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 What increases intelligence besides reading books?



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Ing. Systems from University of GuadalajaraFeb 21


First recognize your ignorance as Aristotle did, this way your mind will be open to all kinds of learning. Contrary to if you live in arrogance.

Play chess every day. With just two 10-minute games every day, you'll stimulate your mind toward strategic thinking.

Jump rope, this is one of the best exercises that require coordination, therefore, it will not only keep your body in shape, but also your mind.

Mindfulness practice which is to keep your mind always in the present and not in memories of the past or worries of the future. I assure you that it will be like resetting your mind and freeing it into productive things.

Talk to people you meet in your day to day, even if you don't know them. For example, the supermarket cashier, the taxi driver, the barber etc. Social interaction with strangers stimulates your mind.

Write a response on Quora daily for a year. Writing also stimulates your creativity and makes you smarter.

Learn a new language. For this, experiments have been made with people over 80 years old, who remained mentally active thanks to studying a new language.

Learn a new skill. There are thousands of courses on the web which can teach you to draw to cook, and a long etc.

Put these points into practice and your intelligence will increase.



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How can I stay calm in difficult situations?

Quick-fix: During the situation, focus on the sensation of air going in and out of your nostrils and stay with it. Keep breathing.


Permanent-fix: You have to build your way to it. It takes daily effort and patience to be clam naturally.

Not being calm means the situation is triggering some hidden emotions inside you. These emotions will run wild as long as they are hidden.

Think about the situations causing you panic — try to figure out the feelings you are running away from.

Throughout the day, start labeling your emotions. The more you realize, when you get irritated, insecure, scared, the less effect they will have on you.

Lose your expectation of doing these exercises perfectly, rather start.


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Ritika

 Apr 23

What is the harsh truth of life that you learn the hard way?

People will only remember you when they need something from you

You shouldn't share your secrets with anyone (including your best friend)

will bad-mouth about you, whatever you do… So, you shouldn't stop doing what you like to do.

You can't control what happens, but you can control how you look at it.

Nothing is permanent or guaranteed. Things change, people change, anything can change. You can change anytime too.

Friends come and go teaching you some lessons.



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Feb 18

What is the biggest life lessons you have ever learned? ..

Walk your own path..

Don't hesitate when you should act..

. Keep your life private. Not everyone deserves to know you.

Depression has no face. Be kind even to smiling faces.

Make a certain sense of distance, no matter how close you and someone is. It's good to know when to stop.

Do what you love and explore new things in life. Never count it as a wastage of time.

Don't trust anyone except the family.

Listen and trust your intuition. Know yourself and invest in yourself.

Don't judge people. You don't know their hidden story.

You don't need to react to every situation.

Dismiss what insults your soul. You can't force people, to see your worth.

Appreciate people for their efforts and sacrifices for you. Never forget the hands that raised you.



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A simple human | Entrepreneur | Author9mo

How can I learn to read people?

Don't judge people through your assumptions, stereotypes, biases, or conditioning, be very neutral and judge only after observing. A simple-looking person can be a conman; someone may be late for meetings for their mismanagement and not necessarily arrogance.

Let people narrate their entire story without interruptions, and make them comfortable enough to speak freely. Their questions have solutions, and their speech has their perspectives, biases, likings, and hidden desires. People can't read their thoughts; if they did, they wouldn't need advice.

Let go of self, your ego, and identity for a while, and step into their shoes, see the world through their lens, how they feel, and understand their issues and opinions the way they know them.

Pick up the point of emphasis, repetitions, and anxiously spoken words. Among a thousand spoken words, there must be two or three of utter importance; point them out, and read behind the lines. Don't feel bored of repetitions.

Pick up what the other person repeatedly ignores, what they avoid, don't talk about, can't talk about that matter looking into your eyes, change that topic often, and tell about their insecurity or hidden intentions.

Pick their most prominent trait: arrogance, aggression, ego, and emotionally vulnerable, and try and connect them with their behavior or actions, and deal with them accordingly. Don't wholly judge but use that as a general yardstick. Make sure this point doesn't intersect with the first point. For example, a person with a high ego would like to be appreciated or complimented. If a person is emotionally vulnerable, they want you to be really particular about their feelings. Read their actions the right way. For example, if someone is an introvert, they must not be judged as arrogant for speaking less or ignoring people.

Notice what thoughts and actions stay with a person in different situations. Traits don't change with situations. If a confident-looking person loses their calm in a tense situation, you can't call them confident; they were faking.

Observing excessive. Too much body movement, too much emphasis, too much hurry, too much or too less eye contact, repeated promises or assurance, extreme confidence (overconfidence), too many support points, too much love, and excessive may be a sign of faking.

They give you fewer explanations, can't take up your questions, are too stiff on their opinions, and keep emphasizing their points. Again, a sign of fakeness.



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A simple human | Entrepreneur | Author9mo

How can I learn to read people?

Don't judge people through your assumptions, stereotypes, biases, or conditioning, be very neutral and judge only after observing. A simple-looking person can be a conman; someone may be late for meetings for their mismanagement and not necessarily arrogance.

Let people narrate their entire story without interruptions, and make them comfortable enough to speak freely. Their questions have solutions, and their speech has their perspectives, biases, likings, and hidden desires. People can't read their thoughts; if they did, they wouldn't need advice.

Let go of self, your ego, and identity for a while, and step into their shoes, see the world through their lens, how they feel, and understand their issues and opinions the way they know them.

Pick up the point of emphasis, repetitions, and anxiously spoken words. Among a thousand spoken words, there must be two or three of utter importance; point them out, and read behind the lines. Don't feel bored of repetitions.

Pick up what the other person repeatedly ignores, what they avoid, don't talk about, can't talk about that matter looking into your eyes, change that topic often, and tell about their insecurity or hidden intentions.

Pick their most prominent trait: arrogance, aggression, ego, and emotionally vulnerable, and try and connect them with their behavior or actions, and deal with them accordingly. Don't wholly judge but use that as a general yardstick. Make sure this point doesn't intersect with the first point. For example, a person with a high ego would like to be appreciated or complimented. If a person is emotionally vulnerable, they want you to be really particular about their feelings. Read their actions the right way. For example, if someone is an introvert, they must not be judged as arrogant for speaking less or ignoring people.

Notice what thoughts and actions stay with a person in different situations. Traits don't change with situations. If a confident-looking person loses their calm in a tense situation, you can't call them confident; they were faking.

