matter to you or will not matter in the coming years. Stop. Let them have whatever opinions they want to have about you, don't entertain them. Not worth it.

Stop putting others before you - as long as they aren't your parents or siblings. No one cares about that charity behavior when there is competition. First, save yourself then help others. This won't make you selfish at all. Show charity and a selfless attitude where it is needed. Leaving opportunities for others, umm I won't suggest. You got that opportunity because you deserve it, go and make the best out of it. And don't forget to wish good for others. Stay humble and grounded.

Hope this helps.

Keep smiling :)

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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 3y

What can completely change our life to another level?

You don’t need other people to validate you, you’re already valuable,

Be low key, be private, be humble,

The longer you can delay short term gratification, the bigger the reward in the long term,

The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude,

Limit your negativity, maximise your gratitude. Make today count.

Believe deep down in your heart that you’re destined to do great things,

Life is a lot like sports. If you don’t play, you’re going to spend a lot of time watching others score,

If you let go of all your baggage & wake up in the morning with a clean slate, every amazing possibility would be free to enter your life,

Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it,

No one in this world is rich enough to buy his own past. Enjoy each moment before it gets beyond reach,

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer grows you,

Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude, & all that extra stress is gone,

Even a correct decision is wrong when it’s too late………Life is a game of timing. Respect time & time will respect you,

Being strong means recognising the things you can’t change, realising the things you can, & having the wisdom to tell the difference between the two,

Don’t let bad days make you think that you’ve a bad life,

Spend some time loving your life . Be strong & smile at life even though it hurts sometimes,

Sometimes we’ve to stop being scared & just go for it,

You’ll never please all people all the time. So, never try,

Throw away what you’ve been cluttering,

Don’t sit on the couch & wait for things to happen, make things happen,

Just Chill.!!

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Rafael Eliassen

Updated 3y

How do I become the best in the world at what I do?

Do it every day. — put at least 2–3 hours in practicing your craft.

Be willing to make mistakes — fail and fail again, it’s part of the process.

Learn from people who are at the top — books, courses, coaches, etc.

Surround yourself with people who are a bit above your level — the challenge will make you better.

Celebrate small wins. Made a bit of progress? See it as proof you are getting better — no time for negative self-talk.

Be patient — remember to master anything it takes at least 10,000 hours of practice.

Remember most people can master a skill up to 95% — but the percents after that are what makes the great, great.

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Sweta Tanwar

Jun 2

05 Things you should stop doing in life for your self-respect

Stop begging for love or attention - I live by the principle “If they wanted to they would”. Don't form excuses for their behaviors, they show you who they are accept it and leave.

Stop going to places where you aren't invited or valued - doesn't matter how much you enjoy with them don't hang out if your presence isn't appreciated.

Hope this helps.

Keep smiling :)

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Suresh Palani Achary

Lives in Bengaluru, Karnataka, India (1993–present)Updated 3y

What are some of the lessons one should definitely learn at their 25s?

I realized a lot of things as I turned 25. I am a male so few of what I have mentioned below is specific to masculine community.

Do not touch your woman if your sexual desire is driven by those titillating, prurient content you see or have seen on the internet.

From the buxom female bodies to the time a man lasts on bed, everything on a porn website is exaggerated. You tend to expect more than what is pragmatic when you get your first chance. Touch your woman only when you are sure you don’t want anything like in those movies but an internal bond with tenderness and love.

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Commitment is what is needed to prosper a relationship that lasts forever.

It does not matter if you are in a happy relationship but every time you see a beautiful, attractive and voluptuous woman, your mind wanders. It is a reflex, at least for most of the men. One has to understand that the thirst of those feelings can never be quenched. If you acknowledge those feelings and ditch the woman you are with for the one who is more beautiful and voluptuous, you are going to do the same to her once you find a better one. Think through and let not those feelings to consume you.

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Do not hesitate to appear like an a**hole in the eyes of others.

Tell them “No” if you don't want to go out with them. Tell them “No” if you don't like to gossip. Tell them “No” if you don't want to do what they have asked for. Being you takes you a long way than being a person who wants the approval of others. In the process of being you, you might lose a lot of people. That's fine. They probably aren't meant to stay in your life anyway.

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Build a strong, professional network.

More than your technical prowess and managerial abilities, a strong network can help you climb the corporate ladder faster or get a job of your preference or even help you build your own company. A healthy, well maintained network can open opportunities that you would not have imagined as a possibility with out those connections.

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You must have mastered a skill that is valuable or you must be on the verge of mastering one.

