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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 3y

Life advice: If you have to give an advice from your life experiences for a better life, what would it be?

Don’t be so caught up in the idea of finding love that you forget to find yourself,

There’s nothing in this world worth more than your peace of mind ,

We all want love. We all want to be heard . It’s really as simple as that,

Once you know your capabilities you no longer feel the need to prove them. Learning your power is the most powerful thing you can do,

Have the courage to end cycles of self destruction & self sabotage,

Stop disempowering yourself to empower others,

Stop tolerating shit that doesn’t make you happy, life’s too short !,

Keep on growing. Keep on checking yourself. Keep on motivating yourself,

Sometimes you’re the toxic person. Sometimes the problem is you, & that doesn’t make you less worthy ,

The purest form of love, I think, is having someone who wants to learn about you, from you & with you,

Sometimes you’ve to chill & vibe alone, & that’s okay,

Be open with your love & loud with your laughter, life is so much brighter when lived genuinely,

If you’re good & kind to the world, you’ll find the world granting you goodness & kindness back ,

Let a new life happen to you,

Just Chill.!!

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Matthew Bates

Teacher (2009–present)5y

What's the best way to react when someone is shouting at you in anger?

Just follow these steps:

Don’t say anything. Just look at them while they shout.

Wait until they are finished.

Ask them if they are finished. If they say yes, say either:

Do you feel better now? Then continue on as if they said nothing.

Nothing. Just continue on as if they said nothing.

I like this method because it puts them out on a limb by themselves. Don’t walk out on that limb with them. It makes them look silly because they’re alone out there.

This works for children having temper tantrums as well.

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David McPhee

Ph.D. in Psychology, University of Minnesota - Twin Cities (Graduated 1994)Updated 2y

What is way more emotionally/mentally damaging than most people think?

Let me talk about kids and young people and what can damage them the most.

Long term emotional neglect. If you are neglected by caregivers — not touched, not treasured, not seen and barely noticed, your heart will die a little every day. You will either decide you have no value or you will do whatever it takes to get the attention you crave. Both will lead to disaster.

Long term emotional abuse. It sounds crazy, but this may be less damaging than complete neglect. It’s bad, but at least you are real and alive and seen. Still, like the neglected child, you may grow up to be hateful, abusive yourself, or you may seek out abusive relationships because that’s all you know.

Substance abuse in children and teens. This is much worse than for adults, because kids are wired to develop psychologically at a fairly rapid pace. Being stoned or drunk or high interrupts the course of development. We don’t get a second chance at childhood or adolescence, even if some of the damage can be repaired later.

Traumatizing experiences without adequate support. Long, serious illnesses, major accidents, and big losses like a nasty divorce, can interrupt healthy development. High conflict divorce is a double whammy because kids are hurt by parental conflict, and parents may disappear into their own issues, making matters worse.

Being different. Kids who feel different because they are too fat, or too slow, or too clumsy, or sexually different can really suffer. Often they get only generic pep talks that minimize their pain and sense of exclusion. In our evolution, being a member of the tribe meant survival, so kids long for it. Exclusion for long periods can be seriously damaging.

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Asim Qureshi

Former Vice President at Morgan Stanley (company)4y

What would be your best advice for a young person who just started their career?

I received this excellent advice at the start of my career from one of my bosses at Morgan Stanley. I can't remember the exact words but it went something like this…

"Ok, Asim, so appreciate that you're no longer at university which offered you a service.

The tables are now turned. You are not paying for your time here. You're being paid. So, the question is now what can you bring to the table? What have you got to offer?

You have nothing in the way of skills because everything you know is useless.

But, I tell you what, you haven’t been through years of grind that the rest of the team have been through. You are innocent and fresh, and should be full of energy, enthusiasm and hope.

Don't worry, we'll kill every last drop of that. Eventually. One day you'll be as miserable as the rest of us. But not now.

So, for now, you need to lift the entire office with a f***ing awesome attitude. You need to make everyone else’s life a little less miserable by being so excited. That's what you bring to this table. You got that?”

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Akansha Prajapati

Knows EnglishMay 14

What are the morning habits one should follow?

Morning time is our golden hours of the day. It sets the tone and mood for the entire day.

If we spend our morning blissfully then the whole day will follow it.

So, here are some healthy morning habits which one should follow.

Wake up early.

Make your bed.

*Avoid phone or any electronic distractions- no social media.

Drink 4–5 glass of lukewarm water, adding honey and lemon. It detoxify your body, clears your gut and keeps your body hydrated.

Brush your teeth and take a bath.

Do exercise/yoga/ or gym. It keeps you physically active and energetic throughout the day.

Spend time with nature. Inhale fresh morning air or just observe nature around you. It balances your chakras and makes you emotionally stable.

Expose to morning sunlight for at least 20 mins. It initiate the process of formation of vitamin D3 in body which strengthen bones and muscles.

Meditate for 10 mins. Practice this habit daily. It keeps your mind quiet and relaxes your tense nerves, giving you mental strength.

Have a high protein rich breakfast to get instant energy for the upcoming day.

Use some powerful positive affirmation to start your day. It'll lift your energy.

Set intentions- Write down 3–4 high priority tasks to accomplish in the day. It boost your productivity at work.

Do journaling- Write your ideas or thoughts like how you gonna spend your whole day. It improves your focus and memory.

Get inspiration- Read a book, enjoy a motivational song or listen to a podcast. It helps to build a healthy positive mindset.

Do some self care like applying moisturizer, sunscreen, deodorant or try new hair style. It helps you to feel good about yourself and boost your confidence.

Dress decently for work. Wear neat and tidy clothes.

Count your blessings and be grateful for them. So, you don’t procrastinate your happiness on tomorrow and can enjoy your today.

Keep smiling and stay happy.

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Sean Lana

Studied History & German (language) at University of HamburgUpdated 2y

What are some rules in Corporate life?

Continue learning, Don’t just work for someone without working on yourself. Change is constant, your skills of today might be useless tomorrow.

Say no to workplace bullying, learn to speak up. Your mental health should come first! If you have any boss that is gas lighting, bullying you. Report that person to the HR, sue the company, if applicable in your country or get yourself another job. Don’t die doing an 8 Hrs. job, you are always replaceable, either when you alive or late.

Keep to zero gossiping, Just do your thing at work, have some small talk with your colleagues and that's it.

Avoid office romance at all cost, They usually do not end well. Many office romances usually ends up in drama and disaster!

Don’t impress your boss by working hard, you can only impress them by working smart. Part of this is managing deadlines!

The moment you feel that you know a lot more than your boss, is when you should start thinking about your resignation.

Take networking serious! You are working Monday to Friday with limited time to access what's going on at the outside world.

Dress clean, smell nice, always show up on time and look smart!

Keep your private life away from your colleagues. Your life, your business!

Never beg for a promotion, It is either you deserve a promotion or you change to where they going to appreciate your talents!

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John Gichuki Mwangi

Blogger at WordPress.org (website) (2020–present)8mo

What is one word that ruined your life?

The word that ruined my life is no other than FEAR. It has costed me a whole lot of opportunities.

Fear of rejection ; I failed to express my feelings to the lady who I wanted to be my girlfriend for the simple reason that I feared she would reject me and I would not bear it for the love that I had for her.

Fear of unknown; I did not take risks in the past because I was uncertain of what would be the outcomes. That made me to miss out on many important opportunities in my career.

Fear of failure; I failed to start my self-development blog early enough simply because I was afraid of not succeeding. I only came to do it later and would be miles away if I started it at the desired time.

Fear of missing out; I involved myself in unimportant things for I didn't want to miss out on what my friends were doing. I know make more noble decisions that are not tied to friends or acquitances.

