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Srushti Lande

ArtistMar 13

What is a good piece of random advice?

Make friends without getting attached.

Talk to everyone. You never know who crosses your way.

What you do now for your good self, you will be proud of that in future.

Do it if it's making you happy.

Solo dates are important.

Document and film your life.

Surround your inner self with positivity because outer self is sometimes not in our control.

Make a space or decorate your room

Read bhagvad gita

Pray everyday to god. Have someone when you lose hope.

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Chris Freyler

Studied Criminal Justice & Psychology at University of CincinnatiUpdated 2y

What are the most basic life lessons?

Money: It buys freedom and options, not happiness.

Friends: Quality over quantity. Give me 2–3 solid friends, and leave the rest as acquaintances.

Lessons: Believe it or not, you teach people how to treat you at your very first meeting. Don’t be afraid of boundaries, enforce them.

Self Awareness: Without it, you may spend a life time of blaming others for your misfortunes and problems.

Control: No matter how badly you think what is best for others, you can only control yourself.

Advice: Keep that shit to yourself, unless asked for it. And even then, tread lightly.

Reciprocate: You don’t want to be cheated on, don’t cheat. You want respect, give respect. I know it’s cliche’ but treat those as you want to be treated.

Convenience: Never treat someone such as. And if you find yourself being treated as such, remove that person from your life. Know your worth.

Wrong: When you are wrong, promptly check your “ego” and own it. Make amends where needed and work on not repeating hurtful behaviors.

Betrayal: It will never come from an enemy. Think about that.

Replacement: Could be a career or relationship. No matter what you think, you can and will be replaced. Be grateful for what you have. Generally the grass isn’t always “greener.”

Love: If you are one of the few that find it. Make sure the person knows it. Don’t do anything to make that person question their self worth.

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Communication Skills ·

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Apr 1

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Hina Anser

Growth Mindset Hacker, Passionate Writer, Entrepreneur Updated 2y

What are some interesting things psychology can tell you about someone just by looking at them?

Your personality type is revealed by your punctuality: If you’re reaching everywhere late then you have “Type B (flexible, relaxed, laid-back attitude)”. If you’re reaching everywhere on time, then you have “Type A (competitive, aggressive, achievement-oriented)”.

Your eating habits reveal lots about how you approach life: Slow eaters like to be in control and appreciate life. Fast eaters are ambitious, adventurous, & impatient. Picky eaters are neurotic in different areas of life. Those who separate food in their plate, are detail-oriented & disciplined.

How Controlling a person can be revealed by their Inbox: Those who start organizing their emails, the moment they receive it, like to have control & order in their lives. Those who save the emails, even after reading it, are the perfectionists, who think they may need it later. Lastly, those who don’t spend their time reading, filing, & deleting emails, are people who can easily get confused or overwhelmed.

Your Music interest reveals lots about your personality: A person who listens “complex & reflective” music, is adventurous, self-perceived intelligence, & political liberalism. A person who listens “conventional & upbeat” music, are athleticism, self-perceived physical attractiveness, & political conservatism.

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Nick Daniels

Life Coach at ThinkerNick Lifestyle (2022–present)Feb 10

What are the good habits of wealthy people?

1.) Control Your Emotions - Wealthy people understand that letting out emotions control them and destrooy relationships.

2.) Workout - Over 60% of rich people evercise over 30 minutes or more everyday.

3.) Meditate/Pray - Both meditation and prayer provides a chance to unplug and give the mind a rest.

4.) Focus on Systems - You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.

5.) Read - The rich read to continously acquire new insights and knowledge.

6.) Relationships - Creating & maintaining valuable relationships is key to successful growth and development.

7.) Live Within Your Means - Wealthy people avoid overspending byt thinking about their futures first.

8.) Don’t Gamble - Wealthy people do not rely on random good luck for their abundance and wealth.

9.) Early Risers - Rising early allows time to focus on oneself and get set up for the day.

10.) Network and Volunteer - Spending time building relationships by going over and beyond to deliver value results in more clientele. Give back to your community.

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Mustabshra Khushboo

Going through a phase of Spiritual AwakeningUpdated 2y

What did you learn too late in life?

Let go of people, habits and ideas that are toxic to you. You cannot fix everything, and there should be no crying over split milk. If something or someone is not in your life anymore, they do not deserve to be. Liberate yourself by letting them go.

2. Family matters more than anything in the world. Parents will not be around forever, kids will grow so fast, husband/wife will learn to live without you. Priotrize your relationships over your work and partying.

3. Learn to accept that dreams, ambitions and plans can fall apart, and that's OK. We, however, have to keep moving in good spirit. Otherwise, we will be depressed and broken. Not everything can be according to our wish or will at all times. Let universal wisdom do its work in its own mysterious way.

4. Happiness cannot be found in luxury, success, fame, or a flawless life partner. The Race to reach at top is a never-ending story. You can't be most beautiful, most intelligent, most successful and most appreciated. There is always someone better than you.

5. Learn to explore the eternal bliss in small small things. Pause and take a moment to appreciate that smell of coffee, this beauty of that newly blossoming flower on your balcony, the sound of the laughter of your amazing life partner, or the sweetness of the sound of your mother and father on the phone.

6. Stop complaining and learn to show gratitude. Count your blessings instead of your problems. Start your day by thanking God for giving you another opportunity to see your loved ones.

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Dark Psychology Facts ·

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Hafiz Suboor

Mar 7

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Matthew Cooper

Young Entrepreneur / Blogger8mo

What are some characteristics of successful people?

1. They are friendly, but not too friendly.

A study has shown that most of successful people average lower overall levels of friendliness and preference for being with people. When a person is always everyone’s friend, it’s hard to exert dominance.

2. They know how to fake it.

People all have ever heard that: Fake it, till you make it. Honestly, many successful people are good at faking themselves. They usually pretend what they’re doing, their attitude, their feelings or their perception of competence until it becomes true.

3. They surround themselves with like-minded people.

Successful people are well aware that people they choose to spend their time with have a great influence on who they become. Being around like-minded people encourages and energizes them to press on in their own lives and to make the most of their own gifts and abilities.

4. They uphold standards when choosing their life partner.

Most of successful people seek long-term relationships, so they want their partners who can keep up with their busy lifestyle and start a family with. Here’s a dating platform only for high-value singles:

5. They’re able to communicate effectively with others.

Clarity is especially important. When they work with their coworkers or peers, good communication is always required. They can always communicate their desire directly and effectively at work and in daily life.

6. They tend to be creative.

This doesn’t mean that each of them is an artist or a writer. But they think in creative ways and don’t allow themselves to be constrained by a conventional path.

7. Most of them use their time wisely.

Many successful people get up early. They believe their most productive time of the day is early morning. Of course, it doesn’t mean that only early person can become successful. Knowing which part of a day is the most productive time is needed.

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Divya Yadav ·

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Divya Yadav

Updated Mar 8

What are the behaviors of a confident person?

They feel less insecurity…..

They don't compare with others…

They stand straight..

Smile when look at to new people..

They can deal with any situation..

They don't show off..

They can say no without any explanation..

Reacts same for a compliment and criticism..

Least bothered about what others think..

Emotionally balanced..

They are not afraid to take any challenge…

Thinks about solution rather than the problem

Ready to take calculated risks..

They don't fight for rights, they know how to get them…

Usually they are not tensed, because they know how to get the things done…

They know there is a solution for every problem

They treat Janitors and rich same way…

Finally they know life is brief, don't waste time on things which are not worthwhile..

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Dylan Woon

Swing Trader, Growth Investor, Malaysian. Updated 3y

What 10 things should I do every day to become smarter?

I’m 25. I do the 5 things below:

View your life as a series of projects. Here’s why:

Most people view their life in terms of basic stages: College > Career > Marriage > Children > Old Age. There’s nothing wrong, but a lot of your potential will be left unrealized.

Consider viewing your life this way: Internalize a habit > Learn a new skill > Create a prototype > Self-reflection > Experiment > Learn another skill. Or something similar. Your growth will be at least 3x faster than your peers. You can achieve so much more.

Projects can be any work, craft or skills you want to work on. You can create individual or group projects. Pick something you’re interested in. It’s even better if the demand out there is huge.

When I first worked on my side projects, I thought the biggest reward was to see the projects succeeding. Well, I had an even bigger reward - seeing myself grow. I hope you will have the same experience too.

Being able to self-direct a project and work on it say a lot about yourself. Now, here’s the question: Are you willing to take action?

Construct your own mental library. Here’s how:

Read a wide variety of non-fiction books, such as chemistry, philosophy, accounting, business, investing and mindset to build up your own mental library. The point of doing so is not to make you a nerdy bookworm, but to familiarize yourself with steep learning curve and the discomfort of entering uncharted territory.

Don’t worry if you can’t remember all the content - you don’t have to. The process of understanding the context at the moment is more important than remembering it. Information is abundant, the processing ability is scarce. After all, you’re a living human, not a pendrive.

I suggest reading books because it helps you cultivate focus. Anyway, you may also learn things from encyclopedia, education websites or YouTube channel. There are many great resources online. Just remind yourself to practice unwavering focus while learning online - the cost of distraction is huge.

What to learn? Self-learn topics that interest you. I am an engineering graduate, and I self-learn data science and machine learning online. While I’m far from being proficient at it, my thinking and reasoning ability have improved.

Don’t worry if you’re busy. Start small by doing this for 30 minutes a day. It would be great if you treat it as your hobby. In fact, that’s what I do. Do not interfere this process with short term profitability - we’re in for our long term benefits.

