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Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Jun 15

What are some useful psychology facts?

1. The power of smiling is immense, as it can improve your mood and make you feel happier.


2. Holding eye contact can make people feel more connected and build trust.


3. Positive self-talk can lead to increased confidence and success in various areas of life.


4. Gratitude can improve mental health and boost overall well-being.


5. The act of helping others can also have a positive impact on one's own mental health.


6. People tend to be more attracted to those who show similar personality traits.


7. Emotions can be contagious, so it's important to surround yourself with positive influences.


8. Listening is just as important as speaking in effective communication.


9. Small acts of kindness can improve someone's day and also boost your own mood.


10. Sleep is crucial for both physical and mental health.


11. Experiences tend to bring more lasting happiness than material possessions.


12. Exposure to nature and spending time outdoors can have a positive impact on mental health.


13. Visualization can help in achieving goals and building confidence.


14. Setting achievable goals can lead to a sense of accomplishment and improved self-esteem.


15. A positive mindset and resilience can help in overcoming challenges and achieving success.



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Lived in India8mo

How do I become mentally strong?

Your self-love must be stronger than your desire to be loved.

Be emotionally independent and accept that anyone you love can leave you.

You are always responsible for your emotional reactions.

Your life will be defined by your ability to handle uncertainty.

Don’t ever be a victim of a difficult situation. Try to learn from your mistakes.

Don’t feed your problems with overthinking, starve them with action.

Don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different.

Never waste your energy on things you cannot control.


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 11mo

What are the hurting truth of life?

The world will listen only to the winners.

Shame & Failure will teach you a lot for life, which our schools and colleges fails to.

You will realize the true self of people, when your pocket is empty.

Your secrets can be used as a weapon against you, if it's in the wrong hand

People will want you to grow and achieve but not beyond them

Your mistakes are others opportunity

People will judge your character by your attire

You won't stay young forever.

People will be nice to you as long as they need you

Your virtue will not save you in old age but your saving will.


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Young Entrepreneur / Blogger6mo

What kind of mindset is common to every successful person?

#1. Acting like a beginner.


In fact, most ‘beginner’s luck’ is actually due to the beginner thinking outside the box the experts have but around themselves over time. They have unlimited possibilities in their minds.


#2. Think in terms of “we” instead of “I”.


If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. Great business require team work - after all, Jeff Bezos didn’t build Amazon alone.


#3. Keep the intentional criteria of the social circle.


The social circle around a person will deeply affects their behaviors and thinking - so it’d be ideal to make sure you’re being pushed in the right direction.


#4. A quality partner, or no partner.


Ultra-successful people don’t waste their focus on low-value things or low-value relationships. When they’re choosing who they want to spend their time with, quality always over quantity.


#5. Never fall in love with their own product.


Falling in love with your product and service can keep you in a fixed mindset. This can keep you stuck and keep you from innovating.


#6. Trying insane ideas.


Some of them use what doesn’t work as a way to find opportunities that everyone else is ignoring. Maybe the insane idea isn’t workable, but with a little experimentation, it can turn in to something that is.


#7. Be comfortable with discomfort.


Such as rejection, after realizing his fear of rejection was holding him back, the keynote speaker Jia Jiang spent 100 days getting rejected on purpose.



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Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA10mo

What is the saddest truth about life?

1. Not everything can be solved with an apology.


2. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, you might not be alive to witness that “tomorrow”.


3. Some people like being unhappy.


4. Life goes on with or without you.


5. You’re not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s cool.


6. The smile on their face doesn’t mean their life is perfect.


7. You can’t escape your negative emotions and thoughts.


8. Overthinking won’t make things better.


9. Your obsession with finding happiness is what prevents its attainment.



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Updated 3y

What small lifestyle changes have the biggest impact?


Mindful Eating: Put aside watching TV, your phone, and eat. Be mindful of what’s on your plate and your chewing. This will make you eat less, improve gut health, and grow your awareness.

Pamper Yourself: If you are overly anxious and stressed, it’s because you don't feel safe anywhere. You need to create a few safe spaces throughout your day. Find activities that make you feel taken care of. Your favorite music, a walk-in nature, soaking sunlight is a good start.

Pause Reactions: When you feel negative emotions because of an external circumstance, pause one-minute before acting. Example: Don’t get triggered when someone insults you. Instead, take a pause! During that pause, you will realize that you have the choice. You can turn the insult into a joke, ignore it, or walkway and not make a fool of yourself.

Unsubscribe Toxicity: Unfollow unrealistic Instagrams that make you question yourself. Ignore memes that validates your unhealthy habits. These habits appear minuscule at the moment but your mind compounds them. The content you consume daily compounds and influence your thoughts and actions.

Kill Expectations: “Will this work?” — as long as you ask for results, it won’t work. The disappointment that comes with it not working will make you quit. The only solution is to ask a different question, “What must I do?” — as long as you do the process and don’t care about the failures and successes, it will work.

Intake Knowledge: “Which area of life is your biggest priority?” — Wealth, health or mindset, Pick one, and take your daily dose of knowledge. If you want wealth, consume content made by wealthy people. If you want health, consume content from healthy people. Even one video/answer a day will compound and influence your thoughts and actions long-term.

Avoid Impulse Spends: Wait one day when you want to buy something. If you still need the product/service the next day, then buy it. This will make sure you don’t spend on useless wants and save money. Impulse buying keeps you poor.



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No more kidJun 1

What is the wisest thing you learned in life?

Fewer friends, less drama.keep your circle small.

Everyone leaves. You'll learn how to be alone and not feel lonely.

Not everyone is your friend, live a private life to never attract bad energy.

The less you share, the less likely people will be in your business.

Not Everthing is work always accroding to your perspective….try to adjust yourself in unfabourable situations too.

Distractions in your teenagehood can bring dramatic changes in your life…so be aware

Less you interact with toxic people<<<<<keep your mind healthy

Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live.

Life is game…play it, Life is challenge……meet it.

How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you. You need your own love to save your heart.



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Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Updated Feb 27

What is the fact that almost nobody knows about human psychology?