Observing excessive. Too much body movement, too much emphasis, too much hurry, too much or too less eye contact, repeated promises or assurance, extreme confidence (overconfidence), too many support points, too much love, and excessive may be a sign of faking.

They give you fewer explanations, can't take up your questions, are too stiff on their opinions, and keep emphasizing their points. Again, a sign of fakeness.



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What's the hardest lessons to learn about love?

1. The more you care, the more you lose.


2. You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.


3. Life is too short to think someone is “out of your league.”


4. The best apology is changed behavior.


5. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.


6. When you have a good heart, you don’t lose people, people lose you.


7. It’s okay to disappear until you feel like you again.


8. Growing sometimes means leaving people behind.


9. When a version of you ends, so will the connections attached to it.


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Love is not something you find, it is something that you give.


Head to my quora bio for more of my words - Sherry Cam



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How do you know someone's true personality?

That's a conundrum, for sure! People can put on all manner of masks to shield their true nature, especially around strangers. But there are a few telltale clues to spotting someone's genuine self beneath the facade:


Watch how they treat those they consider "beneath" them. No mask can hide contempt or kindness towards the vulnerable. The weak bring out our true selves.

Observe how they speak of others when they're not around. Loose lips reveal the impressions lurking in their heart.

Notice what makes them laugh. Genuine laughter springs from within, giving a fleeting glimpse of one's authentic spirit.

Watch how they handle adversity. Trouble strips away pretense and leaves bare the core of one's character. A joyful soul still finds humor in hardship.

Listen to the stories they tell unprompted. Freely offered anecdotes reveal what they consider important and memorable.

Pay heed to the noble ideals they hold dear, but even more so to the small courtesies they offer thoughtlessly. True nobility expresses itself in everyday kindnesses.

Examine how they spend their solitude. Leisure reveals the interests closest to their heart.

Observe the company they keep. Birds of a feather and all that. Also, true friends accept us as we are.


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Divya Yadav

 

Feb 28

How can I improve myself in 1-2 months?

It takes only 21 days for our mind to make it a habit. So it's easy if you stay dedicated for minimum 21 days.


How can you improve?


Make a list of thing you have to do whole day. / To do list.

Make list before sleeping at night.

Don't lie to yourself.

Talk to yourself.

Be punctual.

Be focused when study.

A mind can concentrate for 40 minutes so you should study 40 minutes and rest, then repeat it.

Be disciplined

Learn how to manage time in different activities

Make your day productive as much as you can.

Be patient for results.

Don't be with many friends, they just make your mind full of crap.

It's my own experience, and I tried to change myself in these last few months. I think I am better now.



I don't know in what is the thing you want to improve, but these are my points for being productive whole day.





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Masters in Computer Information Systems, Saint Louis University (Expected 2024)Apr 1

What life advice do people not take seriously enough?

If they are toxic, cut them off.

you shouldn't have to change yourself to fit in. if it's not for you, move on. there will be other opportunities down the road.

some people are determined to misunderstand you. you don't need to explain anything to them. let it go and move on.

love is a choice. you don't have to love anybody just because you think it is the "right" thing to do.

when something feels wrong, you don't have to stay until you find out the reason.



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Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor Mar 4

What are some characteristics of successful people?


They choose life-long learning over entertainment.

They're fiercely disciplined, persistent, and consistent.

They take risks, are not afraid of trying, and certainly, are not afraid of failure.

They’re obsessed with success, and will take every step possible to get there.

They have a game plan, which they stick to throughout their lives.

They prioritize on personal development by investing in themselves, continuous learning, reading books, and attending seminars.

They prioritize investing and saving instead of spending.

They have the correct mindset, so they’re always looking for new ideas.

They become experts in a particular skill, and perfect it each day.

They kill bad old habits like procrastination, drugs, smoking, alcohol abuse, and watching porn.

They fiercely guard their health.

They change friends, and choose new friends more carefully.

They make it a priority to learn a new thing every day.

They get sound financial education, and learn about business and the economy.

They learn to respect other people, and their opinions. They learn to listen more and talk less.

They think in the long term.

They learn about patience and avoid the ‘shiny object syndrome’.

They learn how to work smart.

They’re not people pleasers, but they strive at becoming more valuable.

They believe time is money, so they avoid time wastage, politics, gossip, and empty talk.

They never miss an opportunity, and if opportunities don't exist, they create them.

They choose a team of good mentors.

They celebrate each little milestone instead of waiting for the big day.

They never complain.

They never give up.





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Ex-army officer, Physician critical care Apr 2

What are the top 5 ways to navigate through life?

Spare your Sundays and spend it with family and friends ,

Your mind is going to believe what you continuously tell it . If you rush it , you’ll ruin it . Pause and be patient ,

View yourself as a personal brand . Everything you do has to be presentable and sellable to the masses ,

Keep distance from people who only prioritize their needs over yours . They’re your greatest setback ,

No matter how much it hurts , you’ve to keep going ,

Just Chill.!!



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Self Employed (1986–present)Mar 15

What are the 7 healthy habits of people who almost never get sick?

Drink ( water that is ) in excess of thirst

Do the opposite with food. Just because it is meal time, do not stuff yourself unless hungry.

Vary and diversify your diet, sensible portions of everything - carbs, fat, protein, fibre, fruits, vegs. There is no magic food. Everything is harmful in excess. Everything is harmful if none ( except sugar ).

Adequate sleep so that you don’t not wake up eager for more. Get a light nap in the afternoon if you need one.

Exercise - 10K steps is the mantra. 5K is better than 1K

Do not smoke.

Repeat 1 to 6 tomorrow and everyday after it.



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What is your most powerful tip?

No one is coming to save you, You either work to create what you want for your life, or chances are you won't get it.

Life is not fair, you have to love yourself, and not dwell and get stuck on that, Find a way to make your circumstances work for you. Or work hard to create better circumstances.

Everybody hurts. No one goes through this life without some kind of struggle. We are here to learn and grow, and a lot of that happens through struggle.

No one cares.!! Whether you create the life you want or not, No one gives a shit. You have to do what you need to do for you.

Everyone ages but not everyone matures.

Some of our greatest lessons and best teachers are:

failures

heartaches.

We pay the price for the things we don't do to take good care of ourselves. Everything catches up with us. (Not taking care of our health, not saving more money, neglecting our loved ones..etc)



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 Mar 28

I spent 23 years as a shy person, now I can teach you how to be confident in just 2 minutes:

1. Everyone is human


Remember that the people you think are 'cool' are really no different than you.