Most of us, at the age of 25 are bewildered when it comes to choosing the right career or a skill. Hence, it is likely that they just go with the flow, or continue to do whatever they are doing even if it is something they would not want to. If you are in a dilemma in choosing the right career or skill, it is decisive that you do it now.

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You gotta exercise and start watching what goes in to your mouth in the form of food.

As we near 25, our physical activity takes a steep fall. Few make conscious effort to keep their physical activity high or at least what is necessary. But there are a multitude of people who are stuck with sedentary and rotational shift jobs which makes spending time for physical activity a herculean task. And it is not just the time, their lackadaisical attitude can also be an hindrance. Keep a count on what you eat and try to move your anchored body.

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More reading? Draw the path.

What are you reading? Draw the path.

Who are your friends? Draw the path.

More partying? Draw the path.

You get the idea.

The bottom line is this:

It’s not rocket science. Our destiny is surprisingly related to our DAILY HABITS, not sparks of motivation.

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Flavian Mwasi

Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor at Life and LivingUpdated Apr 13

What are your life tips?

Don't strive to be successful or make people happy. Instead, why not strive to be a person of value to people who can afford it?

Excessive wealth destroys morals and ruins relationships. It is better to be poor and happy than to die inside while you're still living.

Your wealth does not belong to you alone or to members of your family. It belongs to the community. The community has entrusted you with it instead of the government.

Suffering and hardship shape your life more than comfort ever does. It makes you wiser and teaches you how to protect money and wealth.

If you have enemies don't be bitter but instead, rejoice, because it is the pressure from your enemies that will inspire your growth.

All the wisdom of the world is hidden in books, so if you're allergic to books you're missing some important nutrients for your brain.

School gives you some important information to expand your brain, but real invaluable experience is found in the real world.

There's more to life than material wealth. A person who is poor and satisfied is far richer than a millionaire who can't keep his family together.

The sun 🌞 smiles at whomever it pleases, and scorches the hell out of whomever it chooses to hurt. Don't stay on the scorching side, which means, “stop complaining".

You can be anything you want as long as your mind is right. There are people who were born dead whom today, are very much alive, and there are people who were born alive whom today are dead men walking.

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Nela Canovic

Growth mindset hacker, writer, Silicon Valley entrepreneur6y

What daily habits affect productivity the most and why?

Originally Answered: Which daily habit affects productivity the most?

Here are 3 productivity-boosting habits I’ve been practicing every day in the past year (along with explanations of their benefits and how you can start building them yourself).

#1. Starting the day with a single question to boost focus on what’s most important.

The question is: What is the one thing I am committed to completing today?

The benefits are:

It helps you focus better: When I ask the question, I immediately have to think what’s important on that particular day. It forces me to “zoom into” my priorities.

It makes the day less overwhelming: Even though I can have ten different things I want to do, I know that finishing one of them is doable and realistic.

It helps me keep that one thing top of mind: There’s no way I will forget my top priority if I start my day thinking about it. It’s always there as a reminder.

It helps me schedule my day better: I start working on my one thing early, then I work on it again in the afternoon, and keep going until I’m done. Usually, by evening it’s finished and I can do other stuff.

The best way to start building this habit:

First, write it down: take a large sheet of paper and write the question in big bold letters with a thick marker.

Next, find a place where you’re most likely to look at it: it can be on your bedroom wall (maybe next to your bed or right in front of you when you wake up) or the bathroom wall (next to the mirror).

Then, as you’re brushing your teeth or getting dressed, look at the question and ask it out loud.

Take a few moments to consider what’s on your agenda for the day, then pick one thing that has top priority for you and give an answer out loud to yourself.

#2. Making the most of the morning to do deep work.

What is deep work? It is the focused, uninterrupted, analytical thinking that requires you to be in the “flow” so that you concentrate on what’s right in front of you and nothing else. Some examples of deep work can be reading, writing, condensing complex material into outlines and notes, coding, analyzing, critical thinking, and problem solving.

The benefits of doing it in the morning are:

It helps your brain focus fully on the problem at hand. I found that mornings means I deal with fewer distractions, less inputs from the environment, and I can use the energy that I gained from a restful night.

It allows you to take full advantage of your circadian rhythm. This means I get to maximize my body’s biological clock. And like most people, I found that the early morning hours are optimal for doing work that requires a lot of my concentration.

The best way to start building this habit:

Don’t keep hitting the snooze button. If you do, you run the risk of running late and you’re forced to rush to get ready for school or work. Those hours in the morning are way too valuable to hurry through them.

Carve out time for deep work by building a morning routine. That might mean anything from preparing what you need ahead of time (f.ex., selecting clothes the night before or packing up your bag before you go to sleep) to getting up 30 minutes earlier than usual.