1. A person’s attitude towards life is influenced by the environments in which they grow up.


2. Your thoughts are shaped by your upbringing, culture and societal expectations.


3. Humans have a tendency to try and simplify complex situations into simple concepts.


4. Our mind's capacity for self-awareness is both a strength and weakness when it comes to problem solving.


5. We are often irrational when making decisions, but this doesn't mean we're illogical creatures.


6. Nonverbal communication accounts for over 70% of how we communicate with each other.


7. Self-perception is formed through interactions with our environment, including family, peers and media messages.


8. Everyone has implicit biases that influence their beliefs and behaviours, regardless of how aware they are of them or not.


9. Fear can be a powerful motivator as well as an inhibitor of personal growth depending on how it's managed and directed .


10. Emotions play a significant role in decision making processes, more than many people realize or acknowledge .



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What is it really like going through a deep, dark depression?

It's edgepocalypse isn't it? So let me answer this.


It starts fine. Instead of being a top student, you miss deadlines. Instead of waking up as early as you can, you convince yourself that you need your blanket's comfort. You lose weight without trying to. But it's all fine, you're still breathing until you don't anymore.


Going through deep dark depression is like taking a walk in the coldest weather you can imagine. You start fine. You're determined to save yourself and get to the nearest warm house possible. You feel unimaginably cold. You feel like you're dying as every second passes but your body keeps betraying you. Though you keep moving. One step, two steps, three steps, four... But as time passes and you take many steps, your feet and body become numb to the point that you don't feel anything. You know that it's cold, but you can't feel anything. And somewhere between freezing and numbness you ask yourself if you really want to get to the warm house? And you realise you don't want to be saved anymore. When your knees give up, you don't try to get up. You just sit and wait. You count seconds until your death. Watching a body that's so alien to you die slowly. You know that it will come. The only difference in depression is that you count your days instead of seconds.


Going through deep dark depression, suicidal thoughts become as normal as food and water to you. Its when sentences like I loved him more than myself become meaningless to you because you hate every bit of yourself. It's when you are willing to take a bullet for everyone in the room. It's when the only thing that calms you is your own blood. Going through deep dark depression is when you swallow sixty pills at night, and then sleep more peacefully than you ever have at the same night without any regrets. It's when you want to scream for help, but you know you don't deserve it. It's when you hurt yourself in your daydreams. Its when you kill yourself slowly everyday.


the only reason I wrote this was to convey a point. Depression is not being edgy. It's humiliating to make such comparison. Depressed people aren't edgy, they're fighting something not everyone understands. Don't label their efforts as edginess. Depression, suicide, self harm are sensitive topics that need to be addressed with care. This trend In this edgepocalypse needs to stop or maybe some definitions need to change.



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Jul 3

11 Valuable advises life will teach you


Give, but don't let others take advantage of you.

Love, but protect your heart from being hurt.

If your absence doesn't affect someone, then your presence never truly mattered to them.

Listen, but don't forget to express your own thoughts and opinions.

Trust someone completely and you'll either gain a lifelong companion or a valuable lesson.

Communication is essential for a relationship, and respect is vital for love. Trust is the foundation to keep going.

It's funny how people start wanting to be with you when you find happiness on your own.

Being unique is better than striving for perfection.

High standards shield you from negative experiences.

If someone doesn't show the same enthusiasm to talk to you, it's better to stop talking to avoid hurting yourself further.

Hurting someone takes only seconds, but repairing the damage can take years. Treasure those who love you.



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6 Laws About Self-Care & Human Psychology


People who try to keep everyone happy often end up feeling the loneliest.

Speaking in a calm and quiet voice while arguing with someone can help you assert dominance over your opponent.

Intelligent people tend to have fewer friends than the average person. The smarter the person is, the more selective they become.

People look more attractive when they speak about the things they are really interested in.

The less you reply to negative people, the more peaceful your life becomes.

Sometimes creating a little distance with people, will help to recognize how much you actually mean to them.



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Jan 29

16 WAYS TO CALM YOURSELF WHEN life IS getting TOUGH…

1. Walk: Walking helps clear your mind. It offers you a different perspective.


2. Indulge: Take a day off to spend a whole day doing exactly what you want.


3. Be Generous: Give something to a total stranger. Acts of giving make us feel warm and fuzzy inside.


4. Sit in a coffee shop or a busy street and soak up your surroundings. You don't have to talk to people.


5. Educate yourself: research what it is you are experiencing. Arm yourself with knowledge and the resources to tackle the problems head-on.



6. Preparation: Write the day's to-do list the evening before.


7. Strengths: Write down a list of 20 of your strengths.


8. Keep going forward: Keep taking small steps, no matter what. Being stagnant doesn't serve you.


9. Re-visit an old hobby: If you don't have one, create one.


10. Prioritize: Decide what's important right now. Say no to extra obligations.


11. Sleep: Get enough rest. Sleep 7-9 hours each night.


12. Be silly: Do something that you did as a child. Don't take life too seriously.


13. Cry: Release all that emotion. You will feel better.


14. Check your self-talk. Negative self-talk does not serve you.


15. Journal: Develop a habit of journaling. This will help free your mind.


16. Remind yourself that life is a journey. Remember that what you are going through is temporary, It will pass.


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Amir Kichan

Mar 5

What are some psychological facts about attracting people?

Be scarce

Whatever your dress sense is, be clean.

Stare people in the eyes while talking with them.

Never discuss other people behind their backs.

Don’t be too needy

Learn to say NO

Don’t complain all the time

Smile more

Make small talks with strangers



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Writer, Psychology Lover and Content Reader 1y

What are the top rules of your life?


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I don’t encourage false positivity. Be sad when you are sad. Cry if you must. Be angry if you are. Let it out. Then let it go. Honor your emotions, but always choose to dwell on the positive ones.


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No one is allowed to talk to you badly or be disrespectful and think that is okay. You deserve respect and kindness. If that's how people choose to act, that's fine, but they can keep that negativity far, far away from your peaceful soul.


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Pay attention to things you are naturally down to. They are often connected towards your pain, passion & purpose.


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Avoid people who trigger you at all costs. Do this to keep your peace !


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Life will become more simple, when you mind your own business.


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Never feel guilty for choosing yourself first.


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As you get older you can energetically feel the difference between people who love you and those who care at the own convenience.


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Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. When you are used to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.