Everyone has their own problems, insecurities and doubts.


Stop thinking that they are better than you.


2. Give yourself credit.


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Stop being so hard on yourself.


Remember all the good things you've done.


Remember how far you've come.


You're doing great, just remind yourself of it more often.


3. Put yourself in an uncomfortable position.


This is the best way to overcome shyness.


Join a club, go to events and put yourself out there.


These uncomfortable situations will soon become comfortable, and then you will become a confident person.


4. Get in shape and dress well.


The easiest way to be confident is to look good.


If you don't like the way you look, you'll be shy in social settings.


If you love your appearance, you will feel proud and confident in a public setting.


5. Allow yourself to make mistakes.


As sweet as it sounds, 'Rome was not built in a day'.


You are allowed to make mistakes.


This is how we learn and grow as human beings.


6. Less planning, more action.


Too much planning can lead to overthinking and anxiety.


Take action instead!


Also, the more times you do something, the more confident you will get.


7. Believe in yourself.


Even if you don’t believe in yourself, you can trick your brain into believing.


Before bed every night say “I am a confident person” 10 times.


It will be programmed into your subconscious and trick you into becoming confident!


8. Take risks.


I know it’s scary, but you need to take risks.


If your dream looks too risky and scary - break it down into smaller parts.


Then it won’t be as intimidating to pursue


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Most amazing facts about Human psychology1y

What are the most interesting facts about human behavior?

Listen carefully to how a person speaks about other people to you.

This is exactly how they will speak about you to other people.


2. It only takes up to 4 minutes to decide whether you like someone or not.


3. Pretending not to care is the habit ofsomeone who generally cares the most.


It is known as an emotional defense mechanism.


4.Never use your favorite song as your alarm clock.


You'll end up hating it.


5. When you wake up around 2-3am without any reason, there's an 80% chance that someone is staring at you.


6.Men are known to fall in love faster than women


7.Falling in love at first sight is apparently true


8. A crush lasts no more than 4 months


9. 52% of women state that their husbands are not their soulmate


10.Cuddling literally kills depression, relieves anxiety, & strengthens the immune system.


11. Your gut feelings are usually accurate and correct.


If you truly feel there is something,


chances are there is.


That's it for today of you want more psychologycal facts like this please let me know in the comment section!


Till bye take good care of yourself ♡



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To love is to dream Jan 11

What's the toughest lesson people need to learn about people?


People respect the money not the person

The person you love the most is the one who will hurt you the worst

People do not like good thoughts or intentions, they like good looks

I read somewhere that, two things define a person: their patience when they have nothing and their attitude when they have everything

Most people judge and criticize others' lives because they are not content with their own lives

You can understand a person truly once you pay attention to their actions instead of their words

People will love you for the many good things you do but they will hate you for a single mistake you commit


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What are the best ways to improve your intelligence?


Read Widely: Reading is one of the best ways to expand your knowledge and improve your cognitive abilities. By reading widely, you can learn about different topics, develop critical thinking skills, and improve your vocabulary.

Learn a New Language: Learning a new language is a great way to improve your cognitive abilities. It can improve your memory, enhance your problem-solving skills, and boost your creativity.

Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness practices such as meditation can help to improve your cognitive abilities. These practices can enhance your focus, increase your attention span, and improve your memory.

Engage in Challenging Mental Activities: Engaging in mentally challenging activities such as puzzles, brain teasers, and strategy games can help to improve your cognitive abilities. These activities can enhance your problem-solving skills, improve your memory, and boost your creativity.

Get Regular Exercise: Regular exercise can help to improve your cognitive abilities. It can enhance your focus, improve your memory, and increase your attention span.

Get Enough Sleep: Getting enough sleep is crucial for cognitive function. Lack of sleep can lead to poor concentration, memory problems, and impaired decision-making abilities.

Continuously Learn New Things: Continuously learning new things is an effective way to improve your intelligence. It can expand your knowledge base, enhance your critical thinking skills, and boost your creativity.



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What 10 things can I do now to have a better life?

Stop pleasing people. You are not a dog and they are not your boss.

Accept that whatever you feel can’t be right all the time.

Let go of negative thoughts. Talk to your loved ones and be calm.

Love yourself and your Family. Because no one else will love you for free.

No overthinking: This one is so difficult that I'm trying myself. You can't change the past by thinking about edit, and you can't shape the future by overthinking it. Give it your best.

Be selfish: I don't think being selfish is a bad thing to do when it's necessary. Make time for yourself.

Forgiveness: If someone or something has hurt you, forgive them. It's all right. Don't go to bed in a bad mood.

Don’t expend your energy trying to control others. Focus on yourself.

Direct your focus on what you have and be grateful for it.

Hobbies: Learn something new that you've always wanted to learn but haven't been able to.

Appreciate: You've done a fantastic job. Take time to appreciate yourself for who you are. Don't make comparisons.

Maintain good habits. Control your life before it starts controlling you.



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What are some psychological facts about attracting people?

1. Law of similarity: people who are similar to ourselves are more attractive.


People always like to get along with people who are similar to themselves. People with similar age have more topics, similar personalities have more favorable feelings, similar hobbies have more intersection, and their positions are more balanced. When the two sides feel the similarity of each other psychologically, people will narrow the psychological distance in the communication of each other because of these similarities, making the communication more relaxed and free.


2. Complementary law.


Complementarity refers to mutual compensation, that is to make up for their own shortcomings and develop their own advantages. When the needs, personality characteristics and roles of both sides are complementary, the attraction generated between them is very strong. For example, the degree of liking between introverts and extroverts will increase.


3. Appearance is a main factor of attraction.

Experiments have shown that people really think that "a good-looking person is a good person", although this is an irrational idea. Most people tend to think that beautiful people are more likable and get along better. Therefore, if you want to attract others, even if you don't have a natural handsome and beautiful face, you should also pay attention to dressing yourself up in clothes, hair styles and wearing. After all, appearance is something that people can see directly.


4. Language and body movement.


People's speech, behavior, cultivation, knowledge these internal things can also play a role in attracting others through language and body movements, which is the truth that some people are not particularly beautiful, but there are many admirers around them. This is to use the internal things to make up for the external defects, because the internal beauty is more durable.



5. We tend to like the people around us who are in constant contact.


Repeated contact with others, even just images, the longer we spend with a person, the more likely we are to like him. (but the premise is that our attitude towards this person is positive or neutral. If we have prejudices about this person at the beginning, repeated meeting will strengthen negative feelings, and we will hate this person even more.


