All Things Far: July 2023

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Dark Psychology Facts ·

Answered by

Hafiz Suboor

May 18

What common mistakes do people make when choosing a life partner?

When you choose a life partner, you're choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you'll hear about 18,000 times.

So, choose your partner wisely. I cannot certainly say what mistakes people do make when choosing a life partner but I can mention some mistakes to avoid when choosing a life partner.

Here they are:

Do not marry out of pity: Many people today are in a marital relationship not because they love their partner, but because they want to compensate their partner or for other reasons. Either they want to recover from trauma of past relationship or they want to compensate for some loss and sacrifice their life for that.

Do not marry someone because of money, or beauty: This is because when these things fail, love will die.

Do not choose a partner with the hopes that he/she will change in marriage: Marriage does not change anyone, it is only an added responsibility which can make you better or worse.

Avoid choosing a partner based on people's opinion: Choosing a partner because someone told you to marry the person is very risky.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA1y

What is the main lesson you have learned in life?

1. So many years of education yet nobody taught us how to love ourselves.

2. The relationship you have with yourself affects all the others.

3. When a version of you ends, so will the connections attached to it.

4. People will be jealous of your light but not the darkness you went through to get there.

5. Don’t let your bad days trick you into thinking you have a bad life.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

19h

07 Rules hard to practice but valuable

Be aware of your limitations. Know when to stop, before it ruins you. Know when to quit.

Don’t be open to everybody. Not everyone is that deserving.

Don’t be too quick to criticize or appreciate someone.

Never get too attached to anyone. Maintain a certain sense of distance no matter how close you and someone is.

Never speak less. Never speak more.

Never trust anyone except the family. Respect and listen to your parents because they are the only real well-wishers of you.

You don’t require validation from others to confirm what you believe in, when you know you are right.

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Vaishnavi Dixit

Content Developer, Freelancer, Journalist Updated Jun 23

What is the best time to fall in love with someone?

1. When you are mentally stable and free from other life tensions.

2. When you recognize that you are experiencing something unique, unlike anything you have felt before.

3. When you are mature enough to handle the ups and downs of a relationship and navigate its possible ending or continuation.

4. When you are confident that your parents will support and appreciate your choice of partner.

5. When being with that person makes you feel whole and complete.

6. When you have learned to love and value yourself, which allows you to love that person more deeply.

7. When you have a clear understanding of what love truly means and entails.

8. When you realize that upvoting is free for the answer you are currently reading.

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Daniel Bourke

read a bunch of books on life and tried them.Updated 5y

What things actually made your life easier?

Stopping trying to make things easier. Use discomfort as a compass. See number 2.

Doing really hard things. I ran 50km in April.[1] Now walking to the bus is easier.

Letting go trying to control things. Your organs run without a single thought being devoted to them. Rather than overthinking everything, pretend it’s like your heartbeat and let it happen.

Cutting out negative crap. Negative food, negative people, negative news sources (all of the news). All cut.

Talking to myself. I write 750 words per day no questions asked. Even if I don’t want to. Most of it is talking to myself. I’m now my own best friend.

Less decisions. Ever been to an ice cream shop and struggled to make a choice? That used to be me. Now the first flavour that comes into my mind is getting devoured. I also threw out my closet and bought 3 plain shirts. No one ever says anything.

Sleeping more. No alarms. Earlier bedtimes. More naps. It’s a superpower. My awake time is 40x better when I’ve slept well.

Loving myself. Another superpower. We’re too hard on ourselves. Now I remind myself each day I love myself. Bad day? Look in the mirror. Into your own eyes. Tell that pretty face how much you love you.

Creating. Creation is setting the ideas in your mind free. Trade a portion of your consumption time for creating and you’ll start to see the world differently. Everything is inspiration.

Realising no one really cares. Go for a drive. Go for a walk. You see the old lady carrying her groceries? She lives a life as beautiful and as complicated as yours. Do you think she cares what you’re going to do tomorrow? Go and do your thing. No one will care as much as you. So you better make it damn good. Impress yourself for the sake of it.

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Human mind readers ·

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William

Jan 8

6 LESSONS for MENTAL STRENGTH:

1. Sometimes it's necessary to let go of the past in order to create a new life. Don't hesitate to move on from things that are no longer serving you.

2. It's important to know when to leave a job, party, or relationship that is not fulfilling or healthy for you.

3. Trying to fit in can lead to unhappiness. Be true to yourself and surround yourself with people who appreciate your authentic self.

4. Don't expect honesty from people who are dishonest with themselves. Focus on improving the parts of yourself that resonate with your insecurities.

5. It's not your responsibility to fix insecure people. Focus on improving yourself.

6. You have the power to change your own life at any moment. Take control and make positive changes.

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Better Life_1 ·

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Sneha

Wed

5 habits of attractive woman

They know their worth.

No matter what you do, you cannot keep everyone happy. People will always find one way or the other two define you.

2. They allow themselves time to do nothing!

Healthy, attractive people understand their body's need for freedom and flexibility, and they make room for this by scheduling down time.

3. Having grace in any situation.

Having grace in any situation is a learned skill but one that is highly attractive.

4. They listen and actually care.

They care to listen to the opinion of others, without putting them on the spot or judging them for their actions and thoughts.

5. They show up… for themselves.

Finally, attractive vibrant women understand that being their best requires being a friend to themselves first.

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Dark Psychology Facts ·

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Hafiz Suboor

Jul 13

What are the top ten craziest facts you know in psychology?

Whenever someone is angry and confrontational, stand next to them instead of in front of them. You won't appear as so much of a threat, and they eventually calm down.

Open with "I need your help." People don't like the guilt of not helping someone out. When asking for a favor from someone, begin your request by saying "I need your help." It greatly increases your chances of getting that favor done.

Rephrase what the other person says and repeat it back to them. This makes them think you're listening and really interested in what they're saying. It makes them feel validated. Obviously, you don't want to overdo this.

If you want someone to agree with you, nod while you talk.This gets the other person to nod too, and they begin to subconsciously think they agree with you.

If someone doesn't like you, ask to borrow a pencil. It is a small enough favor that they won't say no, and it gets them to like you more. Check out the Benjamin Franklin effect for more explanation.

Fold your arms to determine interest. If someone is observing you, they will likely mimic you. Fold your arms, and see if they do it, too.

Repeat a person's name many times during a conversation. It helps you remember it, and makes them like you more.

If you ask someone to do you a small favor, cognitive dissonance will make them believe that because they did that favor, they therefore must like you. Benjamin Franklin effect

If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer just wait. If you stay silent and keep eye contact they will usually continue talking.

Chew gum when you're approaching a situation that would make you nervous like public speaking or bungee jumping. Apparently if we are 'eating' something in our brains trip and it reasons 'I would not be eating if I were danger. So I'm not in danger'.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

Apr 29

9 SECRETS TO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE

Love yourself first, always.

Give and expect nothing back.

Focus on the present moment.

Be kind, even when it's hard.

Embrace change, fear less.

Learn from failures, move forward.

Prioritize relationships, not things.

Stay curious, keep learning.

Keep a positive mindset, always.

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Daryl Wong

Studied at Singapore Management University (Graduated 2022)18h

What are some psychological facts about attracting people?

Humans usually agree on who is and isn’t attractive, regardless of race, ethnicity, and culture. Researchers have noticed that attraction is not merely in the eye of the beholder, but that there are universal standards of attractiveness.

People may look more attractive when someone is drunk because the drunk person is less likely to notice the asymmetry of a face.

Aristotle was one of the first people who realized and recorded the importance of human attraction; he noted that “personal beauty is a greater recommendation than any letter of reference.”

Physically attractive people tend to have better-paying jobs in higher-level positions than their less attractive counterparts. This preference is usually referred to as “beauty bias.”

During intimate times such as kissing or making love, the body releases a chemical called Oxytocin, which is also known as the love drug. The chemical helps people feel close to each other.

Studies have shown that the color red is the most attractive color for both men and women. The color red is often unconsciously associated higher status. Since people often want to choose a higher-status mate, a person wearing the color red can artificially give the impression of superior status, and thus appear more attractive to potential mates.

Women often speak in higher-pitched tones when speaking with a person they find to be attractive.

In heterosexual couples, studies have shown that men often prefer younger-looking women, while women often prefer older looking men. Scientist suggests that the reasoning due to men perceiving younger women as being more fertile, while women view older men as being more responsible and more capable of providing care for them and their potential offspring.

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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 1y

How do I rise above the ordinary in life?

Life is about relationships , not just romantic ones but one of alliances ,

Accept people as they’re but place people where they belong . Gracefully refusing to let people try to treat you like shit is the pinnacle of having self respect ,

Always dress sharp gentlemen . Don’t ignore how you look . A good number of men are stupid enough to believe “ Real men don’t care how they look” ,

Every man starts with “ love is everything” then he grows towards love having very little value in his life . Either you understand this right now or you’ll in near future,

Use more time with family & living life off social media ,

Are you dabbling at success or committed to success?? A man who’s afraid of stepping into chaos & take risks will seldom move ahead in life. Risk doesn’t mean failure . Risk also means more chances of success ,

Fear , apprehension, anxiety are emotional. We’re human so the anxiety & fear come back & when you learn how to deal you know what to do . Not getting stagnated by your feelings is the key,

Adaptability is your greatest asset . The ability to change, you can make the impossible, possible ,

Want to increase your focus ? Yes , that’s guaranteed way to boost your productivity. Sometimes the most productive thing we can do is take a day off to realign with our goals,

Throughout the ups & downs of your career , never forget where you’ve come from . Be humble & graceful to everyone ,

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

Jun 12

How do you just worry about yourself?

Set healthy boundaries to prevent unnecessary stress and anxiety.

Start loving your flaws, your awkwardness, your weakness, and your vulnerability.

Focus on what makes you happy.

Focus on what makes your soul at peace.

Stop worrying about others understanding you.

Decide what is important to you and make it clear to others.

Eat well, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep.

Stop worrying about something you cannot control.

Focus only on what you have the power to change or influence.

Live in the present moment and be aware of your thoughts and feelings.

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Robert

Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Sat

What are the bitter truths about smart people?

1. Smart people often struggle with isolation. They possess minds that work differently from others, which can make them feel disconnected and misunderstood.

2. Their intelligence can breed self-doubt. Smart individuals constantly question themselves, overanalyze situations, and sometimes fall victim to imposter syndrome.

3. They find it difficult to accept failure. With high expectations, smart people are more likely to fear failure and beat themselves up when they don't meet their own sky-high standards.

4. Their minds never seem to switch off. Smart individuals tend to overthink even the simplest of matters, leading to restlessness and insomnia.

5. Smart people often lack social skills. While they excel intellectually, they may struggle in social settings due to their intense focus on knowledge and limited experience with interpersonal interactions.

6. They can become easily frustrated with ignorance. Smart individuals are quick to spot logical fallacies or incorrect information, which can lead to impatience and frustration in discussions with less intellectually inclined individuals.

7. They have difficulty relating to the average person's perspective. Smart individuals tend to analyze situations from a logical standpoint, making it hard for them to fully understand or empathize with the emotional or irrational reasoning of others.

8. They may experience imbalances in work-life integration. Smart people can become consumed by their work, sacrificing personal relationships and their overall well-being in pursuit of intellectual endeavors.

9. Smart people can be overly critical, including of themselves. Their acute attention to detail and high standards often lead them to judge both themselves and others harshly, resulting in strained relationships.

10. They often struggle with decision-making. The ability to see multiple perspectives and potential outcomes can make smart individuals indecisive and prone to overthinking.

11. Smart people are susceptible to mental health issues. Their heightened sensitivity, constant questioning, and feeling of being an outsider can contribute to anxiety, depression, or other psychological challenges.

12. They face the burden of intellectual responsibility. Smart individuals often carry the weight of solving complex problems and finding innovative solutions, which can lead to overwhelming pressure and burnout.

13. They may lack a sense of fulfillment. Constantly seeking intellectual stimulation, smart people can find it challenging to feel content or satisfied in a world that often prioritizes superficial pursuits.

14. They struggle with being wrong. Smart individuals take pride in their intelligence, and admitting they are mistaken can be difficult, leading to defensive behavior and resistance to feedback.

15. Despite all these challenges, smart people can often feel isolated due to the scarcity of individuals who truly understand and appreciate their unique qualities, making it even harder to navigate their own complex worlds.

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HaLiMa

Lives in The United States of America (2004–present)Mar 3

What have you learnt from your experiences so far?

Some relationships are like rented houses; you can decorate them as much but at the end they are not truly yours

People are for themselves in the end

You are never stuck in one place forever unless you choose to stay there

You won't always get the praises you deserve and that shouldn't stop you from doing your best

People who want you in their lives will find a way to stay in your life

Situations that repeat in your life are for you to learn your lesson soon

If you ignore something it won’t go away

Everyone and everything has flaws because even the rose has thorns.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAUpdated 1y

What is your most powerful tip?

1. Sometimes the weight you need to lose is not on your body.

2. Life is short. Smile while you still have teeth.

3. The struggle is real, but so are the rewards.

4. No body watches you harder than the people that don’t like you. Give them a show.

5. Don’t worry about being lonely at the top. It can be lonely at the bottom too.

6. Enjoy this moment of your life before it becomes a memory you wish you hadn’t taken for granted.

7. Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence, and face your future without fear.

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Better Life_1 ·

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Sneha

Thu

5 habits people won't tell you

Single minute of procrastination can destroy a month of hard work and discipline.

Rich people don't use money to show off. Rich people use their money to make more money.