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Be selective about people you hang out with. Not being selective and letting whoever or allowing yourself to be in toxic environments is not good for your health.



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To love is to dream Jan 13

What difficult truth did you finally accept?


I read somewhere that the difference between love and ego is that love wants to say sorry and ego wants to hear it.

You can do 100 good things but people will remember one mistake

Don't think bad of someone who betrayed you since there will be no difference between you and them. Be patient since life will take revenge for you.

People don't laugh with you but sometimes at you

The truth is always bitter but it is what makes you stronger

Some decisions in life require you to put your emotions aside so you don’t end up hurting yourself

Once you learn to respect yourself then people will respect you



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Passionate Writer, CA (2013 - present)9mo

What did you learn too late in life?

1. Silent moves, loud results.


2. Raise your words, not your voice.


3. When trust is broken, sorry means nothing.


4. Be who you are, not the world want you to be.


5. Keep your expectations low, and your value high.


6. Never pursue perfect, just real. Find real love online:


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7. Everybody has two sides. One they’re afraid to show and the other they fail to hide.


8. Stop giving 100% to people who give you 50%.


9. Nothing can hurt you more than your mind allows.


10. Beauty catches attention but character catches heart.


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How can I be charismatic and confident?


Okay. I've spent 10s of hours studying both topics of charisma and charismatic people. I found out that being charismatic is neither easy nor straightforward.


Charismatic people are those rare gems who happen to combine many tweaky behaviors together that turned them into brainwashing machines.


So here are 10 habits of highly confident and charismatic people. Enjoy.


They are crazy about something- Gandhi, Bill Clinton, Obama, Michelle Obama, Usain Bolt, Cristiano Ronaldo or even that charming guy at your office, they all have one thing in common. They believe strongly in an idea and this shows in how they carry themselves. It also throws a loop around you; you get blown away by the force of their belief.

They make you like yourself- My principal, the most charismatic guy I ever met, has this dazzling ability of making you feel like the only person in the world. History says the same about charismatic people. They all have a way to make others feel so good about themselves than they normally would. They make you like yourself more by being with them.

They have sweet strong voice- I've yet to watch a remarkable speaker with a cracking voice. I've always noted that the most charming guys have the sweetest and clearest voices. They talk so that you wanna listen, their voice draws you in.

They show you warmth- Charismatics have this habit of not criticizing people or downgrading others’ importance. When you talk to them, they show genuine compassion and make you feel at home. Because we're social beings, we pick up these signals subconsciously and we fall for them.

They brandish signals of power- Either you hear of their deeds or you see them in high places, or they do the seemingly impossible, or they show immense wealth and wisdom. Charismatics are known to spread out signals of their immense power everywhere they go and they manage to never say it out loud (aka brag)

They listen- Oh yes. Charming people are the best at this. They don't press their phones or take a call while talking to you. There is this unease most people feel in their presence, because they can't handle the amount of attention given to them.

They walk like the boss- Ever seen Obama walk? Bill Gates? Or Usain bolt? There is this unusual amount of energy expended when they walk. They walk like the whole world is their playground.

They have the real smile- You know that time when the salesman smiled at you and your intuition shouted out, “Beware! Danger! Run for your life!” You never feel that way in the presence of charismatics, they smile sincerely at you and it’s really cute since it's so powerful. I hope you know there's something special in the smile of people like Richard Branson

They have a handle over negativity- Even Hitler wasn't a negative man as I read about him, he was just a visionary. Charismatic people seem to have this golden touch with negativity. They may be going through the worst possible moment on earth, yet they'll still smile at you. These people are truly special.

They make everyone know they ain't perfect- Every charming guy I've met has this ability to show in conversation that they ain't perfect. They tell you that they are only trying their best. They always have a flaw and they don't hide it. Steve Jobs had his flaws, Marilyn Monroe had hers, and so do Gandhi and Obama. They don't try to appear godlike.





What is a dead give-away that you are dealing with an intuitive rather than a sensing personality type?

It’s more like multiple dead giveaways combined. Any sensor can say or do something intuitive, so don’t assume based on just a couple instances.


Intuitive Behavior


Spaces out a lot (esp IN types)

Loves talking about hypothetical situations (“if you were a doctor, if we were stuck in an elevator” etc.)

Uses a lot of metaphors or analogies in speech

Clumsy, frequently misses things that are right in front of them

Describes things as they could be, rather than as they are

Scattered/poor memory

Learns through metaphors and hypothetical scenarios

Analyzes hidden motives or things that aren’t apparent

Frequently speaks in future tense (“if x happens, y will happen”)

Quickly recognizes patterns

Examples…


Watching a movie


ENFJ: He’s gonna say “it’s all my fault” like every protagonist ever.


Main character: It’s all my fault.



Kpop music video


INFP: Stationary vehicles in 3…2…


MV: *cue people sitting on motorcycles*


INTJ: Someone’s gonna eat fruit at some point


MV: *person approaches apple tree*



Dating app


INTP: Let’s see…chain necklace, no shirt, Calvin Klein underwear visible….this guy will probably cheat after the first date.



Dumb Shit


Door: *sign clearly says push*


ENTJ: *vigorously pulls*



Dumb Shit (the sequel)


ENTP: I can’t find my sunglasses!


ESFJ: They’re on your head.



Conversation


ENFP: Let’s say I’m Schrödinger’s cat, and this subliminal space around me is a Christmas box…


ISTP: ._.


INFJ: And I’m Santa Claus



Describing an Empty Lot


ENTP: This place looks like the setting for a true crime documentary.



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 Mar 15

How can you tell if a person is in love with you?

1. They express their feelings for you often.


2. They prioritize you and make time for you in their life.


3. They show genuine interest in your life and listen attentively when you talk


4. They are consistently supportive and encouraging


5. They express concern for your well-being and happiness.


6. They are affectionate towards you, such as holding your hand or hugging you often.


7. They make an effort to make you laugh and smile.


These are just some indicators, but it's also important to have open communication with the person and discuss your feelings towards one another.


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Cosmetic Chemist at Luisa True Skincare (2020–present)Updated 9mo

What are the daily habits to age well?


Here is a science based list with my top habits to age well.