Fear of self expression; I failed to express myself and demand what I wanted from life because I was afraid of what people could say or how they would receive my grievances only to realize later that it was just fear and people were ready to accept me the way I was.

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Ezra Harmain

Feb 11

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Rafael Eliassen

How can I improve myself in 1-2 months?

Cut-off bad friends — drop the dead weight because they aren’t going anywhere. It’s not noble to let them hold you back.

Practice doing nothing — Regularly throughout the day, take 5-mins to enjoy where you are without a need to fix it.

Harness Awareness — meditate daily for at least 10-mins a day. Separate yourself from your mind and body.

Fix body-clock — Wake-up and sleep at roughly around the same time. You need some rhythm in your body.

Don’t overeat — It takes a toll on your body and mind. Eat regular small, 4–5 meals throughout the day.

Develop a skill — Pick one interest and practice it every day. Writing or drawing, there are free resources to get started.

Educate on life — Read philosophy and books, from the world's greatest thinkers. You must learn to live a good life. It doesn't come naturally.

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Mar 3

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Prabhat Mishra

Just a regular everyday normal guy!Updated 1y

How can a situation reveal a person's true character?

There's a Greek saying that you can learn a lot about a person in one hour of play than by having an year of conversation.

Ask the person to play a board game with you. And observe closely how they react when you take a point against them or when they win.

How competitive that person is?

How do they handle situations when the odds are against them?

How do they take a loss or win?

How easily do they get frustrated?

Do they mock their opponent?

You can know all sorts of stuff by using this.

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Feb 11

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Daryl Wong

What are some signs of being mentally weak?

You always hide in your comfort zone.

You don’t try new things because you fear failure.

You give up easily because the tasks are too challenging.

You complain a lot to the people around you.

You are always looking at other people’s lives and never working on yourself.

You let society dictate your goals and dreams.

You are a people-pleaser.

You are afraid to voice your true opinions.

You let people step all over you.

You seek the easiest way out.

You readily give up your morals or principles in exchange for something gratifying.

You don’t fight for what you want.

You follow the herd.

You make up excuses convincing yourself you can’t accomplish the things you want to do.

You engage in useless gossiping.

What is a victory in a social life?

Build boundaries not barbwires. You can protect yourself without pushing everyone away,

Do you really want to know why some people are full of grace ? It’s coz their life has been so hard that they wanted to ensure they don’t add any more pain to a world that’s already suffering,

Compassion will make you beautiful,

A conversation about how you feel is not supposed to end in a argument,

You’ll never regret : Travelling, making more money, eating a healthier diet , & building a high performing body . Invest in these things & watch your life improve,

Stop overplaying your role . Deal with people how they deal with you : hardly , barely , & accordingly,

Unless you want your dreams to die, don’t hang out with people with dead dreams. And , never quit,

Don’t get attached to anything or anybody . Attachment leads to a fear of loss, which leads to a scarcity mindset. Accept that nothing is forever,

Nothing is more attractive than someone who teaches you things without making you feel like you’re dumb for not knowing it already,

Be thankful. Be grateful . Be blessed. Life continues to be great,

Just Chill.!!

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Rafael Eliassen

Worked at Business Coaching3y

I have a very negative attitude. How can I overcome it?

Define boundaries: Limit what you share, the people you hang out with. Take charge of your toxic relationships.

Appreciate yourself: Allow yourself to be proud of all the progress you have made and especially the progress no one has seen.

Positive self-talk: Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love. Before showing the world how strong you are tell it to yourself.

Forgive: Be generous to yourself and others. Try to respond to situations thoughtfully, don’t rush to react.

Meditate: Know your inner mind and be more conscious of your unconscious behaviors.

Focusing on the Positive: Make a list of things you are grateful for. Focus on the positivity you’ll see more opportunities.

Help others: We rise by lifting others. When you are kind to others, you will learn to be kind to yourself.

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Nick Daniels

Life Coach at ThinkerNick Lifestyle (2022–present)May 16

What is the height of confidence?

The height of confidence is exemplified when you fearlessly speak your mind and stands up for your beliefs, even in the face of opposition.

It is seen in people who take calculated risks to pursue their goals and dreams without being deterred by setbacks.

It is demonstrated by someone who confidently expresses their unique style and personality, unaffected by others' opinions.

The height of confidence is also reflected in leaders who inspire and motivate others, making decisive decisions and taking charge of challenging situations.

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Rafael Eliassen

30-Million+ people have listened to my motivational speechesUpdated 3y

What are 5 habits that can improve my life?

Leave comfort-zones: Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Your life will never be the same if you make the scary yet right choices.

High-Standards: You get what you put up with in life. If you are not okay with being fat, you will find a way to not be fat. Turn your wants into standards.

Bad Media: Don’t let people throw garbage in your mind because it makes them money. Avoid content that makes you feel bad. The news, controversies, or social media.

Improve yourself: Make yourself better every day. Find ways to learn. Wealth, health, relationships, find top performers, and listen to them.

Take action: It’s easy to take information and never act. Only action can create results, though. Make it a habit to implement what you learn.

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Prarthna

Lives in My Own World of Thinking (2005–present)May 18

What are crazy things introverts do?

Introverts are extroverts in front of their best friends.

They become introverts because no one understands their perspective (or because they think differently)

Introverts generally are overthinkers. Their imaginary world gives them solace because they are their real self there.

Introverts like to have conversations, you just have to mention a suitable topic.

They generally release their thoughts in the form of some art like painting, writing etc.

Nature provides solace to them.

They like to remain anonymous. (On an occasion or a party, they would always be seen in a corner because social crowd doesn't excite them)

Introverts have a deep analysis of everything. They notice things very minutely.

Bonus point: They would be termed as “kam bolti hai/bolta hai"

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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 3y

What life advice(s) would you give people entering their 30s? How will it improve life?

Please, just be the best human you can before your body becomes a dirt ,

Men are forever thinking they’re the only ones who get tempted. No dude!!Your woman meets better men daily & chooses not to cheat,

The most valuable lessons can’t be taught . They can only be learned ,

Sometimes the grass is actually greener on the other side coz it’s fake,

If you don’t have the strategic vision to plan ahead, you better have the tactical ability to solve hard problems,

Sometimes losing someone who doesn’t appreciate you is a gain, not a loss ,

Celebrate your private wins. No one may know the depth of the struggle you’ve been in , but your survival is worthy of praise,

Be assertive. Don’t fold . You don’t have to be rude to be firm,

Improvement or decline is a reflection of your daily habits . Be careful not to make your ego the enemy,

If you can’t say something nice about someone, don’t say something mean . Talking unsolicited shit about someone never makes you look better- even if they deserve it,

Just Chill.!!

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Rafael Eliassen

What are some subtle behavioral tactics that defeat laziness?

1. Have a vision.

If you are lazy, you don’t have anything to work towards.

Even if you do, it’s not enticing enough.

A mediocre job with a good enough salary won’t really get you out of the bed.

Go wild with your imagination and ask for what you truly want.

Be brave enough to state what you really want. Make an action plan to get there; day by day.

2. Get the basics in place.

You can’t expect your body to be energetic if you don’t take care of it.

Exercise

Fix your sleep schedule

Fix your diet

Meditate

This is the secret to performing your best.

3. Experience Joy and excitement.

Even when you are working towards your grandiose vision, life can get mundane.

Have experiences that bring you joy.

Traveling.

Meeting new people

Trying new foods

Reading a good book

Walking in nature

These are something that brings me joy. You make a list of your joy, and add them to your schedule.

4. Create a routine.

Once you have the above 3 pillars decided, it’s time to put them in your schedule.

You won’t improve by just reading. Change your action.

Make a solid schedule for every day. Add at least one thing from the above three and you will start to see a difference.