Maximize your brain’s peak performance time. Many scientists say that the brain’s peak performance happens 2-4 hours after we wake up. If you wake up at 7, for example, then your peak times are between 9 and 11 a.m. Don’t waste this time checking emails or your Twitter feed; instead, do the important work so you can move on to other things later in the day.

#3. Cutting down on multitasking.

What is multitasking? It’s working on several mental tasks simultaneously with the goal of “getting more done” in less time. Sounds ideal, right? But there are major drawbacks to this habit.

What are the biggest disadvantages of multitasking?

It won’t help your brain function optimally, which directly affects your productivity. The Harvard Business Review has an excellent article on this, focusing on one activity most of us perform daily: checking email. Every time we check email or get distracted (for example, when the phone rings or someone interrupts us while we’re in the middle of finishing a big assignment), it can take us up to 20 minutes to get our focus back. I noticed that whenever I see incoming emails as I work, I feel obliged to check them, which means I have to pause what I’m doing - and that’s not a good thing for productivity.

It can even negatively affect your IQ. According to a study from the University of London, checking your email as a form of multitasking can result in a loss in IQ points.

The best way to start cutting down on multitasking:

Set your phone to Airplane mode so that calls and text messages don’t interrupt your work. When I need to focus, I also put my phone away so I can’t see it.

Set expectations with other people by asking them to leave you alone so that you can focus on completing your important work. I tell friends and coworkers that I’ll reach out as soon as I’m finished.

Schedule in the time to check messages 2–3 times a day, which may mean emails, your social media apps, and voicemails. I typically check mine around lunchtime, later in the afternoon, and evening.

Avoid browsing the Internet or reading the news early, and leave these activities for later after you've completed what you need to do. Alternatively, you can catch up on the latest news by listening to a news podcast on your daily commute; I find that this option works best for me without cutting into my prime productive time.

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Sean Lana

Studied History & German (language) at University of HamburgUpdated 3y

What are some double edged truths of life?

It does not matter how hard, you work for a particular organization, you can only manage to live a normal life. Your chances of becoming a millionaire is very low and you also have less freedom.

Don’t wait until retirement before you travel the world. Truth is that you might not get to see a lot when you grow old.

You do not need to blame anybody in life because we all at least made CHOICES. Hence, think twice before you make your own choice.

Acquiring a lot of skills is very important in life, It might be foreign languages, photography etc…

Thoughts of malice, envy, disappointment, despondency, rob the body of its health and grace.

No project is completed until its objectives have been achieved.

As long as you are not independent, people opinion will still matter a lot in your life.

Many people keep saying love is unconditional, but with my experience in life. Love is very conditional. So bargain wisely.

The only reason why we all cannot make every important decision that will lead us to success is that of fear of failure. ‘’There is one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve, the fear of failure.’’

When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better, too.

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Habib F

Political Animal, Physician, Goofball, and All Around Nerd.Updated 8mo

How did you become successful?

I was born lucky. My father was a dentist. I assumed that I, too, would get a doctorate of some sort. That was my baseline.

I was even more lucky, in that I got to move to the US. My parents’ plan wasn’t a great one. It was a huge gamble and extremely poorly planned. I would never in a million years move to a country where I was barely fluent in the language and without a license to practice my trade. It wasn't pretty, and my country was sliding into a civil war, but I was in the US. This was the dream of everyone I had grown up with, and I was going to make the most of it, because…

I was now very poor. There was nothing romantic or fun about it. My parents hadn’t saved or invested enough. Their possessions were meager. They didn’t know anything about how to succeed in America. If I was going to be successful, it was going to be on me.

So I learned to plan. 1-year plans, 2-year plans, 4-year plans, 10-year plans. None of them quite worked out, of course, but the very act of planning and attempting created a forward momentum. If I couldn’t get into a university, I could nonetheless enroll at a community college. If I couldn’t become an engineer because I feared for my immigration status, I had nonetheless left a record of academic excellence that made me an attractive prospect for nursing school. If I hadn’t finished my med school pre-requisites by the end of 2008, I was most of the way there. All I had to do was keep moving in the same direction and eventually, I would reach the end of the next milestone. There was nothing really creative about it. But I was armed with hope, grit, and best of all luck.

When I was suicidal, at age 19 and age 25, I had people who referred me to counseling services. That helped me keep my despair into perspective. All I needed was hope that my situation would eventually improve. And so I did not kill myself. That, too, was essential to my success.

After that, it was just a matter of staying the course and not screwing it up.

What makes people charming?

Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects. ~Marianne Williamson

Here are 10 things that make people charming.

Inspire confidence: They always encourage people and try to make people feel good about themselves.