Wear sunscreen every day and reapply it multiple times a day. This is the first thing one should do if they want to age well! Sun accounts for about 90% of visible aging signs like wrinkles and discolorations. I will also say that at the same time sunlight has tremendous benefits for the body and the mood- Don’t avoid it at all costs or be obsessed about it. I am not the sunscreen police - just use your common sense.

Avoid sugar as much as possible. Not only it is bad for our general health, but for our skin as well. I explain in detail why sugar and other foods make you age faster in this answer: What is an anti-aging secret that not many people know about?

Eat foods that contain collagen, healthy fats, and antioxidants. These are foods we all know and love, nothing too expensive or exotic (I am not going to tell you that you should eat some fruit that only grows once every one million years in Antarctica). In this answer you can find a list of foods that contain antioxidants: What foods have antioxidant?

Treat your skin with care. Don’t scrub your eyes too hard while taking off your makeup or washing your face in the morning; the skin in the eye area is thinner and more delicate than on the rest of your face, and that’s why the first wrinkles tend to appear there. Use gentle products on your skin…you only have one after all!

Use science-based anti aging skincare products. Vitamin C, Niacinamide, Retinol and other ingredients are excellent and have been used for a very long time for anti aging purposes. They have plenty of evidence supporting their action, unlike some other trending ingredients that are just fads. Serums are the best option because of the high percentages of active ingredients, so I’d recommend you to buy those instead of creams or toners.

Avoid harmful substances. While this must sound obvious, I could not not mention it. Smoking, drinking or using illegal substances can wreck your skin, and that’s far from the worst that could happen from it. I was a smoker for years and quitting was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I cannot undo the fact that I damaged my body for a long time, but at least I am not doing it anymore and I am extremely focused on living a healthy life.

Exercise. Physical exercise has been proven to keep us young and healthy.[1]

Try to manage stress the best way you can. The more stressed we are, the faster we’re going to age. Of course it’s impossible to avoid stress altogether, but is is possible to at least try to decrease it. Cut contact with toxic people or environments. I know it’s not easy because I’ve been through it. It takes time. My ex partner was a narcissist; dealing with her was a daily stress. At that time my skin was constantly itchy and I had back pain for no reason. Now that It’s over I don’t have those symptoms anymore. Meditation and yoga reiki have helped me a lot overcome the chronic stress. There’s quite a lot of evidence suggesting how stress and inflammation are linked to skin conditions such as eczema and acne.



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Successful investor, financial consultant and entrepreneur4y

What financial rules should a 20 year old follow to become wealthy?

My top 10.


I wish I’d started at 20. But a least I learned.


I’m a little slow but I made up for it.


No excuses. No more “right afters”. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve talked to who in their 50’s really really wish they’d started in their 20’s. So start now. You don’t need to hit home-runs. Singles will win if you get enough of them.

Quit chasing the next Apple. Frankly, Apple came really close to not being the next Apple. You won’t magically find it. So stop looking. Instead invest in a diversified basket. You just might get lucky and discover you have it 10 years from now.

Give up your dream. Your dream of becoming a millionaire quick. For everyone who does there are 10 who blew themselves up trying. Don’t worry about becoming a millionaire in your 30’s. Just focus on becoming one in your 60’s. That’s enough.

Stop timing. I’ve talked to 20’s young people sitting in cash afraid to invest. And in trying to protect their assets over the next 6 months they blow themselves up over the next 40 years. Focus on the long term not the short term. Time heals a lot of wounds.

Ignore the pundits. Those talking on TV about the market and touting their newest book. The only ones getting rich are them. If it even worked, by the time you buy it it won’t any longer. Instead truly educate yourself then you’ll know what works.

Quit trying to score. Stop waiting to make a huge killing in an investment. Most who try end up under the bus. Instead invest money every month. Good and bad. Up and down. And be thrilled when the market crashes because you’re buying everything on sale.

Forget the charts. All those charts people claim show you exactly when and what to buy. Foolproof they promise. Well it is for them. Think about it. If it was guaranteed, why the hell would they share it? Just keep investing no matter what the charts say.

Ignore the news. News broadcasts only focus on the bad anyway. All it does is freak you out and cause you to make mistakes. Focus instead on what you can control. Do that long enough and you’ll have all the good news you can handle.

Stop being boring. Truthfully, some people become so obsessed with wealth they miss enjoying life. I’ll tell you it goes by freaking fast. So work to build wealth. And to build in fun every day. You may not get quite as wealthy but you’ll be a lot richer.

Stop reading. Enough of this. I’ve met people who spent their whole life preparing. And never got around to accomplishing their dreams. So start. Take one step. Learn. Take another. And one day you’ll wake up and realize you made it.



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What are the subtle signs of a highly gifted individual?

Here are two lists that I prepared a couple of years ago:


Traits often found in intelligent people:


high working memory capacity, facilitating math ability, rapid learning, and ability to stay on task

mental speed is high, allowing the high WMC to be used efficiently

learns quickly

can learn by self-instruction

can block out stimuli that distract from the cognitive task at hand

statistically holds a high status job with high pay

has high general health and is less likely to suffer accidental injuries

is statistically more symmetric (body and face) than average

has a higher than average education

enjoys a high level of socioeconomic status - partly displayed by living in a more exclusive neighborhood, having high social standing friends, etc.

enjoys greater life satisfaction and happiness

has a superior memory

has a large number of interests, held with competence

is less likely to smoke, or have HIV infection

is unlikely to have a criminal record

does not drop out of school

less likely to have a child when a teenager or to have an illegitimate child

All of these traits are thoroughly documented in the scholarly literature. A good starting point is Jensen, A. R. (1998). The g factor: The science of mental ability. Westport, CT: Praeger and Haier, R. J. (2017). The Neuroscience of Intelligence, Cambridge University Press.

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My list of statistical indicators of bright students:


Bright students will show understanding of their coursework by making good grades and by handing in not a minimum effort on homework, but a more than required completeness.

They will ask intelligent questions in class.

They will read informative books that are not assigned as homework.

They will initiate projects to build and study things, not as school work but because they want to learn.

They will show that they can and will teach themselves subjects that are not taught in school, or are only taught at higher grade levels.

They learn faster and show the ability to connect learned material from different courses or sources.

