Wednesday, May 17, 2023

Whiskey Words & a Shovel II by R. h. Sin (Notes)

 Whiskey Words & a Shovel II by R. h. Sin (Notes)



our absence taught me

how to live without you

time away taught me

to find peace

in being alone

human flaw.



we hide behind the human 

condition

of making mistakes

using imperfection as an excuse

to hurt those who love us

expecting things to go back

to how they once were

after apologizing



reminders.

you kill your future

by mourning the past



stop leaving the door 

open

for someone

who no longer

deserves a key



it was in that moment that I’d do

anything to watch you crawl in 

pain

it was in that moment that I’d do

anything to make you feel the 

way I did

but then I realized that the best

revenge would be to become 

more of everything you failed to

appreciate, everything you’d 

one day search for after the 

world had its way with you

and when you returned

I’d be gone

enjoying myself, happy and 

peaceful with someone stronger 

than you were



life is too short to lose sleep 

over a living nightmare

I know you love him but you 

have to love yourself more

see, anyone not willing to 

respect what you feel

is not worthy of any type of

emotional response



it’s hard, it’s always been 

difficult

but I just think we’re 

looking for the type of love

that doesn’t destroy us in the 

end

the type of love that helps us 

evolve and grow

it’s important to realize that this

type of love is only attainable

once self-love is achieved


◆ losing to gain.


▪ losing to gain.

we lose things to gain more and

sometimes what we lose isn’t a 

loss

in time, your heart will heal

in time, your heart will be ready

once more but only for someone 

who is ready for you


◆ love and lies.


▪ love and lies.

your detailed text messages

his one-worded response

you make yourself available

but he never finds the time

you’re always calling first

he refuses to call at all

but you’re stuck 

because you fell

he claimed to love you

but in fact he didn’t fall


◆ different, yet the same.


▪ different person

same bullshit


◆ resolutions.


▪ changing for the better

ready for something better


◆ reality.


▪ eality.

you’re unhappy

you’ve been feeling neglected

you’ve been taken for granted

and yet you still find ways and 

or create several excuses as to why 

you stay

in reality

you’ve been holding on

to nothing

so if in this moment

you decided to walk away

you’d lose them

and at the same time

you’d lose nothing

you’d gain peace

you’d lose them

yet find yourself


◆ my scars.


▪ these scars

remind me that I survived

everything meant to 

destroy me


◆ your mistakes.


▪ don’t beat yourself up

for being too good

for them

don’t be so hard on yourself

for choosing someone

incapable of appreciating

everything that you are

sometimes you have to

choose badly

in order

to be able to identify

what is good for you


◆ release.


▪ sometimes the only way

to empty yourself of a person

is to shed tears


◆ forget not.


▪ never forget the people who 

made you feel as if your best 

wasn’t good enough

never forget the way they 

mistreated you while you gave 

them what was considered your 

all


◆ soul relatable.


▪ and to the women

who wake up tired emotionally

restless during the night

unable to sleep

drained both physically and 

mentally

smiling in an effort to hold back 

the tears

you are beautiful

you are good enough

you are strong 

you are survivors


◆ 3:33 p.m.


▪ they only treat you

how they feel

about themselves


◆ often off, my emotional switch.


▪ I’ve always given myself in 

small doses and sometimes 

nothing at all

careful not to share the best 

parts of myself with someone 

who could turn out to be the 

wrong person

protective in terms of my heart 

and soul

understanding that most of the 

people I meet will fall short of 

my expectations

and so I’ve learned to expect 

nothing

sometimes my emotional switch 

remains off

you can’t get hurt if you feel

nothing


◆ survival.


▪ you can’t force something to be 

more than what it should 

sometimes the people we love 

can’t comprehend what we feel

and there will be times where 

you’ll have to walk away from 

the very person whom you’d do

anything for

it’s not giving up

it’s simply survival

and I hope it’s you who survives


◆ drown.


▪ overwhelmed by a sea of 

emotions

sometimes you have to drown

to learn how to swim


◆ sadly.


▪ sadly, one of the hardest 

loves to find is the love 

your heart deserves


◆ yes, you.


▪ yes, you.

you deserve to be someone’s 

only choice


◆ emotional CPR.


▪ emotional CPR.

we try our hardest to force life 

into things that must die and 

that’s what hurts the most


◆ in search of heaven.


▪ love doesn’t feel pure anymore

it’s become all about what we 

can do for each other in terms of

physical pleasure and often 

defined by material


▪ searching for a love that 

resembles heaven

yet somehow we end up in hell


◆ forgiveness.