Challenge your own thinking. Here’s why:

According to my experience, we’re either improving or degrading. If we think we stagnate, we’re in fact degrading. And the best way to improve is to challenge ourselves.

Most people wait for the external circumstances to challenge them, but that’s not the best strategy. Be the one who challenges yourself. Become your own challenger. That’s how you raise your own bar, instead of depending on the benchmark set by people around you.

You can probably think about someone who seems to rise above the competition, enjoys doing his things and produces incredible results. I guess that’s simply because he doesn’t wait for the environment to challenge him.

In the past 7 days, I’ve challenged the way I balance discipline and flow, my understanding about capitalism and examined my morning rituals. I don’t go into the minute details here, but that’s literally what I did. I shared my insights of self-challenge with my wife yesterday, while I was driving around the town.

When you challenge yourself, you don’t have to announce to the world. Know your purpose. Growth happens internally, and improvement manifests externally. Don’t challenge yourself with the objective to impress people. Impress yourself instead. Over time, you’ll find challenging yourself fulfilling.

Experiment. Here’s what I mean:

We usually don’t succeed the first time we try. That’s the way it works. None of toddlers can walk smoothly at their first try. None of the entrepreneurs managed to build a multi-million/billion businesses at their first try, even if some of them tend to give you that impression. You get the point.

I was stupid. I was naive. I thought by preparing myself over and over again, I would execute something perfectly and achieve the grand results. HELL NO. It never works that way. I playfully laugh at myself whenever I reminisce about it.

But it doesn’t mean we don’t have to prepare. We still have to prepare. We still have to plan. We still have to equip ourselves with the right skill, mentality and team.

Then, experiment. Identify your variables. Fine-tune them. See what works best. Rinse and repeat. Experiment happens everywhere - in our daily life, businesses, relationships and of course the laboratories. For example, I’ve been experimenting different education styles and administrative process with my education centre. Over time, I produce better results.

The key is to experiment smartly. Don’t make foolhardy experiments. Resources are valuable, don’t burn all your resources prematurely. I believe you can see how conducting smart experiments make you smarter.

Spend time with people way smarter than you. Here’s why:

We are the average of five people we spend the most time with. Our subconscious is shaped by our surrounding, whether we admit it or not. Personally, I find this very true, even though I used to disbelieve it.

As long as you’re open-minded, smart (or wise) people pull you up to their standards. It’s a rather natural process - just like how spending time with calm people makes you calmer as well.

What if people around you aren’t as dedicated in personal development as you are? Spend time with great authors or mentors then. In other words, read or look for those people digitally.

To connect with mentors or high quality people, you basically have to do two things: be communicative and provide value. Give before you get. If you think you have nothing to give, upgrade yourself until you have something to give. For example, I’m writing here to attract like-minded people like you. English isn’t my mother tongue, Mandarin is. I practiced writing by myself until I can write smoothly here on Quora.

You don’t have to passively accept anyone who enters your life. You have the power to choose your associations. Choose wisely.

If you can practice these 5 things well, you’ll probably become both smarter and wiser.

Perhaps I’ll make it into 10 someday.

Together we improve.

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Bharath Simha Reddy

Masters in Computer Information Systems, Saint Louis University (Expected 2024)Apr 2

What are unspoken rules you learned too late in life?

when in doubt, the answer is no.

you can't love someone into loving you. some feelings are just unrequited.

stop wasting your time on people who don't value you. the right people will not make you feel like shit.

you can't hope for people to change. they have to want the change for themselves.

what is right for you doesn't have to be right for other people.

the less you focus on the outside, the better the inside gets.

your goal in life is to live a life you're happy with. everything else comes after.

stop trying to predict problems before it happens. it doesn't change anything and takes away your enjoyment.

people are going to judge you anyway. might as well do whatever you want.

you need to let go of people from the past, to be able to move on to the people in your future.

people aren't forever. enjoy while it lasts and move on when it's over.

no one will help you to grow. you need to show up for yourself.

don't aim for perfection. you will end up getting less achieved.

let others take care of you the way you take care of them. you don't have to do everything alone.

you cannot depend on people to find your own happiness, it has to come from yourself.

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Rafael Eliassen

What are some ways I can learn to improve my self-esteem and, especially, to believe in myself?

Don’t wait for outside validation and support to believe in yourself.

If you want pure self-belief — learn to validate yourself.

You have to change your mental conversation — so that it supports you instead of dragging you down.

Say to yourself - “I am good enough” “It might not even work out but let’s give it a shot” and slowly to “I own this” “I am more than enough” “I have gone through worse and I am prepared to go through worse in order to achieve my goals”

Take the power from everybody’s hand — because not everybody is going to support you, always.

When you approve yourself it’s permanent — the game is over and you have practically won.

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Rakshith Akira

A Sensible Writer11mo

What are some good habits to follow?

Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to.

Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character.

Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.

Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake, it isn’t your problem.

Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.

If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time.

Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, a second opinion is a good alternative.

Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all.

If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're.

Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

Praise publicly. Criticize privately.

When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.

If a colleague tells you they have a doctor's appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you about their illness.

Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect.

If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude.

Never advise until you’re asked.

When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary.

Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it.

Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect.

After reading a good message try to say "Thanks for the message".

Appreciation remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have.

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Kashi

B.Tech | IIT BOMBAY Apr 24

What’s something that you learned embarrassingly late in life?

”Take care of your body because this is the only place you have to live with.”

Sometimes the people who seem the happiest are the ones that are struggling the most. Be kind, be kind, be kind.

Nobody can love you more than your mom

Don’t be overconfident.

Your close friends might get jealous of your success.

Metro cities are safer as compared to small cities for girls

Never meddle in someone's relationship. I learned this the hard way.

Never let sexual desire take over you completely.

Life is not easier for anyone, and it sucks for everyone.

Friendship fades away with life. Age is inversely proportional to the number of friends in life. As you age, friends decrease.

Friends circle keeps on changing in every stage of your life. No matter how much close they are.

When you give them too much attention, they run away. When you're busy, they want attention.

No matter how much a person claims to love you in a relationship and says they can't imagine life without you, they will move on after a breakup. At times, faster and more quickly than you.

You will become emotionally tough. Natural laughter and tears will hardly come out. You will have to force yourself to laugh or cry to feel better.

A person who is less intelligent than you can get better results than you in an aptitude exam if he/she works very hard. Don't take someone's intelligence for granted.

Don't share your problems with every other person. 80% don't care & rest, 20% are actually glad you have them. Very very few people apart from your family would actually like to see you grow and give you positive and constructive suggestions to grow further. Such people are gems. Preserve them in your life.

Social media is toxic (especially Instagram). It makes you waste your time by watching someone else’s fake life. It lowers your self-esteem.

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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 1y

What mistakes should people not make in life?

Why do your love not give you attention? Because your attention is abundant. You give it away easily & to everyone : Unlimited supply. Unlimited supply = Zero Value ,

When you’re dominating life, keep yourself grounded . It’s so easy to forget your roots & destroy your foundation — this often leads to downfall,

The biggest threat to men as they move through adulthood isn’t smoking or obesity . It’s lack of strong networking with other high value men ,

You’ll automatically look hotter than 90% of the population just by cutting junk food & working out,

Everyone is desperate for “happiness & bliss” but we try running away from pain . Don’t want to harness pain ?? Nobody said being a MAN would be easy . Seek purpose & meaning to achieve happiness,

Trust, loyalty , respect . Mess up with one & you lose all three ,

Internal dialogue rules all . If we can maintain poisonous optimism in the face of everything falling apart around us nothing is impossible ,

Boundaries are a criminally underrated trait of men/women. Very few set them , & even Fewer follow through on them . If you haven’t already , create one for family , friends & opposite sex ,

It’s not our job to to try to change or fix people. It’s to accept & love people as they’re,

You can solve lot of problems by being less impulsive & by not reacting . Your reaction is what keeps negative thoughts alive ,

Just Chill.!!

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Rafael Eliassen

What hack can I learn in 5 minutes that will make me smarter?

Use your ‘why’ to schedule things instead of the activity. eg ‘running’ as ‘getting ripped’.

If you feel stuck in your life — take bold action in the direction of your intuition.

Label whether you are lost in thought or feeling — it reduces its intensity.

To be attractive it’s all about feeling attractive — do what makes you, like you.

If it won’t matter in 5 years then it shouldn’t matter right now — don’t worry.

If you feel lost go after your likes — it’s a path to figure out what you want.

When starting something new — look for proof you are getting better to build momentum.

Write 3 things you love about yourself — to build long-term self-esteem.

It’s easier to succeed when having a good time —desperation kills your hopes.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

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Khushboo Khan 33

Human Behavior Reader at Psychology (2018–present)1y

What are some psychological facts about attracting people?

Men are attracted to women who smile more. Women tend to be more attracted to men that smile less.

Research suggests that people are often attracted to other people that resemble themselves, be it similar facial features, hair color, fashion style etc.

A mothers love is unconditional or is it… - Research has shown that mothers tend to devote more attention and give disproportionate affection to their most attractive child.

Studies have found that when people are attracted to each other, they will often mirror each other’s movements and body positioning when speaking or being in close proximity to each other.

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Karan Koirala

Free Lancer3y

I am 23. I recently discovered I don’t know anything at all. How can I improve myself, and learn more about how to do things?

Firstly, I would like to appreciate that you admit you know nothing. The majority of guys can’t admit this. This is a trait inbuilt, I surmise.

Now let’s come to the point. As you’re open to learning, it will be easier for you to grasp. Willingness and curiosity is something that builds geniuses.

We evolved and could survive because we were curious.