They will learn vocabulary rapidly, not by studying words, but by eduction.

They will be good at math. This is a central element of intelligence that taps working memory capacity.

They are not easily distracted; they focus on the task at hand and block unrelated stimuli.

Their parents are highly intelligent.

They have many interests and do well, not in a single area, but in most things they try.

They display excellent memory and long term memory retrieval.

They are mentally faster than their age peers.

They are not disruptive nor do they get into trouble (rule violations and real criminal activities).



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What to do when life gets tough?


Remember that great things take time.

Allow yourself to feel bad.

Be kind to yourself.

Don't compare yourself to others.

Be generous to yourself.

Forget what people think about you.

Do workout.

Remember you're stronger than you think.


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What are the 5 lessons you learnt living alone?


1.Loneliness - You learn can be alone and not feel lonely or you can be surrounded by people and be completely lonely. The decision lies within you.


2.Freedom - You are free to be your complete self. No external judgements or opinions on how you live your life.


3.Taking Things For Granted - Missed events, birthdays and celebrations. Living alone means making sacrifices. Make them count.


4. Responsibility - Paying bills, cleaning, cooking, doing the dishes, shopping and all other chores soon teach you self-reliance and responsibility. Noone else is coming to do these things for you.


5.Time Management - Losing focus or struggling with productivity becomes a thing of the past. You are the only one who can account for the time you spend. You quickly learn discipline.


6.Enjoying Your Own Company - You will become comfortable with being alone. Suddenly, doing the things you’ve always wanted to do becomes possible and is fun.


7.Relationships - The only person you have to turn to is yourself. The relationships you maintain are the ones that truly matter.


8. Self Confidence - Nothing tests you like living alone. Completing small accomplishments by yourself everyday makes you realize your worth.


9. Finance - Managing money teaches you many lessons. Gone are the days of spending recklessly on things you don’t value.


10. Independence - You don’t know independence until you live alone. Adulting becomes a reality. You learn to take care of yourself no matter what.



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What things are just not worth the effort?

Here are 10 things that are not worth the effort.



Toxic people: Whether they are childhood friends or your family. Nobody deserves to put you down. Nobody deserves to make you feel like trash.

People pleasing: You don’t have to make everyone like you. You can refuse to help, answer or reply, it’s your time. You shouldn’t be available 24/7.

Meaningless work: How long will you stay in that dead-end job? You only get one life. It would be a shame to spend it on building someone else's dreams.

Excessive Guilt: Didn’t exercise? Didn’t do what you said? It’s okay. You are already good enough. Beating yourself up is never a steady motivator.

Comparing yourself: You are a different person on a different journey. So will be your life, health, relationships. Don’t compare your chapter 1 with someones chapter 52.

Perfectionism: So what if you can’t do it right? You don’t have to do everything perfectly. Imperfect action is always greater than no action.

Pretending: Be yourself. You don’t have to be someone to be liked by people. There are plenty of people who will like you for you. Go find them.

Complaining: Yes, it isn’t fair. Yes, it sucks. But bitching about it won’t change a thing. What can you do to make it better?

Bad content: Watching stuff that makes you feel bad. Sad songs, negative news, bad movies, etc. Believe it or not, they all play out in your mind unconsciously.

Social media: Why do you need Karen to like your post? Do you need to get approval from people you hate? Chasing likes is never a good thing.



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What is some of the best advice you don't hear very often?

Don't try too hard to be so good for everyone. It's okay to be yourself at other times.

Don't pretend to care. If you don't care its okay to let it be.

Choose yourself over your friends.

Don't worry about your results before working hard for it.

Try to get your work done all by yourself.

Take care of yourself and your loved ones physically and mentally.

Focus on self improvement rather than focusing on people's success.

Work on your skills every day without an excuse.


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What useful habits have changed your life?


These three habits have made a big difference in how I manage my every day. And I’ll provide one goal that I work towards as I practice each one.


Habit #1. Ask one question each morning: What is the ONE THING I am committed to learning today?


Goal: Improve focus.


This habit keeps things simple, helps my brain focus better, makes me prioritize goals, and streamlines my work so I don’t feel overwhelmed by a thousand things I have to do. You can do the same in just a couple of minutes. Write it in big letters on a sheet of paper and hang it on your bedroom or bathroom wall. Read it out loud and come up with an answer on the spot as you’re brushing your teeth or getting dressed. Then, keep it top of mind as you go about your day, as a reminder of what you’ve committed to do.


Habit #2. Do at least one “deep work” cognitive task early.


Goal: Better concentration + time management.


Deep work can be any kind of analytical thinking that requires the most concentration such as reading, writing, analyzing or problem solving. It requires a different kind of focus from other more tactical things we do on a regular basis, from washing dishes to setting our alarm clock in the evening before going to sleep. To maximize your brain’s peak performance time, use the early morning hours to solve one cognitive task that will make the rest of the day easier. If for example you wake up at 7, use your peak time until 11 a.m. to finish something important — read, write, do research, complete a challenging section of a project you’re working on.


Habit #3. Say a simple “thank you” for everything you have in your life.


Goal: Live a life of abundance, not scarcity.


When I say “thank you” I am practicing gratitude. This small habit that takes 5 minutes to do rewires my brain to think about positive things, the things that I have going for me, instead of the things I do not have and that can leave me feeling frustrated and unhappy. Everyone has at least something going for them, it’s just that these things are often neglected or taken for granted. Find 3 things you are grateful for — having a warm bed to sleep in, good health, a family or community you’re part of, having a computer or mobile phone you’re using to read this answer, or making progress this week towards reaching a personal goal. Sit down and list these things out loud, or if you prefer keep a daily gratitude journal and add to it each morning or right before bedtime.



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What is the reason for why awakened people seem so emotionless?

Awakened ones don’t run on emotions. Emotions are essentially the driving force behind a human life, they are the strongest, most important, most significant aspects of human experience. Humans, generally speaking, organize their life entirely based on emotions, they choose, decide, act, based on emotions.


Awakened ones do not operate in this way. They are not driven by emotions, their existence is not an expression of their emotions - it is an expression of awareness.


They choose, decide, act out of awareness, not out of feelings.