6. It's easy for us to like those who like us.


We will pursue as much as possible, most likely to repay our partner. Psychologists have borrowed economic models to illustrate this problem.


Expectation of future partner = attractiveness of partner x possibility of partner accepting myself


That is to say, we measure the appearance of the person we like and the degree to which he accepts me. From this we can judge the attraction of the other party to us.


7. Like what you can't get.

In the law of attraction, we also mention an effect called Romeo and Juliet effect. The result of this effect is that the more parents interfere with their children's freedom of love, the more attractive they will be to each other.


8. Suspension bridge theory.

When we meet someone who might be attractive to us at a high place, we rate their attractiveness higher than usual - fear of heights causes our heart rate to accelerate, and our brain thinks it's the attraction of the other person.


It is a wonderful process for people to judge their mood. We first feel our physiological feelings, and then look for clues in the environment to explain our feelings.


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Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAUpdated 11mo

What are some cool psychological hacks?

1. If you want to end a bad date:


Stare at the hairline of someone’s head you don’t want to listen to, it makes people uncomfortable.


2. If you want your lie to be more believable:


Add an embarrassing detail to your story.


3. If you want to open a door for growth and conversation:


Don’t say “It’s okay,” when someone apologizes. Say something like “Thank you for apologizing.”


4. If you want someone to have a trait:


Thank someone for a trait you want from them. Instead of telling your friend ”Sorry for the wait,” tell them, “Thank you for your patience and understanding.”


5. If you want people to feel needed:


“I need your help.” People want to feel needed and like they are making a difference. Expressing to them as much makes all the difference in the world.



6. If you want people to agree to do a task for you:


Start from something simpler first. The Foot-in-the-door phenomenon. People are more likely to agree to do a task for you through the gradual commitment.


7. If you don’t want to lose a friend:


Never arguing over text with them. Arguing over text is the worst way to argue because the lack of tone decreases the meaning of the words.


8. If you really need to calm down:


Eat something. If you’re eating something in your brains trip and it reasons “I would not be eating if I were danger. So I’m not in danger. ”




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M.S. in Materials Science and Engineering & Psychology, Columbia University (Graduated 2013)Updated 1y

How can I develop a strong personality?

Here are 15 ways that can help you to develop a strong personality.



Be yourself: People can tell when you're faking it. Life isn't the same as high school. Acquire the ability to be at ease in your own flesh.

Smile: anytime you talk to people. Speak clearly and make your message clear.

Ask questions: Question that begins with “why” works best. Let people discover themselves when talking to you.

Be very knowledgeable, try as much as you can to have deep knowledge on different topics.

Speak only when it’s necessary and always make sense with valid points.

Don’t complain: Don’t bawl about how this sucks and that isn’t fair. This won’t get you anywhere in life. And quality people won’t like to be around you.

Be encouraging: Genuinely help and encourage people to do better. You will feel good doing it. And people will like you more.

Use Your hands while having a conversation: Using Your hands will make you comfortable and highly presentable while having a conversation.

Don’t gossip: Quality people don’t gossip. They don’t need to put other people down to feel good about themselves.

Wear clean shoes. Don’t just wear anything but dress with sense! Appearance matters a lot, the way you make yourself presentable is how people are going to treat you.

Boost your confidence by always learning new stuff every day. If you can afford it, travel as much as you can.

Don’t compare yourself with anybody. Do your own thing in your own way, invent your own style.

Memorize peoples name and avoid using ‘Hey’ to address people all the time. You can do this by repeating peoples name constantly anytime you’re having a conversation with them.

Be humble: Nobody likes an all-time show-off. Yes, you are good enough but you don’t need to shove it in people’s faces.

Be very kind. Always have some kind of genuine solutions to other people problems.



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Why are some very smart people so quiet?


Overthinking: Highly intelligent individuals may spend a lot of time thinking and analyzing things, which can lead to shyness or a tendency to hold back in social situations. They may be concerned about saying the wrong thing, or being judged for their thoughts or ideas.

Introversion: Intelligence and introversion often go hand in hand, as introverts tend to be more inwardly focused and reflective. This introspective nature may make them less likely to be extroverted or outgoing in social situations.

Social anxiety: Some highly intelligent people may struggle with social anxiety, which can make them feel nervous or uncomfortable in social situations. This may lead to a tendency to hold back or stay quiet, even if they have a lot to say.

High standards: Highly intelligent individuals may have very high standards for themselves and others, which can lead to a sense of perfectionism. This can make them feel as though they are never quite good enough, which can contribute to shyness and a reluctance to engage in social situations.

Focus on deeper conversations: Intelligent people often have a thirst for knowledge and may be interested in engaging in deep, meaningful conversations rather than small talk. This can make them appear quiet or reserved in social situations where shallow conversations are the norm.

Overall, the reasons why some smart people may be quiet are complex and varied, and can include a combination of personal, social, and psychological factors. However, it is important to remember that intelligence and social behavior are not necessarily directly linked, and that there is no one right way to be intelligent.



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3y

What daily habit seems healthy but is in fact unhealthy?


Too much self-help — knowledge without action is useless.

Obsessing about goals — it’s about enjoying the journey not ‘getting there’.

Memorizing social-skills — focus on feeling happy and people will like you.

Solving every problem — prioritize what actually feels right solving.

Attempting for perfection — prefer imperfect action over no action.

Trying to make everyone happy — putting yourself aside to be likable is pitiful.

Following the news — they focus only on the negative never the positive.

Worrying over problems — worry is futile and doesn’t solve anything.




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What are some truths about life nobody tells you?

If you want to become rich don’t focus on the money. Focus on solving people’s problems.

Wealth is not proportional to the level of IQ you have. Wealth is proportional to your level of EQ.

Money is an illusion of what the world thinks you’re worth. Truth is that you’re worth more than you think if you can learn how to value your time.

The most valuable skill in the world is understanding the power of words. That’s why people who control the world use nothing but words.

People have this misconception that unless something is measured relative to another, it has no value. True value is an intrinsic substance that cannot be measured.

We’re all blessed with a brain and the capacity to think. However those who get ahead are the people who know how best to manipulate other people.

Love alone cannot put food on the table. Something else is needed and that is commitment.

Marriage is a contract where you willingly agree without coercion to surrender your personal privacy to another person.