What you need to do is read books. Books are written after years of research and experience.

This will give you a head start. If you choose the right books, it can even change your life.

And one thing, you’ll never know until you try and experience. The one who regrets are the ones who didn’t try.

People who try come up with ideas, skills or mistakes and lessons.

This is a simple thing yet people knowingly ignore.

Reading helps and it doesn’t have to be books too. You are on a great platform- Quora. You can read here as well.

Cheers!! I pray that you all change into a great human being.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

May 13

09 Useful social skills that can be picked up quickly

Try to be humorous because people want to be entertained.

Treat others like the way you want them to treat you.

Talk less about yourself and let the other person talk more about themselves.

Don't complain that you are miserable in front of someone worse than you.

When chatting with someone, it is the art of balance of two people, do not keep asking questions.

If you don't want the other person to feel disgusted, use less rhetorical questions.

When the other person talks about something that he is very interested in, do not belittle it.

When a group of people are chatting together, take care of the person who is not familiar with the rest of the people. He will be very grateful to you.

If you don't want the other person to deny you, the most important thing you should do is to offer him/her a few choices.

Edit: Try to appreciate other's work. So upvote..

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Human mind readers ·

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Olaseni Kehinde Precious

Wed

How can the maturity of a person be defined?

You stop to worry over things you can’t change.

You start to prioritize self care and happiness.

You stop reacting to every little situation.

You let go and forgive more often.

You prioritize real-life relationships more over social media.

You learn from every experience that comes your way.

You become more interested in helping others.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LA20h

What are some of the most surprising psychological facts about women?

1. Women tend to find a man twice as attractive when they notice that other women are also interested in him.

2. Girls don’t like being stared at, unless they are already staring at you.

3. Women experience significantly more nightmares than men and have more emotional dreams.

4. Women hate conflict (but lack of response even more).

5. Compared to men, women typically exhibit a stronger sense of empathy.

6. 80% of women use silence to express pain.

7. Women think about their appearance around 9 times a day.

8. Women are more influenced and persuaded by a man’s sense of humor than his looks.

9. In group settings, women are more prone to seek consensus and work cooperatively.

10. Women typically remember their dreams better and have more vivid dreams.

11. Social influences and gender norms can have an impact on women’s self-confidence.

12. Girls love to be noticed and have their imperfections complimented.

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Rafael Eliassen

30-Million+ people have listened to my motivational speeches3y

How do I increase positive thinking and positive energy?

Don’t play the victim. You create your reality, take responsibility. There is always a way out.

Cry tears of gratitude. Rather than sadness, you should focus on the positives more.

Find the silver lining. Adapt your beliefs to empower you instead of having them destroy you.

Consume more positive content. Find good articles that uplift you, make you feel better.

Direct your action to a positive experience, which will develop a positive belief.

Do meditation or yoga every day. Yoga is very relaxing, which helps ease your mind.

Be open to humor in all situations, especially the difficult ones, just laugh.

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Mutoni August

BloggerUpdated 2y

What are some things you realize as you get older?

As I got older I started to realize some interesting things about life and my life of course

1.Most friendships won’t last forever, you start to realize that some friendships aren’t as important as you make them appear.

2.Family matters the most, as you get older you realize that the only people who care about your wellbeing are your parents, everybody else are worried about their buzzbuzzy, and so are you.

3.You will start to enjoy things you were running away from in your childhood, like staying in on the weekends instead of going out with your friends to party.

4. As you get older you start to stop caring what people think of you.

5. You won’t stop caring about being cool or missing out on the latest trend.

Lastly, but not least

You will loose a ton of relationships, but that’s okay, you outgrew them or they outgrew you, it’s normal or simply your priorities changed.

Regardless just move

From your Digest

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Dark Psychology Facts ·

Answered by

Hafiz Suboor

Mar 30

What are some psychological facts that people don't know?

People judge others based on their warmth and competence. If you can portray yourself as warm i.e., noncompetitive and friendly, people will feel like they can trust you.

Compliment other people. People will associate the adjectives you use to describe other people with your personality. This phenomenon is called spontaneous trait transference.

If you want to end a conversation, but don't know how, say this: "well I won't keep you any longer, have a good day". It ends the conversation with zero awkwardness

If you're in an argument. stay as calm as possible. When they're done yelling. stay silent and stare at them, they'll get super uncomfortable.

If someone won't let you say anything in the conversation. Drop Something on the ground. As you reach to pick it up. start talking. You'll interrupt them without them realising

While talking to someone, stare at their forehead, just between and slightly above their eye-line. It throws them off their game and they have a harder time lying to you or trying to influence you.

Pretend you're bad at lying because then people will think you're telling the truth

When arguing with someone, start laughing, this will irritate them and you might win!

If you whisper something to someone they'll most likely to believe you

If you are talking to someone, look over their shoulder in horror, this will scare them

Before playing rock, paper, scissors ask them a random question, that usually makes them pick scissors

If someone is yelling at you while you're on your phone, let out a sigh, and that'll trick them into feeling bad

If your trying to sleep but can't count to 300 without moving ur whole body

Self-disclosure may be one of the best relationship building techniques. When you share intimate information with another person, they are more likely to feel closer to you and want to confide in you in the future.

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Nela Canovic

Growth mindset hacker, writer, Silicon Valley entrepreneurUpdated 1y

What types of habits can build more self-discipline in life?

If you’re dedicated to build more self-discipline in your life:

Don’t treat it as an extracurricular activity. Don’t practice something for one week then say to yourself, Ooooh this is tougher than I thought. Maybe it’s not for me.

Ask yourself, What’s in this for me? If I persevere, what are the concrete benefits I will get? Understanding the reason for doing something differently is key. You need to get your brain on board that this change is a positive one.

Stop procrastinating and start doing. This means you should identify one area of your life where you’d like to see more improvement. Is it prioritizing work? Spending less time on Twitter? Going to bed earlier? Give yourself a place from which to start.

There are many habits that can boost your self-discipline. For example:

#1. Train your brain to focus on what’s most important.

This is a simple routine you can practice in the morning. The goal of the routine is to get your brain used to making decisions on what it needs to focus on as soon as you wake up. Here’s how I practice it. I start my day with this question: “What is the onething I am committed to completing today?” This technique gets my brain to start evaluating the goals that are important to me right now and forces me to prioritize one goal that needs attention immediately. In addition, I give myself the time to think about what’s important in my life, instead of letting other people or situations dictate what I should or shouldn’t be doing.

What’s the process?

Write the question down in big letters on a sheet of paper and hang it on your bedroom or bathroom wall. Read it out loud as you start your day, for example as you’re brushing your teeth or getting dressed. Come up with an answer on the spot and answer it out loud. Then follow up by taking action: focus your energy throughout the day to completing your one thing.

#2. Maximize your willpower.

When we wake up to begin our day, it’s common for most of us to feel a sense of overwhelm because there are so many things we need to do, from small routine tasks to working on large projects towards bigger goals, both professional and personal. As a result, our first response might be to delay doing anything (because it’s hard to decide what to do and in what order), which translates into a bad habit of procrastinating. That’s a self-imposed obstacle. Why? Because we all have a finite amount of willpower that takes us through the day. And that willpower gets weaker and weaker as the day progresses. So if you think you'll start writing that essay after dinner, think again. Chances are you’ll put if off some more and turn to your TV instead.

What’s the process?

Practicing self-discipline means that if you want to focus on priorities, you should work on them early. As early in the day as possible — in fact, start right after breakfast. Do that task that you’ve been putting off all week before lunchtime. Write up a plan for the school or work week ahead of time. Finish up doing homework or reviewing your exam questions that you’ve been procrastinating on for days because you’d rather do something more fun. The benefit? You gain a sense of accomplishment early that will make you feel better about the whole day.

#3. Treat a new habit as a choice instead of punishment.

OK, so you’ve figured out that there’s something in your life you’d like to change because you don’t like what you’re currently doing (or not doing). It can be a fitness goal you’d like to reach (start running in the mornings like you used to in college), a health benefit (stop eating dinner in restaurants three times a week), or better manage your time (get more sleep instead of watching shows on Netflix until 2 a.m.). All those new habits you want to acquire will need self-discipline, time, and repetition. If this sounds unappealing, it’s because you make it sound that way: you feel like you “should” be doing something difficult when you’d rather be relaxing.

What’s the process?

First, stop telling yourself that keeping a life-changing habit is a way to punish yourself. That’s the wrong attitude to have for anything in your life. If you keep thinking this way, you might give up on many things that can make a huge difference for you. Instead, think of a new habit as a choice that you make in order to become a better version of yourself. And next, make the change as easy as possible by starting with tiny steps. Instead of saying you have to hit the gym for two hours each evening after work, do a mini-workout at home for 10 minutes each day to give your body time to adjust. Or, start going to bed 15 minutes earlier and read a good book or listen to relaxing music to help you fall asleep faster.

#4. Learn to manage your busy thoughts.

Having random thoughts pop up throughout the day — sometimes fast, sometimes related to what’s happening around us, or sometimes worrying about the future — isn’t anything unusual. The older we get, the more cognitive input we have, and we often struggle to categorize this input. What’s relevant to our life and what isn’t? Which problem do I need to solve? Is this something I can control, or can I let it go? The goal should be not to let all these thought determine your mood, affect your behavior, and force you to make decisions you wouldn’t be making if you just had some time to sit and think about what needs to be done next. There are ways to manage your thoughts better.

What’s the process?