The feelings are there, but they are not in charge. From the point of view of someone whose life is organized around feelings, one whose life is organized around awareness instead might seem entirely emotionless.



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What are the best ways to make your life easier?

Don’t take things personally: This is very difficult for some, and something I’m working on. It’s important to own your reality in life, not someone else's. If someone judges you it has more to do with them than you.

Relationships: When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time. Wasting time on toxic abusive people is mentally, and physically draining.

Health: Taking care of general health, with proper nutrition is often overlooked. It sure can make life easier as you age.

Solitude:Learn to be ok being alone. So many people have to be in a relationship. They have to be surround by tons of friends or somebody 24/7. You can learn a lot about yourself with some solitude. Don’t spend your whole life running from yourself. Never know who you are.

Social Media: 95% of what you see or read on there is fake. Everyone’s trying to portray an image to impress someone while underneath their life is nothing like they portray.

Life: Be easy on yourself, life can be tough sometimes. Negative self talk does no good, but a heightened sense of awareness does.

Gratitude List: Make a small list of 3 things you are grateful for each day.

Addiction: If you find yourself abusing alcohol, food or drugs address the issue. It won’t get better and there is a great life without the addiction.

Road less traveled: Don’t take the road everyone else is on, or what you were told to take growing up. Take the road you want, what makes you happy. It’s your life!

Differences: Don’t worry about being right or wrong. Don’t force your opinion on anyone. So much easier to “let it go” instead of wasting the energy, even if you know you are right.

Pain: Lastly, life is full of mental anguish. Learn to sit in that pain briefly, learn from it, and push though. The best way through a terrible situation is to keep moving, if you stop, life can seem unbearable.



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What are some tricks to wealth building that few know about?

It isn’t so much that few `don’t know about` things, but that few implement some of these things;


No need to reinvent the wheel


Many people assume you can only get rich from being smart

You need some great strategy

Or need a lot of money to begin with

But actually, tried and tested wealth management solutions work just as well today, as 30 years ago, or 100 years ago

2. REITS



A 10% allocation to REITS can slightly increase returns, and lower volatility at the same time

In comparison, government bonds reduce volatility, but also reduce returns

That doesn’t mean neglect bonds, but REITS are a great alternative to direct real estate

3. Turn off the TV and valuations



Many people know that market timing and stock picking, for DIY investors, doesn’t make sense

But why do many people do it?

I honestly think that online valuations and the media contribute to this

50 years ago, people didn’t have online valuations or 24/7 cable news

Now people can check their valuations online. Is that a good thing though? People are more likely to panic if markets are down

I am not suggesting don’t have these things, but the individual should know that being passive, beats being active

Just buying and holding is best

4. Celebrate market falls!



Most people want great returns

But remember two things. Firstly, nobody knows which years or decades will be better or worse.

However, if your best returns are later on, you will make more money

Investor 1 makes 15% per year for 15 years, then 2%. Investor 2 makes 2% per year for 15, and then 11% from years 16–30. Investor 2 will actually make more money, as the good returns are coming when the account is worth more!

If you start investing $1,000 a month, and markets rise by 20% for the first 2 years, you are making 20% of a small amount.

If you make 20%, in comparison, in year 2, you are making 20% on a big amount

So if returns are weak for a period of time, that is good for the long-term investor

From 1960 until 1990, returns were 10%. But 0% inflation adjusted from 65 until 82, in the US. Again though, that was just an opportunity for the long-term investor to buy cheaply, until markets performed incredibly well from 82 until 90 and beyond.



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What are the most difficult things people have to learn in their 30s?

Your childhood, or college friends are now busy. They have their lives. A simple catch-up seems so complicated to arrange. You now have to learn how to live without seeing your friends everyday.

Responsibilities. Name it loans, job roles, relationships, taxes. All those usual suspects. Learn to deal with them, not to avoid/forget them.

Things start to happen. Some of your relatives are getting married and having babies. As you noticing this, you start quietly questioning yourself: When it’s my turn? Big mistake. Let things flow. You have to go your own path. Live and enjoy your life and eventually your turn will come.

More things happen. Some family members are getting older and unavoidably are passing away. This is what we call life. You have to learn to move on no matter what.

Personal finance. You now have to learn to save and invest money and not spend it without tomorrow. Remember: The older you grow, the less risk-tolerant you become.

Skills. You are in your thirties. Long ago finished with college and perhaps holding a good senior job position. This doesn’t mean that you are ok how you are. Learn how to learn always and everywhere, constantly improving your skillset.

Change. If you are not satisfied with your studies, career, or the overall path of your life to date, change it. Now is the best time to do so. The second one is in your 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, 80’s. Learn that change is always good and never is too late.

Alcohol and Drugs. The hangover of the next day is sometimes unbearable. If you compare the pros and the cons of, I am pretty sure you understand that excessive drinking and consuming is such a bad idea.

Fitness. You are still young, but you feel way more low on energy than in your 20’s. Something like you start losing your edge. Learn to take care of your body, exercise, eat better food. Your body and your mind are the best friends of yours for the entirety of your life. Take good care of them.

Relationships. People and interpersonal relationships are complex by nature. Even more so if you are at this special age (30’s) when many new things happen at a very fast pace. Learn to compromise, give space and time.



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How do you go deep into the subconscious mind to find out what do you really want?

Our conscious mind is simply a tip of the iceberg and one has to go deep persistently to unlock the true potential. Few activities that can help to go deep within :


1.Meditation: Practicing meditation can take a person deep into subconscious and can reach a state of dreaming. Scientifically, it's proven now that brain patterns become slower and more stable as the chattering mind becomes near silent.


Researchers have identified several different types of brain waves and categorised as below:


-Delta waves (below 4 hz) occur during sleep


-Theta waves (4-7 hz) are associated with deep relaxation and visualization


-Alpha waves (8-13 hz) occur during calmness


-Beta waves (13-38 hz) occur when we are actively thinking and alert



It's understood that our brain is normally functioning in the ‘beta’ pattern. During meditation, our brain patterns stabilise and move from beta first to alpha and then to theta. During deep stages of meditation, brain is observed to be projecting delta patterns. This is to understand that over a period of time, one will notice a change in the way one thinks and be able to calm the mind slow enough to tap into the subconscious naturally. Initial stages of meditation may seem to be painful by having thoughts which are popping out of nowhere. It is important to let them flow and as one continues practice, one will become more skilled in being an ‘observer’ with the conscious mind. This is the point where one can reap the benefits of accessing subconscious mind and one can get great ideas and solutions to their current problems they are facing.