Earn money while sleeping is the ultimate flex.

Never show off keep winning in private. Not everyone wants to see you winning.

Like minded people who treat you to better is the real game changer.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAJun 19

What life lesson did your first love teach you?

Relationships are like a walk in the park. Jurassic Park.

If you have to say you're sorry every fifteen minutes, that's not love.

People are meant to be loved, not to be understood.

To avoid disappointment, take people as they are and not what they could be.

To find a prince, you gotta kiss some toads.

You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.

Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.

When it starts to feel one-sided, that’s your sign to go.

Finding your right fit partner requires discernment to be selective.

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Science Wizards ·

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Ajay Hadiya

6mo

Here are 15 signs you're mature...

1. You understand life is cool when nobody knows anything about you.

2. You embrace consistency and discipline, not motivation and self-help books.

3. You let people win arguments on purpose to conserve your mental health.

4. You've trained your mind to master your feelings and control your ego.

5. You've forgiven your parents and love them as they are.

6. You no longer entertain family members and friends who've zero ambition in life.

7. You don't force your beliefs on people. You understand not everyone thinks the same way you do.

8. You've trained your mind to stay calm when things go out of plan.

9. You never force anyone to choose you. Instead, you let people do whatever pleases them.

10. You don't allow pain to destroy you. Instead, you build strength from the pain.

11. You've realized that you are not responsible for anyone's happiness but yourself.

12. You've mastered the art of taking action without waiting for the "right time".

13. You no longer stress about other people's opinions.

14. You're smart enough to realize news, politics and cheap dopamine are the worst distraction toward your goals.

15. You've trained yourself to take nothing personally to protect your mental health.

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Sanjana Garg

B.A Economics Hons from Gargi College, University Of Delhi (Graduated 2021)1y

What are the most interesting facts about human behavior?

Some studies say, being in a romantic love affair is no different than having obsessive compulsive disorder biochemically.

If you start ignoring people you are close to, they will feel the need automatically to give you more and more attention.

Smarter people tend to underestimate themselves. Ignorant people think they are just brilliant.

Repeating your dreams and aspirations in your mind, actually pushes and enables you to make it into reality.

Higher incomes are generally associated with lesser sadness but not more happiness.

According to a study, living in a place with a lot of forest and water body visibility is strongly related with lower levels of distress.

When you look into the eyes of someone you love, your hearts sync up, according to research from scientists.

Oldest children do get an IQ and linguistic advantage because parents focus on them more.

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Better Life_1 ·

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Sneha

Jul 8

As I got older I realised

Lost money can be found lost time is lost forever.

Learning to learn, and changing yourself is a superpower.

You are not your job.

Networking is about giving.

Best teacher is your last mistake.

Good manners as important as good education.

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Dilki Dissanayake

Writer, Psychology Lover and Content Reader 1y

What are 5 psychological facts that are worth remembering?

01.

If you have trouble controling your emotions; brush your teeth with the wrong hand. It will force your brain to work differently and self-control will improve.

02.

Psychology says, before sleeping 90% of your mind begins to imagine the stuff you would like to happen.

03.

Being sarcastic on a regular basis can add up to 03 years to your life. Sarcasm is extremely healthy for the mind.

04.

People are much more likely to return a missing wallet, if a picture of a child is found inside.

05.

Your personality has its own smell. People can guess characteristics of personality just by your smell, because the body emits hormones that we can detect in sweat.

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Akshay

IAS Aspirant19h

How do I know if someone is really into me or just using me?

Consistency: Someone who is genuinely interested in you will consistently show interest and make an effort to spend time with you, communicate regularly, and maintain the relationship.

Reciprocity: A healthy relationship involves mutual give and take. If the person seems to be taking more than they are giving or only reaching out when they need something from you, it could be a sign of them using you.

Emotional Availability: Pay attention to their emotional availability. Someone who is truly into you will be open about their feelings and willing to share their thoughts and emotions with you.

Respect: A person who values you will treat you with respect and consideration. They won't dismiss your feelings or opinions and will respect your boundaries.

Future Plans: If the person talks about and includes you in their future plans, it's a positive sign of genuine interest. On the other hand, if they avoid discussions about the future or seem uninterested in long-term commitments, they might not be as invested.

Effort in Communication: A person who cares about you will make an effort to communicate regularly, listen to you attentively, and be present when you interact.

Supportive Actions: Look for signs of supportiveness and encouragement. A person who is genuinely interested in you will be there to support you in your endeavors and be your cheerleader.

Mixed Signals: Be cautious of mixed signals or inconsistent behavior. If their actions don't align with their words or if they send conflicting messages, it might be a sign that they are not fully committed.

Isolation from Others: Watch out if the person tries to isolate you from your friends and family or discourages you from spending time with others. This could be a tactic to manipulate or control you.

Financial or Material Gain: If you suspect the person is using you for financial or material gain, be wary of their intentions. A genuine relationship should not be solely based on material benefits.

Trust your instincts and observe how the person treats you over time. If you have concerns about their intentions, have open and honest conversations with them to gain clarity about their feelings and motives. Remember that healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and genuine care for one another.

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

Elia Juniana

Jun 29

How to be confident in any situation?

Focus on yourself and stop comparing.

Be specific with your interests.

Don't overthink your decision.

Believe in your abilities.

Smile more.

Dress up for better.

Prepare in advance.

Face your fears bravely.

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Anna Sharudenko

Lives in The United States of AmericaUpdated 2y

What have you learned from your life till now?

Originally Answered: What have you learned from your life till now ?

When you are young, you must invest in yourself and then convert the accumulated skills into profit later on. You, as a person, have a price tag in the market of life. You are your skills.

I may appear dumb or confused all the time in the class in comparison to others. However, persistence and sheer tenacity outweighs talent. Life is a marathon, not an 100 meter dash.

Always prioritize and understand what’s important and what’s less important. Write a 1 year plan, know what you want, break it up into smaller chunks, and religiously follow that plan until the final goal is achieved.

If you are ambitious, do not continue to passively consume material, think of the “what if I was born in XYZ/rich/pretty” scenarios, or be in a constant daydream state. Get off the chair and do something with what you have.

Do not whine about your awful life with a 5G WiFi and a $6 Starbucks coffee in your hand. Do a reality check once in a while and look at your tragic burdens from a different perspective. Life is not that bad.

Do not blame others for your awful life. You, and only you, are responsible for your life and remember that the person “that lives upon hope will die fasting.” (Benjamin Franklin) Practice self-reliance and rely only on yourself.

Stop seeking short term gratification and focus on long term goals.

Invest money today and not tomorrow because “one today is worth two tomorrows.” Also, clearly understand the difference between assets and liabilities, and that it’s better to “go to bed without dinner than to rise in debt.” (Benjamin Franklin)

Money may not buy happiness but it buys comfort and safety.

Family is important and we should never hurt the ones we love the most.

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Hafiz Suboor

Jan 3

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA1y

What's the best relationship advice you can give someone?

1. Choose the people who will say your name in a room full of opportunities.

2. Love the people who never look a schedule when you need them.

3. The last person you think of at night is the cause of your happiness or your pain.

4. Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.

5. Nobody really cares if you don’t go to the party.

6. A good morning text doesn’t only mean it. It says silently “I think of you when I wake up”.

7. How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.

8. Stop expecting everyone to have the same heart as you do.

9. You deserve someone who isn’t okay with losing you.

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Srushti Lande

Studies Bachelor of Engineering in Electrical Engineering at St. Vincent Pallotti College of Engineering And Technology (Expected 2024)Apr 9

What are some habits of a mentally strong person?

They don't give up

They know who's loyal who not

They want to get financially independent

They respect their parents

They care for their mental and physical health

They know the priorities

They are constantly evolving

They believe in actions

They are not worried about people's opinion

They believe in self love.

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Sdmsh7

Try something is to fulfill somethingMay 20

What are the common traits of highly intelligent people?

Here are 10 common Traits of highly intelligent People:

Adaptability - Highly intelligent people are often able to quickly adapt to new situations and learn from their experiences.

Curiosity - They have a strong desire to learn and explore new things.

Open-mindedness - They tend to be open to different ideas and perspectives, and are often willing to consider multiple viewpoints.

Creativity - They have a strong ability to think outside the box and come up with innovative solutions to problems.

Insightfulness - They often have a deep understanding of themselves and others, and are able to make insightful observations about the world around them.

Good memory - They tend to have a good memory and can remember details and information easily.

Analytical Thinking - They have the ability to break down complex problems into smaller parts and analyze them logically.

Sense of humor - Many highly intelligent people have a good humor and can appreciate the absurdity of life.

Observing - they usually observe a lot of things before get into action.

Introvert - this is maybe subjective but a lot of people who are introverted has higher probability of being smarter than those who are extroverted.

We have to realize that intelligence is subjective, a complex and multifaceted trait, and it is difficult to define in simple terms. But what i think about intelligent people that they are humble and have a low key profile.

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Hector Quintanilla

Founder at BeBusinessSmart.com (2019–present)Jan 4

What is the biggest lesson you learned that no one teaches?

This is the SECRET to an abundant life. Sadly very few people live by this principle.

It’s very simple:

If you want friendship: You’ve first got to give friendship.

If you want respect: You’ve first got to give respect.

If you want energy: You’ve got to give energy (exercise).

If you want love: You’ve first got to give love.

If you want happiness: You’ve first got to give happiness to those around you.

If you want money: You’ve first got to give VALUE.

The more we GIVE, the more we’ll receive.

I believe that somewhere, hidden inside this wisdom hides the secret to human happiness and abundance in life.

Today selfishness is taking over our world, and we all know its not working.

This 2023 try giving first — you’ll be amazed!

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Ananya

NerdJun 22

What are some great habits to start in the morning?

Sunlight before screen light.

Make airplane mode your best friend.

Prioritize exercise before diving into work

Streamline your tasks by grouping similar activities together

Focus on single-tasking to maximize productivity

Maintain a clean and organized workspace

Incorporate meditation into your morning routine

Identify one crucial task to tackle first and give it your undivided attention

Take a refreshing walk without the distractions of your phone

Use your break time to move around or step outside, don’t go on your phone

Adopt the "two-minute rule" and complete small tasks immediately

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Robert

Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Mar 28

Which personality traits are more important than intelligence to become successful?

1. Resourcefulness: Being able to come up with creative solutions and approaches to a variety of situations, often on short notice.

2. Ambition: Possessing a strong drive to work hard and set clear, attainable goals to progress.

3. Confidence: Being self-assured and feeling comfortable speaking up and taking risks in the pursuit of success.

4. Resilience: The ability to pick yourself back up when things don’t go according to plan and keep pushing towards success.

5. Tenacity: Continuing to pursue a goal no matter the difficulty and finding ways to remain motivated.

6. Adaptability: Changing with the times and quickly adopting new ideas, processes, and strategies.

7. Self-Discipline: Keeping up the momentum even when things become difficult and working to make steady progress.

8. Goal Orientation: Concentrating efforts and taking actions with the desired outcome in mind.

9. People Skills: Building strong relationships, showing empathy, and using effective communication to work with people at all levels.

10. Commitment: Pushing forward to achieve set goals in a consistent and dedicated manner.

11. Good Work Ethic: Being responsible and striving to continuously do a better job.

12. Motivation: Working for a cause and not for a result, making it easier to persevere in the long run.

13. Problem-Solving Skills: Being able to logically identify a solution for a given problem quickly and effectively.

14. Networking: Growing an extended network of relationships which can bring unexpected benefits.

15. Time Management: Making the best use of time and meeting deadlines consistently.

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Samuella Karche

Updated 3y

What did you learn too late in life?

Social media is scary. I have learnt to stop posting a lot at places where my friends and relatives are. Believe me, they take everything serious and also society get to know what you are up to and judge you without getting to know you. Prevent all these and be private.

Never discuss your relationship with your friends. You can trust a few but they are also human, they will by all means go behind your back. Take this advice in good faith.

Stressing on point 2, if your partner ever does something you do not like , you settle with him or her and do not discuss it with friends because at the end you will do what your heart tells you anyways and if you do not do what your friends advice you to, they will tag you as stupid.

Never ever trust your friends with money. In terms of building a company together. Expect envy and selfishness.

If you really want to climb the ladder in the corporate world,be careful what you post on social media. It is very very important. People will fish out those folly posts and use it against you.

Have fun because you are on your own. It is no one's job to make you happy, they have better things to take care of themselves.

You will reach at a level where your friends will be so busy to catch up and go out to have fun with you. Are you going to be lonely because of that? Start building your empire now.

When lending money to someone, lend an amount in case the person refuses to pay, you are still okay.

Never make plans with money you are promised of or money you will get later. You might find yourself wanting.

Always plan with what ifs,.. What if my employer fires me now? what if I get sick now? what of my lover wakes up and tells me he or she do not love me anymore? If you do this, you will stop expecting and start loving yourself better.

Never meddle in someone's relationship. I learnt this the hard way.

Why not start eating healthier now to prevent medical bills? This will help not slow your plans to get to the top.

However bad someone treats you, repay with kindness. Seriously,it will be a great deal for your health and sanity. It is them that will suffer at the end.

I stopped trying to justify my mistakes by lying. There were lots of times i was queried about my mistakes and I could not tell a white lie to save myself, whereas, at the end I always asked myself why I did not try so much to save myself after facing the consequences. But at the end, it is always better to tell the truth first hand other than to lie and being caught later. That is twice embarrassment right?. What you should learn is that, we are all humans and bound to make a mistake. You have to admit to your mistakes even if you have to face the consequences. Rather than lying and always being on the alert to maintain that lie. Do not stress yourself up honey.