▪ I’m still trying to forgive myself

for all the things I failed to 

become

I’m still trying to make peace

with all the broken pieces of my 

past


◆ self-blame.


▪ maybe we should write more 

articles that help encourage self-

love instead of self-blame

maybe that’s the cure

maybe self-love leads to 

choosing a man capable 

of reciprocating everything

she’s willing to share


◆ harsh reality.


▪ it’s the harsh reality of falling in

love with the surface

and unexpectedly having to face 

the truth in who most people 

really are


◆ good vibes only.


▪ good vibes only.

give silence to negativity

understand that those who wish

to harm you in any way

and or disrupt your peace

don’t deserve the energy

it takes to respond

to their actions

you’re valuable 

stop engaging with those

who can’t afford you


◆ strength.


▪ strength.

truth is

you’re not okay

but you will be

you’ll hold on

but you’ll let go

it’ll be difficult

but you’ll do it

you’re feeling weak

but be strong


◆ one hell of a woman.


▪ one hell of a woman.

she couldn’t be tamed, 

rebellious lover

refusing to settle for less than 

she deserved

there’s this fire that burns within

her

the type which could never be 

put out as she used it to light her

own path

she, unchained and free, willing 

to push the envelope and rip it 

open if she had to

strong in every sense of the 

word

valuable even when others fail 

to notice

one hell of a woman to fall for

one hell of a woman indeed


◆ sent, text message.


▪ sent, text message.

you either be consistent

or become nonexistent


◆ painful truth.


▪ painful truth.

I’ve come to realize

that those who smile the most

usually shed the most tears

in secret

and those who laugh the 

hardest

are usually the ones who cry the

loudest


◆ 2013.


▪ a life spent 

with someone who constantly

hurts you 

is like death

from womb to tomb

some people spend most

of their lives

either surviving heartache

or dying from the weight 

of emotional distress


◆ the rules.


▪ the rules.

respect her mind

feed her soul

protect her peace

guard her heart


◆ over and gone.


▪ I no longer seek closure

no more bitterness

and my heart is no 

longer cold

for I have found the 

love

you were incapable of 

providing

and I have found 

warmth

in the arms of someone 

better


◆ interlude for the survivor.


▪ interlude for the survivor.

the pain means you’re alive

the scars mean

you’ve always survived


◆ misinterpreted love.


▪ Maybe I thought that those three 

words would extend the 

moments that we’ve 

already experienced with each 

other. You uttered them to me 

with ease without a speech, 

simply straight to the point, 

making it easier to comprehend. 

Now as I sit here with just a 

memory of how it was, I 

realize that those three words 

meant nothing to you but 

everything to me.


◆ love of self.


▪ love of self.

you belong to you

sometimes your soul mate

is yourself

and everything 

you’ve been searching for

can be found

deep within your own soul


◆ a time of love.


▪ a time of love.

thank you for seeing

the stars within my soul

when all I saw was pain

scars and darkness


◆ too much.


▪ too much.

too tired to sleep

too hurt to start over

too depressed to say a word

I’ve been there

it gets better

just give it time


◆ an outdated love.


▪ you’re in love with

an outdated version of how 

things were

you’re attached to an idea

that no longer exists

this is what happens

when those we usually avoid

pretend to be everything

we’ve always wanted


◆ too late.


▪ too late.

no one misses you until you 

walk away

no one appreciates you until 

you’re gone

no one understands this until 

you’ve given up on waiting for 

things to get better

no one listens until silence is the

only thing left


◆ encouragement IV.


▪ a woman’s value is not 

validated by her ability to attract 

and or keep a man


◆ loveless.


▪ loveless.

loveless relationships

cause people to love less

that’s the problem

with being hurt

you avoid love

altogether out of fear

of more hurt


◆ heavy heart.


▪ heavy heart.

every day

a war zone

you’re constantly fighting

for your own sanity

in search of peace

smiling instead of crying

laughing instead of breaking 

down

you deserve a break

this night is yours

tonight your heavy heart

deserves the light


◆ moving on.


▪ moving on.

I walked away

I moved on

not out of hatred for you

but for love of self

the more you respect yourself

the less likely you are

to hold on to someone

who fails to appreciate you 

people deciding to not show up

is the reason

I decide to go missing


◆ fraudulent emotions.


▪ sadly, we’ve become a 

generation

content with being in love

with a love that isn’t real


◆ hell here.


▪ hell on earth will always be 

trying to maintain a relationship 

with someone who is too weak 

to remain loyal to the idea of a 

forever with you


◆ women like you.


▪ I think women with a wall up

are at times

the ones who love the hardest

and it’s women like that

I find the most attractive

flaws and all

there’s still magic in her eyes

cracked, sometimes shattered

but there’s still value

within her heart


◆ awake.