2. Get creative: Our subconscious does not use words but uses our creativity to express itself. Be it art, music or simple gardening, it's advised to engage in creative pursuits to know what our subconscious might be telling us


3. Trust your gut: Generally the first thing which one hears from within is considered to be our subconscious talking to us, but it's just that we are most of the time in a rush. Next time if we take any decisions, it's good to sit back and listen carefully the voices from within. It will guide and take us where we have to go. Trust them


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BS in Computer Science, University of Wisconsin - Madison (Graduated 2023)2y

What novels have the best opening lines or opening paragraphs?

“I’m pretty much fucked. That’s my considered opinion. Fucked.” - The Martian.

“It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.” - Pride and Prejudice.

“It is a truth universally acknowledged that a zombie in possession of brains must be in want of more brains.” - Pride and Prejudice and Zombies.

“Lolita, light of my life, fire of my loins.” - Lolita.

“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…” - A Tale Of Two Cities.

“Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way” - Anna Karenina.

“It was a pleasure to burn.” - Fahrenheit 451.

“In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move." - The Restaurant at the End of the Universe.




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What skills can make you ultra wealthy?

Only the ultra-wealthy understand this:


Hard work alone does NOT generate wealth.


The notion that hard work leads to wealth may have held true in the past, but in today's rapidly evolving technology-driven world, relying solely on skill improvement will not lead to wealth creation.


Business leverage is needed.


If you don't understand this, your skills may make you rich, but it will be IMPOSSIBLE to accumulate weath.


Entrepreneurship

Investing

Financial management

Networking

Sales and marketing

Digital skills (e.g. coding, data analysis)

Negotiation

Strategic thinking

Problem solving

Continuous learning and adaptation.


hard work is the baseline. if you don’t have a solid base, you cannot grow anyway. All other points are built upon it.


There are many interesting facts about psychology that are not commonly discussed or well-known. Here are a few examples:

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  1. The placebo effect works even when people know they are taking a placebo. Studies have shown that even when participants are told they are taking a sugar pill with no active ingredients, they can still experience a placebo response.
  2. Our memories are not always accurate. Research has shown that our memories are often distorted by our biases, emotions, and the passage of time. We may also unconsciously fill in gaps in our memories with false information.
  3. The way we perceive time can be influenced by our emotions. When we are anxious or afraid, time may seem to slow down, while happy moments can seem to fly by.
  4. People who use more swear words tend to be more honest. A study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science found that people who use profanity are less likely to be lying or trying to deceive others.
  5. Social rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain. Research has shown that when people experience social rejection, the same areas of the brain that process physical pain are activated.
  6. Music can affect our mood and behavior in many ways. Studies have shown that listening to music can improve our mood, reduce stress, increase focus, and even boost athletic performance.
  7. People who are more empathetic tend to experience stronger physical reactions to the emotions of others. Research has found that highly empathetic individuals show more activation in their mirror neurons, which are involved in imitation and empathy, when they observe others experiencing emotions.


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What is the piece of advice you should know to be successful in your career?


Be a lion. Take the lead.

Be adaptable and flexible.

Develop courage.

Learn one skill and become an expert in it.

Work smarter, not harder.

Avoid the “shiny object syndrome".

Stay fiercely focused, persistent, and consistent.

Change your mindset. Maintain self awareness and personal growth.

Invest in yourself. Read books, and become a learning machine. Learn a new thing every day.

Become a quick listener, and a slow talker.

Be as patient as a crocodile.

Develop the vision and eye of an eagle.

Have faith and maintain optimism.

Believe in yourself.

Be hungry for success.

Don’t be swayed or slowed down by criticism.

Be on the lookout for new ideas and opportunities.

Be creative. Model but don't blindly copy what other people are doing.

Be tough in a tough world.

Don't be selfish. Help other people as you move up your career ladder.



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What did you learn too late in life?

Parents over anyone.❣️

Present over future.

Silent over vilant..

Career over love.

Skills over degrees.

Good things over bad things..

Health over wealth.

Mentally strong over emotional fool.

Brain over heart.

Real over reel.

Peace over money.

Reality over social media.

Asset over liabilities.

Inner beauty over outer beauty.


The thing is, you’re not the voice in your head. You’re something else.


In fact, the “self” doesn’t even really exist, but that’s a conversation for another day. Today, we’re focusing on internal liberation.


When you realize that your experience is dictated by more than just your thoughts, feelings, and actions, it becomes far easier to rise above your thoughts.


Your thoughts only mean as much as the weight that you attach to them.




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What are some of the best exam hacks or tricks?


(1) Serve your answers on a silver platter


I had a friend in college who came top of his engineering class.


His exam answers were shorter than mine, but he got better grades.


It took me a while to figure out why. But when I did, my approach to exams changed forever…


His hack - Being concise and to the point, on every single answer.


Sounds simple right?


But this is what I believe separates the good students from the great.


He critically thought about each question before putting pen to paper.

He answered each question with ONLY the correct answer. No more, no less.

He didn’t write long complex answers to sound smart or include extra information to ‘maybe’ get extra marks.

His answers followed a simple format - Here are my assumptions. Here is my answer. And here is how I got there.

The power of being concise becomes more obvious when you understand how lecturers mark exams.


Lecturers have hundreds of exams to mark. That’s thousands of individual questions. And their mission during marking is to find the correct answer on your page, as fast as possible.


As a student, your mission is to serve that correct answer to them on a silver platter.


(2) Adopt a Sergeants Mindset


Imagine yourself walking into the exam hall. You are calm, confident, and focused.


Today is all about procedure. The one you have practiced over and over again.


Operation final exam begins:


Locate seat, write down details and prepare equipment.

3hr exam, 20 questions in total, 9minutes per question.

Review exam instructions and strategize your targets.

Exam starts. Answer the questions you know first.

Read questions closely. Some are deceptive.

Write an asterisk next to hard questions. Return for those later.

Keep an eye on the clock. Time is critical.