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Jerry Tan

Senior Staff Accountant at Rule One Proteins (2016–present)Mar 7

What are the common signs of an intelligent person?

Intelligence can be defined in many ways, and it can be challenging to measure accurately. However, here are some common signs that may indicate a person is intelligent:

Curiosity: Intelligent people tend to be naturally curious about the world and are constantly seeking new information and knowledge.

Open-mindedness: They are open to new ideas and perspectives, willing to consider viewpoints that differ from their own.

Analytical thinking: Intelligent people often have strong analytical skills and can break down complex problems into smaller, more manageable parts.

Good memory: They have the ability to retain and recall information easily.

Creativity: Intelligent people often possess a high degree of creativity and can think outside the box to generate new and innovative ideas.

Good communication skills: They can articulate their thoughts and ideas clearly and concisely, both verbally and in writing.

Flexibility and adaptability: They are adaptable to new situations and can adjust to change quickly.

Humility: Intelligent people are often humble and recognize that there is always more to learn.

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Rafael Eliassen

What is something I don't know that I should for life?

It’s much easier to work on your goals when you feel good. Do things that rejuvenate your soul.

Vulnerability isn’t a weakness. It takes courage to accept and work on your issues.

You can’t please everyone. You will end up being miserable if you try.

At the end of the day, if your life isn’t good, it’s on you. It’s your responsibility to change it.

Some people are always going to criticize, no matter what you do. Develop some thick skin.

Success is defined by happiness. Not by your wealth or job title.

Lying to yourself is futile. Always face the truth, no matter how pleasant or harsh.

If you want people to like you, do the things that make you light up. Be happy and right people will come into your life.

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Rafael Eliassen

What was a choice you made that completely changed your life?

The choice of using my mental spotlight.

I am not talking about meditation or concentration.

I am talking about what you look for in life and changing that.

Let’s play a game.

I want you to look around and find everything that’s blue, you only have five seconds…find blue. 5..4..3..2…1.

Now keep looking at the screen and tell me everything that was red.

Unless you peek and find red things, you will have a difficult time naming them.

Why? Because you just weren’t looking for them.

Same is with happiness, success, money, relationships.

If you are looking for reasons to be upset and why life isn’t fair; you will find them.

If you are looking for reasons to be content and how everything is working for you; you will find them too.

You get what you focus on in life.

Look for how or why you can;

Lose that weight, start that business, improve your life.

Knowing this you have two options;

Ignore this and keep on living on autopilot and never get the life you want.

Try to implement it, make it a mental habit and get everything you want.

When I was 18, I picked the second option and now I am here. I hope you do too.

Start looking for reasons on how things can work out for you.

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Zsolt Hermann

Orthopedic surgeon (1990–present)4y

I'm in my early 20s. How do I have a life that I won't feel regret about later on?

In order to live I life we won’t regret later on, we need to - as early as possible - start searching for the overall meaning of our life, to study, understand and fulfill our unique Human purpose in Nature’s evolutionary system.

This way everything we do, everything that happens to us will align according to our final goal, and we will understand that there are no “good or bad” states only purposeful ones, each providing us with the necessary experience, education that is necessary to become “truly Human” beings.

The Meaning Of Life: The Question That Cannot Be Avoided | Laitman.com

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Rafael Eliassen

How does one prevent mental and emotional laziness?

Resolve your emotions. Anxiety, depression, trauma, they all need to be taken care of for you to be productive.

Avoid escapism. Binge watching, binge eating, etc. are some habits you don’t want to reinforce.

Do something new, daily. It’s the only way to make sure you don’t get emotionally stuck.

Check your goals. Are they really what you desire? If not, fix that.

Do the basic things right; Eating, sleeping, exercising, etc.

Celebrate small wins. Encourage your mind for every tiny step up.

Create a schedule. If you start the day right, you won’t get off track.

Break work into small chunks. Even simple work can become overwhelming easily.

Find better friends. People who are above you and will push you to do better.

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Rafael Eliassen

How can I remove negative thoughts?

The quickest way to stop a chain of thought is — to get out of your head and into your body.

Your body is breathing for you — be aware of that sensation.

Right now focus on your breathing — breathe in…and out.

Your chain of negative thoughts will be broken — but you will feel uneasy.

Your mind is craving for distraction, it isn’t used to having a moment of peace.

But if you master awareness — no negative thoughts will be able to overwhelm you.

The second key is to change the content you consume.

Your thoughts are based on the movies, tv shows, music, conversations, you consume — choose wisely.

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Rafael Eliassen

What are the best life choices that you can make?

Build love. Learn to love yourself the way you do or have loved someone.

Stay different. In a world full of sheep, be brave enough to be yourself especially when it’s different.

Saving money. Save at least 10% of your income, every month.

Taking responsibility. Stop blaming your parents, people, luck for your bad situation, focus on what you can do to improve.

Stand-up. Don’t let others take advantage of you, stand up for yourself.

Meditating. Do at least 10-mins of meditation daily and slowly you will quiet the monkey mind.

Quit Junk. We aren’t made to eat processed food regularly, adopt a healthy diet.

Move more. We aren’t made to sit all day, avoid future health problems by being active.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA7mo

What would be the most important thing you would tell your younger self?

Date in private. Love in private. Be happy in private. Live in private.

Love is blind, loyalty is vision.

A connection without emotional safety is just an attachment.

Let them talk behind your back. They behind you for a reason.

Your problem is when people hurt you, you try to understand why.

The moment you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do.

Life is not about expecting, hoping and wishing. It’s about doing, being and becoming.

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Ajay Hadiya

May 3

08 Traits of a High-Value Man

A high-value man is emotionally available to his partner , or he’s at least working to be emotionally available.

A high-value man has strong healthy boundaries.

A high-value man is fiercely loyal to the people he loves.

A high-value man knows that he is responsible for his own emotional well-being.

A high-value man can’t be dishonest with himself or others. He isn’t going to lie, not even by omission.

A high-value man is both reliable and consistent. He does what he says he’ll do, and he consistently communicates.

A high-value man is also all about self-improvement. He’s learning and growing as a person, not remaining stagnant through his lifetime.

A high-value man is all has integrity. He knows who he is, what he stands for and believes, and he actually practices it.

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Rafael Eliassen

How can I stop thoughts from bothering me? How do I stop overthinking things?

Self-improvement begins with self-acceptance. First, analyze and admit that you are overthinking.

Being aiming for perfection is unrealistic, impractical, and debilitating. Stop chasing perfection.

Give yourself a boundary. Set a timer for five minutes and give yourself that time to think, worry, and analyze.

Train your mind 10 minutes daily by meditation. If you don’t do it your mind will run wild on you.

Be aware as you go about your day. Not getting caught up by everything else.

Force your mind to be engaged. Try out new things. Like: climbing, some sport, etc.

Don’t just wish for it just start doing it. Keep your thoughts in the right direction.

It’s impossible to rehash yesterday or worry about tomorrow when you’re living in the present. Be more aware of the present.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

Jun 22

7 Habits That Damage your Brain

Lack of sleep

Skipping breakfast

Eating too much sugar

Not staying hydrated

Lack of exercise

Chronic stress

Alcohol and drug abuse

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Alexander Brown

Freelance WriterThu

What is your "golden rule" when it comes to relationships?

When it starts to feel one-sided, that’s your sign to go.

If you’re a giver, find another giver.

Relationships require more than just love.

Your partner's needs are just as equal as your own.

Finding your right fit partner requires discernment + wisdom to be selective.

Some people come to your life just to show you deserve better. Tap here to meet better people.

Just because it could have been different does not mean it would have worked out.

The right person gonna show you that you wasn’t even asking for too much.