First, it’s important to be aware that if you feel overwhelmed, have negative or self-critical thoughts, or find yourself ruminating on past events and personal failures, you are not alone. The good news is this: even though you may think it, you are not your thoughts. You are much bigger than your thoughts! And second, start considering a few habits to reign in those thoughts and categorize them as either relevant or just dramatic. You can start with a 10-minute meditation to calm your thoughts and even slow down the chaos. An excellent app to try is Headspace. Also, you can devote 30 minutes a day to being outside in a park or by the beach. Spending some time in nature really does positively affect the brain.

#5. Say no to what distracts you.

If you think that all the gadgets and toys we have at our disposal today are to blame for getting distracted easily, think again. Even the Roman Stoic philosopher Seneca wrote about this, and the topic is featured in his book On the Shortness of Life. Seneca describes people’s struggles with gluttony, vanity, focusing on materialistic things, and always trying to impress others. Sound familiar? Maybe today we don’t host lavish banquets to impress our guests, but we do pay attention to what we see on social media and we observe the images of surreal lifestyles on Facebook or Instagram. And that often leads to feelings of dissatisfaction, envy, and self-criticism.

What’s the process?

First, take everything you see on social media with a grain of salt. Chances are those pictures and updates are not a real representation of everyday life, but rather a tactic someone is using to sell a product, service, or brand. And second, don’t waste your time on distractions if they don’t serve the purpose of adding value to your life. Set your phone to Airplane mode when you need to focus, especially in the first few hours of the day. Let people in your inner circle know you won't be available for a few hours. Check email and social media apps in the afternoons and evening, instead of spending the first 30 minutes of your day on them. Close all tabs on your browser that may be tempting you to unfocus from your important work.

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Flavian Mwasi

Social Philosopher4y

What are some of the most underrated tips?

Don’t mix business with pleasure. One of you will go — either you or the business.

Save for tomorrow. I’ve seen people become beggars simply because they ate tomorrow’s meal today.

Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Yes, that one basket could have a hole at the bottom.

Be persistent until the devil gives up.

You need money to make money. People want to believe you have money before they buy you lunch.

Never love a stranger. Yes, that stranger could be Hitler disguised as a priest.

Don’t worry. Be happy, always. This has actually been proven to prolong your life. Worry shortens life.

Whenever you’re in stress, take a deep breath. Obvious this fills oxygen into your lungs and you know what oxygen does to your body.

Meditate. Yes, bring your body, soul and spirit in harmony with each other.

Take a cold shower. Enhances discipline no doubt. And adds more days in your life.

Wake up early. Ever heard of the saying that “The early bird catches the worm?”

Exercise. This is the most underrated life tip which can save your life.

Eat a well balanced diet. Don’t fill diesel into a gasoline engine.

Don’t smoke, drink or smoke dope. I think this speaks for itself. Try to ignore it and watch the ensuing results.

Don’t drink while driving. This is not even a life tip. It’s a traffic law.

Love yourself. This has nothing to do with being selfish.

Forgive. This is the fastest way to heal yourself.

Positive attitude. This helps you to get along with everyone.

Forget the past. Don’t drag your past into your future.

Show gratitude. This is a universal law of abundance.

Practice self-talk. This is the only way to train your sub-conscious mind.

Don’t complain. The time wasted in complaining can be used solving problems.

Be yourself. This a question of identity. Lose your identity and you lose yourself.

Work smart. This is really a way of saying, do much with less. Use your brains instead of your physical strength.

Read self-improvement books. This is a way to expand your brain.

Take responsibility. Be in control of your situation and accept mistakes.

Rest. All work and no play make Jack a dull boy.

Lend a helping hand. You might need the same one day

Joke. Share. Love. Care. These four constitute life.

Be kind. Show kindness to others and you will get the same back.

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Hector Quintanilla

Founder at BeBusinessSmart.com (2019–present)2y

What are the greatest indicators of future success in an individual?

First tell me, what do all of these items have in common?

Boxes

Furniture

Toothpicks

Paper

Musical instruments

Flooring

Chewing gum

Doors

Fences

Docks

Boats

The list could go on and on …

What do they have in common?

…

All of these ORIGINATE from trees — Yet, they’re radically different.

Think for a second about how different the value of each product is.

What made that same resource (the tree) so unique and special?

CREATIVITY.

Human creativity has unlimited potential.

A tree will always be a tree — but the catalyst behind the creation of endless possibilities is always human creativity.

There’s a VERY important lesson here:

Someone invented paper many years ago.

As the use of paper has evolved and perfected over the years, this has resulted in OVERLAPPING innovation!

Example: Think about the hundreds of inventions that have resulted from paper alone.

Books, notebooks, packaging materials, calendars, coffee filters, egg cartons, envelopes, paper tissues, toilet paper, magazines, newspapers, paper towels, cards, wallpaper … to name a few!

Never forget this: Innovation ALWAYS opens doors to new opportunities!

I said ALWAYS!

Read again: Innovation ALWAYS opens doors to new opportunities!

Now, to answer your question, what are the greatest indicators of future success in an individual?

It’s easy to predict who will win in the future, and to be clear, it will NOT necessarily be those with fancy college degrees on their walls!

Those who think “outside the box” will win in the decades ahead.

Think about this: Millions may have the physical strength to “cut down a tree” — but very FEW have the creativity to transform a commodity (like the tree) into something extremely valuable and take it to the market.

Today, innovation is overlapping and accelerating change. This won’t stop. In fact, this is just the beginning. This is the foundation of our new economy.

So, if you find yourself today complaining that you can’t find opportunities — maybe it’s time for you to OPEN YOUR EYES, change your surroundings and your mindset because most likely you’re stuck inside the wrong “box.”

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Rafael Eliassen

What do you do when no one believes in you?

You believe in yourself — if nobody in your life believes in you then they never will.

Self-belief is built internally. It doesn’t have to depend on external circumstances.

Crush your limiting beliefs — “I don’t deserve to make that much money”, “I don’t deserve to be liked by that person” — Whatever they are, prove yourself wrong. Start that business, approach that person.

You can’t think your way out of your limiting beliefs. The only way is to take action on what you believe isn’t possible.

When you take action and things aren’t going your way — keep going, you are supposed to go through this. It’s the only way you will break free from your beliefs.

Change your mental conversation — I am enough, I got this, I will try my best. “It doesn’t matter what they say or what happens I am not looking for that external outcome” — All I want is to crush my limiting beliefs and change myself.

When you move forward with this mindset — nobody in the world can stop you from getting what you want.

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Mukul Royy

Ex-army officer, Physician critical care 3y

What's your idea about your life during difficult times?

Sometimes you just need a day off from reality, just a day without people, problems, & all the bullshit that runs through your mind,

Instead of asking yourself: “Why did this happen to me?” Start asking yourself : How can I learn from this?”,

Stop warring with yourself over everything you do ,

Don’t limit your challenges. Challenge your limits,

Results are always sexy . The grind isn’t ,

Again!! Disappointed but not surprised . Problems are inescapable / unavoidable. It’ll keep coming at you till you reach the grave ,

Life doesn’t always teach positive lessons in a positive way ,

Path to success begins once you stop living the way society taught you,

Make use of whatever you’ve & start from wherever you’re . No use blaming circumstances, make the most of it ,

You lose a lot of friends when you start to get serious about your life & your goals,

If you look to others for fulfillment, you’ll never be fulfilled . If your happiness depends on money, you’ll never be happy with yourself,

You can’t learn when you’re talking. Listen more,

Sometimes, the most important lessons in life are the ones that we learn the hard way ,

Learn to remain calm even as you’re aware of the storm happening inside of you,

Just Chill.!!

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Rafael Eliassen

30-Million+ people have listened to my motivational speeches3y

How do you become strong as a person?

Face your fears: You can only overcome your fears by facing them, don’t run away.

Think of your past successes: Counter your fear of not doing well with past achievements in order to excel.

Be curious: Curiosity is the foundation of life long growth. Remain curious, remain teachable.

Prepare and practice: The better prepared you are, the more confident you will be.

Overcome limiting beliefs: Expose yourself to different situations and keep pushing through the uncomfortable.

Talk to others: Meet new people to gain a more diverse perspective on life.

Believe in yourself: See things as a challenge than a problem. Say to yourself “I know I can do it”.

Overcome negative bias: Come up with five positive thoughts to overcome one negative thought.

Overcome self-doubt: Find out the areas in which you doubt yourself and remove those barriers.

Visualize your end goal: Remind yourself why you started. Think of the feeling that you will experience after succeeding.

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Divya Yadav ·

Answered by

Divya Yadav

Mar 1

What are the 5 most common mind games people play on you?

Ignoring messages , calls or questions to make you feel uncertain & to make you start doubting yourself,

Playing with your emotions . Nothing will drain more energy from your life than your partner who’s always whining ,

Throwing a tantrum : Raising their voice , using a lot of gestures to get whatever they want ,

Making critical remarks disguised as sarcasm or humour to make you feel inferior or less secure . Don’t respond. Smirk & then continue with what you were doing ,

Pretend Ignorance . Playing dumb in order to get away with behaviour or things ,

Just Chill.!!

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Human mind readers ·

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Fredrick Fabian

Jun 25

10 Signs of being mentally weak

Lack of resilience in the face of adversity.

Succumbing easily to negative thoughts and self-doubt.

Inability to manage stress and overwhelming emotions.

Seeking constant validation and approval from others.

Fear of failure, avoiding challenges and taking risks.

Difficulty in adapting to change and embracing uncertainty.

Dwelling on past mistakes and unable to let go.

Self-imposed limitations, not exploring full potential.

Constantly comparing oneself to others, feeling inadequate.

Inability to maintain healthy boundaries and prioritize self-care.