Before plunging into a marriage, first sit down and draw a budget of whether you’ll be able to educate and feed several mouths up to university level.

Don’t get scared when the world throws trials, troubles and pressures at you. Grow a thick skin to overcome the pressures or whatever the world throws at you.

Don’t complain about what other people are not doing. Just get down to business and do it.

Sometimes people will avoid you for not speaking their language. Sometimes they’ll avoid you for being smarter. Sometimes they’ll avoid you for no apparent reason.



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How can I fall asleep fast at night?

Sleep will come in just one minute at night, try the following tips today.



Military sleep hack method.

You will fall asleep in 1 minute using this method, even soldiers use this method to sleep during the war.


To sleep military style, you need to focus on relaxing your facial muscles. Release the shoulders and forget the tension and then move the arms to the sides. Now, while exhaling deeply, relax your chest. After this, try to get everything out of your mind in 10 seconds. Think of one of these 2 pictures – one of you lying on the edge of a calm lake with a clear blue sky above and the other of you lying on a velvet swing in a dark room. This way you will gradually fall asleep and sleep soundly throughout the night. The more times you practice this method, the better you will become, and then you will begin to fall asleep as soon as you close your eyelids.


2. Lie straight and blink your eyelids frequently. Your eyes will get tired and you will fall asleep early.


3. Apply acupressure therapy. There are many special points in our body, in which pressing can induce sleep. Place your thumb between your eyebrows for 30 seconds and remove. Do this process 4 to 5 times. Sleep immediately.


4. Recall the events of the day in reverse order. By doing this, the mind gets stressed and you will fall asleep.


5. Breathing patterns can also induce sleep. To fall asleep with this trick, first, keep a small gap between the two lips and exhale loudly through the mouth. Now close your lips and inhale through your nose and count to 4. After this, hold your breath for 7 seconds. During this process, you must try to focus your goals on your actions. Similarly, inhaling and exhaling, complete 4-7-8 cycles of this entire process. After a while your mind will calm down, then you will sleep well. This process is also known as the 4-7-8 method.


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Studied Business at Kettering UniversityUpdated 2y

What psychological facts can I use to be a more likable person?

Enjoy yourself: You don’t always need to be around people. People will want to be with you when you are happy with yourself.

Admit your mistakes: Swallow your pride and always accept your mistake. Deflecting blame is always seen as a weakness.

When we hold onto our phone or set it in front of us on the table, it communicates that we value our device over who we’re with.


Be a gentleman, stay mannered, humble, and respect everyone you meet.

This is the most crucial of all in making you look more likable.

Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation partners with sticky warm taffy. Don’t break eye contact even after he or she has finished speaking. When you must look away, do it ever so slowly, reluctantly, stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny string finally breaks.

People like to feel heard, and being an active listener can make a positive impression. "Do this by staying engaged instead of focusing on what you’ll say next," says Henderson. "Make sure to listen more than you talk, and shoot for a ratio of listening three times more than you speak."

Energy is contagious. When we smile and are upbeat, it can make us more attractive. It also tends to trickle into others. Our vibe attracts our tribe.

Whether it’s easy or not, being honest with others is a sure-fire way to gain their trust as well as their respect.

If you’re a woman, a man will like you if you can make him feel masculine. No instructions, no advice and give him ample space.

If you’re a man, a woman will like you if you can make her feel beautiful, not just sexy. A high emotional quotient is also critical for a woman.

Generally, accepting others as they are, makes you most likable.

When a person can be their own self in your company without being judged, they like you more.

Do not speak badly about others as this creates distrust.

Do not spread false rumors and do not make accusations.

Do not brag about your successes. Nobody likes a show-off.

Be humble.

Offer them food.

When with a group of people, including everyone in the conversation. Never leave anybody out.



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Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA1y

What is the easiest psychological trick you can play on someone?

To hand people something

You can give a person talking on their phone an object and they will most likely take it because they are focused on the call. Not even just on the phone. Anytime you are talking with someone face to face you can hand them anything and they'll take it without deciding whether or not they want to.


To make your words more credible

People are more likely to believe something you tell them if it's self depreciating. You can make up some sort of lie but if you add something negative about yourself in it it sounds more believable.


To walk through a crowd

Don’t look at the people in front of you when you’re walking through a crowd. Instead look past them where you are trying to go and most people will make room without noticing it.


To calm down an angry person

Look them calmly in the eye and say “what do you want to happen next?” Most of the time they were so caught up in emotion they hadn’t thought about the consequences of their dickery. As soon as you prod them to think about consequences, most of them would calm down straight away.


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Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.Updated 6mo

What habits have made you sharper?


Grocery Math - I look at the price of every item I buy and then try to figure out the price before I get to the cash register or while waiting in line. If you are buying too much it’s also okay to round.

Getting Enough Sleep - Getting the exact amount of sleep you need, no more, no less, should be a given.

No TV - The only time I watch TV is for Sport Events (such as the World Cup or the Olympics). You would not believe the difference it makes.

Positivity/Optimism - A positive outlook on life can do a lot more for you than you think. Psychology shows us this all the time with various studies & experiments but very few take it seriously.

Healthy Living - Nutritious food, lots of water and regular exercise are the core to a healthy mind. Your body is your temple, treat it as such.

Getting Busy - I have found the worst thing for your mind to be “down-time”. During this time you are just inviting your mind in to grow accustomed to slowing down and to follow another persons schedule. Keep your schedule full, which doesn’t mean only filling it with productive activities!

Production > Consumption - I try to spend 2 hours producing for every 1 hour I consume anything. This means writing, drawing or creating something that I could give to others. Creation boosts your creativity, which sharpens your mind.

Interacting With Sharper People - I hope that most people that I surround myself with would describe me as “not that smart” because it would mean that they are smarter than I am. You can learn more from these people and when you try to adapt to them as much as possible you grow, which is only beneficial if they are smarter, greater or sharper than you are.

Writing Out Your Thoughts - Sadly, I am no Sherlock Holmes. My mind does not remember every tiny detail effortlessly and I cannot use all my knowledge in the blink of an eye. To prevent me forgetting the details or mixing them up I implore the assistance of Pen and Paper to help me stay on track, but in doing so I become sharper in the grand scheme of things.

Learning Daily - Currently I am on pace to read 40 pages a day while spending at least 1 hour on courses a day. If you do not keep growing you will fall behind because, for the mind, there is no such thing as stagnation.



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4 signs that reveal a lot about someone else.


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Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.Updated 1y

What can one learn about a person's personality just by observing them?