Storytellers: They tell great stories. It’s a skill you can learn too.

Empathetic: They can sense how other people are feeling without trying to micromanage body language or tone of voice.

Eye-contacts: They never avoid eye-contact and tend to look at people in the eye when talking to them.

Aware Listener: They listen like their life depends on what you are saying. They make people feel important.

Looks approachable: They look easy to talk to because they are.

Humble: They avoid bragging too much because they are grateful and have a good character.

Humor: They aren’t afraid to throw a couple of jokes in the conversation.

Optimists: They always look at the bright side of things rather than focusing on why everything sucks.

Give compliments: Again they make people feel good about themselves because they feel good about themselves.

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Priyanshu Gupta

10 Things we should never do in life

Never be indecisive. If you don't make choices for yourself, someone else will make it for you.

Never try to explain someone why you are worth their time. If someone is meant to be in your life, they’ll stay no matter what the circumstances are.

Never compare yourself to others online or in real life. Define yourself on your own terms.

Never live a sedentary life. Get up, exercise, walk, cook, play, hike. Do something.

Never spend time with people who don't inspire you to be better. If you're the smartest in your group, you need to change your circle.

Never ruminate or obsess over how someone treated you badly or did you wrong.

Never be a person who always makes excuses for why they didn't do this or that. Always take responsibility for your actions.

Don’t take everything in life personally. People's words are more about them than about you.

Don’t hang on to your past grievances. Holding onto hate only hurts yourself.

Don’t take yourself too seriously. Embrace humor and enjoy a lighthearted approach to life.

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Rafael Eliassen

30-Million+ people have listened to my motivational speechesUpdated 3y

What makes a person classy?

Avoid trends. Pick timeless clothes based on what you like. Your clothing should enhance your personality, not falsify it.

Be nice to people. Being a douche was never sexy. Respect the janitor the same way you would a CEO.

Don’t be a victim. Instead of blaming people or circumstances for your failure, introspect and accept responsibility.

Don’t be the guy that wears jeans to a formal event. Follow the dress code or don’t go.

Check your look before you leave. Make sure your hair, clothes, are on point.

Avoid drama. Don’t react to people who want to taunt or disrespect you. People will see them for who they are.

Never gossip. The same people who gossip are also gossiped about. Mind your own business and get a life.

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Humans: instructions 🧠📋 ·

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Ghost Girl

Thu

How to recognize an intelligent person in a few minutes? 🧠🤔

It doesn't even take a minute.

It may seem paradoxical, but a significant difference between an intelligent person and a "normal" person is that an intelligent person fully understands that they don't know everything.

An intelligent person knows that they may be ignorant or not well-informed in certain areas and subjects.

Try asking the person a question about a topic they may not be familiar with.

A common person will say something trivial, perhaps repeat what you said about it, or provide an improvised and mediocre answer.

An intelligent person, quite simply, will say, "I don't know."

That's why, if I make a mistake, an intelligent person will tend to correct me only when they are competent in the subject or confident in what they are saying.

A common person won't.

Common people... well, they have no problem discussing topics about which they may have a great deal of confusion in their minds, without even realizing it.

In some instances, ignorance takes on the face of insolence.

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Robert

Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Updated Mar 21

What are the behaviors of a confident person?

1. Speak up when you have something to say - don't be afraid of speaking your mind.

2. Take time for yourself to relax and reflect on what you're achieving.

3. Be decisive when making decisions; trust your own judgement.

4. Make mistakes and learn from them; recognize failure as a learning opportunity.

5. Maintain good body language; stand up straight and make eye contact with others.

6. Aim high, but be realistic in your goals and expectations; set manageable milestones that are achievable and work towards those instead of worrying about perfection.

7. Think positively and look for the good in any situation, no matter how bad it may seem at the time.

8. Recognize successes, even small ones; take pride in what you have achieved!

9. Practice self-care; find balance between taking care of yourself mentally and physically in order to stay energized and motivated for success

10. Have faith in yourself; know that you can achieve great things with the right amount of confidence, effort, and dedication!

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Rafael Eliassen

What are your top 5 rules of studying?

Focused attention: An hour of focused study is better than studying four hours with multiple distractions.

Body posture: Your posture affects the way you feel. A lazy posture won’t lead to a focused mind.

Explain it: If you can’t explain what you have learned then you haven’t understood it. Try teaching it to someone.

Get a mentor: There are people who can help you learn better, be humble and ask for help.

Make points: Our brain memorizes short points easily than huge paragraphs, make your notes accordingly.

Hydrate yourself: Staying hydrated can improve mental performance and concentration.

Know your why: Why are you studying? Why do you want good marks? Know your motivations to have motivation.