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Jay Matthews

Updated 3y

What is the best way to improve life?

Focus on how, not what.

Ever feel like you wasted a weekend? You fumed about work, procrastinated on the cleaning, flipped through channels, then resented that it was over.

The best way to improve life is the ultimate time-saver:

Do everything with total attention.

If you watch TV, do it with total attention.

Read slowly and deliberately.

Rest and take walks, and enjoy the stillness.

When you go back to work, bring total attention. Instead of ruminating and rushing, try to focus on each moment of work.

We keep searching for the perfect book, TV series, pastime, or job.

It’s not what you read, but how you read it.

It’s not what you watch, but how you watch it.

It’s not what you do, but how you do it.

When you give everything your total attention, you won’t waste a minute.

4 Important laws of growth

Speak less

Let your results talk for you.

2. Listen more

You can not learn if you do not listen.

You can not GROW if you do not LEARN.

3. React less

The less you react, the better you can respond.

4. Observe more

The more you observe, the clearer the situation.

The clearer the situation, the better your reaction.

The better your reaction, the better your results.

6 things you would realize when you will get mature

Try to learn from other people’s mistakes.

Never tell people your goals.

Prioritize. Become the person your mom wants you to marry.

Don’t compare your success to other people’s success. You have different mentalities, different goals, and different values.

Acquire skills, which you can transform into money.

It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than to beg for permission.

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Dushka Zapata

I also write about life on Instagram. (@dushkaamateur)May 30

What habits could be making my anxiety worse?

The desire to control what others think of me.

The tendency to want everything to be perfect.

The sense that the busier I am the more important and valuable I am.

The belief that I have to “earn” my right to rest, relax or take a break.

The illusion that I can read what other people are thinking and that everyone thinks I am somehow falling short.

The feeling that I can predict the future and that there is only one outcome: the worst one possible.

The habit of putting myself at the center of every story, so that if anyone looks angry, upset or uncomfortable, clearly it’s related to something I did.

A lens that is categorical: everything is in or out, good or bad, with nothing in between.

The fact is: I have no power over how others perceive me. Good enough is good enough. I can (and should) rest any time. I don’t know what others are thinking, and it’s probably about themselves, not me. I cannot predict the future, and it’s not always catastrophic. I am not at the center of every story and most things are nuanced, softer and gentler than living on the edges of the extreme.

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Human mind readers ·

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Khushboo Khan 33

What are some psychological tricks and hacks that are useful to know?

1:—Your favorite song is probably favorite because you associate with an emotional event of your life.

2:-If you want to make someone feel uncomfortable, look at their forehead when you're talking to them.

3:-When a group of people laugh, they tend to look at the person they like the most.

4:-The truth will never be more painful than discovering a lie.

5:-Writing down negative thoughts and tossing them in a trash can is a psychological trick to improve your mood.

6:-Being unable to get someone off your mind indicates that you are also on that person’s mind.

7:-A person usually makes a lot of hand gestures when telling a true story. When they lie, a person's hands will stay noticeably still.

8:-The person on your mind, while you’re unable to sleep, is usually the person responsible for your happiness, pain or both.

9:-You appear more attractive to the other person when you make them smile or laugh.

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Rafael Eliassen

Updated 3y

What are the habits one can integrate into their daily routine, which would make their life better?

Quit expectations: The main reason you can’t stay consistent with new habits is the expectation of instant results. Your only fix is to give-up the expectation of results and focus on the process. The process of meditation, exercising, eating healthy.

Save time: Your time is your greatest asset. Don’t spend it on meaningless activities and people like mindlessly scrolling on Instagram or being around people you don’t like.

Realize the bigger picture: You are not your achievements. When you die, you will only remember your experiences not possessions. Focus on experiencing every day instead of chasing that one big goal.

Become conscious: You are neither your body or your thoughts because you can observe both. Thinking and feeling are a function of your mind, you are only the observer. Develop this observer in you.

Change patterns: As you observe yourself, you will find your automatic patterns. Example: Feeling triggered by people’s success, making your work harder. These patterns if unfixed will ruin your life. Become aware of them and act differently.

Educate yourself: Failure is inevitable. To beat failure — You need to kill your expectations + gain knowledge. Seek knowledge on wealth, health and relationships. Failure is only a lack of knowledge in disguise.

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Jerry Tan

Senior Staff Accountant at Rule One Proteins (2016–present)Feb 26

How can you identify toxic or manipulative people?

Here are some signs that someone may be toxic or manipulative:

They constantly criticize or belittle you: Toxic or manipulative people may try to make you feel bad about yourself by constantly criticizing or belittling you. They may make fun of your appearance, abilities, or personality in order to make themselves feel superior.

They try to control you: Toxic or manipulative people may try to control your actions, decisions, or relationships with others. They may use guilt, intimidation, or threats to get their way.

They are always the victim: Toxic or manipulative people may always play the victim, even when they are clearly in the wrong. They may try to make you feel sorry for them or manipulate you into doing what they want by portraying themselves as helpless or unfairly treated.

They don't respect your boundaries: Toxic or manipulative people may disregard your boundaries, whether they are physical, emotional, or social. They may try to push your limits in order to gain power or control over you.

They are inconsistent or unpredictable: Toxic or manipulative people may behave erratically or unpredictably. They may be affectionate and loving one moment, and then cold and distant the next. This can leave you feeling confused or unsure of where you stand with them.

They lie or deceive you: Toxic or manipulative people may lie or deceive you in order to get what they want. They may make promises they don't intend to keep or manipulate situations in their favor.

They create drama: Toxic or manipulative people may thrive on drama and conflict. They may create problems or drama in order to gain attention or control over a situation.

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Hector Quintanilla

Founder at BeBusinessSmart.com (2019–present)Updated 4y

What should one do in their 20s to avoid regrets in their 30s and 40s?

The world is divided in two types of people:

People who wait for others to give them permission to do what they want to do.

People who grant themselves permission to do what they want to do.

Want to avoid regrets in life?

STOP being a people-pleaser and live YOUR own life. Start today!

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Brooks Hardy

Mon

What are some habits of a mentally strong person?

Mentally strong people tend to exhibit several key habits, including:

Resilience: They bounce back from setbacks and challenges.

Positive thinking: They maintain an optimistic outlook.

Self-awareness: They understand their emotions and thoughts.

Emotional regulation: They manage their feelings effectively.

Adaptability: They embrace change and stay flexible.

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Vishnu Santhosh

Lives in India (1996–present)Mon

What is the brutal truth about people?

We are inherently flawed: Every individual has their own set of weaknesses, biases, and imperfections. No one is exempt from making mistakes or exhibiting negative qualities.

Self-interest often prevails: Human nature tends to prioritize self-preservation and personal gain over the well-being of others. This self-centeredness can lead to acts of betrayal, deceit, and manipulation.

Judgment and prejudice are commonplace: People tend to form judgments based on appearances, stereotypes, and preconceived notions. This can result in discrimination, marginalization, and the perpetuation of harmful biases.

Fear drives many actions: Fear, whether conscious or subconscious, plays a significant role in shaping human behavior. Fear of failure, rejection, or the unknown often leads individuals to make decisions that may not align with their true desires or values.

Ego can cloud judgment: The ego, our sense of self-importance, often interferes with rational thinking and objective decision-making. It can lead to arrogance, stubbornness, and an unwillingness to consider alternative perspectives.

Change is difficult: Despite our capacity for growth and adaptation, humans often resist change due to comfort, familiarity, or fear of the unknown. This resistance can hinder personal development and societal progress.

Conflict is inevitable: Disagreements, tensions, and conflict are part of human interaction. Differing opinions, interests, and values frequently result in clashes, both on an individual and collective level.

Vulnerability is often avoided: Many people shy away from vulnerability, fearing judgment, rejection, or emotional pain. This avoidance can hinder meaningful connections, personal growth, and authentic relationships.

Death is a certainty: The ultimate truth about people is that we all have a finite lifespan. Confronting our mortality can be uncomfortable, but it can also serve as a reminder to live fully, authentically, and with purpose.

Chaotic !!!

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Chris Freyler

Studied Criminal Justice & Psychology2y

What's the best relationship advice you can give someone?

Listen to your intuition. Everyone is born with it. If something feels off, listen to it. Run

In your first meeting, if the person has everything in common with you and calls you a soulmate or twin flame, run.

Overly sexual in a very short time. Example, 2–3 days into a relationship and they are messaging you very sexually explicit text. Run

If every relationship ended because of their ex. They accept no fault. Run

They talk about a lot of friends, but you never meet any of them. Run.

They have an addiction. Run

Their words don’t match their action. Run

Take time to get to know someone before being intimate.

It takes at least 3 months for their true self to shine. Give it time and take it slow.

Really work on yourself before a relationship. Once you are happy with who you are, and love yourself, you will be less likely to put up with BS and attract toxicity.

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Rafael Eliassen

What are some good things to do every day?

In this sea of negativity, make time to consume uplifting content.

Change your mental filter — Look at “how things aren’t a problem”.

“How would the confident you act?” — explore your confident self, take action according to it.

Take risks, go out of your comfort zone — apply for that job, approach that person, don’t wait.

Take action towards a major goal. Life is nothing if you are not growing.

Have a moment of clear-mindedness — exercise, meditation, yoga, anything that gets you out of your head.

Have a routine — don’t leave your life to entropy, take control.

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Vishnu Santhosh

Lives in India (1996–present)Mon

What is the brutal truth about people?

We are inherently flawed: Every individual has their own set of weaknesses, biases, and imperfections. No one is exempt from making mistakes or exhibiting negative qualities.