I incorporate all these in my lifestyle and believe me, I feel free, I never think worst for people because I never want to be like them.

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Elia Juniana

Jul 13

07 Greatest lines based on life experience

The real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost everything.

Work hard in silence. Let your success do the talking.

Don't waste your time contending with people. They're contending because they have nothing new to offer.

Success is not a linear step by step process. It is a process that begins from the end and then goes back to start from the beginning.

Each person is unique and has their own abilities. We miss the point each time we want to copy each other.

The first step to making progress and getting anywhere, is deciding you’re no longer comfortable to stay where you are.

Never let your failures blind your dreams, for your success lies in your ability, not your failures.

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Dr. Berkowitz

Lives in Connecticut (1975–present)Jul 1

What does a very intelligent person notice?

Patterns. They take in a lot of details/data to look for patterns in the data. They then try to use that model to predict how things will work in the future, or how the system can be altered to make it more efficient, or they will try to compare the patterns to patterns they’ve seen in other areas to see if ideas/solutions can be borrowed from those systems. That sounds really vague, but I think it’s how highly efficient brains tend to operate. It’s not unlike how AI functions. Comb through tons of data points and look for patterns that emerge that can be applied elsewhere.

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Zainab Asif

Lives in New Delhi (2022–present)May 23

What is something everyone should consider doing?

Living alone. Away from parents and siblings.

Does the following to you-

Gives you a big reality check. Makes you realize how dependent you were on your Mom and Dad.

Makes you self dependent or “Atma-Nirbhar”.

Helps you get exposure of the big world around you.

Makes you smarter and clever.

Renders you skills that you probably wouldn’t have learnt otherwise.

Makes you grateful for home-cooked food and the presence and warmth of your loving family.

Last one and the most important one, It Teaches you to survive with Maggi for all 3 meals of your day.

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Aakarsh Rauniyar

Introvert teenagerUpdated 2y

What are the best habits in the night?

Brushing your teeth and practicing night skincare routine if you have one.

Wishing good night to every family member and giving them a hug before bed.

Preparing a to-do list for the next day in advance.

Setting an alarm and keeping it far away from your reach to make sure that you wake up on time in the morning.

Practicing meditation or 15 minutes yoga for relaxation.

Positive Affirmations.

Writing in your journal about your day or emotions that is troubling you.

Drinking 1 glass of water before bed.

Walking for 10–15 minutes after having a proper healthy dinner.

Reading a book as you fall asleep.

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Petey Lao

writer, gardener, painter, pulmonary-critical care MDMar 16

What power is there in ignoring someone?

There’s a lot of power in ignoring someone, provided that we have taken the time to carefully examine the situation and the people involved.

Choosing to ignore someone is not the same as blindly avoiding them. The key is to pay attention and mindfully choose to engage wirh only what is wise and kind. Unproductive and negative thoughts and acts can then be turned away or cease to deserve your attention.

Your mind is your property. You have the power to allow people in or keep them out. Your obligation to yourself is to keep your propery clean, peaceful, and beautiful.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAUpdated Jun 15

What are some useful psychology facts?

Being bilingual doesn’t just make you sound smarter, it actually makes you smarter.

Your brain doesn’t know the difference between real and fake confidence, so if you act confident, your brain will start to believe it.

Memories are more like jigsaw puzzles than exact photographs.

When you feel short on something, like money, you become fixated on it.

We’re more likely to remember things that we hear in a funny voice. That’s why cartoon characters and comedians stick in our minds.

If we didn’t receive any compensation, we might convince that a boring task was fun.

Even if it’s a fake smile, it can trick your brain into thinking you’re happy.

The average person has more partners than smart people do. The more intelligent a person is, the more selective they become.

Less information processed by the brain can cause time to seem like it's passing quickly. Boredom could be a signal from the brain to seek out something more interesting.

Procrastination can actually be beneficial. It allows your mind to wander and come up with creative solutions.

When something bad happens, people are more prone to point the finger at someone.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

Jun 18

07 Things to do in 20s to avoid regrets in 40s

Don't be afraid to express your emotions. You never know when they might not be here to listen.

Choose who you spend your time with carefully. You'll be the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

Polish your communication skills, which will affect you for a lifetime.

Build the habit of eating healthily and exercising. Your body will thank you years later.

Understand that no one has it all figured out. Don't place unnecessary stress on yourself by believing that you should have everything set in stone.

Take your work seriously, but not yourself. Your work is your contribution to society. Perform to the best of your abilities. You are a carbon-based life-form, much like everyone else.

Travel as much as you can. You'll never find it enough. If you have the opportunity to travel, seize it.

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ƎMINO

Let's talk!Jul 12

What are the characteristics of introverts that make them different?

"Introverts listen with their hearts and speak through their actions."

Introverts are often quiet, but it doesn't mean they have nothing to say.

They prefer to listen and observe in groups instead of being the center of attention.

They enjoy listening to music late at night and notice all the small differences in songs.

When introverts are in love, they give their partners extra space to be themselves.

They care deeply for their loved ones but struggle to express it openly.

Introverts are good at observing things, which shows in their poetry, paintings, and creations.

Around one-third of the world population are introverts, including those reading and writing this.

They read WhatsApp messages from notifications to keep them unseen.

Introverts keep their phones silent to avoid distractions.

In class, introverts like to sit in the corner seat for some peace.

They avoid crowded buses and trains and choose quieter routes.

Introverts prefer to work behind the scenes rather than being in the spotlight.

When guests come over, introverts may retreat to their bedrooms for some alone time.

They may ask their extroverted friends to help them ask questions in class.

Introverts imagine strategies for fighting alien invasions in their daydreams.

They daydream about having a romantic relationship with their crushes.

Introverts might be shy to ask for extra food at a restaurant.

They patiently wait near the counter in supermarkets to avoid crowds.

Changing profile pictures on social media is not common for introverts.

They often give relationship advice to their friends because they understand them well.

Sometimes, introverts can't resist peeking at others' phones out of curiosity.

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Lee Shu

HT - BloggerFeb 22

How do you know if someone is truly committed to a romantic relationship with you?

Are you wondering whether the person you're in a romantic relationship with is truly committed to you?

It can be hard to tell at times, but there are certain signs that can give you a good indication of their commitment level. In this blog, we'll explore the signs someone is truly committed to a romantic relationship with you.

They let their guard down

When someone is truly committed to a relationship, they're willing to be vulnerable with their partner. They're open and honest about their thoughts and feelings, even if it means risking rejection or judgment. If your partner is willing to let their guard down and be themselves around you, it's a good sign that they're committed to the relationship.

They want to be around you a lot

If your partner always wants to be around you, it's a sign that they enjoy your company and value the time you spend together. When someone is committed to a relationship, they prioritize their partner and make time for them. If your partner is always making plans to see you and do things together, it's a good indication that they're committed to the relationship.

They're making you a part of their life

When someone is committed to a relationship, they want to share their life with their partner. They'll introduce their partner to their friends and family and make an effort to include them in their hobbies and interests. If your partner is making an effort to bring you into their life and share their world with you, it's a sign that they're committed to the relationship.

They make an effort to get to know the people in your life

Just as your partner wants to include you in their life, they also want to get to know the important people in your life. If your partner is making an effort to get to know your friends and family, it's a sign that they're invested in your relationship and want to build strong connections with the people who are important to you.

They prioritize you

When someone is truly committed to a relationship, they prioritize their partner's needs and wants. They're willing to compromise and make sacrifices to make their partner happy. If your partner is putting your needs first and making an effort to make you happy, it's a good indication that they're committed to the relationship.

Sex becomes secondary

While physical intimacy is an important part of any romantic relationship, it's not the only thing that matters. When someone is truly committed to a relationship, they value emotional intimacy just as much as physical intimacy. If your partner is more interested in spending quality time with you and building a strong emotional connection, it's a sign that they're committed to the relationship for the long haul.

You plan for the future together

When someone is committed to a relationship, they're thinking about the future. If your partner is making plans for the future that include you, it's a good sign that they're committed to the relationship. Whether it's talking about future trips, moving in together, or even getting married, if your partner is thinking about the future with you, it's a sign that they're invested in your relationship.

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Dilki Dissanayake

Writer, Psychology Lover and Content Reader 1y

What is the biggest life lesson you have ever learned?

19 Things I learned in 19 years of life

01. Keep your life private. Not everyone deserves to know you.

02. Depression has no face. Be kind even to smiling faces.

03. Make a certain sense of distance, no matter how close you and someone is. It's good to know when to stop.

04. Having peace is important. Even if that means cutting off people.

05. People are in our life for a reason, season or lifetime. The pain comes when we put them in the wrong category.

06. Do what you love and explore new things in life. Never count it as a wastage of time.

07. Help people whenever you can and whenever they need you. We're all meant to shine differently.

08. Quality over quantity. Don't force yourself to fit in where you don't. Don't stay in a toxic circle, just because it's familiar.

09. People are who they are, and there's no any other way to look at them.

10. Don't trust anyone except the family.

11. People have lot to say about lives they've never lived.

12. Listen and trust your intuition. Know yourself and invest in yourself.

13. Not arguing with people, and walking away unbothered, shows how far you've grown. Anger won't solve anything.

14. Don't judge people. You don't know their hidden story.

15. You don't need to react to every situation.

16. Dismiss what insults your soul. You can't force people, to see your worth.

17. Appreciate people for their efforts and sacrifices for you. Never forget the hands that raised you.

18. Not everyone can see your vision. So don't waste your time convincing doubters to get on board.

19. Normalize letting people go when it's no longer healthy, because not everything is worth fighting for !

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Dasha Taran

Updated Mar 11

HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF

(1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you.

(2) Stop begging.

(3) Stop saying more than is necessary.

(4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

(5) Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.

(6) Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't reciprocate it.

(7) Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

(😎 Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

(9) Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

(10) Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

(11) Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals.

(12) Respect your time.

(13) Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away.

(14) Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you.

(15) Be scarce sometimes.

(16) Be a giver more than a receiver.

(17) Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome.

(18) Treat people exactly the way they deserve.

(19) Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.

(20) Be good at what you do. Be the best.

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Jasmin Mous

Studied Law at University of Düsseldorf1y

How can I make my brain sharper, smarter, and lightning fast?

Learn to see everything in terms of opinions and facts. You don’t need to spend hours reading if you understand what the author is trying to get across. Once you have the essence of the idea you’re good to go. This also proves well when learning. It’s always about the idea, never the way that is used to describe or to explain the idea.

Learn to condense information into a few words. Everything that can be said, can be said simply (Ludwig Wittgenstein). Meaning you take complex information and put it into key terms. Complex into simple. This way you learn to understand and understand well.

Whilst you learn, also train your language. Try to write out your thoughts every day. Get better at it, get quicker at it, get a new life skill.

Learn every day, whether that translates into life lessons or specific subject matter.

Try reading something you’re not versed in. Difficult. Do that more often.

Stay open to new ideas, places and people. Learn from them. Have your brain re-wire around these ideas, places and people.

Never ever shut down. There is no point in becoming complacent or adhering to a very closed-off belief system. Make sure you’re always learning or else you will come to regret it at some point or another.

Be on the way to find and act in accordance to truth. You can’t go wrong being truthful, you can only learn, get smarter and quicker.

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Abhishek Ambad

Growth Marketer | Digital marketing | SEOMar 3

What are some of the most awesome psychological facts?

Haters don't really hate you, in fact they hate themselves because they are a reflection of what you want.

2. Be sure to listen carefully to how one person talks to you about other people. That's how they talk to other people about you.

3. We only need two close friends we can trust. A lot of friends are associated with depression and stress.

4. People who don't socialize much are not actually anti-social, they don't tolerate drama and fake people.

Stop telling your problems to others, 5% don't care and the other 20% are happy that you have it.

6. Eating chocolate while studying helps the brain retain new information and is associated with higher test scores.

Being nice to someone you dislike doesn't mean you're fake, it usually means you're mature enough to tolerate that person.

8. It's hard to get someone out of their mind, the reason they're thinking about you too.

9. People who understand sarcasm well are often good at reading people's minds.

If your mind wanders over and over again, there's an 10% chance that you're subconsciously unhappy with your life.

The way parents talk to their children becomes the voice of their conscience.

12. Writing down your negative thoughts and throwing them in the trash can improve your mood. (I tried and it really works:)

13. Meditation can change the structure of the brain in just 8 weeks. It also increases gray matter in parts of the brain associated with learning.

Psychology says that people who write good content and don't post screenshots in their answers get fewer views and fewer upvotes.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAJan 29

What is the smallest lesson that life has taught you?

Losing two socks is less frustrating than losing one sock.

Some stranger somewhere still remembers you because you were kind to them.

Teeth are the only problem that if you ignore them, they will go away.

Just because your decision failed, doesn’t mean that the other option is right.

Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.

Heal the root, so the tree is stable.

Loneliness does not come from having no people around you.

Try a new behavior, choose a different response.

A connection is an energy exchange.

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Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach & Writer. Published on TIME & Huffington Post1y

How do I develop better logic sense?

Read - Specifically books written by people smarter or more logical than you. 1 Book a Month should be a bare minimum. This is the best way to dive deep and learn more.

Solve Logic Puzzles - Your mind, just like your body, needs regular exercise if you wish to keep it in top shape.

Play Logic or Strategy Games - Chess, Risk, Go, Catan and various other board games, or Civilization, Starcraft, or any other RTS video games can help.