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Flavian Mwasi

Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor Mar 4

What are some characteristics of successful people?

They choose life-long learning over entertainment.

They're fiercely disciplined, persistent, and consistent.

They take risks, are not afraid of trying, and certainly, are not afraid of failure.

They’re obsessed with success, and will take every step possible to get there.

They have a game plan, which they stick to throughout their lives.

They prioritize on personal development by investing in themselves, continuous learning, reading books, and attending seminars.

They prioritize investing and saving instead of spending.

They have the correct mindset, so they’re always looking for new ideas.

They become experts in a particular skill, and perfect it each day.

They kill bad old habits like procrastination, drugs, smoking, alcohol abuse, and watching porn.

They fiercely guard their health.

They change friends, and choose new friends more carefully.

They make it a priority to learn a new thing every day.

They get sound financial education, and learn about business and the economy.

They learn to respect other people, and their opinions. They learn to listen more and talk less.

They think in the long term.

They learn about patience and avoid the ‘shiny object syndrome’.

They learn how to work smart.

They’re not people pleasers, but they strive at becoming more valuable.

They believe time is money, so they avoid time wastage, politics, gossip, and empty talk.

They never miss an opportunity, and if opportunities don't exist, they create them.

They choose a team of good mentors.

They celebrate each little milestone instead of waiting for the big day.

They never complain.

They never give up.

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Rafael Eliassen

What are 8 ways to constantly improve?

Life is not complicated, our thoughts make it complicated. Remove focus from negative to positive things, life will be simpler.

It is okay to move on. Sometimes holding on is more painful than letting it go. Learn to let your past go.

Forget what everyone thinks of you. Follow your heart and do whatever it takes to be successful.

Stop complaining and start doing. Don’t just wish for it, work for it.

Be productive, not busy. Don’t just get things done, get the right things done.

Learn things, even from hard times. Look for small glimmers of hope. Remind yourself to grow stronger.

Accept the fact life is not perfect. Real-world rewards people who get good things done not perfection.

Identify what is important to you. Focus on your priorities and eliminate unnecessary stuff.

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Rafael Eliassen

Updated 4y

How do you know if someone is mature or not?

Maturity is not measured by age, it’s an attitude built by experience.

Here are 10 traits of a mature person.

Comfortable being alone: They are comfortable being on their own and don’t always need friends or people around them.

Accept differences: They accept that everyone is different and will have different opinions. They don’t need everyone to think or act as they do.

Emotional Independence: They are not dependent financially or emotionally on their parents. They tend to make their own life decisions.

Treating others right: They don’t put someone down or make fun of someone because that’s not how they get their self-esteem. They are already confident in themselves.

Taking responsibility: They don’t blame others for their failures and try to take responsibility on how to improve the situation rather than complain.

Listening more than talking: They have two ears and one mouth and they use them in that proportion.

Honesty: They don’t try to deceive or manipulate others for their gains. They lay their desires on the table and it’s okay if other people walk away.

Mature conversations: They like to talk about deep meaningful topics about life and nature with a sense of wonder and curiosity.

Never clinging: They don’t emotionally cling to people and if someone isn’t the right fit for them they aren’t afraid to let them go.

Not chasing: They don't chase money or that new car or someone,they know where true happiness is; in the present.

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Elia Juniana

Jun 23

07 Traits to become a respected person

Being truthful and transparent in your actions and words is a key trait of a respected person.

Taking responsibility for your actions and decisions, both good and bad, shows maturity and earns respect.

Consistently adhering to a set of moral and ethical principles helps build trust and respect.

Understanding and considering the feelings and perspectives of others is important for building positive relationships and earning respect.

Being modest and not seeking attention or recognition for your accomplishments can earn the respect of others.

Consistently delivering on your promises and commitments builds trust and respect.

Being receptive to new ideas and perspectives, and being willing to learn from others, can earn the respect of those around you.

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Reven Lee

M.S. in Psychology & Consulting, The Ohio State University (Graduated 2017)Updated 1y

What is the biggest life lesson you have ever learned?

1. Most people won’t support you until they see it’s popular to support you.

2. When making any major life decision, remember:

If it’s not a “Fxck Yes”, then it’s a “No.”

3. You are not supposed to be the same person you were a year, month, day, or even five seconds ago. You are designed to grow.

4.The most powerful way to win an argument is by asking questions. It can make people see the flaws in their logic.

5. Just because you don’t share it on social media, doesn’t mean you’re not up to big things. 6. Live it and stay low key. Privacy is everything.

7. One man's 'nah you require too much' is another man's 'that's all you need?' Don't settle. You can find better ones.