Chaotic !!!

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Chris Freyler

Studied Criminal Justice & Psychology2y

What's the best relationship advice you can give someone?

Listen to your intuition. Everyone is born with it. If something feels off, listen to it. Run

In your first meeting, if the person has everything in common with you and calls you a soulmate or twin flame, run.

Overly sexual in a very short time. Example, 2–3 days into a relationship and they are messaging you very sexually explicit text. Run

If every relationship ended because of their ex. They accept no fault. Run

They talk about a lot of friends, but you never meet any of them. Run.

They have an addiction. Run

Their words don’t match their action. Run

Take time to get to know someone before being intimate.

It takes at least 3 months for their true self to shine. Give it time and take it slow.

Really work on yourself before a relationship. Once you are happy with who you are, and love yourself, you will be less likely to put up with BS and attract toxicity.

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Rafael Eliassen

What are some good things to do every day?

In this sea of negativity, make time to consume uplifting content.

Change your mental filter — Look at “how things aren’t a problem”.

“How would the confident you act?” — explore your confident self, take action according to it.

Take risks, go out of your comfort zone — apply for that job, approach that person, don’t wait.

Take action towards a major goal. Life is nothing if you are not growing.

Have a moment of clear-mindedness — exercise, meditation, yoga, anything that gets you out of your head.

Have a routine — don’t leave your life to entropy, take control.

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Asim Qureshi

CEO Jibble | Meet the new standard in employee time tracking4y

What are the most valuable skills of the future?

I guess I’m teaching my own kids what I believe to be the most valuable skills of the future. I’ve pulled them out of school and they’re learning the following:

Languages - they’re learning spoken Mandarin, Hindi/Urdu, French, Malay and Arabic. And English of course.

Numeracy - I think my kids have gone way too far in what’s actually useful - what’s needed is being able to do the basics well. If you can work out 35% of 350 in your head fairly quickly you’re probably numerate enough.

Coding - my two elder kids, 12 and 14, spend around 2 hours a day learning to code - Python. BTW I don’t think 2 hours a day is enough.

Public speaking / debating - my 14 year old regularly attends public speaking classes.

Team skills - through group activities or sports.

Social skills - being able to mix well with different people. So I ensure my kids meet different kids of different ages and backgrounds regularly.

Sales - I’ve asked my kids to sell US$10k of T-shirts which I have left over from a failed business venture I have. Sales is a key skill in any career, including if you’re a physics professor or accountant. I mean, you need to sell yourself in a job interview.

Social media / writing / marketing - I’m lumping these together because I see them all as knowing how to ‘get out there’ and communicating messages well online. Which is why I encourage my daughter, Maryam Qureshi, to write on Quora.

Instead of learning things that likely won’t be applied in your life like advanced mathematics, molecular biology, chemistry, economics, you should learn skills that likely will be.

Applicable skills are, and always have been, the skills of the future.

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Sherry Cam

Psychological Counselor(2014-present), LAJun 1

What is the deep secret of life?

Be a good person. But don’t waste your time proving it.

Delete that old version of you, it expired.

When you start letting people misunderstand you, life become a lot simpler.

You are the most permanent thing in your life.

Everything is figureoutable.

Our bodies are our least interesting thing about ourselves.

Labeling people will never bring equality.

Date someone who communicates and apologize.

Don’t waste sunsets with people who will be gone by sunrise.

Normalize not forcing connections with people who don’t see the value of having you.

It’s okay if all you did was exist today.

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Chris Freyler

Studied Criminal Justice & Psychology at University of Cincinnati2y

What does the narcissist unwittingly teach you?

Happiness: It doesn’t come from outside sources, it comes from within.

Trust: It has to be earned, not easily given away. You will trust the most untrustworthy people. And you will completely question yourself in the process.

Victim: The biggest victim in the room, can and will be the most abusive.

Intuition: That thing you are given, you know? Gut feelings? The intuition everyone talks about? It’s real 99% of the time, listen to it.

SELFISH: You are your best friend, partner and mate. Most people are in the world for their self and their self only. And will hurt others without a second thought.

Self reflection: They show you an up close and personal view of what you need to work on.

Drama: Some people live on it and they will subconsciously drag you into it, then blame it on you when you take the lead.

Childhood trauma: That abuse you endured as a child? Welcome it all back 10 fold, time to get to work. They will treat you exactly how you feel about yourself.

Truth: There are horrible people in this world that you can and will give your soul to, and they will treat you like yesterday’s trash.

Boundaries: Do yourself a favor and don’t have any if you date one. And if you do and happen to escape, create some to avoid the same disaster from happening again.

Self respect: Up close and personal view of how little respect you have for yourself. Tough, right? Not for the faint of heart.

Self worth: They show you how little worth you have of yourself. It’s depressing, right? It sure as shit is, and you keep going back for more.

Projection: Not like the movie thingy. The “thingy” where someone throws all their bullshit on to you, and makes it your problem not theirs. All while they sit, and deny all responsibility.

Gaslighting: It does exist. Here they teach you that a normal every day person can be turned into a blithering, confused fucking idiot, questioning all reality.

Lessons: Pay careful attention. I know you never volunteered for a PHD in delusion, but you got one. Take that degree and use it for the future. It’s more useful than you think.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

Jun 28

06 Habits of selfish people you should know

Selfish people prioritize their own needs and wants over those of others.

They may take credit for others' work to boost their own image.

They ignore the needs and wants of others.

They may refuse to compromise or work towards a mutually beneficial solution in a situation.

Selfish individuals may use manipulation and deceit to get what they want.

Selfish individuals may crave constant attention and admiration from others, and may become upset or angry if they don't receive it.

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Robert

Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Updated Mar 21

What is the most important lesson in life?

1. Be true to yourself.

2. Respect others.

3. Treat people the way you want to be treated.

4. Make your own decisions.

5. Don’t be afraid to take risks.

6. Appreciate and be thankful for the blessings in life.

7. Remain positive.

8. Focus on the present.

9. Embrace change.

10. Be patient and persistent.

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Human mind readers ·

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Elia Juniana

Jun 28

06 Habits of selfish people you should know

Selfish people prioritize their own needs and wants over those of others.

They may take credit for others' work to boost their own image.

They ignore the needs and wants of others.

They may refuse to compromise or work towards a mutually beneficial solution in a situation.

Selfish individuals may use manipulation and deceit to get what they want.

Selfish individuals may crave constant attention and admiration from others, and may become upset or angry if they don't receive it.

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Robert

Project Manager at TheIshimwe (2020–present)Updated Mar 21

What is the most important lesson in life?

1. Be true to yourself.

2. Respect others.

3. Treat people the way you want to be treated.

4. Make your own decisions.

5. Don’t be afraid to take risks.

6. Appreciate and be thankful for the blessings in life.

7. Remain positive.

8. Focus on the present.

9. Embrace change.

10. Be patient and persistent.

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Mr X

Success ExpertMar 16

How can I enhance my brain and my ability to remember and think very easily?

There are several strategies you can use to enhance your brain function and improve your memory and cognitive abilities. One of the most effective ways is to maintain a healthy lifestyle. This includes eating a balanced diet, exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, and managing stress levels.

Another important strategy is to challenge your brain regularly. Engage in activities that require mental effort, such as reading, solving puzzles, playing strategy games, and learning new skills. Also, try to reduce distractions and focus on one task at a time to improve concentration and memory retention.

In addition, consider incorporating brain-boosting supplements such as omega-3 fatty acids, vitamins B6 and B12, and antioxidants into your diet. These nutrients have been shown to improve brain function and support overall cognitive health.

Finally, make sure to take breaks and give your brain time to rest and recharge. A healthy balance between mental stimulation and relaxation is key to maintaining a sharp mind and improving your ability to remember and think easily.

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Chris Freyler

Studied Criminal Justice & Psychology at University of Cincinnati2y

What behaviors make certain people very likable?

They lack an agenda: What you see is what you get. They don’t “turn on” Mr/Ms nice guy/girl to grab your attention. They are genuine and it shows in their behaviors. But they aren’t over the top in politeness.

Humor: Who doesn’t like to laugh? I’m not talking about the wanna be cheesy funny, but that person that just has a sense of humor, and can turn on the humor when needed. It can be very comforting.

Helpful/Caring: Again, it has to be authentic. They care/help because that’s who they are, not looking for something in return.

Confidence: Don’t confuse arrogance with confidence. One, knows what they want and what action it takes to acquire it. The other, is a projection of insecurities that flaunt a fragile ego. Fairly easy to spot.

Quiet/Listener: They won’t randomly offer unwanted advice or pretend to be an expert in something. When called upon they will share their experiences in hopes of helping someone in their journey. Other than they, they observe.

Creativity: Their mind is always looking for a solution. They are a problem solver.

Thoughtful: They remember the small things. They like to see people smile, laugh, comfortable and happy.

Sense of Adventure: They like to have fun, and are spontaneous. They are willing to try new events/activities with an open mind.

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Rafael Eliassen

Personal Growth & Business Consultant at eRafael.com2y

What are the most productive habits?

Break open your opinions. Your thoughts become biased when you have strong opinions about a topic. Consume podcast, books, media that go against your natural opinion. Whether it’s politics, self-help or assumptions about life.

Do a 10-minute breathing exercise. You can do deep breaths, or specific exercises like alternate nose breathing. It will enhance your awareness and trigger the parasympathetic nervous system (healing).

Tai Lopez's Reading Rule. Speed read 30-minutes a day. It's 10-min for classic old books, 10-min for new business books, 10-min for a famous biography. You can spread them out at morning, noon and night.