Learn - Other than reading and playing, learning from people that are smarter or more logical than you via videos, podcasts or any medium can help get you closer to their line of thinking.

Exercise & Eat Healthy - Drink loads of water, eat healthy foods and do cardio regularly. Your mind needs the increased blood flow and benefits tremendously from what you eat as well.

Ask Good Questions - Stop with the small talk and start discussing interesting, challenging and stimulating conversations by asking better questions to get those conversations going.

Learn About Mathematics or Computers - Anything that requires a lot of logic, by being built on such, will help your logical thinking most.

Practice Solution-based Thinking - There are often multiple ways to solve any one problem. Try to find as many of these as possible for even the most mundane problems in your day-to-day life.

Help Others - Take yourself out of the situation and help others find a new way to solve an existing problem.

Adopt a Different Point of View - Practicing to look at a problem from a different angle allows you to have a wider perspective going into any problems.

Have Fun - It’s interesting how some of the most logical people on the planet smiled a lot and had a good time with what they pursued. The reason for this is often because when we relax we don’t get so Tunnel-visioned and expand our options. So smile, have a good time with it and enjoy the challenge of being logical.

Look for the Bigger Picture - What is this situation all about? What do the individual parties want? Why are you here? This is the best way to be more logical, or at least appear as such. For it is the end that many people loose along the way and that should be the main focus, always.

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Shivansh Mathur

Software Engineer at Myntra.com (2019–present)Feb 6

What are some psychological facts about attracting people?

People are attracted to those similar to themselves, known as the "similarity-attraction effect."

People are attracted to those with traits or qualities they lack, known as the "complementarity effect."

People are attracted to those who are confident and self-assured, known as the "confidence-attraction effect."

People are attracted to those who are optimistic, known as the "optimism-attraction effect."

People are attracted to those who possess physical characteristics that are considered attractive, such as symmetry, clear skin, and healthy hair.

People are attracted to those with social status and power, known as the "status-attraction effect."

People are attracted to those with a sense of humor, known as the "humor-attraction effect."

People are attracted to those who possess a sense of adventure and excitement, known as the "excitement-attraction effect."

People are attracted to those who are dependable and consistent in their behavior, known as the "dependability-attraction effect."

People are attracted to those who have a good sense of smell, as this is linked to good health and genetics

People are attracted to those who have a good sense of humor, as it is often associated with intelligence and creativity.

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Viren Sharma

Lives in Canada (2022–present)6mo

What are 5 ways to instantly make yourself feel more confident?

Get in your best shape possible.

Eat your favourite dish.

Change your fashion style/Looks.

Listen to the songs that are high on beats (Moosewala works like a charm for me).

Last but not least, FAKE IT. Even if you are feeling highly under confident, just fake it.

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Bharath Simha Reddy

Masters in Computer Information Systems, Saint Louis University (Expected 2024)Apr 8

What have you learned from your life till now?

Every day, read at least 20 pages. Books have the highest ROI in the world.

Set boundaries with others. People will take advantage of your kindness.

Don't take anything personally; instead, work hard to correct it and demonstrate who you are.

Have a good circle of pals. Our future is determined by who we spend the most time with.

Don't wait for the perfect moment. There is no such thing as a perfect time; we only have now.

Work hard and stay motivated by your ambitions, but not by your addictions.

Get to know new individuals. You'll go places you never thought possible thanks to networking.

Sleep for at least 7 hours per day to increase your mood and mental strength.

Make a morning routine to help you be more productive.

Exercise on a daily basis and eat healthily. You are the best possible version of yourself.

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Mindset Quote ·

Answered by

Sudha Kumari

Feb 16

How do you become strong as a person?

Becoming a strong person is a process that involves developing various personal qualities, skills, and attitudes. Here are some steps that can help you become a stronger person:

Develop a growth mindset: A growth mindset is the belief that your abilities and qualities can be developed through hard work and dedication. It means embracing challenges and learning from failures rather than giving up easily.

Cultivate self-awareness: Being aware of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can help you understand yourself better and make positive changes. Journaling, meditation, and therapy are all effective ways to increase self-awareness.

Set goals: Setting realistic and achievable goals can help you stay focused and motivated. Start with small goals and gradually work your way up to bigger ones.

Take care of your physical health: Eating well, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly can all contribute to your physical and mental well-being.

Practice self-compassion: Being kind to yourself and treating yourself with understanding and forgiveness can help you build resilience and cope with challenges.

Build a support network: Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you. They can offer valuable advice, comfort, and help you see things from a different perspective.

Learn from setbacks: No one is perfect, and setbacks and failures are inevitable. Instead of letting them defeat you, use them as opportunities to learn and grow.

Remember that becoming a strong person is a continuous process that takes time, effort, and patience. With persistence and determination, you can build the strength and resilience to overcome life's challenges.

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Sushang Agnihotri

Social rules of etiquette everyone should know1y

What are some unwritten social rules in the 21st century everyone should know?

1. When you introduce your friends to someone, don't say "this is my best friend."

This will make the listener think that you don't care about him at all, and that you don't treat him as a friend.

2. If a friend invites you over for dinner, it is better to let them choose the place and the food.

3. To laugh at what others like is to laugh at them.

Because what a person likes reflects his taste.

4. Don't expect others to understand how hard you are working and living.

Who in this world doesn't work hard and work hard?

5. Beware of people who gossip about others in front of you, as they will gossip about you in front of others as well.

6. If you like working with smart people, be prepared to be used by them too.

7. No one can resist the temptation of interests.

If so, it may just show that the temptation you offer is either not big enough, or isn't what he wants, or that there's a risk he's too afraid to take.

8. Don't judge for anyone, and the most you can do is to make suggestions; But when it comes to choosing a house, buying a car, falling in love with someone and getting married, even if it's your best friend, don't give advice.

Because these are very important things in their life. If something goes wrong because of your advice, you will not only lose the friend, but you will also hate him for the rest of your life, and he will attribute all his unhappiness to you.

9. Don't look at your phone when others are talking to you.

This is very insulting.

10. Learn to refuse unnecessary social activities.

11. Do not sympathize with anyone in public. This will embarrass him more than laughing at him in front of many people.

You may think you are showing kindness to help the person, but in reality, you are publicly insulting their self-esteem, telling everyone about their difficulties, and taking pity on them. Huh. That person will hate you instead of thanking you.

The best way is to forget his pain and treat him like everyone else.

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HaLiMa

Lives in The United States of America (2004–present)Mar 1

What you have learned from life so far?

NOBODY CARES

The choices you make will shape your life

Sometimes the people that you think are your friends are actually the ones who are harming you

Fear lasts longer than love

Give more to people-they will exploit you, give less to people-they will hate you but give them not too much or little then they will love you and fear you

Bad luck teaches you to pivot (to adapt and improve)

Behind every successful man is a woman and behind every unsuccessful man there is also some woman

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA1y

What is a good piece of random advice?

1. Love blooms in the light of trust.

2. A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.

3. Not everybody is good for your soul. Every shining object isn’t diamond.

4. Distancing yourself from people who lower your vibe is top tier self-care.

5. You don’t become perfect unless you wear your imperfections with people.

6. Radiate smile for it carves a million smiles.

7. Trust the vibes you get, energy never lie.

8. If you get that gut feeling that something isn’t right about a person or situation, trust it.

9. When someone is ignoring your messages, just text them”I heard something about you” and then ignore them too.

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Amy Marina Denes

Former Artist Masterclasses Teacher at Quantum Mechanics (2008–2023)Thu

And they dont break the fucking law

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Dreame Novel

Dreame Brand (2018–present)Mar 27

How do intelligent people recognize each other?

1. Intelligent people can empathize with how each of them is thinking. So, these quick-witted people would recognize their like-minded souls if those people have the capacities to process the informational pieces that they are giving instead of stating their points without considering the impact on other people.

2. We can also refer to “intelligent people” as “people who can follow the flows of our discussions”. The discussion topics can range from something light-hearted as the most popular K-pop songs on charts to something “heavier” like philosophy and political discussions. Intelligent people would have at least two or three things to reply to and respond to what we say.

3. The capacities in listening to other people’s POVs are also important in determining whether we’ve found fellow intelligent people. While people may not always reply to what we say (and we also have the right not to always give our answers or clarify our positions), we know we’ve encountered another intelligent person when this person is, at least, willing to listen to us.

4. Their capacities of digesting written materials are also crucial things to consider. It’s not rare for intelligent people to enjoy reading fiction and non-fiction books, then, they can tell what the books’ summaries and elements are. Furthermore, intelligent people can create other stories by speculating what the endings would be like.

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Dark Psychology Facts ·

Answered by

Hafiz Suboor

Apr 9

What are some harsh realities of life?

Nothing is permanent. You might lose what you have today, and acquire more than enough tomorrow.

Everything ends. Youth, love, life, all end, and that's what makes them valuable.

Making time for everyone will result in you not having time for yourself.

Material possessions won't make you better or happier.

Most people only help you because they don’t want you to be a burden to them.

The more you want to find happiness in the outside world, the more likely you'll fail. Happiness is not a treasure to be found, but can be built within ourselves.

Some of your friends will be scared if you chase your dreams, and they will secretly wish that you fail.

Some of your friends will stop associating with you when their life gets better.

The number of friends you have will reduce as you get older.

Never trust people too much, even your best friends can betray you.

Not everybody likes you but that doesn't mean everyone dislikes you.

You might be taken for granted if you put too much effort into your relationships.

The person you love the most might hurt you the most.

Few people can live without sex.

Passionate love never lasts, but compassionate love does.

No one, including your friends or lover, will love you the way your parents do.

People can forget the many good things you did to them, but they will never forget the one bad thing you did.

Suppressed emotions are dangerous to your health and relationships because they sometimes erupt violently.

You'll die and you have no idea when. Grasp every moment to achieve what you want in this world.

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Hector Quintanilla

Founder at BeBusinessSmart.com (2019–present)2y

Is it necessary to be intelligent to succeed in life?

The world is full of UNSUCCESSFUL people who happen to be very intelligent!

Why?

Here’s in Warren Buffett’s words:

“We don’t have to be smarter than the rest. We have to be more disciplined than the rest.”

In other words, “I don’t care if you’re a genius, without discipline you will ALWAYS lose!”

Listen, if you diligently work on your area of expertise — and never give up — you’ll eventually be considered a “genius.”

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

Elia Juniana

12h

Weird but fact!

Everyone have many faces. One face is for society, second for friends, third for family and fourth face, they don't show to anyone.

There’s always someone better than you.

Everything will destroy with time, happiness, beauty, reputation and even person.

Nothing is as easy as it looks.

Pain and suffering are inevitable.

The world richly rewards bad behavior and undervalues good behavior.

We’re not equal nor will we ever be.

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HaLiMa

To love is to dream Feb 8

What is the most difficult lesson you have learned?

I read somewhere that you should not depend on someone so much since even our own shadow leaves us in the dark

You can't understand everything immediately, sometimes you need to wait

There will be time when you won't be invited, included, or considered and that's just a way for you to look out for yourself

When things are going against you then remember the airplane takes off against the wind

The difference between being direct and blunt is the tone. You can be honest in a polite manner or in a rude way

The best way to respond to someone who does not value or understand your words is by being silent

You can be friends with someone for years to only realize that it was never friendship in the first place

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAJul 14

What should everyone know about relationships?

Newsflash: Your partner’s needs are equal to your needs.

Your right fit partner is not going to run away from you when you show your “ugly” side.

Respect is how they show up during conflict.

Distance doesn’t kill a relationship but less conversation and late replies do.

Don’t wait for someone who is busy not choosing you.

Shutting down instead of communicating is just as toxic as arguing.

Being loved is the minimum.

Make sure you are also being respected, prioritized, supported, desired, understood.

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On Demand Journalism

Master Degree in Logistics Management & Journalist (2016-present), Izmir University of Economics (Graduated 2020)Jul 18

How do smart people know when they’re talking to other smart people?

One big clue is the way they talk and use words. Smart people usually use fancy words and speak with confidence and clarity. They also ask intelligent questions and give well-thought-out answers.

Another clue is their knowledge on various topics. Smart people know a lot about different things and can discuss them in a deep and interesting way.

Lastly, smart people show curiosity and open-mindedness. They love to learn new things and are always eager to listen and understand different perspectives.

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Dilki Dissanayake

Writer, Psychology Lover and Content Reader 1y

What are some things you realize as you get older?

To avoid disappointment, take people for what they are and not what they could be.

The insults, judgements, and the negativity people attempt to throw your way are actually reflections of their own insecurities and are absolutely irrelevant to you and your life.

People are who they are, and there’s no any other way to look at them.

Mature enough to wish the best for people who no longer talk with you. Because after all their achievements or failures do nothing for you personally.

You will continue to suffer, if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. It’s a choice to let dumb things affect you.

People will disappoint you. So learn not to take everything to heart.

Be gentle to yourself. Because you don’t need one more critic picking at your insecurities.

You are allowed to do what’s best for you, even if it upsets people. You are not responsible for how people react, when you’re trying to do the best for you.

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Sneha

INTER SCHOOL in Commerce & Self-Improvement, Studying (Graduated 2023)Jul 15

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Human mind readers

Answered by

Khushboo Khan 33

Updated May 10

What are the hurting truth of life?

1:- No one cares about you unless you are beautiful , rich or popular.

2:—The amount of money you have determines the amount of " respect” you'll get from the people.

3:—Nobody wants to be friend with poor people.

4:-Tell a sweet lie , everyone loves you , tell them the bitter truth , they consider you so rude.