Those With Genuine Smiles Are More Honest With Themselves. Most often the fake smiles reveal someone people pleasing. They do something they do not wish to do for the sake of pleasing the person across from them. If a person is out in public, smiling genuinely, it often means they agreed to go somewhere on their terms, not because they had to.

A genuine smile can be seen when a person’s eyes get smaller or they are squinting while smiling. It’s a natural reaction you cannot fake.

An Open Stance Reveals Confidence. If they are open with friends but closed off otherwise it can mean they are not that trusting, while an open stance with everyone means they have nothing to hide or fear from anyone.

Open Stances are characterized by where the person's toes are pointing and how many ‘vitals’ they are not protecting with their hands or arms.

The Persons Shoes Often Reveal Why They Wear The Clothes They Do. If you see someone that is wearing very fashionable clothes, but has dirty or used up shoes, it means they most likely only care about their clothes to make an outward appearance. The person that genuinely, for himself/herself, cares about the clothes they wear will also take good care of their shoes.

Dirty spots, scratches, loose knots, or even broken soles can be a telling sign of someone that doesn’t care about their look.

A Tense Face Is A Sign Of A Person Being Some Other Place Mentally. When you are in the moment, in the conversation or mentally present with a person then you will be more relaxed. The attention is in the present moment, which often is relatively light compared to the rest of life. People that are in another place mentally either have more important things on their mind, or care little about the conversation or person.

Watch out for the space between people’s eyebrows and at the edges of their eyes for tension. A person’s eyes often reveal the most about their level of stress.



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Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.Feb 13

What are some good questions I should ask myself every day?


Is what I am doing actually making me any happier? - Most of the time we fall into doing random things throughout the day, not noticing that we do not gain anything close to what we thought from the activity.

Am I on the right track? - Being honest with yourself is terribly important if you want to get anywhere in life. You have to be willing to call yourself out if you are not doing the things you ought to do.

What do I need to hear right now? - Be the person that asks yourself the tough questions and gets an answer. Be the friend to yourself that does not let you get away with anything less than your best and the one that is always there for you by being brutally honest with yourself and holding nothing back.

What am I not telling myself? - What secrets are you keeping from yourself? What lies do you still tell yourself? What are you trying to keep hidden? These things are usually dirty secrets that are far better kept out in the open, for only that way will you address them with reality and practicality.

Why am I doing what I am doing? - This question is a great short-term and long-term question that re-assesses your values, beliefs and intentions. It gets you to refocus on the larger goal of it all, often getting you out of negative thought spirals and back into groundedness, responsibility and action.

What am I afraid of happening? - Most actions stop short before they even start because we lack the courage to face the consequences of this action. Turning away from the lion, however, will not make it go away. The only thing that will get rid of the beast of fear is facing it and moving past it.

Who do I want to be in this situation? - You have heroes, idols and people you aspire to be like; what would they do in this situation? How can you get closer to being who you want to be in this very moment? What would you need to do, think, feel, say and move like to become your own hero here?

What do I need to take Responsibility for? - There are, without a doubt, things you have been letting slide. These are things you deemed as not important at one point, but is that still true today? Many things keep sliding off our radar not because we want them to, but because we made the choice once and then never looked back. Look back.

Who can I help the most today? - Sometimes it is harder to help ourselves than others. Getting something started can, however, get us to snowball into action, and sometimes this question will make us realize that we are who we need to help the most.

How can I challenge myself today? - Most of the happiness and satisfaction in life comes from overcoming adversities, growing, and meeting and beating challenges head-on. There is a lot of growing and improving you can do, your life can progress to new levels and can do this very quickly if you just focused on what you could attempt today that would test your limits.

What do I need to get done today vs. What do I want to get done today? - Understanding the difference between the absolute must in the day and everything you wish to accomplish can be a very powerful thing.

Who does my future self need me to be today? - If you look back on today in a few weeks, months or years, who would you have wanted yourself to be today? What can you do that will aid your future self to lead a better life to avoid the regret you have of your past self now?


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What are some tips to live a better life?


Laughing More - The world has way too little laughter. Make it a daily habit to laugh out loud, to truly lol, once at least.

Reading Books - 1 Book a Month at minimum, 4 if you want to quickly live a better life. Self-Improvement Books about specific things you want to add to your life are a great start.

Reaching Out First - If you want to have more fun with friends then you plan the events. Don’t wait for others to get you to the life you want and take the first step yourself as often as you want to.

Exercising Regularly - 4–6 days a week with at least 1–2 days of cardio.

Going Outside - Nature, Fresh Air, and calm, relaxing breezes are sometimes all you need to take the edge of a stressful day.

Scheduling your Day - Unconscious Time is Waste Time. Conscious Time is Not. Regret only comes from the empty spaces in your calendar.

Meditating - Too few people nowadays look inward for fulfillment and try to fill their day with distractions. Learn who you are. Take 10 Minutes every day to be with yourself.

Being Charitable - Give what you can. Ideally so much that you are just very slightly uncomfortable doing it, for that is where you find the most growth & reward.

Showing Courage - It is often said that you regret more of what you didn’t do than what you did do. Show enough Courage in your Life to let these moments be as few as possible.

Consciously Training Your Mind - How you talk about yourself and what you think each day are a large part of what makes up your world. Train this to be positive, supportive and empowering. Write down empowering thoughts and repeat them twice a day. Find proof of these thoughts in your memories and you will strengthen yourself even more.

Being More Active - In both life and relationships, try to take the active role. Fill your days with more events and places-to-be, and add activities to all your relationships. The more you do the more you gain from life. Limit your time sitting alone at home.

Saying ‘No’ - If it is not a clear, unequivocal ‘Yes’ it defaults to a ‘No’. Say this word more often and make your own plans.

Saying ‘Yes’ - Try yourself at more things that scare you, that make you uncomfortable or that you know are good for you. Give yourself the courage to exit your comfort zone; it is where most of the magic happens.

Being Vulnerable with Others - Yes, this can bite you in the butt, but most of the time it will be the gateway to a much deeper relationship or friendship. Be brave; you’ll be rewarded with more than you will loose.

Experience More - Spend your Money on things that give you experiences rather than the newest, hottest product that will be outdated again in a months time. For memories, unlike things, last a lifetime.


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Freelance Writer (2018–present)2y

What are the best yet not so known facts related to human psychology that you have come across?