▪ awake.

but sometimes

nightmares occur

while we’re awake

and sometimes those nightmares

come in the form

of those we love


◆ loyal.


▪ loyal.

I’m too loyal

to myself

to entertain anyone

who can’t remain loyal to me


◆ the lesson.


▪ the lesson.

not everyone you love

will stay

not everyone you trust

will be loyal

some people only exist

as examples of what to avoid


◆ her interlude.


▪ why we stay.

that’s the problem

instead of using our strength

to let go

we’d rather hold on

to what was

ignore what it’s become

while destroying

what it should’ve been

we want so badly to be loved

by those filled with hatred

we continuously search for 

peace

where only chaos lives


◆ self-care.


▪ betrayal makes the heart fragile

handle yourself with care


◆ the emptiness.


▪ the emptiness. 

you just get so damn empty

sharing yourself for the sake of 

keeping them interested

giving them your all and yet 

they act as if it’s nothing


▪ this is for all the thank-yous

you deserve but rarely get

this is for all the moments

when you grow tired of the 

bullshit

this is for the drama

that looks for you

this is for anything, anyone,

or anybody who plans on 

stressing you

may they continue to fail

or fall beneath you

where they belong

there is strength

beneath your surface

there is love in your heart

and there is patience

in your soul

you are and will forever remain

stronger than the things

or those who come against you


◆ no chance.


▪ ask yourself

why you miss me

and you’ll understand

why I’ll never let you back in


◆ weaknesses.


▪ their inability to remain faithful 

to your loyalty

is a reflection of their own 

emotional handicap

and has nothing to do with you

stop blaming yourself for their 

weaknesses

and start preserving your energy 

for someone who is strong 

enough to reciprocate the love 

within your heart


◆ we.


▪ we.

we run out of second chances

we get tired of excuses

we get tired of being taken for granted

we get tired of arguing 

we get tired of making an effort

we get tired of losing sleep

we get tired of entertaining the 

bull

even good people with big 

hearts

who love hard have their limits


◆ the wrong lover.


▪ constantly, we find ourselves 

torn

between holding on to the 

possibilities of change

and realizing that what we 

hoped for was just a dream sold 

by yet another soul too cold to 

make good on empty promises 

and a love that never actually

existed


◆ decisions.


▪ you can’t help who you love

but you do decide

who has the potential

to be loved by you


◆ avoidance.


▪ you are rare

I mean

there’s something 

inside you

that can’t be found elsewhere

avoid anyone who treats you

like you’re ordinary

avoid anyone incapable

of seeing what

you’ve always seen

in yourself


◆ warrior heart.


▪ she has the mind-set

of royalty

and the heart

of a warrior

she is everything

all at once and too much

for anyone who

doesn’t deserve her

she is you

she’s always been you


◆ deserving.


▪ she wasn’t being needy

she was simply in 

search

of everything she 

deserved


◆ choosing yourself.


▪ choosing yourself.

walking away

doesn’t mean you stop caring

for those you’ve distanced

yourself from

sometimes you come to the 

realization

that it’s time to take care

of you and sometimes 

that means leaving

behind people

who stopped giving a damn

about you


◆ the woman.


▪ the woman.

I’ve been searching for you

the woman with a past

deserving of a better future

the woman who knows

how it feels to have her

heart broken

left alone to piece

herself back together

the woman with the type of love

that most men fail to 

comprehend

the woman who knows

the true meaning of loneliness

betrayal and deceit

that woman deserves to be loved

and I’d like to be the one

to reciprocate what she’s

been brave enough to share

you are not your past

and I’d like to be a part

of your future


◆ that fear.


▪ that fear.

the fear of not being good 

enough makes you try harder 

for those

who aren’t good enough for 

you


◆ be patient.


▪ be patient.

if you’re brave enough to let it 

die

you’ll find new life

in something beautiful

with someone

willing to treat you better

and the patience 

you’ve invested

into the wrong people

is just enough

to preserve your heart

for the one who deserves it


◆ magic.


▪ magic.

one day someone will look at 

you with magic in their eyes 

because that’s what you are


◆ emotional reaction.


▪ emotional reaction. 

more and more I’m learning

that I have complete control

over my reaction to the actions

of others

and I refuse to allow myself

to provide an emotional reaction

to those who are not worthy

of my energy

I refuse to be broken

by those who have always

been too weak to stand beside me

I refuse to be torn down

by those who sit below me


◆ now.


▪ now.

it’s time to take the love he 

could never appreciate and give 

it to yourself

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