5:-Age doesn't guarantee intelligence. It comes through experiencing different kind of situations at different times.

6:-You need to learn how to stop telling people things they don't deserve to know. Speak a bit less.

7:-People will hug you in front and will stab you at your back . Be careful!

8:—Nothing lasts forever. Everything is temporary.

9:-We chase for money all our lives but we die empty handed.

10:-Only few of your so called friends want to see you succeed. Rest of them are there just to see you fall.

11:-People do get bullied for their race , caste , religion and it is the hardest truth of life.

12:-You can't remain young everytime , you have to grow old and that's the rule of life .

13:-People don't want to take anyones opinion ,they'll just hear what they want to.

14:-Jealousy comes in jokes. Just pay attention.

15:—Your friends are the people who will be the most jealous by your success. Friends with whom you are wasting all your important time will slowly turn into contacts and slowly will be forgotten.

Thanks for reading!

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Adam

An average dudeFri

What is your "golden rule" when it comes to relationships?

The way a person treats you is what they truly are

A person can possess admirable qualities and still exhibit toxic behavior towards you.

When one version of you ends, so do the connections tied to it.

If you provide to others, you need someone who provides to you

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If you keep your feelings suppressed, others won't be aware of them.

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Rafael Eliassen

What should I do to stick to my routine?

You never stick to your routine because — you always find a reason for doing the wrong thing.

“It’s a little cold today, I won’t make it to the gym”… “I am feeling hungry so I will eat this cake” — endless weak excuses.

If you spend the same energy on finding reasons to do it — you will have a fulfilling life.

Start your day with — “I am going to find all the reasons why it’s a must for me” and that weak excuse-making side will lose.

“I write because it will help people and somebody’s day will get better because they read this” — that’s a much better reason than “I am tired today”.

Find a higher-level reason for why you must — that will trump any of your excuses.

Every time you feel like quitting — remind yourself of your reasons on why you must.

This alone will change the trajectory of your life as it has for me.

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Study Tips and Tricks ·

Answered by

Nayana's

11mo

What are 5 habits that can improve my life?

Start reading(not novel’s , read syllabus related books)change

Start gymming (believe me once you see the results you will get addicted to it)

Stop staking girls and fantasying women

Make a list and noted down your goals.

Stop watching you-tube and uninstall Facebook, Instagram, Tinder even tv.

Don’t seek motivation, motivation is a myth.

Cutoff some unwanted people from your life.Make some genuine friends.

Never think about past and future.

Avoid junk food

Drink more water

Start having balanced diet.

Waking up early at 5am and start jogging and exercising. The greatest wealth is health, Start investing in your health.

stopped procrastinating

I stopped chasing people instead I Start chasing my goals.

Take a sheet of paper and write down top 3 things you want to have in your life.

Every morning ask yourself what are you going to do today to get closer to your dreams.

Every evening, ask yourself if you've done what you promised yourself.

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Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.Updated 10mo

What are some simple mini-habits that can change a person's outlook on life?

Take A Deep Breath. Relax your eyes and the surrounding muscles. Most of the stress we have we harbor in the area around our eyes and forehead. Just one deep breath will give you a calmer mind so you can analyze the situation anew. Relax those areas and you will apply the Embodiment Theory in your favor.

Go Outside And Gaze At Nature. Just observe the world for a while. Do not give it any meaning or think anything of it, just observe. This will relax you and give you a lot of other insights that you never had before. Try it out. Find a nice spot to sit or stand and gaze around for about an hour. You will be surprised how much you know if you just took some time.

Imagine A Future Self. What would that future self tell you about today? Most likely they would tell you to relax, to be happy and not to worry so much about whatever is stressing you out right now. Just think about what you would tell your 3rd grade self who was so worried about that one test in school. What would you tell them if you could go back now? And why do you think this is any different from your future self and you right now?

Believe What You Want To. The truth is, if you look for it, you will find evidence and facts supporting almost any theory. Even facts, as they are today, might be wrong tomorrow. Physicists are not even truly sure matter exists as we perceive it, for it is largely empty space. There are so many things in this world that you might as well chose what to believe.

Think About All The Possible Positive Outcomes. Of course negative things could happen, but, statistically speaking, if you have no idea then it is just as likely that something amazing will happen as that something horrible will happen. Because there are an infinite amount of possibilities in either direction, and with no true idea as to what may happen, both have a roughly 50% chance of occurring. So why not focus on all the amazing things that could happen instead of worrying about the negatives?

Know That Everyone Only Has 24 Hours. In the end of the day, you had 24 hours to spend how you chose, I had 24 hours to spend how I chose, and Bill Gates had 24 hours to spend how he chose. There is no difference there! That means that everyone starts with the same settings as everybody else. The only difference is what we do in that time.

Believe In Your Ability To Figure Things Out. Somehow, you will get there. You have done everything else up until this point, lived through all events and survived every disaster you encountered. So believe in that ability of yours to figure things out as you go along! No matter what happens, you are smart enough, strong enough, courageous enough, and creative enough to make it through.

There Are An Infinite Amount Of Choices Available To You. Even if it only seems like you have no choice, or can only choose one or two things, there are still a ton of other things you theoretically could do. You have the power to chose your life exactly how you want it, the only reason it is not there yet is because you are not aware of all the options you have. Look for them. They are out there!

You Are Not Like Anyone Else. Let others believe what they want, and let others not believe what they want. That does not concern you. Even if they only encountered that something does not work, it doesn’t mean it can’t work for you. It used to be considered physically impossible to run a 4-minute-mile…. yet… someone did it.

Be Thankful. Whenever you feel down or upset, just start thanking life for everything you have. Thank life for the roads someone took the trouble of building so you could walk here today. Thank life for that person that made sure the roof over your head was secure. Thank life for the people walking this street that love someone and make the lives of other people better. Thank life for the garbage man so that you do not have to take your garbage miles away. Thank life for the sun that enables life… etc.

Know That The Hardest People To Love Are The Ones That Need It The Most. Socrates was right when he said this. Whenever someone is negative or lashes out at you, it is only because something else is going so wrong in their life that they go into a defensive, life-preserving state. It has nothing to do with you other than that you are the scapegoat for their emotions. All their anger is not meant for you.

Accept What Happened. Then Ask Yourself What You Can Do About It. The worst thing you can do is deny what is happening. Acknowledge your life for what it is and see what you can do about the problems. So you feel like crap. Okay… What will you do about it? In the end, all that will change things is action. Accept your emotions the way they are, and, if you do not like them, do something about them.

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

Elia Juniana

Jun 18

08 Hard lessons everyone should learn in their life

You will be replaced no matter who you are.

No matter how well you show it, the people around you will believe whatever they want.

You may not be your best friend's best friend.

Every human being will give more importance to the person he loves than the person who loves him.

There is no eternal happiness. Throughout your life, you will continue to strive for one happiness after another. In other words, there will never be complete satisfaction.

The smarter you are, the more people will avoid you.

Simplicity exists in rich people as well as poor people and you don't have to have that much money to realize that money isn't everything in life.

There is always something you can do with what you have, but your huge ego doesn't allow you to start from scratch. We are more capable than we think.

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Mindset Quote ·

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Sudha Kumari

Feb 7

What are some uncommon ways to work smarter instead of harder?

Delegation: delegate tasks to others to free up time and focus on higher-value activities.

Automation: use tools and software to automate repetitive tasks.

Time blocking: plan and allocate specific time slots for specific activities to increase focus and productivity.

Prioritization: focus on the most important tasks and prioritize them over less important ones.

Taking breaks: taking breaks helps to recharge and improves overall productivity.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA1y

What have you learned about living?

Thanks for A2A. Here’re 7 lines I want to share:

The key is to remember you have a key.

Your words can’t fix what your actions broke.

Loyalty is rare. If you find it, keep it.

Never get so comfortable in pain that you forget happiness is still an option.

When it’s over leave don’t continue watering a dead flower.

Your taste in people will change when you learn to love yourself.

Love in its purest form is equality.

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Alex Ferman

Passionate Writer, CA (2013 - present)10mo

What are some uncommon ways to work smarter instead of harder?

1. Eat the frog, tackle your most important tasks first.

We use 9am-10am as “Crush” time.

During this time, we get our most challenging tasks out of the way and don’t disturb one another with questions. Whichever activity you are dreading the most is probably the one you need to complete first thing in the morning.

2. Plan tomorrow tonight

Create a short list of simple to-dos at night can help you hit the ground running in the morning, establishing a productive momentum that will carry you through the rest of the day.

3. List your “crucial results” for the day.

Create a spreadsheet listing your top 3 crucial for each day. This will help you plan each day and make sure you’re maintaining focus on the most important tasks each day.

4. Change your self-talk.

A simple shift in perspective can do wonders for your motivations and energy levels. Instead of saying “I have too much to do today!”, say “These are the two things I need to focus on today. ”

5. Use idle time to knock out admin tasks

Waiting in line at the grocery store, at the bank, in the elevator, etc. Bring a book you’ve been meaning to read, clear a few emails, or catch up on status updates. Or simply let your mind wander and observe the world around you.

6. Learn to say no

Learn to say no more often to guard your time for your highest leverage activities.

A saying “no” tip: When someone comes to you with a request that you need to say no to, simply ask them to give you 15 minutes to finish what you’re working on then by the time you come around to find out what they wanted, they’ll often have figured it out on their own.

7. Start the day with structured ’me time’:

Go through email and social media updates that have piled up overnight and triage the backlog. Knock out quick responses and referrals, so other people can start working on tasks. Schedule the bigger tasks. And delete the stuff that is informational or not important.

8. Use checklists for repetitive tasks to reduce errors:

Particularly when you are overworked or are operating under time constraints, checklists keep you on track.

9. Eliminate personal distractions:

Personal distractions could also kill your productivity at work. When you let personal distractions interfere with your work, you would easily lose focus and waste time doing nothing.

10. Stand more:

Are you feeling a little sleepy around 3pm? Stand up!

Is your posture starting to wane? Stand up!

It’s simple, but it’s effective.

～Bonus tip: Find the real, motivating reason for completing the task.

If you experience a slump in your usual productivity, a lack of motivation might be the culprit. Motivation is the fuel for productivity in the face of apathy, and generating it is as simple as tying the task at hand back to a bigger, more important goal.

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Juveria Siddiqui

StudentUpdated 1y

What would be your advice for teens?

It took your mom 9 months to form your heart, don't let anybody break it in a few seconds.

Fall in love, meet new people, connect with the old ones, but make sure that YOU and your goals are always your first priority.

Most of you have a healthy working body, so for hell's sake, stop being lethargic all the time. Move around, stay active.

Try being friends with people who make you feel good about yourself. And if you don't happen to find such friends, stay alone.

It's okay to make mistakes. Just make sure you forgive yourself before making a new start.

Depending too much on technology for every little thing is frightfully perilous. Try using your brain more often.

Always have a greater purpose in life, which is something different from your career plans. It should be something selfless, through which you can contribute to the society .

Don't measure your progress using somone else's ruler. We all grow at different rates.

Express how you feel. Be it your troubles, your joys or anything, talk about it to someone you know, who won't judge you. If not, you can always write your heart out.

Stay healthy. Stay kind. Stay real. You'll never be this young again :)

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GuroGrok

Master of Education in History & Science, University of California, Los Angeles (Graduated 1995)Fri

What are the characteristics of a person who gets along well with everyone?

Graciousness. He gives people the benefit of the doubt and always a chance to redeem themselves.

Good listening skills which always tend to affirm others that their thoughts and opinions matter.

Patience, as interpersonal problems can test people in difficult, often emotional ways.

Likability. They have a winning personality, often playful, and always open hearted and open minded.

High Interpersonal intelligence, with the ability to see things from the viewpoint of others and the empathy to feel with them.

Down to earth spirit. Lack of arrogance as this is the sort of thing that drives people away.

Strong self esteem. They know who they are and they know of their capabilities. They have confidence enough that the opinions of others never dominate their thinking.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

May 3

8 Things you should never stop doing no matter how old you're

Never stop learning. When one stops learning, one dies.

Never stop having faith in yourself. A strong faith can carry you to anywhere you want.

Never stop dreaming. A person without imagination can hardly find the joy of life.

Never stop saying "I love you". It's never too much. Tell your loved ones you love them every day.

Never stop exploring. The world is so big that we should never stay in our comfort zone.

Never stop complimenting yourself. If you don't appreciate yourself, who would?

Never stop doing good deeds. Though you may not get returns, you'll be satisfied and fulfilled when you look back.

Never stop believing. Sometimes there's no evidence but you have to believe.

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Sudha Kumari

Freelancer & Blogger Feb 2

What can I do to become smarter?

To become smarter, you can try the following:

Read books and articles on a variety of topics to broaden your knowledge and perspective.

Exercise your brain regularly by trying new activities, solving puzzles, and playing games that challenge your problem-solving skills.

Learn a new skill or subject that interests you, such as a foreign language, music, or coding.

Cultivate good habits such as staying organized, managing your time effectively, and getting enough sleep.

Stay curious and ask questions. Don't be afraid to seek out answers and continue to learn.

Surround yourself with smart and knowledgeable people and engage in meaningful conversations with them.

Practice mindfulness and meditation to help improve focus and cognitive function.

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HaLiMa

Lives in The United States of America (2004–present)Feb 19

What are some important and generalizable life lessons?

Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever you are addicted to whether it's a person, or drugs or food, or something-you are using it as a way to cover up your pain (and to be able to suck it up). And when you try to overcome your addiction it is even more difficult.