If you don’t tell people how you feel, they won’t know.

Always remember: if it drains you, it’s not for you.

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Flavian Mwasi

Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor at Life and Living1y

How did you change your life?

I decided to change my story. Enough was enough.

I hated the person I was seeing in the mirror. So, I decided to kill my old self.

I decided to quit bad habits like drinking alcohol, smoking weed, and swearing recklessly.

I started reading books, instead of procrastinating and watching porn.

I stopped complaining and started appreciating the life God has given me.

I decided to unpack myself, and live a completely different life.

I decided if I was to run my life, I was too reckless I would end up destroying it. So I gave my life to Christ to run it for ME.

I stopped other people from deciding things for me. I started a new chapter of my life where I would be the only author.

I embraced loneliness and started reinventing myself.

I stopped giving a damn about the opinions of other people after realizing I also had something to say.

I said goodbye to people who were not adding positive energy to my life.

I got rid of my TV and subscribed to YouTube channels that contributed to my personal growth.

I picked one skill that I thought I would still be in love with after 25 years.

I dropped all the girls I knew and married just one special person that I thought I was compatible with and we could grow together.

I committed myself to one life long goal that I thought would fulfil my life and never looked back.

I decided to sweat it out every day to boost my mood.

I decided even if I must fail I will only fail forward.

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Priyanshu Gupta

Jun 21

10 Daily Habits of happy people

Expressing gratitude for the positive aspects of life.

Being fully present in the moment to appreciate the simple joys.

Choosing to focus on the positive, practicing forgiveness, and letting go of grudges.

Engaging in physical activity to boost mood and overall well-being.

Spending quality time with family and friends to cultivate happiness and a sense of belonging.

Prioritizing self-care, such as getting enough rest, eating well, and practicing relaxation techniques.

Participating in acts of kindness and generosity to nurture a sense of purpose.

Embracing laughter and finding humor in everyday situations.

Engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment in daily life.

Continuously learning and setting goals to promote personal development.

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Alex Ferman

Passionate Writer, CA (2013 - present)Feb 1

What is the most important lesson in life?

Never use a person to forget another.

People should fall in love with their eyes closed.

Attracting what’s right for you will require you to finally let go of what isn’t.

Don’t go back to less just because you are too impatient to wait for better.

Someday you will look back and know exactly why it had to happen.

When a version of you ends, so will the connections attached to it.

You’re not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.

Don’t ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday.

The happiest you’ve ever been won’t be the happiest you’ll ever be.

You either get busy living or get busy dying.

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Morning Daffodils

Youtuber & BloggerMar 7

What kind of people will not succeed in life?

They don’t understand the value of time.

Those that are unsuccessful don't value their time. Because they are unable to commit themselves to achieving their objectives, they are present everywhere, at the things that their value is none.

2. They never step up

They are more likely contented on what they have and what they can do. Every day’s life has new challenges so it’s better to step up closer to greatness.

3. They don't take steps that are aligned with their ambitions

Mostly of them don’t know what path to take in. Although they are involved in everything, nothing they do is in line with their objectives and core beliefs.

4. They are good at making excuses

They are the people who will come up with excuses and arguments for why they shouldn't and can't do something.

5. They don’t’ take action

They may dream big and talk a big game, but they lack the confidence to actually act and take action towards their dreams.

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Flavian Mwasi

Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor at Life and Living4y

What is one thing that I can learn from you today?

Never let anyone tell you that opportunities come only once. They’re not God. Don’t believe them.

Everything repeats itself. The moon and the sun rise and set every day and we don’t complain. Why do you complain simply because you missed an opportunity that will repeat itself?

Everything has a life cycle. That’s the order of life.

If you miss a season, wait for another season. Seasons will never end. There will always be rain and there will always be drought. Seasons exist to teach us when to plant, when to reap and when to wait. Some people are planters, others are reapers and others are waiters.

You are bound to make many mistakes in life and each time you are going to have a second chance to correct them.

We are not perfect beings. We don’t exist to be perfect. We exist to get the job done.

The greatest life lesson we can learn is how to look at an imperfect world perfectly.

We don’t live happily because we have money. We live happily because we were able to touch someone’s heart positively.

Even if you don’t love someone you don’t have to tell them in the face. Why should you be guilty of committing the murder of someone else’s heart?

Don’t make a habit of getting into other people’s minds uninvited. They might lock you out forever.

Once in your lifetime, you will meet someone who will change everything.

Don’t love too deeply, until you’re sure the other person loves you with the same depth.

Let go of the past. Don’t let it ruin your present or your future.

One day someone will come along who will love you the way you deserve to be loved and you won’t even have to fight for it.

You don’t meet people by accident; there’s always a reason — a blessing or a lesson.

Don’t let your arrogance blind you from noticing the next mistake that will humble you.

If you’re ever lucky enough to find someone who can put up with your stupidity don’t let them go.

The best apology you can give someone is a changed behavior.

There is no need to rush. What’s meant for you will always arrive on time.

The wrong person makes you beg for attention, affection, love, and commitment. The right person will give you these things because they love you.

Live perfectly so that when you die you’re laughing and everyone is reading your epitaph in tears.

Sometimes the only reason why you won’t let go of what’s making you sad is because it was the only thing that made you happy.

Living with an abusive person is worse than living in hell, but living with a funny person is like having a medicine cabinet in your bedroom.

The best relationship is the one you come together to make each other better, support each other and build each other.

Don’t be a gentleman to other people’s women, while you’re a monster to yours.

Marry that person who calls you after an argument just to remind you that no matter how difficult things get, she isn’t going to leave you.

The hardest battle is between what you know in your head and what you feel in your heart.

If you have a friend with whom you can speak and open your heart anytime, then you’re truly blessed.

Everything will work out in the end. You don’t need to know how. You just have to trust that it will.

The comeback is always stronger than the setback.

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Rafael Eliassen

Worked at Business Coaching3y

What tiny habits can create massive success?

Read your aim aloud: Write down whatever you want in life. Then every morning and every night, read that aloud.

Track goals: Having a goal is only 50% rest is tracking how much you have achieved and how much more to go.

Never lie: One lie leads to ten others in order to cover up the drama. Keep it simple. Don’t lie.

Read daily: Even if it's just a paragraph, or three sentences, or just one sentence.

Just do it: Do what you say you're going to do. Less talk, more action.

Teach others: Take the knowledge you've acquired and passing it not only helpful for others but also good for yourself.

Make time for your friends: Don’t trade your friends to get the success you won't be happy.

Physically active: Going to the gym, yoga class, or a nature walk, it's your call.

Keep in touch with people: They provide a much-needed perspective.

Be playful: Take care of that inner child of yours and make time to play. Enjoy life.

What things has failure taught you?

The heart is most amazing. When it loves , it does so wholly but when it stops loving, nothing can take it back to its former state,

You don’t detach from others. You detach from your attachment to others ,

Some people just want the view , they can’t handle the experience of you ,

Carefully choosing the energy around you isn’t an act of elitism. It’s the basic form of self-preservation,

Do more than just exist,

My future self is my inspiration,

If you go about life with the attitude of “ my trauma fucked me up & that’s why I’m the way I’m “ instead of learning & growing, then you’re now the problem,

A life without a passion is a slow way to freeze to death,

Don’t adjust your boundaries to accommodate someone’s disrespect,

The right person will protect you when you’re vulnerable. Always,

Just Chill.!!

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

Elia Juniana

May 9

8 Things to stop doing so you can start being happy

Stop hurting yourself by expecting more from people that have no desire to change.

Stop using what happened to you as an excuse for your own toxic behaviour.

Stop prioritising being loved by others over the love you have for yourself.

Stop arguing with people who are committed to misunderstanding you.