Adopt new micro habits. They are habits that need minimal effort but provide 10x results. Like, making your bed, sitting with good posture or one-min breathing meditation.

Have a morning wake-up window. People either force themselves to wake-up at 5:00 AM or fail and sleep till noon. Both are extremes. Instead, set a 1–2 hour window in which you will wake up.

Introduce active rewards into your life. When you plug yourself into a screen, it’s passive and it drains you. Entertain yourself actively, play games with family, sports (when possible) and hobbies.

Every day do one thing that scares you. The more you avoid doing it out of fear, the more fearful you get. Soon, this fear seeps into other areas of your life. And vice-versa.

Remind yourself that you’ll die. People live their lives like they are immortal. They have suppressed death but death is what fuels life. We will die one day is the reason humans do the impossible.

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Jun 23

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Abhishek Ambad

Growth Marketer | Digital marketing | SEOFeb 16

Can you teach me a weird psychology trick?

1. Observe a person's parents to understand them.

A person's ability to love comes from parents, and discipline also comes from parents.

2. Don't make a decision when you're crying, the less you speak when your feelings are negative, the better.

3. When someone agrees to your first request, there is a good chance that they will agree to the second request.

4. Curiosity can overcome fear.

5. You won't be depressed when you run.

6. Letting go will only make things worse.

7. First of all to meet each other's needs, you can cultivate good interpersonal, cooperative relationships.

8. Most people are unbelievers, have a fragile self-esteem

9. If a person is not good at expressing himself, he will be neglected.

When two people dine together, if you want to know if the other person has potential affection (friendship and love applies) to you, pick up a cup and take a sip of water. If the other person also subconsciously picks up their glass and drinks water, they are more likely to have a potential interest in you.

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Aditya Vikram

Observing life8m

What are some harsh realities of life?

These are some of the life learnings that I had in my life full of ups and downs.

A friend of everyone is a friend of none.

People don’t like you being poor, but they also don’t like you being richer than them.

Life is multiple races going on parallelly. Choose the race you want to participate in.

Listen more than you speak and observe more than you listen.

Finding true love is like finding that rare pearl. You need to be ready to dive deep and be patient.

No one can love you more than your parents.

Don’t bet your fate on the first date that you get. It seems to rhyme, but it’s practical.

Beware of completely detached people. Humans are known for attachment, and it’s perfectly fine. Detached people always look for their own benefits in most cases and are likely to ditch you in times of need. Detachment is a trait of saints or gods, and we are not gods. An example of such people is those who are too practical.

‘Healthy competition” is an oxymoron. Either you are a friend or a competitor. Both can’t go well together.

Always understand the difference between friends and colleagues. In most cases, the friends that you make during schools/colleges are likely to stay with you forever. It is because, during those times, you don’t use your brain to scout for friends. You become friends naturally with the one your vibes match with.

Not every battle is worth fighting for. Always choose the battles you want to fight in.

Value your life. It’s precious. Never fall for those Instagram reels or people promoting alcohol or drugs as cool substances. Don’t use YOLO to justify such behaviour.

It’s okay to earn less as long as you are happy. Keep asking why till you don’t have further questions to ask. In most cases, the last why is generally happiness. Hence, choose happiness over anything.

People are like sand. The more you like to get hold of them, the more likely they are going to slip away. This is especially for boys because men don’t chase.

In real life, if you give too much respect to anyone, they will stop respecting you. Never respect someone more than what they deserve.

Never compromise on self-respect except if it’s for a greater cause, and trust me, such occasions are very rare.

Never forget the people who helped you in bad times. I repeat, never.

You don’t need to find opportunists. They will find you. Beware.

There are people who are extremely nice to everyone. Don’t develop feelings for such people unless they themselves say. Such people keep looking for connections and nothing more. Such people won’t value you unless you are successful or have something great to offer. You will find many such people in corporate life.

Though I am only 27, I have had enough life experiences, ups and downs, which made me mature over the years. These are some of the points I observed and experienced over the years. I will keep updating if I remember any more learning.

I hope you got to learn something. Also, in case you agree or disagree with any of the above points, feel free to comment.

Thank you.

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Lukas Schwekendiek

Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.Updated 6mo

What are some uncommon habits that contribute to success?

1. Sacrificing Important Things. In the end, we all only have 24 hours in a day. To reach success you have to sacrifice spending time on important things to be able to have more time to spend on the things that really matter. Check every week what you can give up to gain something better.

2. Believing What You Want Instead Of What Others Tell You. Most beliefs people hold are not based on fact and are not true whatsoever. Get into the habit of believing that which empowers you and makes you feel amazing instead of the things that others tell you to believe. If it is not certain what is real, believe the thing that makes you feel better.

3. Getting Motivated. Motivation is an emotion that doesn’t last, but that is of enormous help. Find things that motivate you every day.

4. Thinking Less. Thought usually hinders us in our actions. When we think about things to do we tend to think about ways it can go wrong or reasons why we shouldn’t do something. Stop thinking and start doing.

5. Going To Bed Early. To be at the top of your game you need enough sleep. Yes, successful people get up somewhere between 4 and 6 in the morning, but they can only do that because they go to bed between 9 and 11 in the evening.

6. Keeping Track Of Your Progress. Even though you may believe that you know, unless you can actually see the evidence in front of you, you will never know for sure. Know exactly how you spend your time and how you are doing in your habits. If you are really motivated: Graph it!

7. Having A Clean Space. Keep your apartment, room, and/or house clean. Leave as little clutter as you can, and always take care of the mess right away. Anything that aids your motivation and makes you feel great is worth doing.

8. Speaking Only Positively About Your Future. Say things as if they already happened, or as if there is no way they will not happen. If you believe it is a fact that you will get an amazing life, you will act accordingly and receive it.

9. Gratitude. Thank as many things and people as you can. Most successful people come from a place where they had absolutely nothing, which is why they are grateful about every little thing that they have. This makes even the most simple things special and amazing.

10. Doing It All. Whenever you see tips online, or hear about some great strategies, do them all. You can never have enough of a good thing when it comes to reaching success.

11. Never Giving Up On What Matters. If you want something, find a way to get it. Not because you necessarily want that thing that bad, but instead because you absolutely have to prove to yourself that you can get whatever you set your mind to.

12. Doing What You Said You Would No Matter What. Success comes from not giving up halfway through. Everyone is on the way to be successful in what they do, but only 1% of all people actually see it through. Do what you said you would. No matter what!

13. Spending More Money On Yourself. Not on beauty products, clothes or video games, but instead on gathering information, finding connections and learning more through books. Spend money on the only thing that lasts: Yourself.

14. Stop Caring. Not only about the people around you, but also about whether or not you will accomplish your goal. The less you care about it, the less stress you will experience when you work, which will make your work more fun and you will get to success much faster than you thought you could. Stop chasing it and you will get it.

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Free & easy ·

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Prisha

Jun 30

IF YOU ARE A MAN OR A WOMAN IN YOUR 20S, YOU NEED TO READ THIS.

1. Do not date while you're broke, in terrible shape, miserable, and your life is chaotic. Get your life in order first.

2. Develop a routine. Sleep at 11:00 PM and be awake at 7:00 AM every day.

3. Spend 60 minutes of your day reading, writing, and internalizing what you understand.

4. Learn a high-income skill that'll earn you $10k+ per month.

5. Stop chasing cheap dopamine. Prioritize what's important over pleasure.

6. Hit at least 200 pushups and 100 squats per day to stay strong. You'll also be healthier than 97% of people.

7. Build self-discipline by taking one cold shower in the morning.

8. Make the internet a source of your income. There are endless possibilities for making money.

9. Take 100% responsibility for your life and never blame circumstances or anyone.

10. Include proteins, fresh fruits, and two liters of water in your daily diet to optimize your health.

11. Hang out with people who obsess over making moves and living a good life. Your circle should not gossip, complain, or get jealous of each other.

12. Invest in a good wardrobe, a good niche fragrance, and learn how to talk. You'll boost your success rate by 94%.

13. Befriend nature, walk 10,000 steps per day to clear your mind, boost your mood and get creative.

14. Keep distance from people who only prioritize their needs over yours. They're your greatest setback.

15. Be smart enough to quit weed, porn, and alcohol. They're the worst distraction that'll raise your dopamine, make you dumb, and depressed.

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Lee Shu

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How do you know if a girl genuinely values you or she's just fooling around?

When a girl is just playing around, you might notice these signs:

The vanishing act: In today's phone-obsessed world, if she disappears for hours without any explanation, chances are she's toying with you.

Lack of affection: If she rarely shows any genuine affection towards you, it's a clear signal that her feelings may not run deep.

Meet the fam? Nah: She's not interested in meeting your friends and family, as if keeping you in a separate compartment of her life.

Flirting fiesta: If she's constantly flirting with other guys, it's a surefire sign that her attention is divided, and you may just be another player on her field.

The comparison game: She frequently compares you to her ex-boyfriends or other men, making you feel like you're constantly in a competition you never signed up for.

SOS only: She reaches out to you solely when she needs help, as if you're her personal 911 hotline.

Wallet weightlifting: You're always the one paying for everything, and she conveniently "forgets" to offer or contribute. It's like you're on a solo financial expedition.

Excuse central: She magically conjures up a myriad of excuses to avoid spending time with you, leaving you wondering if she's genuinely interested.

Anxiety amplifier: Whenever you're around her, you feel anxious and stressed, like you're walking on eggshells or trying to decipher a complicated puzzle.

Party time only: She's all about going out and having fun, but avoids those simple, intimate moments between just the two of you, leaving you craving a deeper connection.