Just because someone lives in a luxurious house or drives a Mercedes does not mean they have a perfect life or don't have the right to complain. They are still normal human beings with problems that they can't explain or talk about.

Don't leave anything for tomorrow since you don't know if there is one. It’s now or NEVER.

You don't always get what you want

Time heals almost everything just be patient.

Sometimes you have to close a door because it leads you nowhere

Life can change any second so live your best life.

When you trust a person there are only two outcomes: a friend for life or a lesson for life.

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Hector Quintanilla

Founder at BeBusinessSmart.com (2019–present)3y

What are the signs that show you are not going to succeed in life?

1. To win in the New Economy, I must focus on STRATEGY — most people just focus on hard work.

2. To win in the New Economy, I must focus on PRODUCING — most people are focused on consuming.

3. To win in the New Economy, I must invest in KNOWLEDGE — most people just invest in degrees.

4. To win in the New Economy, I must focus on improving my SOFT skills — most people are obsessed with improving their technical skills.

5. To win in the New Economy, I must STAND OUT — most people are just worried about how to fit in.

6. To win in the New Economy, I must invest my TIME — most people continue to sell their time.

7. To win in the New Economy, I must focus on INVESTING my money — most people just think about how to spend their money.

8. To win in the New Economy, I must invest my free time READING — most people will spend their free time consuming social media.

9. To win in the New Economy, I must invest in ASSETS — most people will only save cash.

10. To win in the New Economy, I must focus on HIRING talented people — most people just want to get hired.

To answer your question, what are the signs that show you’re NOT going to succeed in life?

NOT CHANGING!

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

William

Jan 21

Make sure you realize these truths before age 25! …

1. The most important relationship is the one with yourself.

2. Your time is limited, tomorrow is not even guaranteed.

So live in the present and give your all.

3. Speaking more than you listen will stunt your progress in life.

4. Nobody but you cares about your dreams.

5. Your mental health matters, be very selective with who and what you allow into your life.

6. If you chase happiness, you will never obtain it.

Happiness starts from within.

7. All it takes is one incident for your reputation to be shattered.

8. You always have a choice to say either "Yes" or "No", find power in this.

9. No real success comes overnight, do something everyday no matter how small towards your goals.

10. Investing in yourself is never selfish. It's the most worthwhile thing you can do.

11. Not all days are great. You will feel like giving up but you have to keep moving forward.

12. You cannot please everyone and you shouldn't waste your energy trying to.

13. 95% of people are not truly happy, they don't do the things they love and it reflects onto others.

14. Friends are relative to where you are in your life. Be wary of new friends on the way up, they might not be with you come hard times.

15. “Success” is a relative term and you have to define it for yourself. Whatever your definition, go for it so you don't regret not doing so later in life.

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Shovan Chowdhury

Self-regulated, life-long learner in psychologyMar 4

What are the lessons you learned after a failed relationship?

You should not force someone to love you who does not want to stay in your life.

Let them go. Being single is much better than living in a relationship where you are consistently ignored and your self-esteem is highly sabotaged.

Single life is blissful life if you know how to utilize it properly and live life with contentment.

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Amy Marina Denes

Former Artist Masterclasses Teacher at Quantum Mechanics (2008–2023)Jul 12

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Sunny Nolan

CEo (2020–present)1y

How can you identify intelligent people?

They can read people. Actually, you might feel as if they can see through you. They are very aware; they are absorbing their environment. Everyone in the room is able to feel their strong presence.

Actually, it very funny to see, most of the Ignorant people always busy proving themselves Brilliant. While intelligent people instead of showing off their intelligence – they doubt their abilities, always busy learning more and more.

If the person is really, really intelligent, they will accept faults when you point out a real fault in their talk/ writing/ decision/ action.

They don’t waste their time reacting to toxic people's comments until it’s needed.

They have a very good sense of humor.

Their communication skills are so powerful – when they speak people will listen, when they write people will read. The secret of their powerful communication is, they’re able to present their own perspective accurately (logical) rather than to argue aggressively.

Last but not the least, they like to get engaged in intellectual & meaningful conversations - like here in Quora. They will never feel alone even in the empty room when they’re with their tribe.

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Rafael Eliassen

What are the best habits one can develop to become a successful person in life?

Cutt off social media: Don’t delete everything. Delete time-sucking apps. Social media can be beneficial if used right.

Sacrifice: Be prepared to sacrifice a life of excess and material possessions in order to be successful in your career

Pen down your goals: The universe won’t pave the road for you. Write down your goals, keep yourself accountable for them.

Networking: know the value of exchanging ideas, collaboration, and teamwork – all of which are likely when you network.

Be economical: Avoid overspending, learn to negotiate. Save more money than you can spend.

Sharing: Have a habit of giving. Success is not only about accumulating tons of money. Success is becoming a better human.

Commit good things daily: Waking up early, planning your day, doing exercises, eating good, etc.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA11mo

What is the most important life lesson you’ve learned so far?

1. Laugh in the places you’ve cried. Change the narrative.

2. Stop comparing yourself to strangers on the internet.

3. In a world where everyone wears a mask, it’s a privilege to see a soul.

4. Faces are never ugly or beautiful, minds are.

5. Your energy is currency. Spend it well. Invest it wisely.

6. Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.

7. It’s okay to disconnect from everyone to connect back to yourself.

8. You can become happy just by deciding to be happy.

9. Loneliness cannot create love, it creates need. Love is not a need.

10. You need to start speaking your love language to yourself too.

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Dark Psychology Facts ·

Answered by

Hafiz Suboor

Jun 1

What is something you wish you had known sooner?

People love people who love themselves. People will respond to your energy. If you feel worthy, they will feel your worth too

You should either have a supportive partner or no partner. There's no third option.

If you choose to get married, 90% of your happiness will be dependent on that relationship. (They become your business partner, your lover, your roommate, the mother/father or your children, and your family). That relationship is crucial and important.

Just because a relationship has lasted a long time doesn't mean it's working.

You are going to feel pain anyway. Either pain from growth, or pain from regret, choose growth.

If someone can't tell you their flaws, they have a dangerous lack of self-awareness.

If you don't create a plan of execution, for your goals and dreams, you will probably never achieve them.

The best revenge is getting yourself to a place where you no longer care about revenge.

Take intelligent risks. Everything in life has risk, work, love, adventure, all of it. That's what makes life exciting and worth living.

Don't let your time and energy leak from social media, overthinking and meaningless relationships

Self-respect comes from self-control.

If you always think your happiness is somewhere else, it'll never be where you are.

No one will truly love you untill you love yourself.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAUpdated 1y

Can you write something so deep that it would make me feel something?

1. If you have a plan B, your plan A is less likely to work.

2. Even bad days have tomorrows.

3. The memory of happiness is perhaps also happiness.

4. Younger you probably wouldn’t listen to older you’s advice.

5. Some people are like ads, just skip them.

6. Dating is as much about choosing the person as being chosen. Meet that person on this platform.

7. Faking a smile is easier than explaining why you’re sad.

8. Cheating is a choice, not a mistake.

9. Sitting alone and enjoy your own company is better than being surrounded by fake people.

10. Your apology needs to be as loud as your disrespect was.

11. Loving does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.

12. Healing is about accepting, not forgetting.

13. The world produces waves, surf or drown. You decide.

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Mindset Quote ·

Answered by

Sudha Kumari

Feb 22

What triggers success?

Success can be triggered by a variety of factors, including:

Clear goals: Having specific and measurable goals that are aligned with your values and priorities can help you stay focused and motivated towards achieving success.

Persistence and hard work: Success rarely comes overnight. It often requires sustained effort and perseverance to overcome obstacles and make progress towards your goals.

Learning from failures: Failure is a natural part of the learning process. Those who are successful often view failure as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than a setback.

Adaptability: The ability to adapt to changing circumstances and environments is crucial for success. Being flexible and open to new ideas can help you stay ahead of the curve and find innovative solutions to problems.

Networking: Building relationships and connections with others can help you gain valuable insights, resources, and opportunities that can accelerate your path towards success.

Positive mindset: A positive mindset can help you maintain a resilient attitude and overcome challenges with confidence and optimism. It can also help you stay motivated and focused on your goals.

Passion and purpose: Having a strong sense of purpose and passion for what you do can help you stay committed to your goals and find meaning and fulfillment in your work.

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Vidhi Khandel

Spiritual SeekerTue

What makes a woman rare and why do men love this quality in a woman?

The quality of being dangerous. It will be difficult to put this into words but I will try.

From Cleopatra to Draupadi to Mohini, I think the most desirable women have this quality.

Her sharp eyes gazes right into your soul.

Her lips are not afraid of asking the right questions.

Her presence is so striking that you feel a strong pull towards her.

She can get you to do her bidding without being dominating.

She is free spirited but she is also grounded.

She is desired by all yet, she is elusive.

She is the strongest when most vulnerable but she is not afraid of showing her vulnerability that you feel like a king, a warrior when you are able to woo her.

I call her dangerous because her wrath is fiery and if you importune her, you will not be forgiven. She will either destroy you or she will liberate you, there is no in between.

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Rafael Eliassen

What are 10 or fewer good habits for a 24 year old that can make life better?

Have ambitions. Whether you want to change your career or excel in the existing one.

Have coping skills to deal with stress and anxiety. You are going to need them.

Read books. The more you learn the better your life can be.

Be an action taker. Knowledge without any action is useless.

Seeing a therapist for your mental health. You can start to resolve your issues.

Do you check your phone first thing in the morning? Learn to not be addicted to devices.

Learn to cook healthy meals. Take charge of what you eat.

Go on multiple dates until you find the right one.

Getting quality sleep is crucial if you don’t want to look old sooner.

Educate yourself on finances. Learn to manage your money.

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Dark Psychology Facts ·

Answered by

Hafiz Suboor

Mar 28

What are some important and generalizable life lessons?

Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

Your happiness is your business.

When in doubt, just take the next small step.

Love who you are and be confident.

Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

Invest in yourself you won't regret it

You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Your personal space is important.

Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

Everything does not need to be announced.

Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.

Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

It's OK to let your children see you cry.

Take responsibility for your actions.

Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

Silence is powerful so use it wisely.

If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

Stand and speak up for yourself.

Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

You can get through anything if you stay in today.

Learn to say ‘no’ without feeling guilty.

It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy dress. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

The most important sex organ is the brain.

No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

Forgive everyone everything.

You may have fewer friends than you think.

What other people think of you is none of your business.

Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

Your job won't take care of you when you are sick, your friends will. Stay in touch.

Invest in people who invest in you.

Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

Failure is part of life, so learn from it.

Work hard and stay humble

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Human mind readers ·

Posted by

Elia Juniana

Jun 17

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Sanjana Garg

B.A Economics Hons from Gargi College, University Of Delhi (Graduated 2021)1y

What are some psychological facts about attracting people?

Charismatic people seem attractive to most. They are the ones, who would seem pretty approachable. They are always smiling, joking, have a great aura about them.

It is said that the quickest way into a person’s heart is through eyes.

Never develop a need for someone. This proves to be unattractive. Need can be in any sense, financially, physically, mentally or in any other way.

Bragging is just not cool. Do away with it.

Fragrance is important. It has been researched people who are in love, recognize the scent of their partners and are attracted to it. Make an effort to smell nice.

Know when to put your foot down. Don’t be that person who believes-“never say never”.

Be confident but not rude.

If you are meeting someone for the first time, their brain has access to limited information and thus makes judgements based on appearance, posture, way of talking etc. If you are looking to really impress someone, work on them.

Listen more than you speak.

Do not talk about in depth problems/secrets when you meet a person for the first time. It might put them off.

P.S

All of these things are just general notions, things people have researched. I genuinely believe that nobody can predict what happens in life or what the person in front of you thinks. These are just some hygiene elements, like we practice while going for an important event.

Exceptions will always be there.

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Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.1y

What are some small changes in daily habits that could make a huge improvement?

5 Minutes More - Just add 5 more minutes to anything productive you do. Procrastinate on procrastinating.

Do Something ASAP - When anything comes in your mind do something about it immediately, even if it is just planning it. Get it out of your head.

Set Your Intentions - Know what you are going to do today. Lead the day actively.

Check Things Off - When you are done with something make a clear-cut mark to be done with it.

Start Early - Everyone works better in the morning. Do something difficult before you'd normally get up. You'll feel great all day.

Remind Yourself - 99% of all self-improvement is repetition. Multiple daily reminders ingrain concepts.

Control Your Time - If you don't control your time you'll end up wasting a lot of it. You only have 24 hours each day and maybe only this one life; Don't waste a single second.

Go Outside - Add a bit of nature (ideally a natural body of water of some sort) to your daily routine. The calm will often reset you.

Meditate - Work out your body, your mind and your heart and soul. Go inward. Learn about yourself. And improve.

Love Yourself - Spend some time each day feeling proud or happy or loving with who you are. You spend 24 hours a day with yourself. That's a long time to hate someone.

Have Fun - Do something each day that's just fun. Follow a hobby, pick up a new skill or read in your favorite book.

Drink More Water - While 2L a day is recommended, 3–4L will really make you feel healthy and refreshed.

Read A Book - 1 Chapter a day or 10 pages.

Eat More Greens - Fruits and Vegetables over candy and snacks. Try having 3–4 Fruits or Veggies in every meal.

Focus On Earning - Instead of trying save try to earn more. What could you do today that might make you and your time worth more?

Act Big - Go for 10x more of what you think you want. Take it seriously and give it an honest shot. You'll reach much further as your mental limits won't hold you back as much.

Reflect - Whatever you did, learn to reflect on it. What went well? What did not? What is one thing you will do better tomorrow?