Deep breaths and drink water. Keep the mind and body alert.

Once complete, review answers. Stop at nothing!

Equipment down. relax.

Operation final exam is a success.



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Is studying Friedrich Nietzsche's philosophy harmful to mental health?


Friedrick Nietzsche


Based on my own personal experience, I think that anyone coming into it from a strong religious background can find the exposure jarring. It really amounts to a heaping helping of nihilism, and many inquirers raised in a strict evangelical environment may find it overwhelming.


To be sure, the vast majority of evangelicals simply will turn away, dismissing it as a cleverly contrived ruse by Satan. A few, a mere handful, will keep scratching, and Dr. Zaius’ sage advice comes to mind: “Don't look for it, Taylor - you may not like what you find!”


Indeed, regarding exposure to Nietszche, another one of Zaius’ observations is worth invoking: As social critics go, he really is “a menace - a walking pestilence!”


Nietzsche even referred to himself as dynamite, and to evangelicals and others with strong, uncompromising beliefs, he really is. He exposed his contemporaries to a world in which scientific discovery and investigations on other wide fronts would erode the narrative - the enchanted narrative that had prevailed within and bound together the West for almost two-thousand years. It is an inherently nihilistic message, albeit one that foreshadows something akin to a response - not necessarily a solution but a series of observations regarding how humanity, at least, singular human beings, ultimately will begin charting a new course after this collapse.


I, for one, found my exposure to Nietszche and other post-Christian thinkers as deeply disruptive. In my case, though, I kept scratching and eventually began fleshing out my own world view at least partly inspired by Nietzsche and others with somewhat similar views.


Yet, I don't recommend that exposure to everyone, certainly those who share my childhood background, because Nietszche's views really are dynamite.


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What are 20 things absolutely worthwhile in life?


Being yourself in spite of what people expect from you.

Challenging your negative thoughts — not letting them take control.

Finding happiness in the now — instead of putting it off to the future.

Being in the driver seat of your life and deciding what’s best for you.

Making a lot of mistakes and learning from them.

Get in the habit of taking action — instead of waiting for the right time.

Lifting yourself up with positive self-talk.

Not giving up on the things that matter to you.

Giving up on the things that don’t matter to you.

Taking care of yourself and treating yourself with respect.

Letting go what’s not in your control and focusing on what is.

Not letting other people tell you who you are — making your identity.

Comparing yourself to your past self — not with other people.

Not buying things you don’t need, not caring about impressing people.

Not letting people destroy you in the name of friendships and family.

Processing your feelings and not escaping into entertainment.

Trying out new things — expanding your comfort zone.

Knowing that social media isn’t reality and focus on living your own life.

Taking action on what you read and not just consume content.

Treating people with respect even if they can’t help you.



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What did you learn too late in life?

Social media is a waste of time. Ever since I deleted my WhatsApp and Instagram, I can say that I'm much more happier than before.

A relationship isn't going to last forever if I ignore red flags.

Midnight and music heals a lot.

Life goes on without anything and with everything.

Novels are worth everything (Jane Austen and Wuthering heights>>>>>).

Everybody is strong. It just needs situations to unleash that strength.

Not giving an f to negative people is indeed a subtle art.

Relationships and marriages which remain strong as ever even after the honeymoon period are a real bliss.

While chasing your dreams, take some time out for yourself.

Love in unconditional. Sharing nudes and password, placing restrictions etc is certainly not love.

Money is important. Believe me or not. But it can't buy happiness or class.

People come and go. We can't fret and cry over them forever thinking “What went wrong?” Nothing went wrong dear, it's just that he or she is not meant to be with you.

Take care of your priorities and set your priorities right.

Love can be a disaster for people who don't value their self-respect.

Never go back to someone who didn't value you. Be it friend or lover or brother.



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Do "self-taught" people generally have a higher IQ?

There are a lot of studies going back to the 70s showing that kids at the higher end of gifted IQ do not need instruction and often suffer in the classroom as a result. These kids are better educated with mentors and unstructured learning at their own extremely rapid pace.


I think there is lots of evidence that gifted kids tend towards autodidactism.


In my family of gifted alone:


Grandpa = Autodidact


Dad = Autodidact


Uncle = Autodidact


Brother = Autodidact


Me = Autodidact


Aunt = Autodidact


Every gifted person in our family is an autodidact who has succeeded in a highly technical and or advanced field either without or well beyond their formal education.


Now that is not a guarantee that someone less smart cannot self educate, but the data shows it is far more likely for a gifted person to self educate with mentor support, and in some ways is preferable for the highest IQ kids, especially prior to the collegiate level.


Anecdotally I would say that folks who are self educated in an highly technical or advanced profession tend to be smarter than their traditionally educated colleagues.


This is due to achieving because of raw talent, drive, and most of all curiosity absent any formal guild system blessing of competence.



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What are the behaviors of a confident person?

They never react, they respond.

They give utmost priority to their dressing style and body language.

They walk slow and talk in a confident manner.

They hide their emotions well.

They don't take criticism to heart and appreciation to mind.



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What is the most helpful piece of advice you've ever received from a person who knows how to improve their life?

Start by realizing that it may not be your fault but it is your problem nevertheless and so strive to always take responsibility for your life.

Stop trying to be happy all the time, the pursuit of those short lived highs will lead you to really stupid decisions and actions

Consider who you could be, in light of your circumstances and abilities and then aim at it.

You're not meant to be liked by everyone heck you don't even like most people.


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Linda Collins

Owner, Freelance writer (2013–present)2y

What are the signs you need to love yourself more?

1. You suffer from impostor syndrome.


2. You always feel exhausted.


3. You apologize continually for things that don’t need an apology.


4. You don’t allow yourself to take time off.


5. You feel guilty about spending money on fun things.


6. You put your wishes and expectations of others first.


7. You’re self-critical, only seeing your flaws and feeling unworthy.


8. You keep punishing yourself over the past.


9. You neglect your health and appearance.


10. You have a hard time saying no to things.


11. You judge yourself for the mistakes.


12. You don’t accept compliments with a genuine heart.


13. Your first reaction when seeing yourself in the mirror is negative.


14. You settle for mediocre partners.


15. You often put yourself down with what you say.








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