On the flip side, when a girl genuinely values you, keep an eye out for these heartwarming behaviors:

No disappearing acts: She won't waste time ghosting you when she's serious about building a connection.

Curious about your circle: She asks about your family and friends, showing genuine interest in the important people in your life.

Plans and punctuality: She actively makes plans with you and consistently shows up, proving her commitment and reliability.

Laser focus: When you're together, her undivided attention is on you, making you feel like the most important person in the room.

Honesty is the best policy: She's open, honest, and shares about herself, creating a foundation of trust and vulnerability.

Eager to know you: She wants to learn more about you, your dreams, and your passions, showing a genuine desire to connect on a deeper level.

Decisions, decisions: It's a joint effort when it comes to making choices. She values your input and doesn't take control of every decision, respecting your partnership.

Gratitude galore: She expresses gratitude and appreciation frequently, recognizing and acknowledging your efforts.

Touchy feely: Physical touch, whether it's holding hands or cuddling, is a natural part of your interactions, reflecting a deep connection and comfort.

You're a priority: She consistently puts you first, making you feel cherished and valued in her life.

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Chris Freyler

Studied Criminal Justice & Psychology at University of CincinnatiUpdated 1y

What life lessons do you live by?

Start a friendship first then the relationship.

Treat people how you want to be treated.

There’s a special power in responding and not reacting in life.

Anyone that comes on strong sexually in the beginning of a relationship isn’t relationship material.

Health is more important than I thought and trying to get it on track at 46 is more difficult than if I was 26. Haha

When someone shows you who they are the first time believe them. Don’t wait for them to give you a second and third viewing.

A person that cheats and lies to you doesn’t value you as a person and definitely never respected you.

I’m my best friend. And at times I will be all I have. I need to love my own company and if I don’t, I need to figure out why.

You’re never to old to switch careers or do something you love. You will never know unless you take risk.

Stop saying tomorrow. Today is your tomorrow. Nothing changes if all you do is think about what you need to do.

That person your chasing, you know, the one that lied, cheated and betrayed you? You can do so much better. You don’t believe me? Clean your side of the street and watch who appears in your life.

When you put your awareness and lessons into action will come wisdom. With that wisdom you can do some amazing shit.

Pay careful attention to the most painful challenging times in your life. There’s a hidden lesson. Sometimes you have to search for it and sometimes you have to repeat the pain to find the hidden gem.

Alcohol doesn’t make things easier. It won’t make your relationship more manageable. It won’t make you more confident. It won’t make you forget the shitty things you do to people. And it definitely won’t make your life better. But it will add to your problems, ruin your health, ruin friendships and relationships with the shitty choices you make while hammered.

Relationship hopping isn’t the answer. Sit with yourself until you know “you.” Getting your identity from someone else will set you up for misery.

And finally, your past is your past. Learn from it and move on. It doesn’t define you Just don’t justify shitty behavior and use your past as an excuse to be a manipulative asshole.

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Human mind readers ·

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Olaseni Kehinde Precious

Wed

How to master self-discipline that will separate you from 99%?

Define your values and be intentional about them

Build relationships with people of similar values.

Don’t joke with time. Live every moment like it’s your last.

Never compromise your values for fun or to please others.

Be wary of what you read, hear, watch and see. Your mind is your life.

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Rafael Eliassen

What are some of the best ways to find inner peace?

Know your self: Distinguish between your self and your mind. Take the time to understand your values, goals, joys, etc.

Don’t be greedy: Kick the adrenaline dependency. Slow down and find a balance between life and work.

Don’t sleep with problems: Never go to bed with a tangled mind. Find a solution to make it peaceful before sleeping.

Relaxation techniques: Yoga, long walks, long soaks in the tub, meditation, etc are helpful.

Speak truth: Speaking truth, even when it's uncomfortable relieves the inner tension of pretending.

Embrace feelings: Feeling sad cry it out. Feeling good, have some enjoyment. Don’t hold your feelings inside.

Just relax: Take a deep breath and let go. Unhook yourself from the situation and view it from a detached perspective.

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Elia Juniana

11h

10 Rules to become unstoppable, creative and rich person in young age

Set boundaries with others. People will take advantage of your kindness.

Work hard and stay motivated by your ambitions, not your addictions.

Don't take anything personally; instead, work hard to correct it and demonstrate who you are.

Have a good circle of friends. Our future is determined by who we spend the most time with.

Don't wait for the perfect moment. There is no such thing as an ideal time; we only have now.

Get to know new individuals. You'll go places you never thought possible thanks to networking.

Exercise daily and eat healthily. You are the best possible version of yourself.

Sleep for at least 7 hours per day to increase your mood and mental strength.

Make a morning routine to help you be more productive.

Develop skills that will pay you $500 every week. Create your future now!

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Daryl Wong

What are the signs that you are wasting your life?

You spend way too much time on your smartphone aimlessly scrolling through social media

You binge watch YouTube/Netflix/TV

You party all weekend

You use your phone for an hour after waking up, feeling lazy

You spend your hours looking at other people’s lives (Instagram/Snapchat)

You are always reading about gossip news, celebrity rumors, the latest fads/hype

You engage in gossip frequently

You are just going through the motions in life

You literally don’t want the day to end because you have nothing planned for tomorrow

You feel guilty on the inside for not spending your time better

Okay, instead of all the negative signs, below are some tips to turn your life around:

Drastically limit your time spent on social media, set up the function in your phone to remind you when you exceed the time limit (unless you’re using social media for work or as part of your personal branding)

Replace your consumption of useless online content with reading. Read a lot, read voraciously.

Spend your weekends working on your side hustles, learning a new skill, playing sports, instead of over-indulging in partying (the occasional partying is fine)

Get up immediately after you wake up and have an empowering morning routine tailored just for yourself

Same advice as tip 1

Quit looking at sensationalized news and update yourself about more relevant ones like politics, finance, economics

Transform your conversations with people into mutually empowering ones, form social circles where you are motivated to be better

Make plans, schedule your day, and schedule your week; what gets scheduled gets done.

With tip #8, this problem vanishes.

And, no more guilt :)

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Human mind readers ·

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Rajan Varghese

Jun 25

12 powerful lines for an over thinker person

"Free your mind from the chains of overthinking and embrace the beauty of the present moment."

"Your thoughts hold immense power, but remember that actions speak louder than the endless cycles of your mind."

"Don't let the weight of tomorrow overshadow the possibilities of today."

"Embrace the uncertainty of life, for it is in the unknown where the most extraordinary moments unfold."

"Quiet the chaos within, and allow your intuition to guide you towards clarity and peace."

"Instead of dwelling on what could go wrong, focus on what could go right. Let optimism be your guide."

"The past is a story already written. Release it and let the future be a blank canvas for new adventures."

"Overthinking steals the joy from the present. Choose to live in the now and savor each precious moment."

"Trust in yourself and your abilities. You are stronger and more capable than your thoughts lead you to believe."

"Remember, overthinking doesn't solve problems; it only creates imaginary ones. Take a step back and find practical solutions."

"Give yourself permission to make mistakes. It is through trial and error that growth and progress occur."

"Embrace the power of surrender. Sometimes, the best course of action is to let go and trust that everything will work out in the end."

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Human mind readers ·

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Olaseni Kehinde Precious

Jun 20

05 things for everyone carrying a heavy heart in silence

Going through pain doesn’t make you a bad person. Instead, it’s one of those things that makes you human.

Never worry yourself over the past. If you can’t change it, forgive yourself and let it go.

Remain positive and realistic. Negative mind sometimes attracts negative results.

Surround yourself with people that you genuinely matters to you and you matter to as well. This will help you from being lonely, sober one depressed.

Pain sometimes teaches us lessons. It’s now our choice to make something out of it or make it a wasted suffering.

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HaLiMa

To love is to dream Jan 29

What is the wisest thing you learned in life?

When your intentions are pure-you don’t lose anyone but people lose you

In a fight it doesn’t matter who throws the first punch what matters is who falls down first

You can’t really change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their actions

I read somewhere that win in silence and let them think that you are losing

You have to take a step forward to move ahead and if you don’t take that step you will be at the same place

If you don’t ask, the answer will always be “no”

Money is essential to survive but after all it is paper with numbers on it-created by us

Anger is self destructive. I read somewhere that anger is like holding a coal with the intent of throwing it at someone but you are the ones who gets burned

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Rafael Eliassen

How do you keep yourself motivated throughout the whole day?

Motivation comes from within. Don’t wait for someone to pressurize you to do some work. Inspire it on your own.

Make your morning positive. Your day depends on how you start it. Stay hydrated, eat good food, do some yoga.

Even if you had a good morning sometimes stuff happens in your day. So don’t focus on them for so long. Learn to let go.

Speak to those who are already where you want to be. They can guide you on the journey.

Work on your will power. Every single person watches motivational video but fails to actually stay committed, be the one.

Prioritize your health, happiness, peace of mind, learning new skills over just earning money.

Make time slots for every task that you perform. Have a time slot for your me-time.

Help and motivate others. It will give you a positive feeling.

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Sherry Cam

Lives in Los Angeles (1991–present)6mo

What are the lessons you learned after a failed relationship?

1. If the effort isn’t mutual, the attraction dies.

2. People who care make an effort not an excuse.

3. If you’re lonely when you’re not alone, you’re in bad company.

4. Not everyone is ready for real.

5. It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.

6. The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.

7. It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.

8. Relationships work when people want them to.

9. Your basic needs will be too much for an emotionally unavailable person.

10. Be grateful to have met them, be thankful to have let them go.