Be A Hero - First identify who that is and then take a step there daily. It makes an astounding difference when you choose where you want to go.

Hug Someone - Release some oxytocin by being physical. If that is not possible then help someone. If you can't do that, then be charitable.

Be Present - This moment is all that matters. Take it in. You are alive now. Work with purpose, laugh with true joy or do what you need to do in the here and now.

Break A Limit - Push a boundary and test your limits. Challenge yourself to be better than you were before so you move into who you want to be.

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HaLiMa

To love is to dream 7mo

What are some things nobody tells you about life?

Important things like "I love you" or "I am sorry" or " I need help" are actually hard to say but need to be said

You are alone! You came to this world alone and will soon leave this world alone.

There are going to be times in life where you will accomplish nothing and will feel awful but eventually the feeling will vanish with time

It's ok to cry whether they are tears of joy or tears of pain. Just let it all out, the least that can happen is that your eyes will become swollen but it will feel nice at the end; with all the burden off you shoulders

You don't need to be famous to make an impact. Want to help someone? Do it, who cares if no one will know about it or no one knows you; what matters is that you know what you are doing and that the other person is benefitted. Just also remember when trying to make an impact; don't do it to show off, do it to make someone's day better and to bring a smile on someone's face

Things are things, don't get too attached to them

Someday you will miss today

You can't get rid of your fear but you can live with them and try to conquer them

No one is actually keeping track of how many times you screw up so chill out!

Fashion and trends are bullshit so don't let them fool you

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Ankita

Mar 26

What are the realities of life that people don't want to accept?

• No risk, No story!

• To all the problems of your life, you are the best possible solution.

• Strength doesn't come from what you can do. Strength comes from overcoming the things you thought you couldn't.

• If we light a lamp for someone else, it will also brighten our path.

• The right person will never leave you.

• Happiness comes when it is most unexpected.

• Reality is only what your mind chooses to believe.

• If you are not willing to learn no one can help you and if you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.

• Everything can be changed through willpower.

• Accept both compliments and criticism. It takes both sun and rain for a flower to grow.

Credit: My Teacher.

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Better Life_1 ·

Posted by

Sneha

Jul 11

Six uncomfortable lessons we all need to learn:

Your self love must be stronger than you desire to be loved.

You are always responsible for your emotional reactions.

Don't feed your problems with thoughts, starve them with action.

Your life will be defined by your ability to handle uncertainty.

If your goal is to have a healthier mind, start by removing all the junk from your diet.

Your “best life” won't seek validation, but insecurity will.

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

Elia Juniana

Jul 14

07 Things you should remember in your life

Never hesitate to accept your mistake.

Never let the debt and enemy grow big.

Never lose hope. Believe in yourself is very important for success.

Give a chance to the people behind you to come forward.

Borrow something from someone only when it is very necessary.

Praise all the people who are doing great.

Be honest with your work, partner and family.

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Aakarsh Rauniyar

Studied at Delhi Public School (Graduated 2019)Updated 2y

What are some exercises which build character?

Little things in life aren't that little. Find joys in small things and always feel grateful for everything you have.

Apologize sincerely ,greet others genuinely and ask for help respectfully.

Learn the art of body language.

Never compromise your inner core values.

See every obstacles as an opportunity to grow.

Don't become people pleaser. Instead become someone who inspires others to become more confident.

Know your strengths and weaknesses to know who you really are.

Always be punctual and disciplined.

Always treat others the way you want to be treated.

Read books and practice self help tips in your life.

Learn lessons from your past, enjoy your present and hope for tomorrow.

Try to learn something from everyone you meet, every thing you do and every event that takes place in your life.

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

Olaseni Kehinde Precious

Jul 11

11 Valuable advises life will teach you

Before you choose a career, discover your passion, else you burnout.

Don't marry based on similar interests, they change. Instead, choose similar values and pray.

Before choosing your friends, ensure they are purposeful and passionate, else they become envious and plan to hurt you.

If you want to build wealth, don't be a hustler, rather be a creator.

Make sure you get the same energy from someone you claim to be in a friendship or relationship with. Else, you end up lonely.

Never focus too much on the past, you can never reverse the time. It's a waste.

If you don't eat your food like it's medicine, you will eat your medicine like it's food.

Be careful with what you say or do in front of kids, you can influence their life with any little action.

If you don't love yourself, you can't earn the respect of people.

If you want to live a happy life never compare your journey to others.

Lions don't mingle with chickens, your success also relies on your circle.

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Asmi Jain

Hoping to write something valuable here somedayJul 9

What are some effective techniques for setting goals and staying motivated?

Constantly ask yourself, Can I afford to fail? If you can they go ahead, stay lazy but if you cannot then go hustle.

Whenever you feel the guilt of not working for your goals, count till 5 and as soon as you say 5 get up and start working.

Listen to motivational songs, speeches, watch videos of people living the life you want, it'll automatically make you work hard.

Look at your parents, don't you want them to feel proud?

Talk to yourself atleast for 10 mins in a day, care for your mental health along with caring for your goals.

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HaLiMa

Lives in The United States of America (2004–present)Mar 6

What are some of the best life tips?

Be grateful always to be happy.

Don’t make excuses.

Do not waste time but value it. Time teaches us many things and heals everything.

If something is not working out then change the direction not the destination

Never give up. Life is uncertain and unfair we all know that but it is not the reason for us to stop living or trying.

Listen to understand.

Dream but also take action (if you want to make it your reality)

Be thankful for the bad people (who gave you the worse scars) because they gave you the best lessons

Believe it to achieve it

Don’t let the bad days make you feel that you have a bad life

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Dushka Zapata

I also write about life on Instagram. (@dushkaamateur)Jul 10

What skills are worth improving in order to become successful in all directions?

Communication. The ability to clearly take in and provide information. (This includes listening; and both speaking and writing.)

Critical thinking. My ability to interpret the information I take in.

Managing my emotions. How I identify and regulate my feelings to avoid becoming overwhelmed by them.

Self-care. The practice of becoming responsible for my health and well being.

Discipline. The behavior I follow to accomplish what I set out to do. (This means abandoning the notion that motivation or inspiration play a role in getting something done.)

Adaptability. My ability to adjust in the face of change.

Resilience. How I tolerate and bounce back from difficulty.

Serendipity. The ability to encounter wonderful things I was not looking for.

Purpose. A sense of why I do what I do.

Curiosity. An inexhaustible desire to learn, know, explore, discover.

Creativity. The ability to make something new.

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Aaron Smith

Co-funder (2016–present)Mar 13

What are some psychological facts about love?

1. People who blush easily are great lovers.

2. Before someone even speaks a word, their appearance and body language account for 55% of a first impression.

3. People tend to blink more when they are talking with someone that they are interested in.

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4. 2 in 5 women suffer from anuptaphobia, the fear of never finding love.

5. People make decisions in the same way when it comes to choosing what to buy or choosing a life partner. So if you prefer to buy premium products, selective dating sites are better for you.

6. Sweaty hands can be a good sign of attraction, as it results from strong adrenaline.

7. Talking with someone for a long time increases the chances of falling in love with him/her.

8. Being alone is more toxic than tobacco. Being alone for a long time = smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

9. When we hug a person for more than 20 seconds, we start trusting that person more.

10. Spending money on your loved ones will give you more satisfaction than spending money on yourself.

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Matthew Cooper

Young Entrepreneur / BloggerJun 9

What are the most important life lessons you've learned from your experiences?

Some goodbyes set you free.

Time doesn’t prove loyalty, circumstances do.

Confident is not “they will like me”. Confidence is “I’ll be fine if they don’t.”

Nothing happens until something moves.

Starts off with hard work, ends in champagne.

You can’t solve problems with the same thinking that created them.

Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’s expect it from cheap people.

Good times become good memories and bad times become good lessons.

To change your life, you need to change your priorities.

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

Elia Juniana

Jul 13

08 Greatest causes of low self-esteem

Counting other people's blessings and overthinking about our curses.

Connecting and restricting your life with one failed point. Looks=life, money=life, confidence=life.

Taking self-centered, perfectionist, bullies, or negative people too seriously as if they are the messenger of God.

Not matching the crowd on something. If six monkeys are sitting together and five of them don't have a tail, the sixth would consider his tail as a deformity.

Completely ignoring your privileges as you ignore the long online agreements before clicking accept and agree. Is m born in hell, doesn't matter I am healthy, I am educated, I have a family.

Having no trust in self. If I haven't done something or I couldn't do something before, I can't do it ever. I have not driven a car ever, I can't learn to drive. If it's tough, I am unqualified and unable.

Two failures in a row and you decide it's not meant for you. The ant that climbed a huge wall after thirty tries is laughing in a corner.

Most importantly, there's nothing as low self-esteem, it's a self-made decision.

Edit: Try to appreciate other's work. So upvote..

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Ludwig Rose

Updated 3y

What is your best relationship advice for making a relationship last?

“Relationships always come to an end, which leaves you with a choice: Will you start a new relationship with the same person or a new one.”

I heard this from a french marriage therapist and I believe there is so much wisdom in what she said.

My parents have been married 31 years.

Though they are incredibly far from what I would call “relationship goals” as a child; perhaps they actually are now.

They have endured all that anyone could go through in a relationship:

Extreme poverty, infidelity, lies, secrets, falling out of love, fights, and they have effectively “broken up” numerous times —

yet they are still together, healthier, stronger, kinder, and more loving to each other now than they have ever been in my younger life.

Through great resentment for their violent and abusive relationship towards each other and how it has effected me —

knowing what they went through in their own childhoods — it’s hard for me to not have empathy and know in my logical mind they were doing the best they could with what they knew.

My mothers parents were together until they died, but for much of her life, they never spoke to each other. And when they did it was very nasty.

My fathers parents never stayed together, his mom got pregnant and his dad split. He never got a chance to witness what a relationship looked like let alone a healthy one.

Neither of them had an example set of what to do or even not to do. They definitely did not have the endless resources or therapy we have readily available to us now. Even with that its still incredibly hard to change.

When they met, there was no way my parents were capable of forming what anyone would call a “healthy relationship”.

They have quite frankly failed on numerous occasions, and their relationship did effectively die many times.

Yet each time that happened, they took some time to themselves, grew & then started new relationships with each other.

There are very few examples of what I know now to be love from what I witnessed in my parents.

Yet they have practiced something I very regularly struggle with, forgiveness and acceptance.

They always choose to start over with each other and honestly, I think that is the only way to make a relationship last.

You and I will be different people every 3–5 years for the rest of our lives and so will everyone we know.

So the question is, with our partners, will we choose to start new relationships with the new people our loves become, or new relationships with entirely new people?

I have said that one should always be willing to walk away from something bad. Which they both were.

Yet perhaps we can also be willing to come back to someone who is truly working to be better than who they were before on there own accord.

I guess both my parents have done that. And the reality is none of us are or will ever be perfect.

Best,

Ludwig R.

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Dark Psychology Facts ·

Answered by

Hafiz Suboor

Jun 19

What are ten truths everyone should accept in life?

It's not other people's job to love you; it's yours.

You will only ever live the life you create for yourself.

Some kind of failure always occurs before success.

Instead of asking others to understand you, you should be spending time understanding yourself

You don't have to wait for an apology to forgive.

Don't say 'maybe' if you want to say 'no'.

Some people are simply the wrong match for you.

Being busy does NOT mean being productive.

Thinking and doing are two very different things.

Time is a great healer and a great killer. You'll suffer a lot if you waste time.

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Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.Updated 9mo

What should I start doing in my twenties so I have nothing to regret at 40?

Health - Build healthy habits early on to slow the effects of aging.

Prioritize - Time goes by very fast, make sure you know what is worth spending the most time on.

Asset Building - You reap only that which you sow.

Say What’s On Your Mind - “Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.” - Bernard Baruch, Dr. Seuss

Willpower Over Emotions - Do not allow your dreams to depend on whether you feel like working in the moment.

Develop The Mindset That You Are Too Old Not To Start - Right now you can still waste time, but soon you will have to work, because not living your dream life is not an option.

Let Go Of Your Past - Nothing you have done or was done to you matters anymore, what matters is what you do today.

Be Present - Life moves very fast and if you don’t watch out you’ll miss the moments that take your breath away.

Defend Your Beliefs - It does not matter who or what goes against them, if you believe in something you fight for it, even if no one is there to see you do so.

Invest - Overall, it’s time you started to invest in your life and started to take what you do and who you are seriously. Enough idling around. Commit to who you are, invest in yourself and live.

Learn To Say ‘No’ - No is a powerful word. Use it more often, especially with yourself.

Start Investing - Money accumulates a little over time, not a lot at once.

Define Your Goals - If you do not know where you’re going you’ll miss getting there.

Learn To Love Yourself - Spend some quality time every day just with you. You have to bear your own company 24 hours a day. It’s better to take care of that relationship.

Explore - There’s a lot to the world that you have yet to see. Get out of your own comfort zone and out of your own bubble a little bit. Be brave, be bold, and try things out.

Follow Your heart, But Let Your Mind Guide The Way - Your heart is usually in the right place, but it’s your mind that is smarter about getting there.

Stay Humble - You do not know everything and never will. Be humble enough to be open-minded.

Start Your Days Strong - It’s by far the best way to set a theme for the day.

Take Responsibility - In the end you will be the only one that has to come to terms with how you lived. Remember that when listening to other people.

Develop A Great Routine - “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” - Will Durant

Learn From The Failures - They are far more abundant than the successes but can also be far more powerful if you let them.