We do not see others as they are, we see them as we are. That is the reason that kind hearted people often get manipulated and it is also the reason that toxic people are naturally paranoid

Power is the root of all evil. Money is only a symbol of power. People who have the most control over others know that there are more effective ways to control people than money.

Sometimes the most powerful statement you can make is silence

Manifestation is a top down process. It begins in your mind with a thought, it is then amplified in your heart by your emotions, and it is brought into form through action

Self awareness is a bottom up process. It begins with a sense of groundedness in your roots. It is given meaning in your heart. And it is brought to awareness in your mind.

most of the things that people worry about are highly unlikely to ever happen. But it is true that the more you worry about something, the more you think it’s likely to happen.

Hairdressing Law:

When you ask a barber if you need a haircut, all you get is "yes." Don't fall into the haircut law when you like someone unilaterally.

You must insist not to enter this minefield: Don't ask a careless person if you are in his heart. It's like asking a barber if you need a haircut.

To become wiser, work on connecting the right and left hemispheres of your brain.

The wiser a person is, the more reluctant they are to give advice. Be cautious of people who give out a lot of unsolicited advice

How a person feels after they have had an interaction with you is an indicator of your True Self.

Some of us are actually afraid of being happy because of the fear that something tragic might happen next.


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What are some beautiful truths of life?

Even the tree bows down when it bears a fruit

Beauty is not about the looks; it's about having a beautiful personality, heart, and soul

Your past is not your future, therefore you have the chance to improve and not repeat the same old mistakes

Sometimes you think you can’t do things but it is actually because you don’t want to those things

Everyone around you is scared too; everybody has some sort of fear and there is no shame in that

You will meet a lot of people in your life. So don't worry if you lost someone, or someone left you because sooner or later you will find someone better

First impressions matter and there is no second chance

Lastly it is gratitude that saves you from falling into a pit of miseries. Be thankful always!



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How do I refresh my mind in five minutes?

This technique was discussed for the first time by Dr. Win Wenger. I don’t know what it’s called, so I’m naming it - ‘The Head Technique’.


Sit straight.

Close your eyes.

Imagine the boundary of your head.

Now imagine this boundary expanding by an inch.

You actually need to ‘see’ the boundary of your head spreading out!


Doing this signals your brain to pump extra oxygen into your blood. It results in instant energy in your body. It takes less than 5 minutes and charges your mind up!


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14 LIFE LESSONS I'M GLAD I LEARNT AT 20 AND NOT AT 50:

1. You Need To Start


This is your only life. It's too short to keep putting off doing what you want to do. Live your life for you, not for anyone else.


2. Your Environment Is Crucial


Regardless of how disciplined or motivated you are. If you're in the wrong environment you'll never get anything done.



3. Be Ready To Pivot


Things change, plans fall through and life happens. Be ready and willing to pivot when chasing your goals according to the feedback you're getting.


4. Books Are Mental Workout


I love reading. I love learning. But too much reading and not enough doing is just like binge-watching YouTube. Read, apply, repeat.


5. You Need To Be Selfish


You can't pour from an empty cup So be selfish, fill your cup first and then you can be selfless and pour into others.


6. The Gym Is Preparation


In the gym, your mind is telling you to quit the whole time. By not quitting, you're building your mental fortitude and resilience in preparation for life.


7. You Can't Stop Learning


The moment you stop learning, you stop progressing. Acquire new knowledge, learn new skills, apply, progress, repeat.


8. Not Everyone Wants You To Win


Learn to recognize those that truly want the best for you and those that don't. Cut the latter out.


9. Risk Is a Part Of Life


Whether you're taking a new job, starting your own business or moving to a new country. Anything that has the potential to improve your life involves risk. Embrace it.


10. Challenge Your Beliefs


Why do you believe something? Because your parents told you? Because the news told you? Challenge what you believe, be willing to listen to opposing opinions and always be ready to learn.


11. Money Can Buy Happiness


Money can buy you time freedom, location freedom and most importantly, the opportunity to do what actually makes you happy.


12. You Need Discomfort


Whether it's physical discomfort in the gym or mental discomfort when chasing your goals. Embracing discomfort is the key to long term fulfilment.


13. Failure Isn't Final


Failure is nothing but a sign telling you which direction not to go. Stop treating it like a never-ending red light.


14. Consistency Always Wins


Talented but not consistent? You'll fail. Hard-working but not consistent?


You'll fail.


As long as you have consistency - You'll Win (eventually)



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What is the biggest lesson you learned that no one teaches?

Too much of self admiration could lower your value in front of others. So stop praising yourself. It doesn't make you any great, but it just results in the opposite. Irony!

Always observe. Some people will like you only when you are below their level. And when they start noticing that you are growing, they start to hate you for every silly reason and behave like you are doing something wrong. Run away!

Listen more and talk less. This way, your words weigh more value than the others. Have some control over your words and intervene only when necessary.

When you promise to do something, try your best to do it. Once done, it gives you a sense of satisfaction and peace. Bonus - You gain their respect!

Be consistent. It helps you to set your daily routine and be easy about it.

Do not announce every move you make, especially if you hate to be asked about the progress. So that, you have enough freedom to do the tasks at your own pace, more privacy and no peer pressure. You can always share the news to your closed ones when you succeed.

Be gentle and do not shout. When you shout at anyone, you seem to be the wrong person even when you aren't in real. So learn to handle the situations in a composed way.

Start doing the most important task first in the morning and you will feel less stressful throughout the day.

Do not overthink about your relatives and friends. Everyone is busy with their own lives, so connect when you miss them. If they don't reflect the same feeling, understand and accept it. Move on.

Lastly, mind your own business and stay happy. Always be in your lane, live and let live!



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I get emotionally attached to people too easily. What can I do to change this?


Emotional attachment without reciprocation is abuse.


You are being mistreated by people. Though the only person to blame for this is you.


You lack boundaries — you let people treat you like that. You teach people how to treat you. And if you teach them that it’s okay to take advantage of you, they will.


Not because they are evil but your lack of boundaries gives them the impression that you don't care about being treated right. This unhealthy behavior of yours is stemming from a lot of different factors from childhood neglect to being lonely. They are something you should resolve in over the course of your life. But they are not your first-aid.


Your immediate remedy is to start setting strong boundaries with people.


Boundaries are rules you abide by regarding interactions with people.


They can be as simple as — “I won’t give offer advice unless I

am asked” “I won’t let people insult me without saying anything” “If someone doesn’t respect me, I won’t spend time with them.”