Stop giving your time and energy to fake friends. Fake friends reach out when they need something. Real friends reach out when they think you need something.

Stop telling yourself you are not worthy, not qualified or not experienced enough.

Stop seeking justice, victory, or revenge.If you really want to win then Move on, focus on you and level up.

Stop taking things personally.

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Rafael Eliassen

30-Million+ people have listened to my motivational speeches4y

How do I become less boring?

Boring is a state of mind i.e. it’s just a feeling.

Here are 7-ways to not feel bored all the time.

Drop your phone: Using your phone gives the impression that you are not interested at all. Get used to being without your phone and aware in the moment.

Drop routines: Try something new every day. It could be eating something new or going to a new place, etc.

Talk to people: Start talking to new people, whom you find interesting. It’s scary but once you get over the fear you will feel good about yourself.

Find yourself: If you aren’t interested in yourself then why would other people be? Find out what your likes and dislikes are, your strength and weaknesses. Give some time to introspection.

Judging people: Stop judging people and putting them into categories. They can sense it off of you and your body language when you don’t think they are good enough. Give everyone a fair chance.

Be yourself: Be in the moment and say what you feel like saying, not what you think would sound cool.

Find goals: Are you driven in your life or just a leaf in the wind? Find something that drives you and means something to you. What are your goals?

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Auximoron

M.F.A. in Software Engineering & Finance, University of California, Berkeley (Graduated 2008)Jun 2

What are the characteristics of a mentally strong person?

Signs you're mentally stronger than you think:

1. You understand life is cool when nobody knows anything about you.

2. You embrace consistency and discipline, not motivation and self-help books.

3. You let people win arguments on purpose to conserve your mental health.

4. You have trained your mind to master your feelings and control your ego.

5. You have forgiven your parents and love them for who they are.

6. You no longer entertain family members and friends who have zero ambition in life.

7. You don't force your beliefs on people. You understand that not everyone thinks the same way you do.

8. You have trained your mind to stay calm when things go out of plan.

9. You never force anyone to choose you. Instead, you let people do whatever pleases them.

10. You've realized that you are not responsible for anyone's happiness but yourself.

11. You don't allow pain to destroy you. Instead, you build strength from the pain.

12. You've mastered the art of taking action without waiting for the "right moment".

13. You no longer stress about other people's opinions.

14. You're smart enough to realize news, politics, and cheap dopamine are the worst distraction toward your goals.

15. You've trained yourself to take nothing personally to protect your mental health.

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Robert

Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Updated Feb 27

What is the smallest lesson that life has taught you?

1. Believe in yourself and trust your own decisions.

2. Don’t take things too personally - there are always different perspectives.

3. Forgive those who have wronged you, as it will free up more energy for positivity in your life.

4. Be kind to yourself and treat yourself with compassion.

5. Life is short - make sure you enjoy every moment that comes your way!

6. Focus on the positives in any situation instead of dwelling on the negatives.

7. Take time for yourself - self-care is important for a healthy mind and body.

8. Listen to what other people have to say, even if you don’t agree with them initially.

9. Don’t let fear stop you from pursuing what you really want in life.

10. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and make you happy!

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Flavian Mwasi

Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor at Life and Living3y

How do I develop a strong presence and personality?

Sincerely be nice to people and practice what you preach.

If you have something to say, say it loudly without fear

Don’t fear people. Love them instead. You can’t fear what you love.

Don’t be ignorant of current issues. Watch the news and read newspapers to stay up to-date.

Encourage and motivate people. Sometimes, stick your neck for people.

Don’t be a pessimist. Have charisma and give people hope. They’ll respect and love you.

Display leadership qualities and lead by example. Take responsibility for mistakes and blame and don’t blame others. Praise promptly and share credit with your people, team or group.

Genuinely help people and show them how to get out of tough situations. When you help people, don’t expect anything in return.

Eliminate ignorance by reading books and teach people what you know.

Looks matter. Improve your looks and learn to dress smartly.

Don’t be average. Teach average people how to become extraordinary.

Improve your communication skills and learn public speaking.

Transform yourself from an introverted, selfish, egocentric and self-centered animal, to an extroverted, selfless person.

Dare to venture into the unknown and sometimes take people along with you.

Accept mistakes and criticism and move on. There will always be people who will hate your guts.

Accept failure but never accept defeat. Develop a “never give up” spirit, even when there’s no evidence of success in sight.

Be quick to listen and slow to speak. There’s no monopoly of knowledge and no one knows it all. Encourage other people to speak while you listen and show by deed how much you appreciate what they have to say.

Be quick to forgive and slow to anger. Anger is not a good sign especially when you display it in the public eye. It turns off people’s enthusiasm and dampens their spirit. Learn to suppress anger and always try to find the cause instead of focusing on it.

Always be yourself, believe in yourself, have self-esteem and self-confidence. Be passionate about your ideals and don’t copy exactly what others are doing. Have a positive mental attitude and shun negativity. Remain steadfastly loyal to your commitment.

Be cheerful and happy. Happiness is contagious. Smiling is the best way to transfer happiness. Become a man or woman of humor. Share jokes even in public. Always smile while talking. Even on the phone. When you’re happy everybody around will start becoming happy.

Seek reputation and honor — not fame. They are more valuable than gold. Reputation is earned, and the news about it travels faster than the owner.

Knowledge alone isn’t enough. Cultivate wisdom to improve your judgment. Occasionally show seriousness when the situation calls for it.

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Human mind readers ·

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Franklin

May 14

8 Life lessons you should learn before experience

Beware of unsolicited advisors, they are passively trying to control your life.

What doesn’t kill you doesn’t always make you stronger. Sometimes, it can permanently scar and weaken you.

Do not underestimate a coward. They strike by any means necessary.

Kindness is not a necessity. Not many people will go out of their way to help you.

As your popularity grows, it is evitable that you will start masking your true self in order to please the mass.

Do not seek attention by posting your tragic stories on social media platforms. Not everyone who upvotes feels for you.

Don’t think you have all the time in the world. 1,000,000 seconds is just 11 days but 1,000,000,000 seconds is 31 years.

In life, it’s every person for themselves. Alliances are only temporary.

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Rafael Eliassen

Updated 3y

How can I make myself better each day?

Be different: The majority is often foolish. Learn to think and act for your own. Different doesn’t mean wrong.

Have integrity: Be a man/woman of your word. Stick to your deadlines, respect others to develop your goodwill.

Explore more: Experience new places, restaurants, people. Dong the same thing every day can stagnate you.

Accept mistakes: Have the guts to swallow your pride and accept your mistakes. Make amends afterward.

Pressure yourself: Sometimes giving yourself a deadline, forcing yourself can be a great way to kick-start your success.

Dream big: If it’s humanly possible, consider it within your reach. Though have patience and take it one day at a time.

Keep learning: Read, watch videos at least 1-hour every day. Reap massive rewards from the knowledge of others.

Set goals: If you aren't writing them down, you are messing around. Write your short-term and long-term goals.

Be original: Learning from others doesn't mean copying. Have their experience inspire you to come up with better solutions.

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Psychological fact about everything ·

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7mo

What are some psychological facts about attracting people?

Charismatic people seem attractive to most. They are the ones, who would seem pretty approachable. They are always smiling, joking, have a great aura about them.

It is said that the quickest way into a person’s heart is through eyes.

Never develop a need for someone. This proves to be unattractive. Need can be in any sense, financially, physically, mentally or in any other way.

Bragging is just not cool. Do away with it.

Fragrance is important. It has been researched people who are in love, recognize the scent of their partners and are attracted to it. Make an effort to smell nice.

Know when to put your foot down. Don’t be that person who believes-“never say never”.