Take Your Time - You still have a lot of years ahead of you; relax. Not everything has to work out right away.

Take Life With A Sense Of Humor - Not everything is as serious as you make it out to be.

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Matthew Cooper

Young Entrepreneur / BloggerThu

What are 10 psychological facts that are worth remembering?

We all think we are better-than-average drivers.

Funny people, and especially those who enjoy dark humor, were found to be more intelligent than their less funny peers.

If you ask someone to draw a picture of a coffee cup, chances are they will draw something that looks like this.

You feel happier when you are busy. That’s because your brain gets no time to think.

Our brain doesn’t think that long-term deadlines are so important.

Comedians and funny people are actually more depressed than others.

Dating couples tend to predict the longevity of their relationships through rose-colored glasses. Our friends know the future of our romantic relationship better than us.

If you ask someone to draw a picture of a coffee cup, chances are they will draw something that looks like this:

9. People would instead change the truth than change their perception of people.

10. We hold the door open for other people. This shows that we do try to treat others the way we want to be treated.

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Srinath Nalluri

Most Viewed Writer in Behavioral, Social & Human PsychologyJul 17

What is a simple truth about love that most people ignore?

Story time

Leela’s partner has some of these amazing habits

He shouts at her for small things. He never cares to explain to her or correct her.

He belittles her in front of his friends.

He has a huge ego problem, he gets a panic attack if she flies higher than him.

He once smashed her favourite plant on her dog. The plant died.

And he never apologises for his mistakes.

She sometimes gets vexed and feels disrespected.

She wants to call it quits.

But then she thinks of the face he makes when she stops talking to him or shows disinterest. He looks sad, dejected and confused. It melts her heart.

She thinks of the good things. Like he celebrated her birthday so beautifully and gave some amazing gifts. He bought her an easy chair to make it easier for her back. Every time she have lot of work, he messages her every hour if she had eaten.

He is not a bad person, after all, she finally tells yourself and goes back to him.

This is one of the worst ways to make peace with and please your partner.

Why?

Because you are blatantly ignoring the red flags and seeing the good things in him. You are balancing the toxic things in a relationship with unrelated positive things.

A reg flag is a red flag. And it continues to be if you pretend to ignore it and be okay with it. It also makes your partner think that he has the liberty to continue being that.

So never try to ignore the red flags for the sake of your partner. It will cost you later.

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Asim Qureshi

CEO Jibble | Meet the new standard in employee time tracking5y

What is the one most important thing that all successful people have in common?

They have some underlying reason that drives them. And it's usually not a reason that would inspire.

Typically it's ego, money, insecurity, chip-on-shoulder, proving someone wrong, wanting people to respect them etc… that drive people to work hard.

And it’s with that burning inside them, they do amazing things…

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Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.Updated Feb 6

What mindset has made you successful?

Nothing Comes Randomly. Everything has a ‘Cause-and-Effect’ relationship to it. Find the Cause to the Effect you desire and you will create your own future.

The Small Things Matter Most. Progress, over a long period of time, is not dictated by the few, big things you do, but by the small things done daily and consistently.

It’s Okay To Feel Scared. Courage is, in most cases, the limiting resource to achieving ones dreams. That being said, if one allows themselves to feel scared and do the required things anyway, it will break almost all limitations.

The Goal Should Be A Reminder. It should not be a constant threat looming over life, but rather something one takes a frequent glance at. Focusing the energy on the task at hand and making sure one celebrates every little bit of progress can only be done when one is not constantly focused on the bigger goal.

There Is A Great Power In Intention. Every situation changes entirely based on the Intention one has for that situation. Make use of that wisely.

Wheels Are Already Invented. There are people out there that already know >90% of any path. Learn from those people and copy their path as best as possible so that you do not have to use energy on things that you could have solved far easier.

The Truth Is Always Simple. Either you are doing what you need to be or you’re not. Either you have the life you want or not. Either you are progressing towards your dreams or not. Everything that comes afterwards is an unneeded explanation and just devalues the truth.

It’s Not Supposed To Be Easy. Life is hard. Ambitious dreams are difficult to attain. Anything worth fighting for needs to be fought for. Some days will suck and some days will be hard, and as long as you resist that in the attempts to make everything easy you will never truly rise above what you are capable of.

Everything Is Connected. How healthy you eat affects your energy. Your energy levels affect the amount of concentration you can bring forth. The concentration you bring forth helps with working harder. Working harder creates more positive reinforcement. That positive reinforcement raises your self-worth. And your self-worth pushes you to do more for yourself. Every little thing you do affects everything else, and will either drag your life down or raise it up. Whether you rise or fall then depends on how many things are pulling in either direction.

The Past Does Not Matter. Anything that leads you to more success than you have now is created now. Regardless of where you were or what you’ve done, you can reach success from anywhere. Let go of the anchor from the past.

Success Changes. The ones that are most successful are those that have defined what success means to them on a personal level. Your version of success will be unique to you.

Every Person Of Success Is Comfortable With Who They Are. It’s easy to see if they are not comfortable with who they are, and it will feel like they are a lot less happy and successful. The ones that we truly look up to in terms of success are those with nothing to hide.

It’s All About Value. It’s never about the money.

Emotion Sells. This is true for any service or product you may sell, as well as any course of action you are trying to sell to yourself.

You Already Know What You Need To Do. If I were to give you a million dollars right now to tell me what it was that would change your life to a life of success you could definitely answer that. It may not be the perfect answer, but it will be good enough to start. Meaning that it’s not the knowledge that’s missing, but the action.

The Journey Is More Important Than The Goal. The goal will never be grand enough to justify the amount of work required. If you don’t love what you do while you do it, you will not consider yourself successful regardless of how far you reach.

Just Do It. Ignore the reasons, explanations and justifications. You know what to do. Do it.

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08 Shocking facts about romantic love no one knows

Firstly, did you know that love can be addictive? Studies have shown that falling in love triggers the release of certain chemicals in the brain, such as dopamine and oxytocin, that create feelings of pleasure and attachment. These chemicals can be so powerful that they can lead to addictive behaviors, similar to those seen in drug addiction. This explains why some individuals may find it difficult to let go of a toxic or unhealthy relationship, as they become dependent on the rush of feel-good hormones that love provides.

Secondly, love can actually change your brain. Research has revealed that being in love can alter the structure and function of the brain. MRI scans have shown that individuals in love have increased activity in the areas of the brain associated with reward and motivation, as well as decreased activity in the areas associated with critical thinking and judgment. This explains why people in love often make impulsive decisions or overlook red flags in their relationships. Love truly has the power to reshape our minds.

Lastly, love can have a profound impact on our physical health. It has been found that being in a loving and supportive relationship can boost our immune system, lower our blood pressure, and even reduce the risk of heart disease. On the other hand, the stress and heartbreak that can come with a failed or unrequited love can have detrimental effects on our health, increasing the risk of depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders. Love truly has the ability to heal or harm our bodies.

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Flavian Mwasi

Personal Development Coach2y

What are some social life hacks?

Don’t play all your cards, even when your opponent appears to be winning. Only play your cards when you’re sure your opponent doesn’t have anything up their sleeve.

Learn to read body language. Most of the time, people say one thing, but they’re usually thinking about something different. You can’t know what’s in people’s minds by observing their faces. However, you can interpret people’s minds by reading their body language and their eyes.

When someone asks you a question, don’t be in a hurry to answer or be too generous with your answer. Don’t play hero by volunteering information you were not asked.

Develop a habit of remembering people’s first names— including the clerk, the janitor, security guy, caretaker or the policeman. A person’s name is very close to a person, and the sweetest language everyone wants to hear more than any other language. Next time you meet, call them by their first names, and soon enough you will have a following and a group of friends who can do anything you ask.

Learn to communicate effectively and politely. Thoroughly develop your communication skills. Everything in life revolves around it, and it will take you far. You will soon realize that people are more interested in the person who knows how to communicate than the person who has a university degree.

If you are invited for a white-collar job interview in a company where everybody wears jeans and overalls, including the boss, don’t be foolish and wear a suit and a tie—wear a pair of jeans or overalls, and remember, in that company, the boss doesn’t like people wearing suits and ties—they think people who wear suits and ties are not ready for work.

People will always expect you to reciprocate their generosity or favors. Don’t be too foolish and deny them what they think is their right. Do the wise thing—return the favor, and they’ll think you’re normal. Take care, though, that you don’t give them your leg or your arm.

Tell people what they expect to hear. Don’t be too radical, and don’t go against the grain—even if people look dumb. You can make more friends in three months by conforming to people’s expectations than by trying to get people to like you in three years.

When talking, don’t try to compete with people. There’s nothing to be gained by outdoing others in talking or outsmarting others. In fact, the less you speak, the less people know about you, and the more they respect you.

The Japanese have a saying: “A clever eagle hides its claws”. When feeling strong, don’t show it to people. When you’re weak don’t even say anything. There’s much strength in silence, and there’s much power in staying humble.

A simple greeting costs nothing, yet it can build massive bridges between you and your perceived enemies and friends alike. IT can win you favors, get you into places you’re not allowed to get into, and get you out many undesired situations.

When you help other people or participate in charity, don’t blow the trumpet. Let others do it for you, for there’s nothing to be gained by praising yourself and everything to lose by bringing shame and dishonor upon yourself.

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Ayush Singh

Studies Bachelor of Commerce Degrees at Guru Gobind Singh Indraprastha University (Expected 2024)Thu

What are some morning habits that can change your day?

REMEMBER: Every morning you have 2 choices: Continue to sleep with your Dreams or Wake up to chase them.

Now, these are some morning habits that can change your day.

One Fitness exercise: Every day you can add exercise you can add to your morning to start a healthy day. I do 10 pushups just after I leave my bed, and believe me, this thing has helped me a lot mentally and physically. The moment I complete my 10 pushups it boosts my confidence and makes me feel happy rather than stressed.

Using a physical alarm rather than a phone alarm: By using a physical alarm there are a lot more chances that you will be able to quit your habit of using the phone first thing in the morning and wasting the most precious hour of the morning.

Drinking water instead of coffee or tea: You must know this thing and must be drinking water only. But I’m listing all the habits that I’m currently following and impacting my day.

Counting backward to 5: This is a technique I learned from an Instagram reel. So, when your alarm rings and you open your eyes and then your mind will start giving reasons to sleep more then you just have to start counting from 5 to 0. And then as you say 0 will have to stand up from your bed. And believe me, it works like magic.

Eat soaked almonds: I always eat soaked almonds the first thing to eat in the morning. The reason for the same is almonds are a good source of protein and help in weight loss.

Real light for your eyes: I mean go outside and get some fresh air and get some bright light in your eyes rather than phone blue light or artificial light in your room.

Plan your day: Just give yourself 2-3 minutes to just to give a thought about what are all things are you going to do today.

Read: If you like reading then reading something self-help material may be helpful. I like reading self-help books in the morning just because it gives me some type of mental edge to start a purposeful day.

Gratitude: Showing gratitude in the morning is one of the most important habit that every person should do in the morning and maybe in the night also. You can show gratitude towards the universe, god, or your family members.

Make your bed: Everyone should make their bed in the morning as it shows how disciple you are and there are fewer chances you will go back to sleep. So if you are not making your bed in the morning then give it a thought.

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Ekta Rohilla

Lives in Living in Rohtak, Haryana, India (2017–present)Wed

What is the key thing in relationships?

“Relationships become more intimate and healthy when people are not afraid of becoming vulnerable.”❤

~~ It's better to let your guard down and express everything instead of bottling it up inside, even when you feel that it may lead to an argument. 💙

√√When you are transparent in relationship, you are completely open and vulnerable and that's real intimacy 🫂. Things may get bumpy when you talk about uncomfortable things but in the long term it will give stronger foundation to the relationship.

“The vulnerable moments will help to the parts within you and the other that otherwise would not have been possible. Don't stay bottled up. Choose real intimacy, don't be afraid to let your guard down”!!

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Alice Celia Lee

Updated 2y

What are ten truths everyone should accept in life?

1. Don't be too smart in love, or you will despair.

2. Many of the reasons that people said when they broke up were fake and excuses.

3. Many friends will disappear in your life eventually.

4. We really die easily.

5. When children love their parents most, it is likely the time that they are helpless; when their parents love their children most, it is likely the time they are successful.

6. Bad people, like all poisonous animals and plants, don’t know that they are bad and poisons.

7. Bad people will always exist, and the society will never be widely fair.

8. It is better to leave your offspring with good education and happy memory, rather than wealth.

9. Changing careers is a big thing in life, but it is also a common thing.

10. In this era, you should learn at least two languages.

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Karolina

Studied Social Science (Psychology) at University of GdanskJul 9

How do you "unlove" someone you still love?

Distance yourself from the person if possible, and focus on your own well-being.

Understand why you want to let go and evaluate if it's the best decision for your growth and happiness.

Talk to friends, family, who can provide guidance and help you process your emotions.

Prioritize self-care activities that bring you joy and help you build a fulfilling life outside of the relationship.

Explore new hobbies, interests, and goals that can shift your attention away from the person you're unloving.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAApr 25

What are some obvious truths that are rarely acknowledged?

Sometimes a simple “Hi” can be the beginning of next 3 years of trauma, so reply carefully.

Deleting your social media is one of the easiest ways to make people forget you exist.

A good person doesn’t always equal good relationship.

Unless your name is Google, then you don’t need to know everything.

If it drains you, it’s not for you.

Sometimes no reaction is the best option.

Make someone smile every day, but never forget that you are someone too:)

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