Simple stuff but if you are feeling mistreated, you don’t have them set. They can be modified according to your liking but overall they must be healthy and fair to you.


They should make sure that you aren’t being mistreated by people.


The basic idea behind boundaries and why they work is that if you don't treat yourself with respect, then no one else will.


How do you figure out what your boundaries are?


Any interaction that went wrong is an opportunity to figure out a boundary.

Ask yourself — How would you redo this?

You over-helped an acquaintance even when they didn’t ask and they didn’t even appreciate your help. How would you redo this event? — “I will only help when asked and even to that extent which I am comfortable”

This is the active work that you must-do if you don’t want the unfair emotional attachment.


Setting these boundaries will help you respect yourself and it is only when you realize your worth, other people will.


People will try to challenge these newly set rules of yours but enforce them at all costs. It is uncomfortable and you might feel like you are being selfish but do it anyway.


You are worth it.


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What did you learn too late in life?

My top 7:


You have to die a few times before you can really live.

If you knew how quickly people forget the dead. You will stop living to impress people.

Nothing happens to anyone which he is not fitted by nature to fear.

If you’re lonely when you’re not alone, you’re in bad company.

Some people are like ads, skip them.

When people treat you like they don’t care, believe them.

You have to leave even when you want to stay.


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What are some hard truths that actually make life better once you accept them?

Do not date while you're broke, in terrible shape, miserable, or your life is chaotic. Get your life in order first.

You should either have a supportive partner or no partner; there's no third option.

The best revenge is getting yourself to a place where you no longer care about it.

If someone can't acknowledge their flaws, they lack self-awareness and pose a danger.

Just because a relationship has lasted a long time doesn't mean it's successful.

Self-respect is derived from self-control, not from pleasing others or seeking external validation.

Don't waste your time and energy on social media, overthinking, or meaningless relationships.

If you always believe your happiness is somewhere else, you'll never find it where you are.

Life doesn't wait for you to be okay; get up every day and keep pushing through.

Free yourself from society's advice; most people don't know what they're doing.

To stay strong, aim to complete at least 200 pushups and 100 squats per day; this will put you in better shape than 97% of people.



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What are unspoken rules you learned too late in life?

1. Your friends will come and go, but family is forever - make the most of it.


2. Follow your own instincts, not the advice of others.


3. Nobody is perfect - learn to accept your own flaws and imperfections.


4. Treat yourself as you would treat a dear friend - with love and respect.


5. Prioritize your own needs - it is ok to put yourself first.


6. Don't worry about what others think of you - worry about being your best self.


7. Success comes in many forms - work hard and celebrate each of your achievements.


8. Give and receive grace - be kind and generous with others, but also yourself.


9. Listen to your gut feeling - trust your intuition to guide you.


10. Invest in your own education and growth - stay open to new learning opportunities.


11. Put yourself out there - take calculated risks, try something new, and don't be afraid to fail.


12. Life is unpredictable - practice resilience and be ready for surprises.


13. Find balance - be in the moment and embrace moments of stillness.


14. Reject expectations of perfection - give yourself grace to fail and try again.


15. Love fiercely - care deeply and let those you love know it.



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Never ever let your self-respect go down. It is above anyone and everyone.

Never treat someone badly just because of their physical appearance, status, job and skin color

Never start depending on alcohol or drugs for your happiness and/or as motivation to complete a certain task. This dependency will make you a slave to them.

Never start cheating when you are in a relationship or married.

Never start hating anybody: Just forgive them for what they are and move on.

Never be so judgemental . You never know what kind of battle someone is fighting.

Never start ignoring the people who love you when you achieve something in life, you will realise very late what you lost.

Ignoring your parents is the worst sin one should never start doing. They made who you are.

Never start false gossips about people, this is not pleasure, it's a big sin.



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What increases intelligence besides reading books?


First recognize your ignorance as Aristotle did, this way your mind will be open to all kinds of learning. Contrary to if you live in arrogance.

Play chess every day. With just two 10-minute games every day, you'll stimulate your mind toward strategic thinking.

Jump rope, this is one of the best exercises that require coordination, therefore, it will not only keep your body in shape, but also your mind.

Mindfulness practice which is to keep your mind always in the present and not in memories of the past or worries of the future. I assure you that it will be like resetting your mind and freeing it into productive things.

Talk to people you meet in your day to day, even if you don't know them. For example, the supermarket cashier, the taxi driver, the barber etc. Social interaction with strangers stimulates your mind.

Write a response on Quora daily for a year. Writing also stimulates your creativity and makes you smarter.

Learn a new language. For this, experiments have been made with people over 80 years old, who remained mentally active thanks to studying a new language.

Learn a new skill. There are thousands of courses on the web which can teach you to draw to cook, and a long etc.

Put these points into practice and your intelligence will increase.


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Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 11mo

What are the 5 outrageous life hacks that make you more confident?

Your goals don’t care how you feel . Nobody on this earth is entitled to feel good everyday- nor can you expect to ,

Brainwash yourself into believing every girl from inside is dying to talk to you ,

Your greatest superpower is breathing slowly when things don’t go your way . Every situation in which you remained calm is gonna pay-off eventually . Rationality will always beat emotions ,

Inaction will kill your manhood faster than any soy milk , seed oil , or porn addiction ever could ,

You play a minor role in other people’s lives except your family , so stop overthinking & overanalysing things . It’s just a painful reminder that you care way too much , even when you shouldn’t,

Just Chill.!!




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  1. Nothing’s really lost until your mother can’t find it.
  2. Life tip: When nothing goes right, go to sleep.
  3. Mirror says “Yes”. Camera says “No”.
  4. Nothing ruins your Friday like realizing it’s Thursday.
  5. You know what really turns me on? Unprotected wifi.
  6. My love is like a candle, if you forget me I will burn your house down.
  7. ‘I’ll see you in court’ is the grown up version of ‘I’m telling mom’.
  8. Technically if you don’t cut a cake, it’s still only one slice.
  9. “Your secret is safe with me…and my best friends.”
  10. Going back to your ex is like having a shower and putting dirty underwear back on.
  11. The human body has 7 trillion nerves, and you manage to get on every single one of them.
  12. Sometimes all you need is a billion dollars.
  13. Favourite childhood memory: Not paying bills.
  14. That one password you use for everything and if anyone knew it, they could destroy you.
  15. I love asking kids what they want to be when they grow up because I’m still looking for ideas.
  16. Brain are awesome if only everyone had one.








































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