Be confident but not rude.

If you are meeting someone for the first time, their brain has access to limited information and thus makes judgements based on appearance, posture, way of talking etc. If you are looking to really impress someone, work on them.

Listen more than you speak.

Do not talk about in depth problems/secrets when you meet a person for the first time. It might put them off.

P.S

All of these things are just general notions, things people have researched. I genuinely believe that nobody can predict what happens in life or what the person in front of you thinks. These are just some hygiene elements, like we practice while going for an important event.

Exceptions will always be there.

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Elizabeth Collins

B.S. in Human Biology & Psychology, University of California, Irvine (Graduated 2013)Updated 2y

What are some lessons that life teaches you?

Cooking and cleaning is a basic life skill and not a gender role.

If you don’t clear your misunderstanding in time, they became the reason for distance forever.

If you want it, work for it. It’s that simple.

The gap between the life you could live and the life you are living is called focus.

If you’re not dating to marry, then you’re dating for heartbreak. Let that sink in and be in serious relationship.

Stop comparing yourself with who started 10 years before you. Focus on your own journey.

Confidence is not “I’m better than them”, confidence is “I’m great, so are they”

Every time I lower my frequency to meet someone on their level I end up paying for it. That’s a lesson I really don’t need to learn anymore. Rise up to meet me.

Real growth is when you start checking and correcting yourself. Instead of blaming others, you take your power back by being responsible for your life.

You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.

Being kind to yourself is the best medicine.

And there is always, always, always something to be thankful for.

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Human mind readers ·

Answered by

Elia Juniana

Fri

How to master self-discipline that will separate you from 99%?

When you get loads of rejections, you stop fearing it. This makes you unstoppable!

Your life can change tomorrow if you make the choice to change it.

Watch how people treat service workers. It'll show you their true colours.

Seeking out adversity will help us grow more than being in a comfort zone.

Knowing what you want in life gets you far more than if you didn't.

Investing in yourself isn't selfish. It's the most worthwhile thing you can do.

The power of focusing on one thing at a time will change your life.

The sooner you stop lying to yourself the quicker you'll be unstoppable.

Less friends = deeper relationships.

People who accept suffering achieve greatness. Those who avoid it go nowhere.

It's not what happens, it's how you react that matters.

The more sacrifices you are willing to make, the more successful you'll become.

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Aime Ishimwe

Business Coach(2021_present).RwandaMar 18

How do you gain people skills?

Listen and practice active listening. Listening to other people is a great way to build relationships and understand people's perspectives.

Become comfortable in social situations. Take time to meet people and go to places where you can practice and hone your social skills.

Use body language to convey friendliness and openness. Smiling and making eye contact are essential for creating strong relationships.

Participate in conversations. Ask questions and offer thoughtful insights to demonstrate your understanding of the conversation.

Consider others’ feelings. Learning to think and act empathetically can help you foster positive relationships.

Offer genuine compliments. Giving compliments and providing support is an effective way to show your interest and appreciation in others.

Take responsibility for mistakes. Show humility by apologizing when necessary and acknowledging your part in mistakes or miscommunications.

Don’t gossip. Strive to be a respectful and positive presence in conversations and around other people.

Be yourself. Honesty and openness are important qualities for connecting with people and fostering relationships.

Learn how to network. Practice the art of small talk and ask for advice from professionals to develop your network.

Reach out to people you don’t know. Don’t be afraid to take the initiative to reach out to people or strike up conversations.

Take a class or join a club. Consider enrolling in classes or joining a club or group to get out of your comfort zone and make new friends.

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Dark Psychology Secrets ·

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Sarfaraz Ali

Feb 7

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Nistha Tripathi

100% self-made, believe in fighting hard and writing softUpdated 5y

What are some good habits to follow?

Originally Answered: What are some good “mini habits” to practice each day?

1. Just after you brush your teeth, look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Even if you can't think of a reason to, still just smile and keep it up for 10 seconds. Guaranteed you will spend rest of the day happier.

2. Finding yourself opening facebook or whatsapp again and again? Put away your laptop and phone and go on a short walk wherever you can. Walking is known to help collect your thoughts and relaxing you.

3. Meditate for 10 minutes. If you have no clue how to, just sit in a quiet place and try counting your breaths till 10-15. Your focus should be on your breath and no thinking. Restart counting as soon as your mind distracts you and you find yourself thinking of something else.

4. Before you sit to work, remind yourself of TWO things that you need finished today (only two, no more). Remind yourself again in the lunch time. There are high chances you will get more important things done this way.

5. Just before sleeping, tell your brain to wake you up at ___a.m. You will be surprised when soon you would stop needing the alarm clock. Still a stubborn sleeper? Put your cellphone some distance away from you when sleeping so that you need to walk up to it when the alarm rings.

6. Revisit your day and remember the positive/good things from the day. Be thankful for those.

7. Try to do at least one new thing - be it taking a different route to work, talking to a new person, experimenting an activity you haven't before. Don't let your curiosity and awe die in the daily grind.

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Dark Psychology Secrets ·

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Sarfaraz Ali

Jan 10

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Kumar Sonu

Senior Associate at PwC US (2019–present)Updated 8mo

What are some psychological facts that people don't know?

Some of the psychological facts, which I am sure most of the people would not be knowing

Any friendship that exceeds the 7 year mark... Is more likely to last an entire lifetime.

When cleaning your room, start with making your bed. It will make everything around it look out of place and it will motivate you to clean!

92% people type things into ”Google” to see if they spelled them correctly.

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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 3y

What lesson did you learn from your own life in the last decade?

Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys,

The purpose of wealth is freedom, nothing more than that. It’s not to drive high end cars ,sail yachts or to jet around the world in a Gulf Stream. It’s about being your own sovereign individual,

Remember that most people who share their problems with you aren’t looking for your advice, they just want to be heard ,

The male brain is bigger than females’ but the female brain works more efficiently,

You gain confidence in yourself by doing what you previously thought was impossible or very difficult,

The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think,

Keep working & let your work speak for you,

You’ll only find unquestioning loyalty from your dog & your money. All other loyalty is conditional to one degree or another,

Every one is just reflecting their own beliefs & insecurities back at you . Ignore,

You must be conscious of your daily decisions & realize that every action you take or don’t take counts ,

Just Chill.!!

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Mr X

Success ExpertFeb 17

What is better to learn while young?

I believe that it is important to learn fundamental skills early on that can serve as a strong foundation for future growth and success. These include critical thinking, problem-solving, effective communication, time management, and goal-setting.

In addition, learning a new language and a musical instrument are both great options to consider while young. Both activities can improve cognitive function, memory, and creativity, which can help enhance overall academic and career performance.

It is also important to cultivate a love for learning and exploring new things, regardless of age. The more we are open to learning and growing, the more opportunities we can create for ourselves in all areas of life.

Remember, the key to success is to never stop learning, growing, and evolving as an individual. Start today, and you will be amazed at what you can achieve.

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Ron Rule

Fmr CEO @ As Seen On TVUpdated 7y

What knowledge does the wealthy 10 percent understand that the other 90 percent are missing?

That big money is served in small increments. Whether that's ROI on investments, profits, margins on products you're selling, whatever. People who don’t understand this are always trying to double or quintuple their money in as few transactions as possible, while the largest and most successful companies and people in the world win by making “small money” over and over again.

That wages and income are about what the job is worth, not the individual. As a person, as a human being, your value is immeasurable. If you went missing in the woods our society would easily spend five or six figures trying to find and rescue you, without hesitation. But dude, putting a sticker on a box is still only worth $5. If that. Your income potential isn't about what you need or what the employer can afford, it's about the value of what you do. Those who are in the upper income brackets have understood and embraced this reality and have worked to bring something of value to the market or their company.

That personal debt is not a “tool”, it's shackles - delayed gratification is more gratifying than instant gratification. If you can't pay cash, you can't afford it. That guy you know making $70,000 per year driving an $80,000 BMW and carrying $15,000 in credit card debt looks like he's well off, but he's an idiot. His entire paycheck is gone by the end of the month, and none of that stuff is his. He's basically just renting it from the bank. He’s paying more annually in interest than he’s earning in his IRA. One hiccup in his income and the bank takes it all back, making all the money he's paid thus far for nothing. But the guy who saved up and paid cash? His savings account grows every month and no one will ever show up and take his stuff.

The value of the dollars you have vs unearned future dollars. Those people who got a “great deal” on IKEA furniture or faux leather couches will be buying another one sooner than the person who bought quality goods. And the thing is, the people who cheap out know that when they buy it. They rationalize it by saying “If I get 3 years out of it, that's fine, I can buy a better one later when I can afford it.” When you do this, you're basically deciding to throw away the money you have and committing future dollars you haven’t even earned yet. A smarter decision: save a little longer and spring for quality goods that don’t need to be replaced so quickly.

Math. The broke girl really wanted a particular dress, but it was over $100 and she didn't have it. When the dress went on sale for 20% off, she rushed to one of those payday advance places and borrowed the money to get it. The interest on those type of loans of course negated the savings. But she didn't care, and justified it by thinking “Oh well, it's the same money anyway”. She didn’t realize that the problem wasn't how she bought the dress…

The importance of life insurance. I won’t get into the personal responsibility argument about leaving your loved ones to fend for themselves... The point is that life insurance is hands-down the easiest and lowest-impact way to pass wealth on to the next generation. For a few measly dollars a month, your kids can be millionaires (or at least hundred thousand-aires). Even someone who will never make enough money in their lifetime to buy a home and dies broke and penniless could leave enough to get all of their grandkids through medical school. It’s a total no-brainer, and you can afford it. If you’re retired, your adult children should be paying the bill for you. Stop making excuses.

That lotteries are just another tax on the poor. You do realize the government keeps half of it, right? That’s before the winner is taxed. Yep, that $7 million jackpot really represents $14 million in actual lottery ticket sales, so you’re basically just voluntarily paying more taxes. You won’t see the 10% standing in line buying lottery tickets. Even during the big jackpots. Your odds of winning are one in 292 million - that’s 0.0000003425% - and yet there are people who drop $20 per week, every week for forty years or more hoping one day it will be their turn. That same money invested from ages 20 to 60 would be worth $300k on their 60th birthday, even with the most conservative market estimates. Or another way to look at it - you could turn $40k into $300k simply by not playing the lottery. It’s dumb. Stop doing it.

Above all… If you can commit to living within your means, your means will increase over time. Feeling broke today? Look at your paycheck. Now imagine you didn't have to spend all of that on car payments and a house that's bigger than what you need, and the credit card payments on all the stuff you bought to fill it. Just imagine that whole paycheck staying in your bank account and not going out the door to those payments…

You aren't so bad off anymore, are you? :)

Now imagine what your savings account would look like in just one year if you threw it all there and forgot about it. Because that's where you could be, if you thought about money differently.

Successful people know it’s not about how much you make, it’s about how you spend it.

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Anubhav Jain

Written 3 books on Life, living and motivation.Mar 10

What are the benefits of talking less?

People want you to express your opinions on vulnerable issues to quote you later and hide behind your back: ‘He said that.’ If you speak less, people are forced to assume certain things about you that you can deny later. You can change your views at convenience: “exactly, that's what I thought." You can confuse people and not let them judge you. Sometimes taking a clear stand in grey areas makes you vulnerable to embarrassment. It's better to stay silent, and later you can support the winning argument and maintain your intellectual status. But don't do this every time.

Staying silent gives an opportunity to think, analyze and react with wisdom. Speaking more sometimes puts you in a fix; you respond to incomplete communication and mess up the situation. A person wanting to appreciate you starts with little criticism. However, you react to criticism and shun that person. Later when you understand their intentions, you feel sad and embarrassed. Sometimes, people use emotional words and trick you into letting out your secrets: “so how was your discussion with X?” “Awesome,” you reply. However, previously, you mentioned that you didn't meet X. It's impossible to take back words. However, it's possible to let them out after thinking.

Your words carry much more value if you speak less. Keep swearing day and night; no one will value your words; the one who promises once in a blue moon would be respected. Keep criticizing day and night; people wouldn't bother, and criticism once in a blue moon would be heard and taken care of. You will be heard more and carefully. People who speak a lot end up being ignored or taken casually. Talk less, people wait to listen to you; they eagerly listen to you because it's human tendency to respect what's in shortage.

Needing to say more makes you think only about the next words to say, the best words to defend your ego, not to be judged and loved. Your mind loses focus from the matter of importance and stays stressed to get out words after words. Your point of focus here comes down to ego satisfaction and not the subject matter of importance. You hurry, make mistakes, then defend yourself and find better words. This is unnecessary engagement of the mind. Feel calm with silence; you don't need to prove anything. Silence brings inner peace and helps you focus.

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Flavian Mwasi

Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor at Life and LivingJan 1

What are ten good reasons why life is worth living even when you are not so successful?

10 good reasons why life is worth living even when you are not so successful?

This question suggests that you are at least successful. Well, at least you should be grateful for what you have and not focus on what you don't have.

What's success and how do you measure success? Success is subjective. One person thinks you're successful if you have material wealth. Another person thinks he or she is successful if they give up material wealth. This morning, I was watching a very successful YouTuber who says that he has given up chasing money because it has made him a slave. He now believes that success is when you don't have to worry about anything ever again.

What you think is success, is failure to another person. Success is subjective. One person has no money, but the number of people he or she has impacted are countless.

One good reason to continue living and be thankful for it is that there will always be someone less fortunate than you and there will always be someone greater than you. So, what benchmark are you using to measure your level of success?

No matter how successful you think you are in terms of money or material wealth, there's always some area of your life you have failed. For example, you might be successful financially, but failed miserably in the areas of relationships. It's hard to find a person who has everything.

Even if you’re living under a bridge, there's always a person who wishes they have what you have. One day, former president Donald Trump was driving his limousine near a bridge where a bunch of homeless people lived. After seeing how happy one particular homeless man seemed, he felt sorry for himself when he remembered he was $3 million in debt and very unhappy.

Never compare yourself with anybody, regardless of how successful they appear. The person you compare yourself with could be more miserable than you. The only difference is that you're not wearing their shoes.

The SECRET to life is to be contented with what you have no matter how little. Many people are living miserable lives with much. Greed is what drives most people to an early grave when they acquire much wealth which they never needed.

Success is meangless if the only person you please is yourself. However, success is more meaningful if you could find a way to touch the lives of other people and also share your success with them.

Your existence is not an accident. Everything has a purpose and a reason to exist. Who knows? Maybe you'll bear offspring who will be more successful than you and reach where you could not reach.

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Rafael Eliassen

What words of wisdom can really make a difference?

Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid of standing still.

If you risk nothing you gain nothing.

A wise man makes his own decisions and an ignorant man follows public opinion.

A man who chases two rabbits catches neither.

Your teacher can open the door but you must enter yourself.

Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.

Without the rain, there can be no rainbow.

Win in your mind and you will win in reality.

The man who says he can and the man who says he can’t are both correct.

There is nothing impossible to him who will try.

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Mon

Which are 8 Harsh truth of psychology?

When someone stops seeing your worth, You learn to see it.

Not everyone understands the efforts you put in.

Do not fight battles that do not matter.

You only grow when you are alone.

Do not think change is going to be easy.

You become what you believe.

You hurt, you heal, you grow.

Life is lonely when you're not fake.

Life is all about journey, not destination.

People breaks you that's reality.

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Which are 8 Harsh truth of psychology?

When someone stops seeing your worth, You learn to see it.

Not everyone understands the efforts you put in.

Do not fight battles that do not matter.

You only grow when you are alone.

Do not think change is going to be easy.

You become what you believe.

You hurt, you heal, you grow.

Life is lonely when you're not fake.

Life is all about journey, not destination.

People breaks you that's reality.

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Ankita

Jan 23

What life advice do people not take seriously enough?

• Relationship is not for immature teenagers.

• Keep your personal life secret.

• Accept and move on.

• Don't waste your time living for future.

• Their is so much happiness when you don't really care about others.

• Karma is real.

• The only thing you need is consistentcy.

• Being yourself is Beautiful.

• Friendship is higher than love.

• Find peace with your own soul.

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Manu R Maheshwari

CEO at Manu R Maheshwari (2015–present)Mar 26

How can you develop inner confidence?

Developing inner confidence can be a challenging task, but it's certainly possible with consistent effort and self-reflection. Here are some strategies that may help:

Identify your strengths and weaknesses: Understanding your strengths and areas for improvement is essential in building self-confidence. Write down your strengths and what you're proud of, and also list areas where you can improve.

Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself can help improve your overall mood and self-esteem. Ensure that you are getting enough sleep, eating healthily, and staying active. Self-care can also include doing things you enjoy, such as reading a book, spending time with friends, or listening to music.

Set realistic goals: Setting goals that are achievable can help build confidence. Start with small goals and work your way up to more challenging ones. Celebrate each milestone and acknowledge your progress.

Challenge negative self-talk: We often have negative self-talk that can impact our confidence. When you hear negative self-talk, challenge it by asking yourself if it's true or if there's evidence to support it. Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations.

Take risks and face your fears: Taking risks and facing your fears can help you build confidence. Start small and gradually work your way up to bigger challenges. Remember that mistakes are a natural part of the learning process.

Surround yourself with positive people: Surround yourself with people who lift you up and support you. Avoid negative people who bring you down or make you doubt yourself.

Remember, building confidence takes time and effort, but with persistence and commitment, you can develop the inner confidence you desire.

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Rafael Eliassen

What is a perfect man and how do I become one?

Blunt honesty — Say what you mean. Don’t beat around the bush. If you don’t like something say it. If you want something, make it clear.

Solve problems — Learn to figure things out.

Work — Move towards a goal. It doesn’t matter how slow or fast you go, as long as you are moving in the right direction.

Practice confidence — Learn to be confident in your own skin. Dress, talk, walk the way you want and own it.

Respect yourself — Don’t let people put you down or take advantage of you. If you feel mistreated, stand up for yourself.

Income — Develop a skill that will get you paid.

Resolve emotions — Your traumas, your insecurities, work on them. Realize that it’s okay to be vulnerable.

Vulnerable — Realize that it’s okay to be sad, anxious, aka. emotionally weak from time to time. Nobody is perfect and life is full of ups and downs. Embrace that.

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Samia Afrin

Seo Expert at Search Engine Optimization (SEO) (2020–present)10mo

What are some uncommon ways to work smarter instead of harder?

1.Figure out how to say "No."

2.Rest no less than 8-9 hours

3.Try not to be an evening person. In the middle between 5am-10pm not from 10pm-5am

4.Quit performing multiple tasks.

5.Enjoy more reprieves: regard your regular capacities to focus

6.Invest energy with nature

7.Move around and work in blocks

8.Limit your daily agenda

9.Measure your outcomes, not your time

10.Construct "preparing to work" schedules

11.Track what you're squandering life on

12.Work-out everyday regardless of whether you assume you have no time

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Chris Freyler

Studied Criminal Justice & PsychologyUpdated 2y

What did you learn too late in life?

I wasted too much time in toxic relationships.

Childhood trauma is the root of most emotional pain.

Instead of letting someone gain my trust, I freely gave it away.

Health is everything. Give me health and you make all the money you want.

The importance of taking care of your body at a early age.

Without mental health, your physical health will suffer and vice versa.

If you don’t take care of your emotional trauma you will find a partner that will.

We attract what we think we deserve. Take the sum of the 5 people you hang around most, and there’s your answer.

Experience teaches, not some book, college class, self help group. Trike life experiences.

The biggest lesson I learned, is without self awareness none of the 9 above are possible.

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Priyanshu Gupta

Jun 27

As I got older, I realized

You don't have to do everything that's asked of you.

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is let go of the past and move on.

Don't sweat the small stuff. It's not worth it.

Life is too short to play it safe.

Don't be afraid to take risks. Life is too short to play it safe.

Don't take things for granted.

It's never too late to learn something new.

Life is a journey, not a destination.

Don't dwell on the past or worry about the future.

Don't waste time on things that don't matter to you.

There's no shame in admitting that you need a little help sometimes.

Take care of your physical and mental health now so you can enjoy your later years.

Everyone makes mistakes. The important thing is to learn from them.

Spend time with the people you love. They're the ones who will matter most in the end.

Holding on to anger and resentment will only hurt you in the long run.

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Robert

Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Jun 16

What is something you learned to be true after it was too late?

1. Always listen to your gut. It is there for a reason.

2. Don't settle for something you know you don't want. Trust your intuition.

3. Pay attention to warning signs, even if they seem insignificant.

4. Don't try to change someone. People are who they are.

5. Don't put all your trust in one person. They may disappoint you.

6. Speak up when something bothers you. Bottling it up only causes more issues.

7. Take your time to make decisions. Hasty choices can have lasting consequences.

8. Don't compromise your values or morals for anyone or anything.

9. Don't ignore red flags in a relationship. They usually signal deeper problems.

10. Don't believe everything people say, especially if it seems too good to be true.

11. Take responsibility for your actions and accept consequences.

12. Don't keep toxic people in your life. It's not worth the negative energy.

13. Recognize when you are being taken advantage of and set boundaries.

14. Don't make excuses for others' bad behavior. Hold them accountable.

15. Finally, trust and believe in yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else.

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Olaseni Kehinde Precious

Jun 20

Success demands these 06 things

Don’t chase money, create value.

Hard work is key. Luck only plays in when opportunity meets readiness.

It’s not just about connecting with great people, know how to nurture the relationships.

Don’t overpromise and underdeliver.

Mastery is key, average attracts average results.

Your journey won’t be smooth all through. Find what motivates you to keep you pushing.

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Rafael Eliassen

What is something everyone should know?

Time is money: Just like spending money wisely, invest your time wisely to maximize productivity.

Don’t base your happiness on other people: They either want your stuff or hate you for it.

You become what you read: The body is a reflection of what you eat and your mind is a reflection of what you read.

Trust actions, not words: Barking dogs seldom bite. Trust the one who is performing actually than who is just saying.

Positive self-relation: Have a positive relationship with yourself every other relationship will be smooth then.

Your body is your temple: Treat your body well. Eat right to stay healthy.

A leader without being a leader: Develop a personality so convincing that people listen to you.

Life is a storybook: Make it impressionable. So the day you look back you can say to yourself you made it.

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Elia Juniana

Jun 8

12 Important unspoken rules in life everyone should know

Don't interrupt when someone is talking.

Don't judge someone by their appearance.

Always respect someone's personal space.

Never assume something about someone.

Apologize when you're wrong.

Don't talk badly about someone behind their back.

Be honest, even if it's hard.

Don't gossip or spread rumors.

Don't stare or make inappropriate comments.

Treat others how you want to be treated.

Offer help when you can.

Don't let your anger control your actions.

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